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Post by KikiPea on Dec 24, 2019 1:49:17 GMT
that if you are experiencing any kind of sadness, whether it be the loss of a family member/spouse/SO/friend/pet, are feeling the loss of a job or a relationship, you, or someone you love are having health issues...you are in my prayers. The holidays can be hard enough with drama that can arise while spending time with family, but when experiencing any of the above (or anything I may have missed), that just makes it all that much harder.
I feel like I am doing fine with having lost my grandma in October, but as it has been mentioned in other threads, grief is a strange beast. It comes and goes in waves. I broke down in church yesterday while watching my pastor choke up when talking about missing his loving wife of 48 years, as well as his 8 month old granddaughter. I broke down when reading Kellee’s post about missing her beloved. I broke down when watching a tv show, and Hallmark movie both with the subject of losing ones grandmother.
Life is so precious. As hard as the holidays can be, I pray that all of you are able to find some peace and joy during your visits with your families. It will be OKAY if you break down. It’s hard to be uncomfortable, but hopefully being around those you love will make it a little easier.
Merry Christmas, and happy New Year. Love y’all!
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 24, 2019 14:11:49 GMT
Bump for the morning Peas!
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Post by christine58 on Dec 24, 2019 14:31:40 GMT
What an awesome post. I think the "firsts" are the hardest. It doesn't 'get better with time' it just becomes a different normal.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 24, 2019 14:42:58 GMT
Almost 7 years after FIL passed away, I choked up this morning while wrapping a gift that reminded me of him. Praying for all of those with losses, especially those navigating new losses.
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 24, 2019 14:56:38 GMT
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I appreciate your post, your friendship, your kindness and your prayers.
I’m very grateful for all of the Peas.
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Post by peano on Dec 24, 2019 15:21:03 GMT
Thank you for this post.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Dec 24, 2019 15:25:50 GMT
Thank you. I just lost my Dad in September. I wrote out a long post for KelleeM's post but had to delete it. Just can't deal with some stuff right now. Thinking of the peas and keeping you all warm in my heart.  |
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Post by Horse scrap on Dec 24, 2019 15:29:49 GMT
Your post comes a time when I am really struggling. It’s a good feeling knowing that someone who doesn’t know me, is praying for me/us. This is my 2nd Christmas w/o my dad, aunt, cousin and BFF who all died in 2018. For others simply trying to get thru this season- please know you aren’t alone. We just need to hold each other’s hand, remind each other to breath, and survive. Much love to all!
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Post by mom on Dec 24, 2019 15:32:04 GMT
I am sending my love to all the Peas that are hurting. You aren't alone. ❤️
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Post by koontz on Dec 24, 2019 15:37:18 GMT
Great post.
I am thinking of you too (((hugs)))
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2019 15:46:43 GMT
Isn't that the truth?! I have a small glass Christmas tree on the window sill that was my mum's. I got it out with the rest of the decorations and it just about broke my heart, she'd sealed the box it was in with little sellotape circles. She sealed everything with those circles and I could, as clear as day see her sitting in her chair sticking them on. This probably sounds like a ludicrous thing to cry over but cry I did, a lot and for a long time. |
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 24, 2019 16:24:00 GMT
Isn't that the truth?! I have a small glass Christmas tree on the window sill that was my mum's. I got it out with the rest of the decorations and it just about broke my heart, she'd sealed the box it was in with little sellotape circles. She sealed everything with those circles and I could, as clear as day see her sitting in her chair sticking them on. This probably sounds like a ludicrous thing to cry over but cry I did, a lot and for a long time. Nope. I totally get it! Hugs! |
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Post by pierkiss on Dec 24, 2019 16:39:18 GMT
We have a lot of things happening in our lives that are not great at the moment. There’s also a lot of unknown and it’s scary as hell. Add in the nightmare of getting roped into planning and executing 3 class parties at the elementary school (with very little other parental help) and all of the other chaos and stress of the season and it has become too much. I went and got an antidepressant last week instead of just my anti-anxiety med. so far so good. Still a little misty-eyed , but I’m no longer completely flipping out and asking my husband if he wants to get divorced (he doesn’t at all, depression lies).
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 24, 2019 16:45:12 GMT
We have a lot of things happening in our lives that are not great at the moment. There’s also a lot of unknown and it’s scary as hell. Add in the nightmare of getting roped into planning and executing 3 class parties at the elementary school (with very little other parental help) and all of the other chaos and stress of the season and it has become too much. I went and got an antidepressant last week instead of just my anti-anxiety med. so far so good. Still a little misty-eyed , but I’m no longer completely flipping out and asking my husband if he wants to get divorced (he doesn’t at all, depression lies). Big hugs to you! |
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Dec 24, 2019 16:48:27 GMT
Life is so precious. As hard as the holidays can be, I pray that all of you are able to find some peace and joy during your visits with your families. It will be OKAY if you break down. It’s hard to be uncomfortable, but hopefully being around those you love will make it a little easier. Merry Christmas, and happy New Year. Love y’all! I just broke down reading your post Thank you - Love to all of you too |
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Post by tentoes on Dec 24, 2019 16:53:24 GMT
Thank you for the nice caring post. Having lost my husband a little over a year ago, I still have many moments when I'm not in control! and like someone said, grief comes in waves. I'm so thankful for having loving family members! I'm so thankful for a loving Lord. I'm so thankful I have hope for the future, and know I'll see my loved when I pass! It makes my heart feel so much better.
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Post by jenjie on Dec 25, 2019 11:58:29 GMT
Thank you for this. I have really been struggling the past week or so. I saw your post before there were any other replies and I couldn’t even make myself respond. Just so heavy hearted.
