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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 8, 2017 7:36:22 GMT
Won't get out pencils? don't use pencils. Give group work since they are so social. Like have them work in groups to solve problems. Think of real world problems that need algebra to handle, give each group a different problem and then they are to report to the class how they solved their problem. If they like to be social and get out of their seat, then give them work that makes them do that. Have them create posters in groups of the things they have to memorize -give them magazines to cut pics out of to illustrate other algebra things. Your classroom will not be quiet but perhaps the students will get involved in the work. It sounds like they are not going to be passing anyway, so what harm to try it their way instead of your way.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 8, 2017 7:27:20 GMT
I always try to find things that are used up and don't require a space on a shelf or wall. so what I recommend is service gift. Like maid service for a day, or a pedicure. Perhaps, a handyman for a day so a lot of honey-dos get done (that could be a gift for a male or female). Other services that come to mind is detailing a car, washing screens and windows, cleaning out flowerbeds, painting a fence or trellis, conditioning/painting the wood on a patio or outdoor stairs. Think about what needs doing at your house and chances are there are people on your list that need that to be done at their house as well. These kind of gifts cut down on the clutter in our lives, plus gives business to a local resident who possibly needs the money around Christmas.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 5, 2017 18:16:28 GMT
Hubby called on ours. Turns out they were not affected. He could not use the web page look up since he had no idea of the date. The lady on the phone told him where to look to check the date. It just took a while in line before it was his turn to talk to her.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 28, 2017 8:57:45 GMT
on the sofa and when he gets tired, he sprawls out. He has a bunch of junk that has to be close at hand where he sits. Being retired we do a lot of "sitting"
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 26, 2017 7:47:51 GMT
If the autistic child has a full time aide, then where is the aide when this child is hurting other children? If the aide cannot affect her charges's behavior, then perhaps the child needs a different aide. Presumably this part of the reason the child has a full time aide.
Look at the behavior plan and see what needs to be changed. You may not be responsible for the behavior plan, but you should be consulted in creating one and amending it when needed. If the child is in your class, you have responsibility for following that plan. Mainly because, as the teacher, you have the certificate and the position as being the one in control and having the final say. It is your certificate that is at risk so you need to be sure that others in the room are doing their job. Talk to the aide's boss and find out just what the aide was told to do in your room. (I use to teach middle school alternative kids and the aide I had was not really under my authority - but I made sure I had input to how that aide did her job. Thankfully she was awesome, but there were a few incidents. But because I was the teacher in charge, it was all on me no matter what was the aide's fault.)
Frankly, it sounds like the behavior plan needs modifications like right now.
As to Mr."J", he needs counseling. Many young children who display disturbing sexual behavior have been molested or sexually abused. (Not all, but many.) At the very least, he is seeing that kind of behavior somewhere and is copying it. Again, in my experience, it was the first sign that a young, mentally challenged, girl was being raped by her brothers. It was so sad. If he has not been abused then the counseling should focus on why what he is doing is not appropriate for the classroom and what that kind of behavior is indicating.
It is so hard to teach when the behaviors of few disrupt the class constantly. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. I used to pretend that I did not have an admin and then figured out how I would handle it if I WAS the admin. The frustration of not having backup then was taken out of the equation and I could move forward. I did after school detention, daily parental calls to the same parent if needed, required the parent to come in for a parent/teacher consultation as often as I could, made the student sit in the hall with aide, sent notes home that had to be signed, made students get signatures on any failing papers and so on. But, the main thing, I kept the students busy, busy, busy. From the minute they hit my door they had work to do that was never done. I also, worked hard to make sure my instruction times were attention grabbers and kept the students involved. They also got rewards for what they did. Yes, some of the "busy, busy, busy" was busy work like puzzles, making lists, writing the key sentence of every paragraph in a range of pages. But I made sure they had to use their brains for it and I considered it part of my classroom management and teaching the children how to sit and work quietly.
