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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 24, 2022 15:24:43 GMT
Sending healing prayers for your ex-DH and for peace for your children. I'd say that if you were on decent terms with him, and his family, I'd go and be in the waiting room with your kids for a bit. Just so they know that you are there to hold their hands. (even us adult kids like have our mom nearby!).
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 10, 2022 19:50:39 GMT
When I was 4 yrs old, my friend was in a car crash w/her grandma. All minor injuries, so they thought. My mom and I went to see her right afterward. I remember we were swinging and she started vomiting. Her parents eventually took her to the ER, but she died. She had hit her head on the window My oldest son was a soccer goalie all thru high school. I had one rule- if you get hit in the head and so much as stumble, or wobble, we are going to the ER. And his coach knew my rule too. We did end up going about 1-2 times a season. He had some pretty bad concussions. This was long before concussion protocols.
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Post by Horse scrap on Jan 28, 2022 11:32:11 GMT
Great advise from other Peas. Take bits and pieces from their recommendations and find what works/doesn't work for you. As for therapy. Do you have a county mental health center? If so, they more than likely have a crisis clinic where you can walk in and have a quick assessment and talk to someone. It's a band aid, not a cure, but if you're in crisis (sounds like you are), you can "dump" all of your feelings out and feel a bit better. (been there done that, have the meds to help Good luck and keep reaching out!!!
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Post by Horse scrap on Jan 14, 2022 14:38:07 GMT
I want to echo what a previous pea suggested. Grief Share has helped my mom so much with the loss of my dad. To the point that she has a new group of friends (young and old) who have lost someone in their life (mostly either a child or spouse). She says it makes her feel that the grief and all of the emotions that come with it, are ok and normal.
Please remember that grief is something you go THROUGH, not around or over it. What about writing/journaling the stories you have been told about your son, and stories that you remember? Then you will have it for years to look back and "feel" him again. Just a thought. Sending many hugs and prayers.
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 27, 2021 15:33:23 GMT
I’m so sorry. You tried everything you could. You can look yourself in the mirror and know that you gave it everything you could. He can’t do that. Just take it day by day or hour by hour. Eventually, you will wake up one day and say “F it, I’m good!” And feel free. Hugs!!
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 23, 2021 21:52:33 GMT
Oh my so tragedy for the families and the department! Are they all from the same department? Praying for all involved!! Two different departments within the same county. One Sheriff's Dept and one Police Dept.
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 23, 2021 15:56:22 GMT
JC Penny's had a huge sale going on when I was there Saturday. Lots of brands 50-60% off. I got an adorable Liz Claiborn coat for 60% off- Merry Christmas to me!
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 23, 2021 15:54:01 GMT
If you could send prayers, good vibes, good juju or favorable thoughts I'd so appreciate it. There has been so much tragedy everywhere, and my little part of the world is no exception. I have several friends who have lost someone in the last few days.
*A co-worker (police officer) and his wife lost their 20 something son, in a crash about 6 months ago. Sunday, their 25 yr old daughter (a wife and mom), was found unresponsive, and later died at the hospital. At this point, they are waiting on the autopsy, as she had no known health issues.
* On Sunday my childhood friend, her DH, sister and a few friends were t-boned by someone who ran a red light. My friend has a broken pelvis, ribs and lacerated liver. Her DH (co-worker and police officer), broke several vertebrae. Sister is intubated with internal injuries. One of the friends, was killed. They are in Vegas- hundreds of miles away from home, family and friends.
*Yesterday an aquaintance (former officer), with severe PTSD and other mental health issues, was killed. He was acting very bazaar in public. Someone called 911. Law enforcement respond. He was completely irrational, grabs an officers gun, and was killed. His soon to be ex-wife (and officer), (my mom's dear friend), must now tell their 8 yr old daughter that her daddy died.
My heart just breaks for each family. Words seem so minute. I know there will be opportunities to help each friend eventually. I just have no words, and feel like I've run out of tears.
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 20, 2021 15:01:56 GMT
Who knows what he has told his parents. Remember, he doesn’t want to look like the bad person. My ex-IL’s did the same thing. I promise you, at some point you will realize you were the adult in the situation and you will be so proud of yourself about how you handled everything. Let them be- yes it may suck, but it’s probably awkward for them. They might come around. In the mean time, kick his butt out of that bedroom and keep being true to yourself!
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 20, 2021 14:57:16 GMT
The mother’s sister said that the mother had been sexually abused by the same person who sexually abused her mom. I just pray none of the Turpin kids were sexually abused on top of the isolation, neglect and abuse. I hope this show prompts the state of CA to get their crap together to help these siblings, and specifically those who aged out of the system. It would be an interesting case to follow to see how the kids progress/grow emotionally and mentally.
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Post by Horse scrap on Nov 20, 2021 14:51:43 GMT
He is stunning!!!! I bet he is so fun to ride!!!! Congrats on marketing your dream come true!! I’m hoping to start riding again next Spring, after having hip surgery. Happy trails!!!!
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Post by Horse scrap on Aug 3, 2021 18:51:04 GMT
Love Ha Ha Tonka!! My great-grandparents use to take us up there for picnics! Lots of great memories from that place!! Really need to go back down there soon! Thanks for sharing and making me smile!
