Multiple cancers until you die. Is that how it is?

Yes, except I am the person with the cancer. It sucks. I'm sorry about your MIL.

(((Hugs))) it absolutely sucks and I’m so sorry. ❤️

SweetieBugs I am so sorry. Sending prayers to your MIL and family.

craftykitten You are always in my prayers. I am so sorry that you are experiencing this terrible disease.

Delta Dawn Hugs and prayers to you.

((hugs)) to you craftykitten

Yes, my mother had ovarian cancer and then breast cancer twice. With first breast cancer treatment, the chemo caused her neuropathy in her feet; the second triggered horrific afibrillation that repeatedly put her back in the hospital. However, it wasn’t cancer that finally beat her but complications from heart bypass surgery. Her last two years were marked by a steep decline in mobility, energy, and memory. I felt as if I lost mom quite a while before she died.

I hope your scan results are positive & you have many more days of happiness. Hugs to you.

So sorry, SweetieBugs, and I'm sorry to the other Peas dealing with this.

I've only gone through it with my dear, dear Papa. He had cancer, went into remission and then years later it showed up again as lymphoma and it was a rough road.

Now I'm going through it with my dear, dear husband. He was diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2011, got the tumor removed and it was in remission for 5 years. It came back and became aggressive. He kept getting bladder tumors removed. We were going to crappy local hospitals and doctors. Medicare wouldn't allow him to go to a Cancer Center until recently.

He just had his 6th (or 7th??) tumor removal and this one has become scary. It's near the bladder wall. Once it reaches in or beyond the wall, there's no surgery to do--only chemo, and they're giving him less than a year. I'm trying to focus on the positive and praying that he'll be cleared to get the bladder removal surgery, although it's a VERY long and tough one for someone with many other illnesses.

We're only together since 2008, and I want him here for at least 10 more years. I just lost our dear kitty to cancer 2 weeks ago. He was only 9 and he was fine until the 22nd of November when he looked lethargic. Within hours they figured out that it was cancer, and it was already spread all over his body, in his chest, etc........ and he was in pain. SO hard for us to process it when he acted like a baby! I can't lose anyone else right now, especially my partner and soulmate.

Prayers and strength to everyone else dealing with this struggle. xo

@bergdorfblonde  I didn't want to "like" your post, but meant the "like" as in, I understand and I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

I was waiting for an update as to how your dh's surgery went. 

Yep it’s awful. I’m so sorry about your mother in law.

The first diagnosis is the hardest. My mom was diagnosed with kidney cancer and her right kidney was removed in 1989. Then breast cancer lumpectomy and radiation in 1999. Then in 2015 a recurrence of kidney cancer in the bed on the right AND a more aggressive kidney cancer on the left. She now has 1/3 of her left kidney doing all the work. Also in 2015 they found uterine cancer. Did the kidney first because of the aggressive cancer on the left. Four months later they did a hysterectomy and tiny radiation seeds. She will be 86 in a week. If diagnosed again, I doubt she would survive surgery. But, she still gets checked every six months. By the time we got to the third cancer, there was an element of “here we go again.” She just keeps on going. And she never sees it as other than we will take it out and everything will be ok. And it has been. She has also had a hip and knee replacement, cataract surgery. Type II diabetic with meds. Takes a heart medication. High blood pressure meds. She just keeps on going.

My dad? Healthy. No meds except for Parkinson’s Disease diagnosed late in life. One cancer. Glioblastoma. Died three weeks after diagnosis at 80.

I think I speak for most of us here that in no way are you hijacking anything.  Your pea family has got you!!!  
Just lifting you all up.  Cancer is a hideous monster that should banished to the lowest depths of hell.  I myself have lost many family members to cancer.  My grandmother had three bouts with cancer.  It was the third one that ultimately took her...esophageal cancer that eventually spread to her lungs and brain.  I have never experienced such suffering in a human being.