Another thing I did was keep the physical classroom a pleasant place to be. To offset the fluorescent lights I had lamps in several places in the room. I had a area rug at the front of the classroom. All tables and furniture were clean and neat, no stacks of papers anywhere to be seen. I keep vases of cut flowers in the room and I would play soft zen music that was not the invigorating kind. I could see the students visibly relax when they came in the door and that helped. "Inside voices" were encouraged and I never raised my voice above a quiet speaking tone. So they had to be still to hear. Lots of smiles from me and encouragement made it easier on those behaving.
Oops sorry did not mean to write a book. LOL
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 25, 2017 6:34:52 GMT
I use them for a lot of recipes. I love them. For me they add an extra layer of flavor. Potato salad, macaroni salad, pea salad just don't taste right without them. I even will put them in my dressing. French cut green beans really are a different dish if you add pimiento. I always have a little jar of them in my panty.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 24, 2017 9:44:23 GMT
Could she volunteer to take a younger child TOT? She would still be involved in TOT and not be an onlooker. Plus, it could be fun watching the excitement of a little one.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 24, 2017 9:34:36 GMT
just a thought, how is she able to miss that much school? A day to get there, if she flies and and day to come home. Then a day there for the funeral, perhaps maybe another day. That is almost a week of classes missed. Plus, any homework and studies she would have been doing in during that time. Seniors in college are in some serious classes usually. So for me it would not just be the financial cost, but the missed college work. Plus, if she has a part time job, she could be putting that job in jeopardy.
Because someone was in a position to be able to travel and give support to your family in the past does not mean she has to sacrifice to be there for them now. Times change, it might not have been as onerous on them to come at that time as it would be for your daughter to come to them now. I am sure her friend and her friend's mother are not expecting her to drop everything and come now just because they came to you all in the past. Of course I may be wrong, if that is the expectations of the friend, then I would re-evaluate that friendship and wonder what other strings were attached to their actions in the past.
By the way, just how much support or comfort did you and your daughter get from them when they came? Funerals and deaths are so stressful and times of turmoil. Did you even get to spend much time with them? Or were they a great help? Just wondering how much is "owed back" here. And wondering how much support your daughter will be able to provide with being a burden. Is she expecting them to put her up or is she staying in a motel and needing transportation? Will she be able to spend a lot of time with her friend and be by her side at the funeral, or will she have to step back and let family deal with it?
It just seems to me that thought should be given to the above before jumping on a plane and heading out.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 23, 2017 4:27:27 GMT
We deep fry here. The guys have it down pat. In addition to the turkey they deep fry other things like pork loin. We end up with enough meat for all families involved for a week. But the guys have their own way of making the turkey good and the loin awesome.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 22, 2017 9:55:27 GMT
I too, love Christmas letters. As was said, you should do what you feel like doing. Though, perhaps you could just mention the struggles you have been through and the unexpected blessings that came with them - such as friends helping, closer ties with loved ones and the chance to re-evaluate your life choices. I'm kind of talking about the "silver lining" stuff. Find some positive things to mention that happened this year as a result of the cancer. I know it is hard and cancer is anything BUT positive. But perhaps there have been some lessons learned? maybe a caution to friends to make sure to get their check ups?
You have been through a lot and you are entitled to say what you want or not to say anything at all. This is one time when it is all about YOU and what you want. Your friends and family will understand if you don't include a letter at all or if it is just short and merely a wish for a nice Christmas. Or if you send a letter detailing it all, they would probably like that too. It would help them to see what you have been through and what you have survived. Perhaps, they NEED to see it all in one place. Perhaps they have forgot some of the issues you have had and NEED reminding. But it is up to you. No one who is a true friend would be tired of it all. Don't even think that. Your cancer is the life you are living right now and they are interested in the details because they know it is life or death for you.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 21, 2017 5:13:35 GMT
Bullies need to bully to make themselves feel bigger and better. They are really such sad people inside. The only way they get validation is to pick on others to try and make them look small.