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Post by Horse scrap on Jun 29, 2021 18:42:27 GMT
When my grandpa died in 1993, my then DH, now ex, worked for a company that made coffins. We were able to purchase an absolutely beautiful military themed coffin for cost. Our cost was $2000, the retail price was $16,900!! HUGE markup!!!!
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Post by Horse scrap on Jun 10, 2021 16:49:51 GMT
My youngest son was diagnosed with FAE (Fetal Alcohol Effects) after his 1st grade teacher said he needed to “get put on Ritalin” so he’d pay attention. We did a complete child development assessment (2 days).... from then on we had to explain to each teacher that it is an organic brain issue and no pill will “fix it”. We struggled in high school with immature behaviors, impulsive actions, struggling academically. When he was a sophomore, we got him his own horse and a friend of friend of mine, who is an Equine Assisted Therapy practitioner, worked with him. The change in him was unbelievable. He still had issues with all the mentioned areas, but they were almost just typical teen behaviors. Today, he is 32 and he has learned to manage almost all of his deficits, and was recruited by the Pipe fitters union, and is working for an HVac company, and doing great. I share this, not to brag, but to give you hope. Is there a hobby, sport, video game, something he is interested in that you could use as a learning leverage? I hope you find answers and the right direction for your son. And don’t be afraid to get yourself some help!! It made a difference for me. Hugs to you....
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Post by Horse scrap on May 31, 2021 14:38:07 GMT
The cemetery where my grandparents are buried, is maintained by the families of those buried there. Every Memorial Day they ask for a donation when people come to visit their loved ones (not mandatory), and they use the money to purchase grass seed, sod, and any other supplies needed to maintain it. They do contract out the mowing. Almost everyone in our family has participated at least once. It’s like a right of passage with the Great Aunts and Uncles.
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Post by Horse scrap on Mar 7, 2021 15:50:46 GMT
Beer
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Post by Horse scrap on Mar 7, 2021 15:49:44 GMT
Cozy blanket
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Post by Horse scrap on Mar 7, 2021 15:40:09 GMT
I am surprised to hear this. I wonder why? I know the people I know who are vets are SO caring and compassionate, but that the reason they are vets is because they prefer animals to humans. I wonder if there is a proclivity in this profession for depression prior to becoming a vet? Animals are incredible companions. Here is how my niece, who is a vet, explains it. Imagine going in and doing a well puppy check- everyone is happy. Your next patient is a dog filled w/cancer and you have to put him to sleep- with the grieving family there- it’s heart wrenching. Then you have to put your happy face on and go to the next patient. Your emotions and all over the place- everyday. It takes a toll. My niece regularly meets w/a vet mentor to process the emotions.
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 23, 2021 14:16:21 GMT
Keeper of the Stars by John Michael Montgomery.
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 15, 2021 19:34:21 GMT
The power companies for Southwest Power Pool have activated a level 3 alert. Because of a possible power shortage, they are going to begin 20-60 min black outs. It is -8 and windchill is -15!!! I’m worried about all of the elderly! This is crazy!!
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 10, 2021 23:27:22 GMT
I’ve fallen several times. But the most reoccurring issue is my balance. I swear, I can be standing and start to lose my balance, or trip over nothing. I wish the could find a cure for fibro. Be safe!
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 10, 2021 15:14:38 GMT
Apple core
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 10, 2021 15:13:26 GMT
Cool whip
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 10, 2021 14:57:11 GMT
Mobile phone
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 10, 2021 14:39:33 GMT
Maybe the peas can give me some ideas for Valentine’s Day gift for my significant other? I am completely stumped and can’t get me creative juices flowing!! He owns a construction company, is always looking for a project to do around the house, doesn’t collect anything (well, tools!), likes to read but typically its user manuals or industry magazines. I just can’t get creative!!! Help!!??
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Post by Horse scrap on Feb 7, 2021 19:18:23 GMT
Restricted account
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Post by Horse scrap on Dec 24, 2019 15:29:49 GMT
Your post comes a time when I am really struggling. It’s a good feeling knowing that someone who doesn’t know me, is praying for me/us. This is my 2nd Christmas w/o my dad, aunt, cousin and BFF who all died in 2018. For others simply trying to get thru this season- please know you aren’t alone. We just need to hold each other’s hand, remind each other to breath, and survive. Much love to all!
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Post by Horse scrap on Dec 16, 2019 21:27:15 GMT
I actually laughed out loud several times!! That’s hilarious!!!!
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Post by Horse scrap on Dec 11, 2019 16:29:07 GMT
Powell Gardens is about 30-45 min outside of Lee’s Summit. It would be even longer from Powell to the Plaza area (hr maybe a little more). If you don’t mind driving at night, I’d stay on the Plaza (don’t venture to far out of the area). If you’re only staying 1 night, you might consider staying in Lee’s Summit Friday night and then get up and head to the Plaza Ssturday.
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Post by Horse scrap on Dec 3, 2019 23:34:04 GMT
I completely forgot about it!! So there are 2 parts? Off to search!!
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