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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2019 19:39:08 GMT
Anyone that knows me, knows that I'm a fighter, a survivor. I've gone thru 46 eye surgeries alone since 1974. I've never whined about it and always had a positive attitude and hope. I always reminded myself that it's all literal pain and nothing more (plus cosmetic disasters).
But I had my last eye surgery on 11/14 and was recovering. I still can't really eat (they took a ton of membrane from my mouth). Then my precious kitty died very suddenly at age 9. This cat was truly like the baby that DH and I often thought of having. I couldn't imagine a better furbaby, ever (and I've had tons!!). He lit up our lives every single day. His loss is enormous. That was 10 days after my surgery. Since we're pretty much always home, we spent tons of time with him and our home is so quiet and still now.
Then DH had another bladder tumor removed on 12/4. The doctor pulled me into a room and told me that it's now gotten to the bladder wall. Once it's IN the wall or THRU the wall, there's nothing that could be done besides chemo. He gave a timeline of less than a year, which shocked the hell out of me.
If we see that we got all of the tumor (it was too close to the wall), and then do chemo, he MIGHT be a candidate for the bladder removal surgery, but he's a very high risk (up to 30% risk). It'll be up to DH, and also depends on a few things.
Needless to say my usual strength and resiliance has fallen apart this last week or so. It's just too many things at once.
Trying to take this 1 babystep at a time, but for the first time I feel defeated. We all do here. Trying to find some gratitude and positivity every day, but it's very hard lately.
Just wanted to give big hugs to everyone going through a rough time right now, especially during his holiday season. We aren't even celebrating. Just waiting for the next doctor or treatment appointments. My next eye surgery (yup, my surgeon wants to do one more!!!) is on hold. I'm focusing on DH and his urgent matter.
If I'm not on here, it's because I'm thinking everything over and dealing with it........
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Post by valincal on Dec 12, 2019 19:41:24 GMT
That’s a lot to deal with! So sorry. Sending hugs and positive thoughts your way. Take care.
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Post by psiluvu on Dec 12, 2019 19:43:11 GMT
That is a lot to deal with. I have always admired your strength pragmatic attitude that you show on here. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and hope you get a break soon. Hugs to you!!
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Post by craftykitten on Dec 12, 2019 19:43:36 GMT
I'm sorry @bergdorfblonde. Sometimes it's all just too much isn't it. Be kind to yourself, take it one day at a time. Big hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2019 19:51:28 GMT
Okay, you guys bring me to tears. THANK YOU. I'm sure things will settle down, but for now we're all in a pretty big pool of sadness........... Thanks!!
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Post by belgravia on Dec 12, 2019 19:56:32 GMT
Gosh, I’m so sorry. I have always admired, and continue to admire, your strength. But it’s okay to not be strong all the time. I am sending you and your family my very best wishes.
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Post by pilcas on Dec 12, 2019 20:05:52 GMT
I am so sorry. You have had way more than your share of trials.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 12, 2019 20:09:16 GMT
Be gentle with yourself!
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Post by gar on Dec 12, 2019 20:10:32 GMT
Hang in there ((hugs))
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Post by tentoes on Dec 12, 2019 20:12:57 GMT
I cried when I read your post my dear. I lost my husband last year, and the only things that got me through it is my relationship with my Lord, my family, and my dog. He's 9 years old now. I almost lost him in the spring, but the vet finally figured out what was wrong with him, and has him on a course of special food and meds. I think it was grief, from losing my husband. Yes, people loss affects our pets the same as it does us. I totally understand your grief. ((HUGS)). I've read your posts before and I know you are a VERY strong lady. I pray that that strength returns, and that you rely on that strength to get you through the coming months. I will be praying for you. ((HUGS))
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Post by Violette Vixen on Dec 12, 2019 20:15:38 GMT
Oh, my goodness!! I am so sorry this is hitting you all at once. If you need anyone to talk to, please PM me... 🙂
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 12, 2019 20:18:36 GMT
I am so sorry to hear this latest setback for your DH. Life just isn't fair sometimes.  |
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Post by mom on Dec 12, 2019 20:20:24 GMT
I am really sorry you are having to deal with so much, @bergdorfblonde . Please take are of yourself. Check in with us, when you have a chance, and let us know how things are going. You will be in my thoughts.
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Post by marmargirl on Dec 12, 2019 20:25:48 GMT
You are going through a lot.😔
Sending you love; I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts. 💕
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Dec 12, 2019 20:25:56 GMT
All of that on you and your DH is not fair and it just sux so hard. I know life isn't fair, and I don't expect it to be, but damn, you are dealing with way too much. I'm so sorry. Just sending (((hugs))) to you.
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Post by Anita on Dec 12, 2019 20:32:14 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope things get better soon.
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Post by Montannie on Dec 12, 2019 20:36:06 GMT
Deep breaths. You've got this, little pieces at a time. I'm sorry to hear the bad news. Hugs to you, and prayers/positive thoughts.
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Post by gillyp on Dec 12, 2019 20:45:11 GMT
I'm sitting here shaking my head and wondering just when you two are going to get a break.
As you said, one baby step at a time. It just takes one at a time. Big hugs to you.
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Post by malibou on Dec 12, 2019 20:49:56 GMT
I am so sorry life is kicking you in the shin, really hard and repeatedly. Of course I keep you both in my thought and will continue to wish for the best medical advice and outcome possible.
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Post by elaine on Dec 12, 2019 20:52:23 GMT
(((Hugs))))
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Post by cindytred on Dec 12, 2019 20:53:16 GMT
Prayers and uplifting thoughts for you and your husband.
Cindy
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Post by wellway on Dec 12, 2019 20:56:56 GMT
Sending you hugs and good thoughts. I'm sorry that you are both facing so many mountains.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Dec 12, 2019 20:58:56 GMT
You have been through so much! You do seem to have a positive attitude even in the worst of times and I will pray that it will see you through this. I know they say you aren't given more than you can handle but that is bull. You ARE given more than you can handle so you can learn to deal with these blows we all have to endure. Just take it one day, one hour, one minute at a time!
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 12, 2019 21:00:30 GMT
I'm so sorry that you received such hard news from the doctor. It's all too much. ((((HUGS)))).
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 12, 2019 21:07:58 GMT
You have both been through so much. You always amaze me with your strength and resiliency. I’m so sorry for such rotten news. It is too much.
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Post by brandy327 on Dec 12, 2019 21:09:38 GMT
Oh no. I'm so sorry to hear about everything. I have no words of wisdom but lots of good thoughts for you and your dh. <3
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Post by brenda89 on Dec 12, 2019 21:13:00 GMT
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Post by kristi on Dec 12, 2019 21:14:13 GMT
I am sorry {HUGS}
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 12, 2019 21:14:44 GMT
I'm sorry for all you're both going through at the moment. It's really just too much to deal with. (((Hugs))) to both of you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2019 21:18:37 GMT
I am so sorry for the latest news. Prayers that the cancer hasn't made it in/through the wall. (((HUGS)))
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