Will pray for David. Please don't blame yourself for not noticing. Kid tend to hide their feelings when bullied as they feel it is their fault. Which is why it is so insidious.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 21, 2017 5:09:15 GMT
Such a hard decision to make but you made the right one. As my vet would say, you are good people. What beautiful pictures you have of him. He looks awesome. So sorry you were only able to have him for such a short time. Hugs
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 20, 2017 7:48:49 GMT
Like Voltagain said, the season is the secret. Sometimes green beans are left on the vine too long also and that will make them tougher. The next time you get some green beans that you find "not tough" get a bunch and freeze them. To freeze green beans just blanch them and pop in a bag, one serving per bag.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 19, 2017 7:36:13 GMT
We fed one of our cats for about three months using a syringe and feeding her three or four times a day. We even had to give her water. She did not mind the feeding that much. Eventually, we found out why she was so reluctant to eat on her own was a cancer growth in her jaw bone and when it got too bad we had to let her go. But, what I am trying to say, since you know the reason your precious is not eating, it is not wasted effort. But only if he is not hating the feeding. If he is fighting and using up all his energy in the fighting you have to figure out what the long term prognosis is. Do you want the last weeks or months of his life spent fighting you over eating or will he take the food without too much stress. Our cat was very laid back and did not stress over much of anything. Will yours be the same? If by feeding him you are helping him to get better then it might be worth it though. What does your vet say?
You need to know that when a cat quits eating anything, he can develop fatty liver disease which is deadly. if your hope is to get him over this and get his strength back, be sure he gets food in him everyday even if you have to feed him with a syringe.i
I am so sorry you are going through this. It is so hard when our fur babies get sick.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 19, 2017 7:23:36 GMT
I've done that with knitting socks with no visible results. You should go ahead and figure out your gauge and then figure out how many more stitches to use for the smaller needles or how many less for the larger needles. For example, if you need them to be 6 inches around and the gauge is 10 stitches per inch, then make sure you have 60 stitches in total. (Substitute your own numbers.)
You can find tutorials on figuring out gauges all over the web and how to apply it to your pattern.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 18, 2017 23:26:16 GMT
I was four when my father was killed in the Air Force. I remember how chaotic it was and the grief mother went through. She could not even come out of her bedroom let alone take a phone call from the president. What helped most was the comfort and support provided by father's service buddies and their wives.
Turning one's grief and sorrow into a political stunt is beyond belief. Trump may not have known better but the people going on and on about it are continuing to bring his behavior to the front of our nation when it should be ignored.
ETA Trump may have been too ignorant and self centered to know better is what I meant. He should have known better though.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 13, 2017 22:02:26 GMT
Is there anything in their listing about store policies or return policies?
Usually there is a difference between opened merchandise and used merchandise. Opened merchandise is sold at a marked down price, but 50% is kind of high. This company has already earned a profit when they sold it to you. If they return to you the full price, they lose that profit which they cannot recoup by reselling the product. They will only be able to sell this item now at a reduced price thus getting a reduced profit. But still, 50% is high. I would check the listing and the seller's store front on Amazon to see if anything is listed there about returned merchandise being considered used.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 13, 2017 5:23:01 GMT
I always add some things from the office supply row - mini notebooks to write things in, special pencils and pens, funky sticky notes, a mini stapler, pretty paper clips and so on. In fact some years I make up a box of these kind of things and add other paper type goods into the mix.
Both my girls like to grow things so I get those boxes of unusual tomato or pepper plants. Some of them are pretty funky. I believe you can get them from Amazon.
