sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Dec 29, 2019 22:46:36 GMT
If someone puts you on speaker? Not if someone else can overhear. They are alone— it’s not a privacy issue.
But just like they don’t care enough to hold the phone to their ear ?
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Post by epeanymous on Dec 29, 2019 22:47:12 GMT
Only in the sense that sometimes it makes it harder for me to talk to them.
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Post by mom on Dec 29, 2019 22:49:14 GMT
It doesn’t bother me. People are busy and if this is the only time they can talk to me, well, then speaker phone it is. Now, my dad will put me on speakerphone so his wife can hear everything being said. I don’t like that. He only does it to prove we aren’t speaking badly of her.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Dec 29, 2019 22:50:28 GMT
I don’t think so. I hate holding my phone to my ear. It’s uncomfortable. I’m more likely to stay on the phone longer and give more attention if I’m comfortable. Side note : 9/10 I’m on my AirPods or car speaker and this is a non issue.
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paget
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Post by paget on Dec 29, 2019 22:50:53 GMT
I don’t like it but can’t really pinpoint why. Maybe it is what you are saying- like I’m not worthy of their full attention or something? I don’t talk much on the phone anymore and of those people only 2 do speaker sometimes - one I understand and it doesn’t bother me much. The other is a little more unsettling I guess.
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Post by ntsf on Dec 29, 2019 22:51:04 GMT
people do it for all sorts of reasons.. it has nothing to do with you.
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Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Dec 29, 2019 22:52:53 GMT
No. Is there a proper respectful posture for phone calls too? Like one should be sitting upright, not slung back in their recliner or lying in bed because that’s just pure laziness and not respectful?
As long as I can hear what the other party is saying, I’m good.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Dec 29, 2019 22:56:47 GMT
Not in the least. I do it to others and have no problem when they do it to me, as long as I can still hear them.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Dec 29, 2019 22:58:20 GMT
Not at all!! People do it to me all the time, and me to them. It's so you can talk to them right then, and do other things, like my one dd calls me while I'm making dinner all the time and we chat. Do you feel like that person should put the phone down and give you their undivided attention? ehhh. People are busy.
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basketdiva
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Post by basketdiva on Dec 29, 2019 23:01:34 GMT
I use mine a lot since it’s easier to make notes for some phone calls. I also have RA and trouble holding a phone so putting it down and using speaker phone is my best option.
I do not use it in stores, offices, etc or when with other people-unless they are part of the conversation.
People using speaker phones in a public setting and using loud voices are disrespectful
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 29, 2019 23:05:56 GMT
It annoys me if someone has their phone on speaker, puts their phone down and moves around the room. They can hear me fine, but I hate having to piece together what they are saying because it's obvious they've moved away from the phone or turned their head.
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 29, 2019 23:06:14 GMT
No, if it’s a call in private, I do not find it disrespectful. If it’s in a public space, I find it disrespectful for both the public and the caller on the other end.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Dec 29, 2019 23:17:17 GMT
No. I do it all the time when I’m alone in the house or Bluetooth it through the car.
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Post by nysparkle on Dec 29, 2019 23:17:50 GMT
Dh and I are seniors. We hear better on speaker than right up against the ear. I would however only listen on speaker in private.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2019 23:19:45 GMT
If someone puts you on speaker? Not if someone else can overhear. They are alone— it’s not a privacy issue. But just like they don’t care enough to hold the phone to their ear ? I can't hear the caller if I put the phone to my ear. I almost always use speaker phone. If I can't for some reason, like in public I'll tell you I will call back. It has nothing to do with you as the caller and everything to do with me and the fact I am losing my hearing. The only time I find it disrespectful is if I tell you I can't hear you but you keep talking anyway. |
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Post by disneypal on Dec 29, 2019 23:20:10 GMT
I don’t mind it if they tell me - for example “I am going to put you on speaker because I am folding clothes” or “I am going to put you on speaker so I can hear you better”
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Post by MZF on Dec 29, 2019 23:22:47 GMT
It's fine with me. As long as others aren't hearing the conversation.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2019 23:24:33 GMT
No
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Post by drummergirl65 on Dec 29, 2019 23:32:26 GMT
My MIL does it all the time. But she does it when other people are there and she doesn't tell you they are. So you can never have a private conversation with her. Her hearing is fine
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 29, 2019 23:42:20 GMT
Most of the time if I’m putting someone on speaker it’s because it’s my sister and DD wants to talk to her too and be part of the conversation and she’s okay with that.