I made it through Thanksgiving... made it past my birthday... coming into the home stretch... and then forget it. I broke down crying in church service sun morning. Grateful a friend was right there with me. Last night on the way to Christmas Eve service the tears were right near the surface. But something seemed to lift by the end of the evening. Grateful for the reprieve at least.
Praying for all who are hurting today.
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Post by casii on Dec 25, 2019 12:32:49 GMT
I'm not feeling Christmas. Between my mom and nana dying within a month of each other, and don't laugh, my cat dying, family drama, one kid going on a ski trip with her boyfriends family, another stayed in Seattle and the third declaring if I wanted to do Christmas I could come to her house...
I think I'll just sit in the dark alone.
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Post by theshyone on Dec 25, 2019 13:38:45 GMT
Thank you, and I’m sending comfort right back to you. Grief is a strange thing, I cried in Die Hard. And again in Die Hard 2.
My big sister passed unexpectedly on Dec 23 2017. Somehow that grief set my mom’s path to dementia on the fast track. It was like I lost both.
Finances sucked this year. We aren’t even having a special meal.
Medical, pain, health, for me and kids has been overwhelming.
One day at a time and all that.
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Post by piebaker on Dec 25, 2019 14:01:15 GMT
casii - I am sorry. Thank you for this post. I ask if you know someone struggling, please reach out to that person in some way. A card, text, email or phone call, even if you leave a message by voicemail. I was widowed many years ago and caring family and friends thought to check in on me. Email was in its infancy. I let many calls go to an answering machine(!). I can look back and remember those calls and emails with gratitude. As the fog lifted, I answered. Keep trying for your friend's sake. They will appreciate it. Peace and hope.
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Post by mom on Dec 25, 2019 14:07:53 GMT
We have a lot of things happening in our lives that are not great at the moment. There’s also a lot of unknown and it’s scary as hell. Add in the nightmare of getting roped into planning and executing 3 class parties at the elementary school (with very little other parental help) and all of the other chaos and stress of the season and it has become too much. I went and got an antidepressant last week instead of just my anti-anxiety med. so far so good. Still a little misty-eyed , but I’m no longer completely flipping out and asking my husband if he wants to get divorced (he doesn’t at all, depression lies). Im sorry you are struggling. I am too and am planning to hit the Dr up next week for something more than just anxiety meds. The drama and stress of DS1 is making me feel like I am losing my mind. After the crap he pulled last night Ive come to realize that I can't help him but I can help me. I told DH last night I feel like I am drowning and there is nothing I can do to stop it. It's hard. |
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Post by candygurl on Dec 25, 2019 14:17:56 GMT
Thank you. We are missing a special someone this year and it’s so hard. The second year I feel is harder than the first, we were in shock the first year and just struggling to get by. Now it seems like she’s really gone. My nephew wrote to Santa asking for her back:(
Sending love to everyone who is missing a loved one this season
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 25, 2019 16:39:35 GMT
Thinking of all of you today. Sending hugs and prayers!
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Post by pierkiss on Dec 25, 2019 17:48:12 GMT
We have a lot of things happening in our lives that are not great at the moment. There’s also a lot of unknown and it’s scary as hell. Add in the nightmare of getting roped into planning and executing 3 class parties at the elementary school (with very little other parental help) and all of the other chaos and stress of the season and it has become too much. I went and got an antidepressant last week instead of just my anti-anxiety med. so far so good. Still a little misty-eyed , but I’m no longer completely flipping out and asking my husband if he wants to get divorced (he doesn’t at all, depression lies). Im sorry you are struggling. I am too and am planning to hit the Dr up next week for something more than just anxiety meds. The drama and stress of DS1 is making me feel like I am losing my mind. After the crap he pulled last night Ive come to realize that I can't help him but I can help me. I told DH last night I feel like I am drowning and there is nothing I can do to stop it. It's hard. Yes! This is how is feel too. I think it’s better with meds, though it’s only been about 5 days for me. Hugs to you sweet friend. I am sorry you are struggling as well. |
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Post by gryroagain on Dec 25, 2019 18:57:56 GMT
I’m here too. My dad died in October, and I’m here in Seattle with the girls for Christmas...no daddy.
And it’s the first Christmas post marriage breaking up, I feel so bad for my girls, there new normal is now just one of us for holidays. I am so glad to be rid of him but my heart breaks for them.
It’s just too much, really. I want to curl into a ball and cry..
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Post by bklyngal62 on Dec 25, 2019 20:58:14 GMT
Thank you for your post. It made me cry but also made me feel that it was ok to cry it out.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 26, 2019 1:39:46 GMT
I’m sending  to all the peas missing loved ones this holiday season |
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 26, 2019 1:45:16 GMT
The hardest part for me today was seeing photo memories on FB from the past few holidays. I miss her. 😪
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 26, 2019 3:56:05 GMT
Thank you. We are missing a special someone this year and it’s so hard. The second year I feel is harder than the first, we were in shock the first year and just struggling to get by. Now it seems like she’s really gone. My nephew wrote to Santa asking for her back:( Sending love to everyone who is missing a loved one this season A lot of people tell me that the second year is worse than the first - it's that realization that this is permanent, reality setting in after you’ve come out of the fog and all the 'firsts' after the death. |
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 26, 2019 4:00:00 GMT
The hardest part for me today was seeing photo memories on FB from the past few holidays. I miss her. 😪 I got my mom a digital photo frame for Christmas. As I was loading pictures on it I had more than one tough moment when scrolling through all my photos from the last year. And knowing that if my husband were here, he would have been the one setting up the frame and downloading pictures to it. |
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to all the peas missing loved ones this holiday season 