They can always use things to pamper their toes so I get some stuff for that.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 13, 2017 5:07:59 GMT
I agree about rational conversation. But one thing it also needs is a willingness to honestly look at one's beliefs. Honesty with one's self is very important. We must examine our belief system on a regular basis and be sure we know why we feel the way we do. Kind of take each out of the closet, try it on for size and see if they still fit the person we want to be. Above all, we must be willing or able to change those beliefs when they no longer make sense to us. Some people just cant admit that they have been wrong so keep "wearing" some beliefs even though they are way too small for them.
When young, everything is black and white. That is the way we learn at first. Then as life happens and we mature, we adjust our black and white to allow some grey in to the point where our belief wardrobe is tones of grey, black and white. I am 67 yeas old and still am changing. My daughters are great teachers in that regard. In their 40's they chide me when my immaturity starts to show and I have learned to listen to them. Sadly, there are too few others who are willing to school me in this area cause I want to be sure I get good input and other viewpoints. For me that is a good way to mature and grow. You can imagine how much I had to learn. I grew up when races did not mingle, there were separate water fountains and bathrooms even. Sex was never ever discussed and you were a virgin on your wedding night, cleavage was only seen on the beach, no kissing in public even your husband, girls would hold hands with their best friends and the idea of them being romantically involved was not even considered. The list goes on so you can see how much I had to change and believe me it was not easy. There are times when my upbringing still breaks through and I have to do some heavy thinking and retraining of myself.
But rational discussion/conversation is a valuable tool to me in becoming a person I can respect. It is amazing at how much you can learn with an open mind.
PS> the peas have also helped in my growth as a person tremendously and I value my membership here
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 13, 2017 4:45:06 GMT
I have been diagnosed with restless legs for years. At first the only medication for it was klonopin. But now, ropinirole otherwise know as requip, has been approved for it. It is also the medication for parkinson's disease. I would suggest you use the second one - the first is highly addictive and has other side affects that are not needed with rls (in my opinion and I am not a doctor.) You take the medicine at night before going to bed. When taking klonopin, it got so the night time does was not enough so they doubled it, then when I needed more, I was told to take it in the morning as well and so on and so on until I was taking way too much of it. It was a major trauma to get off the klonopin and I was not normal for several months. I will NEVER take klonopin again. It inhibited my sense of smell and taste and I don't believe I ever got them back fully even now years later.
When I had my sleep study done, it showed up there was well even when I was taking the requip. But my it controls rls enough that I can sleep through it. Also, there is a relationship between iron and rls. If I am taking iron I don't have as many "breakthroughs" of my rls during the day. By breakthroughs, I mean when sitting and being quiet, my legs can cause issues. Most evenings by bedtime I am wigging my toes, banging my feet against each other and so on to handle how my legs are feeling. Because rls is not just your feet and legs moving, but is a tingling nerve sensation in your legs that they HAVE to move. I usually don't even notice it and am doing these things without paying any attention to it. I could get up and take my medicine but I worry that it won't last through the night if I take it too early.
Having rls means I don't do well sitting too long like at church or other or lectures. I have to get up and move around or I have to be doing something with my hands to keep busy. It is not unusual for me to have my laptop going, be eating supper and watching tv at the same time.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 12, 2017 4:58:53 GMT
It seems to be a consensus that the out of state job should be discarded. But moving forward, he needs to come to the realization that his current job is really a luxury. All of us would love to have a job that puts a huge smile on our face and make us feel so good about ourselves. But, that is not reality for most of us. I am sure that his current employers would love to have him as a volunteer or part time employer so he can get his "fix". But, he needs to be self supporting. You are enabling him to become dependent on you.
If he waits too long it will become harder and harder for him to find a self supporting job. Possible employers will look at what he is earning now and wonder what is going on, or worse try to hire him for just a fraction more than what he is earning now. Your current job helps define who you are to future employers. The fact that he graduated in December and still has not made a move to a job with upward movement possibilities might make a possible employer wonder if is motivated enough to work for them.
