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Post by mztfied on Oct 19, 2014 1:31:06 GMT
Where do you fall and do you think it has made a difference in your life?
I am a middle child. Older is 4 years. Younger is 8 years. I never was bothered much by this. My older sister, however, was not happy when I came along. I on the other hand was overjoyed when my baby sis arrived. It was like having your own drink and wet dollie.
Has your place in the birth order effected your life?
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Post by theshyone on Oct 19, 2014 1:33:59 GMT
I'm the baby by many years so it was similar to growing up an only child. I never knew my sisters as a kid, and frankly we have never been close.
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Post by walkerdill on Oct 19, 2014 1:37:23 GMT
I am the oldest. I was very close to my brother growing up as there was only 1 year difference. I hated my sister up until I was about 20. There was a 5 year difference and she always wanted in on what I was doing and my mom would make me include her so I despised her.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2014 1:38:25 GMT
Biologically I am the 2nd oldest of 6, but my older brother (technically the 1st born) was born with Down syndrome so by the time I was a year old I had started to surpass him developmentally so I was pretty much raised as the oldest. And yes, I do feel it effected my life.
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Post by Nanner on Oct 19, 2014 1:39:00 GMT
I'm the eldest. My brother is a year younger than me and my sister a year younger than him. So we are very close together.
Being the older sibling didn't affect me as we were so close in age.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2014 1:40:55 GMT
I'm the youngest of five. I get along with my siblings (sibling 4, not so much growing up). It did make me decide to not have a large family and space my kids further apart. Well, child number 2 was a surprise, but that was the plan. I was never babied and responsible. I do get annoyed when people say "OH, you were the baby!" in a condescending tone. EDIT: I hate how the pound sign makes links.
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Post by scrappinmama on Oct 19, 2014 1:41:17 GMT
I'm the youngest of 8. But to be honest, the oldest 4 were out of the house before I was even born. I feel like I hardly know them. Three were in Vietnam when I was born, and the other was in college. So I really only grew up with 2 brothers and a sister. I think being the youngest, and the one who obeyed my mom, I really didn't get tons of attention. Poor mom had her hands full. It's not that I was ignored. We spent lots of time together. But she was always trying to get the other siblings to stop acting like maniacs. My mom says I'm her kind hearted, sensible kid. Lol.
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Post by Nink on Oct 19, 2014 1:44:39 GMT
I'm 6 of 7. All my brothers and sisters and I are very close so I don't think it really affected my life. The oldest is 11 1/2 years older than me and she was praying for a baby sister when I came along. There were 3 boys in between her and me. She doted on me something fierce and still does. Since 3 of my four brothers are older than me, they were very protective. Considering there's so many of us, it's pretty great that we have absolutely zero family drama. I love my sibs. <3
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Post by J u l e e on Oct 19, 2014 1:45:27 GMT
I'm the third of four - all born within six years.
I'm pretty calm and flexible, don't need a ton of attention, and pretty independent. Typical middle child stuff.
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Post by eleezybeth on Oct 19, 2014 1:45:58 GMT
No. I'm the baby, but for all the stereotypes out there you wouldn't guess it. My older brother and I spilt the stereotypes actually. He is not the responsible type, but is the trying to please guy.
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Post by anxiousmom on Oct 19, 2014 1:47:12 GMT
I am the oldest, but my brother is five years younger than I am and we hardly ever even had cross words with each other. He was young enough, and the opposite sex so he never wanted to hang out with me (until I was in college and could take him to parties LOL)
I have always read that when you are five or more years apart, both children have the attributes of first borns.
These days, my brother and I are still very close. We don't talk very often, but the bonds are there.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 19, 2014 1:47:31 GMT
I am the oldest. My sister is three years younger and my brother was five years younger. I think when we were growing up we three fit very much into the typical stereotypes for birth order. As we get older, I get more mellow, though, and my sister has gotten much more intense. I think she doesn't seem like the middle child anymore. We were never close growing up but as adults are very close. My brother was a typical youngest child until the day he died. Life has definitely changed my sister and I, though.