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cycworker
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Post by cycworker on Dec 29, 2019 23:47:13 GMT
As long as it is in private it doesn't bother me. I don't use the speaker function on my landline, but I do on my cellphone. I can't find earphones I like.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 29, 2019 23:49:54 GMT
This is a pet peeve of mine, but not so much when I'm talking to people. I often hear people interviewed on the radio, and they have their phone on speaker. Come on, you knew you were going to be doing a radio interview, stop what you're doing and PICK UP THE DAMN PHONE! Not only does it make it so much harder for listeners to hear properly, it is incredibly rude and dismissive IMO.
Another hugely annoying thing is when people at work have Skype meeting in an open environment, and they have it on speaker. Some people were on a Skype meeting the other day, in an open area not far from my desk. My boss was also on the call, she was working from home. After the meeting I told her that I could hear every word of the meeting. She was annoyed that they hadn't told her she was on speaker in an open environment, and she asked me to PM her to let her know if it happens again. She could have said something confidential, not realising that the whole office could hear! Not only that, it is so rude to others like my team who are talking to customers and can't hear properly.
My daughter often has me on speaker, because she's in the middle of getting ready or she's cooking something. It's kind of annoying because she's moving around and sometimes I can't hear bits and pieces of the conversation. But other than that, it doesn't bother me too much.
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Post by mustlovecats on Dec 29, 2019 23:53:36 GMT
I don’t think it is but if it is then I’m a giant bitch cause if I’m not out in public or with other people (the two situations when I don’t use speaker) just about every call is on speaker or through my ear buds. It’s easier for me to hear and more comfortable.
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 29, 2019 23:57:18 GMT
I don't think of it as being disrespectful but I hate it when people talk to me on speakerphone. Between them moving about doing other things, the ambient noise of tv or whatever, I simply can't hear half of what they say. So it just makes for a pointless phone call IMO.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 30, 2019 0:17:19 GMT
I don't think it's so much being put on speaker that bothers me, but if I hear you watching a loud movie, then you have a side conversation about your favorite flavor of Takis with whomever just passed through the room, then I hear you trimming your toenails....
Yeah, maybe just call me when it's a better time.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Dec 30, 2019 0:36:24 GMT
It shouldn't, but it does.
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SabrinaP
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Post by SabrinaP on Dec 30, 2019 0:47:11 GMT
I hope not because I just cannot hear on my phone anymore. I don’t really have a hearing issue in other places but the phone. I don’t talk on the phone a lot, but when I do I like to use speaker.
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trollie
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Post by trollie on Dec 30, 2019 0:48:15 GMT
No. Back in the day you could easily cradle an old school phone between your shoulder and your ear. It's nearly impossible with a cell.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Dec 30, 2019 0:54:05 GMT
Well I don't like it. The only person that really does this is my mom. I don't know why (maybe because she moves around?) but it's hard to hear her and I have to ask her to repeat herself often.
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Post by Jockscrap on Dec 30, 2019 1:01:30 GMT
If I’m at home I always use speaker phone. It’s just much easier to hear what is being said and is much more comfortable. A few years ago there were a lot of scare stories - I don’t know if any of them were ever proven - that talking with a mobile up to your ear might increase the risk of brain tumours. I speak virtually exclusively on my mobile phone now, making around 400-500 minutes of calls a month and receiving a whole lot too, so it’s possibly good to be taking the phone away from my head.
I might be doing other things when I’m chatting to my family or best pal but that’s because they’ve phoned when I’m in the middle of something like cooking the tea or ironing so it’s either I answer on speaker phone or I don’t answer at all. But the majority of speaker calls will be me just listening and sitting in one spot.
I don’t use speaker phone at all if I can be overheard outside the home, or the conversation can be overheard by someone inside my home who the caller isn’t aware is listening (or would care).
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