There will come a time when these things will matter to him. What happens when he meets someone and wants to get married and wants a family? What about vacations and travel in the future and vacations? These things are only made possible by a career that works up to a salary that supports these things. You start young in your career to build up to a salary that will support a family and travel, etc. Waiting might jeopardize that kind of career and that kind of future. By enabling him now with your financial support, you are not really helping him. Some employers hire young workers to start at the bottom and work up and older people are looked at as riskier on these kinds of jobs. There are just so many reasons for him to start NOW in his career and not to wait.
You know all these things. It sounds like you are wanting to push him out of the nest on one hand but are making it so comfortable on the other hand to stay. Quit supporting him and let him figure out what he wants. Don't push for any particular job, just push for him to support himself. Let him know you will help, but you have to see movement forward. (You might also counsel him on the self medicating. That could lead into bad habits and lead to becoming dependent on the "medication". You probably already are worried about this though, so perhaps I should not have mentioned it.)
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 11, 2017 8:36:22 GMT
I eat the skins. When I took commercial cooking classes, I learned that many restaurants will wash the potatoes in their dish washer. Commercial dishwashers have to have the hot water boosted to a higher temp than possible in our home dishwashers. Plus, the power of the water hitting the potatoes will get any undesirables off the skins. I taught my students to do the same thing. Keep in mind commercial dishwashers don't have a soapy cycle, they use pure hot, hot water to clean and the dishes are prewashed with a high power spray to get the extras off them.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 10, 2017 5:42:07 GMT
I am so sorry. It is very hard to lose one's mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and my wishes that you find peace and comfort in the memories of her.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 9, 2017 6:32:15 GMT
Ok, maybe I missed this, but did you call Apple? 1/800/275-2273 Did you call your phone company? Before you do anything else, call Apple. See what they say. It is Apple that is making me wait. They are the only ones who can help as it is my Apple Account that has to be unlocked first. Nothing can be done with the phone as long as the Apple account is locked. My itunes are locked, my iCloud is locked and so on. Save
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 8, 2017 22:15:20 GMT
I fact check when the story is unbelievable or too convenient for the other side. Also, in the story there are sometimes little "tells' that show bias. For example, a story came through my Facebook that the mayor in San Juan is sabotaging the relief efforts so she can make Trump look bad. I could not believe that. When the story starts getting into personal details that are held up as evil or brings up things that high school kids throw against each other, they lose me. I don't necessary fact check, I just dismiss the story as propaganda until I hear otherwise.
The more racy the news the less I believe it. Then of course, there are those news sources I would never believe. Their names change from one day to the next, but they all sound alike, The Wall NOW, Religious Right for Trump, Trump Supporters Unite, American Above All, etc. Those Facebook pages just keep churning it out. And I just keep blocking them.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 8, 2017 22:00:17 GMT
UPDATED
No ap on my phone was responsible. My Apple account was hacked via iCloud or iTunes.Through my account the hacker was able to put my phone in lost mode and keep me out of my account. Supposedly I was to contact the hacker and pay to have it released.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 8, 2017 17:36:02 GMT
A bunch of us from the Quilting Board moved to the Quilting Haven. The lady who was running it, had to shut it down so another lady started a temp home for us. I am sure you would be welcome. But it really is not very big quiltinghaven.proboards.com/
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 8, 2017 3:53:22 GMT
I know where you are coming from and wish I could have had more. But it just would not have been fair to the two I already had. Concentrate on being the best mother to the ones you have.
Baby fever, is just that - a fever to have a baby. Only, babies do not stay babies and they come with life changing issues. Are you thinking about the getting up several times a night for feeding or the dirty diapers? How about colic or the little baby upsets that cause lots and lots of mess and stress? Start thinking about how babies are in real life and that might help to relieve the baby fever.