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Post by Gravity on Oct 19, 2014 1:47:45 GMT
I'm the oldest of two. My sister is 17 months younger. I hated her while we were growing up. We were/are complete opposites. I was fair, skinny, and flat chested. She tanned easily, had a great figure, and big boobs. I'm an introvert. She's an extrovert. I'm tidy, organized, and good in school. She's messy, unorganized, and hated school. Most of all, she tortured me on a daily basis from an early age. Karma caught up with her. She's now fat, wrinkled from years of sun worshipping, has saggy boobs, and works in a dead-end job. I love her, but I don't like her and am glad we live several hours apart.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Oct 19, 2014 1:49:04 GMT
I am the oldest. My sister is 4 years younger. I think a lot of things you would expect of a first born are accurate for me.
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Post by fotos4u2 on Oct 19, 2014 1:54:29 GMT
I am the oldest, but my only sister is 14 years younger than me so it was more like being an only child. I do think that effected me (and is why I insisted that I did not want to have only one child). Sadly my sister and I are not close at all. My oldest daughter is only 5 years younger than her so I guess we're in different worlds. The sad thing is that she now has a baby and tells everyone that various friends and a couple cousins are the baby's aunt (and takes the baby to visit these people when she's in town) but never mentions me.
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Post by julieb on Oct 19, 2014 2:00:26 GMT
I'm number 5 out of six. My mom said I disliked my younger brother from the moment she came home from the hospital with him. You can tell in the pics-I'm screaming. I like him now, he's a good guy. My mom had 6 kids in 11 years.
Five of us love each other and we all extremely dislike the oldest brother. He's scum. I have a feeling when my parents are gone, we (at least my three brothers) will not talk to him at all.
Very thankful for my older and only sister. We are best friends.
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Post by christine58 on Oct 19, 2014 2:01:25 GMT
I am the oldest...one brother is 14 months younger and the other is 36 months younger than me. We were and are all very close. I love their kids as if they were mine and I am their favorite aunt...LOL
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Post by zztop11 on Oct 19, 2014 2:11:37 GMT
I'm in a great spot. I have an older brother. He's about 5 years older. Then me. After me are two younger sisters. So I got the best of both worlds. The 3 girls were our own little group and I was and am the oldest of that group. But when all the kids are considered, I'm not the oldest so I didn't get blamed for things. A great position to be in. There are about 12 years between the four of us. My brother was and still is in his own little world. My youngest sister has always been the peace maker. The sister closest in age to me has always had all the characteristics of a middle child. She'll never change. I guess that's good so that I can always say what I want. Since I'm the oldest girl, I get to do that Yes, it still works sometimes, even though we're all grown and have our own families.
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Post by caro on Oct 19, 2014 2:13:19 GMT
I'm the baby of two. My brother is 6 years older than me. He didn't like me very much, I annoyed him. We had nothing in common growing up and we have very little in common today as 60 something adults.
I always wanted a sister and prayed for one as a child. I don't think I would have made a very good middle child because of my jealousy issues with my brother.
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Post by epeanymous on Oct 19, 2014 2:29:28 GMT
I am an only. I probably have all of the worst control-freaky qualities of oldest children combined with the attention-seeking of the youngest.
In seriousness, I think I am a pretty typical only child. Content with my own company, a bit overly-aggressive in the area of perceived injustice, achievement-oriented, etc.
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Post by keknj on Oct 19, 2014 2:30:13 GMT
I'm the oldest of three. One brother is 9 years younger and the other is 22 years younger. We are all like only children. None of us are close. I was close to my oldest brother for a while and then I moved to NJ (they are in TX) and that went out the window. We text every couple of months.
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Post by akathy on Oct 19, 2014 2:33:49 GMT
I am the second of five and we're all roughly 2 years apart. I have more characteristics of an oldest child though so I attribute it to the fact that the oldest is a boy and I'm the oldest girl.
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Post by Zee on Oct 19, 2014 2:39:46 GMT
Am the oldest by five years and probably fit those stereotypes. My mom says I was always "fiercely independent". Ha. I hated my sister until she was a teenager. We don't see each other often but when we do, we have the best time. We really make each other laugh. We have a younger half-brother but I am 22 years older than him and was having my own baby when he was born, so he's always felt more like a nephew to me than a sibling. He's grown up like a very pampered only child.
