New Year’s Eve plans

(((HUGS)))

To All the Boys I Loved Before was a light/funny teen movie that I watched on Netflix awhile back.

I never do anything for NY. It's just another day to me. I will be in bed early and get a good night's sleep.

I love a quiet new years eve.

I get some take out, and then pick some movies or shows to watch. Mrs. Maisel is binge worthy, if you haven't watched it yet. I also like to rewatch some favorites - like Downton Abbey - and the movie is out for streaming now.

Towards the end of the night I do try to make some goals for the upcoming year, I watch the NYE shows and then call it a night.

I'm sorry this NYE will be difficult for you. I hope that you can find the perfect distraction to get through the night, and then wake up at peace in the New Year.

I'm going to a friend's. Dh has to work.

I rarely go out. I think last year and this year are the only times in the last decade or 2 that I have gone out.

We have always played games, made a yummy cheese plate to snack on and watch the Twilight Zone Marathon on Syfy,



Are there any old series that make you laugh that you can pop on to watch? For me, when I need a diversion I like to watch shows I have seen before that make me laugh. Parks and Rec, the Office, Community. I also like to rewatch
Psych,
Monk or Quantum Leap. Silly shows that don’t require a lot of concentration are comfort to me.
I know this will be an especially difficult day for you, I am sorry.

NYE was also my wedding anniversary.

I have no plans this year... my kids are with their dad although my 18 year old is coming home to go out with her friends that night. I might quilt? Find some movies to watch in the background? I should find myself some good snacks for that night!

I'm having an elderly neighbour over for a turkey dinner, so I'll be cooking all day.
Then we'll just have a quiet night in, with my kids hanging out in their room, or with the kids next door.

Hopefully the anticipated rain will calm down the people three houses down with the fireworks. They go nuts every year! And my elderly neighbour is always terrified of her house burning down.

I haven’t really been much of a fan of NYE since my 20s. This year we’re looking after our Dgs so that Dd and Dsil can go and do whatever they want 😁

I am finding that there are times when I just have to go with the sadness and let the tears roll. And sometimes when that happens, it is better to be alone.
If you can find something or someone as a distraction for a while, that can help, but just know that you are not likely to distract yourself out of the very real emotions surrounding the date.

One thing that makes it so very hard is that you don't always know which things will trigger major tears and which won't - this time. For example, I had a harder time on MY birthday than I did on Vince's. And sometimes what gets you is IF other people acknowledge the significance of the date or not, along with how they do it. Having your daughter choose to go out instead of being with you, might be a trigger. Other people doing the whole "Happy New Year" thing might hit you very wrong, especially with it being your anniversary. And honestly, having people NOT say anything, could make it harder, or it could help you get through it. You are still so much in the early and raw part of grieving.

Do what feels right to you - order in food, buy or fix something you love, plan to watch something or to do something that you enjoy, but be prepared to have the tough emotions there no matter what. If you want to go to bed and try to sleep through as much as possible, do that. Making a plan can help, and Grief counselors often recommend having a plan (and an 'out' if needed) but some of my friends advise not thinking TOO much about it ahead of time.

We (DH, DD12, me) always celebrate "Irish New Year" (which for us is 6pm) with our friends from the local Irish community. There are several pubs and restaurants that celebrate Irish New Year, so we go to one of those, then home and maybe watch a movie before going to bed whenever we feel like it.

I.m catching a flight at 6 am on the first.. going to see my dad (93)..

Awww.....I remember reading about your wedding on the old board!
I am sooo sorry and sending tons of (( hugs ))


I realize this may not appeal to you AT ALL, and that's fine, BUT....I just thought mayyyybe it's something that could help you to at least keep your mind busy.

1.  Volunteer with cats at your local animal shelter.  ALL shelters are
desperate for help and would LOVE to have you!

2. Go to a nursing home and visit with the many (MANY!!!) lonely,
sad residents.  There are a huge number of them who NEvER have visitors!
I'm NOT saying this helps your grief, BUT----the JOY you'd get from
blessing them with a visit might make your heart feel a bit lighter---even
if it's brief.


3.  Serve lunch and/or dinner at a homeless shelter and/or an abused
women's shelter.  You will be surrounded by other volunteers that are fun to talk to, maybe even make new friends.  Also, if there are CHILDREN there, that's even better!  Imagine the joy in our heart to see them enjoying
a warm, cozy place with a good meal. 

A quiet New Year’s Eve is my preference. Snacks and movies, preferably.

I’m sorry it will be a painful anniversary for you. ((Hugs))


If you’d like a movie recommendation, I watched Brad’s Status and Brittany Runs a Marathon on Prime the other night and thoroughly enjoyed them both.

We are probably going to our friends' house - as of now, they think they are having a party. If not, we will have a quiet evening at home with appetizers and games.
Do you have a friend who would come and be with you? As for tv or movies, on Netflix, Seth Meyers Lobby Baby comedy special was really good. The Office or Friends or That 70s show are always good background.