If you give in to baby fever this time, what happens down the road with this one is five years old? Do you have another baby? Think about it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 6, 2017 8:07:30 GMT
Now that we are retired, I have abdicated. I no longer care if the dishes get done, or if the girls are happy. The girls are in their 40's and if they are in control of their own lives. I no longer worry about keeping hubby company or keeping up to date with his family. Hubby can put up with the little I do around here or do it himself. Actually, he has taken on a lot of the housework without me asking. It was hard at first to stay in my chair while he washed dishes or dusted. But I got over it.
I think it helped that there was a time that I was too ill to really do much and he HAD to do it if he wanted it done. He had to fix my meals and he had to wash my clothes. It is amazing at how much more particular he is than I am about the house and chores that need doing. Other emotional/physical duties just get done by the one that wants them done. Hubby has become the great hospital visitor. Any family member gets hospitalized, he is there everyday.
The last BIG one that I am in the process of pushing onto him is bill paying and filing papers that come in the mail. I just don't do it. Everything important is done by auto pay, so if he wants his doctors paid, he has to do it. All the mail is sitting in a box on the table and it gets moved when company comes. He has hinted that maybe we need to take care of it. But I am waiting for him to ask how it needs to be done so he can do it.
So I say to the women who are complaining something we see here on Two Peas everyday: We teach others how to treat us. As wives, chores and duties that we allow our husbands to dump on us can be negotiated. Some can just be left for him to deal with (it might take a while for him to pick up the slack). Others have to be pointed out to him. It takes a while, but it can be done. Things may not be done or treated the way you would, but if he is happy with it let him do it. Of course, if you start out right at the very beginning, it is better. But most of us are past that.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 6, 2017 7:31:03 GMT
Update10/08 It just gets more and more unbelievable!! I dutifully waited out the 90 hours to get relief only to be told that I would receive instructions in 23 days on the phone number provided. TWENTY THREE FREAKING DAYS!!!! I am not the perp here - my account was hacked and now they are making me pay for their phobias and inefficient way of providing security. My account had a good password on it, I DID NOT click on a link in an email and get phished - I never click on links in emails. But somehow someone got into my Apple account and locked my phone down. I finally just deactivated the phone with my cell phone service provider and activated an old phone. We do not have a land line and I cannot do without a phone. But what a bummer. My iPhone is basically a $500 paperweight right now.
This is just so frustrating. The other night late, I received an email saying my phone had gone into lost iphone mode. I just dismissed it thinking it was a scam and did not even open the email. Then when I went to bed, I found that indeed, my phone was in lost iphone mode. So I opened up the emails and saw they wanted me to click on a link, etc. I did not click on that link in the emails, but went online to log into my apple account. Well, the account was locked for security reasons, bummer. So I began to try getting it "opened". They wanted to text me a code to my iphone which I could not read cause the phone was locked. So it went - on and on trying to figure out what to do.
One option was to use a friends iphone to log into icloud and reset my password from their phone. So I waited til friend came over and we tried - no joy. I waited on hubby to come home and we went to Best Buy to the Geek squad to see if they could help - nope. They sent us to a mobile phone place - but that place did not deal with apple phones. Only Apple people are to deal with iphones. And our little country town does not have an Apple dealer. The nearest one is at least an hour away.
So finally, I found a phone number to call using my hubby's phone. And the saga entered in the second chapter. After an hour or two it was determined that my case should be moved up the chain. Jason was so nice but he really could not help me. He had to turn it over to the password software engineers. And it is going to take 90 hours to get it fixed!!!!
I am on countdown now, there is 66 hours to go at least. They are verifying that this phone is mine, etc. Meantime, I have no phone and I have discovered how much I use the silly thing. Jason is hopeful that because it was a phishing issue that I won't have to wait so long. But I have my doubts. Also, I am unsure if I will lose everything on the phone. I did back up to icloud, but that account has been compromised and who knows what shape it is in now.
I am considering getting an Android phone. This is my first iphone and while it has a great camera and I have not had any problems with it until now. Dealing with Apple is just tooooo hard!
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