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Post by Linda on Oct 19, 2014 2:40:39 GMT
I'm a middle child raised as an oldest child - my older (half)sister is 20 years older than me and was already on her own when I was born - she married when I was a toddler; my younger sister is 4 years younger.
I'm the peacemaker in the family - wasn't close to my younger sister growing up because I was always blamed for anything she did wrong but am close to her now. Still not close to my older sister - we haven't lived in the same country at the same time since I was 5 and she's more of a distant aunt relationship-wise.
DH is the youngest of 7 raised as an oldest - his mum had six close in age and then an 8 year gap and then DH. He was raised with close-in-age nieces that he babysat and had almost a sibling relationship with
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2014 2:41:19 GMT
I'm the middle of three. My older brother is 2 years older, the younger brother is 5 years younger. I prayed for a sister when my mom was pregnant with the youngest. But as the only girl, I never had to share a bedroom, while my brothers did. So it worked out for me!
My older brother thinks that he is the boss of us because he's the oldest. He has very different recollections of our growing up years in which he is the hero and good guy in all of the family stories. Uh, no. He's mean and always thought of himself first. He hasn't changed much in the past 30 years or so, either.
I get along much better with my younger brother, though he annoyed me something awful when we were growing up. We have much more similar viewpoints in life, and neither of us is waiting for our dad to die so we can get his stuff.
The same can't be said for my older brother. He's biding his time, then he expects to control everything when Dad goes. Well, I've got news for him. Younger brother is the executor of the estate and I will back him up 100%, especially when it comes to taking care of our mother. When our parents are gone, I don't really expect to see much of older brother or his family.
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Post by Judie in Oz on Oct 19, 2014 2:55:30 GMT
I'm the middle of three. My older brother is 2 years older, the younger brother is 5 years younger. I prayed for a sister when my mom was pregnant with the youngest. But as the only girl, I never had to share a bedroom, while my brothers did. So it worked out for me! My older brother thinks that he is the boss of us because he's the oldest. He has very different recollections of our growing up years in which he is the hero and good guy in all of the family stories. Uh, no. He's mean and always thought of himself first. He hasn't changed much in the past 30 years or so, either. I get along much better with my younger brother, though he annoyed me something awful when we were growing up. We have much more similar viewpoints in life, and neither of us is waiting for our dad to die so we can get his stuff. The same can't be said for my older brother. He's biding his time, then he expects to control everything when Dad goes. Well, I've got news for him. Younger brother is the executor of the estate and I will back him up 100%, especially when it comes to taking care of our mother. When our parents are gone, I don't really expect to see much of older brother or his family. Nicksmom, your story sounds much like mine. The age gaps are different but the sentiments are the same. Both my parents are gone now, and I maybe hear from my brothers once a year, usually around Christmas time. They still keep in contact with each other, but I can't remember the last time one of them called. I used to call them the first couple of years, but since it was never reciprocated, I stopped.
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Post by georgiapea on Oct 19, 2014 3:07:29 GMT
Zero siblings for me. I sometimes feel my mantra is "Sorry, but I'm an only child therefore the concept of sharing is foreign to me".
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Post by Pahina722 on Oct 19, 2014 3:22:45 GMT
I'm the older of two, with my brother 3 years younger. We weren't close growing up, and we barely see each other now. From everything I've read, we both fit the stereotypes. I am the good kid, who follows the rules, takes responsibility, and am independent. Younger brother scraped through high school, never went to college, got involved in drugs, and has had a series of failed relationships. My parents still take care of him and his son (who's 28).
I suspect that once my parents are gone, I will probably never talk to him again. Sad, but it would be difficult to imagine two more different and incompatible siblings.
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Post by Scrappea on Oct 19, 2014 3:38:29 GMT
I'm the baby, but the first (and only) girl. I have a lot of the characteristics that oldest children usually take on. My middle brother definitely has the middle child syndrome. My oldest brother however, I guess he got babied too much because he definitely does not take on the oldest child traits.
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Post by kellybelly77 on Oct 19, 2014 3:41:30 GMT
I'm the third of four - all born within six years. I'm pretty calm and flexible, don't need a ton of attention, and pretty independent. Typical middle child stuff. This is exactly me but I am 2 of 4. Stereotypical middle child!
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