silverdaisy
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Post by silverdaisy on Jan 1, 2020 16:53:52 GMT
How do you stay positive towards your goals? And not listen to the little voice in your head to give up or negativity from the peanut gallery.
Like I want to open an Etsy to sell jewelry and maybe some other items. I am working towards it but then that little voice goes off or I start thinking of negative things people say... like people don’t want to pay the price for the all of the work... etc...
Also applied to go to college to be a elementary teacher. I am 43 and know it will take me years to do since I am only going to take one or two classes a semester. Then I start thinking and can very easily talk myself out of it.
How do you stay focused and not let negativity differ you?
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 1, 2020 16:59:36 GMT
You tell those negative thoughts they aren’t real and tell yourself the good things instead. Going back to school might take some time, but the future is coming whether or not you go to school, so you should go! Five years from now you’ll be done with five years of school, or it will be five years and if you don’t go, then what?
I’ve had to overcome a lot of negative self-worth over the past couple of years and I must say it’s worth the battle. And the tears. It’s just such a good feeling!!
I posted on IG about my year of conquering fears, I am tempted to share it here because I never would have believed I’d be this person I am today.
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Post by Lexica on Jan 1, 2020 17:05:11 GMT
Regarding opening an Etsy, you won’t know if you don’t try! If you enjoy making things, do it!
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Post by jenjie on Jan 1, 2020 17:31:34 GMT
One of my best friends started making custom wreaths and selling on Etsy. I set up her business FB page. She does absolutely gorgeous work, finds all kinds of doodads to make them special. I thought one day, I should think about buying one of her wreaths.
Her wreaths are anywhere between $100-200. I am not her ideal customer bc no way would I spend that much on a wreath. It’s not my thing. I didn’t even know it was a thing. However, people are buying them and loving them!
Your ideal customers are out there. You just have to find them or help them find you.
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trollie
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Post by trollie on Jan 1, 2020 17:39:27 GMT
Just know that anything new you try, you will suck at first. Move forward anyway.
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silverdaisy
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Jul 23, 2014 17:54:55 GMT
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Post by silverdaisy on Jan 1, 2020 17:59:57 GMT
Regarding opening an Etsy, you won’t know if you don’t try! If you enjoy making things, do it! I do love making jewelry.
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Post by mrssmith on Jan 1, 2020 18:16:14 GMT
One tip I've read is to talk to yourself as if you are talking to your BFF. Would you tell your BFF to not try etsy if it's something she's thinking about? Would you tell her to not bother going back to school?
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houseofcurls
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Jun 26, 2014 17:21:12 GMT
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Post by houseofcurls on Jan 1, 2020 18:20:38 GMT
I know how feel about fear holding you back. I've decided that I am not going to allow it anymore. All it leads to is regret of what may have been.
Isn't this the truth! For years I have been thinking it would be fun to start a YouTube channel but never did out of fear of not being interesting enough or what people would say, plus I have an unusual voice. But you know what? This year I said to myself, "It's never going happen if I don't start!" I started about 2 weeks ago and put up the crappiest videos anyone has ever seen. But it's okay because no one is watching, lol! I am still uploading and plan on improving with time. It will be fun to look back.
So, I say, open that Etsy shop! Post the link! There are plenty of people in the internet world that love to spend money and lots of it. You will find each other; it is the way of the world, lol
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Post by tentoes on Jan 1, 2020 18:26:10 GMT
Good for you!! I went back to school in my early 40's and achieved a BSN (nursing)degree. It was something I had always wanted to do, but put it off. I loved it! I hope you'll trust yourself to do the things that make you happy.
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Post by peasapie on Jan 1, 2020 18:32:15 GMT
Regarding opening an Etsy, you won’t know if you don’t try! If you enjoy making things, do it! I do love making jewelry. Well do it! Find out how to promote it (maybe Instagram, for example) to increase the number of people who see your work. I don't think there is a downside, is there?
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Post by jjpeapea on Jan 1, 2020 19:33:57 GMT
For the Etsy shop, go for it! I think it's pretty low risk. For the teaching, I started teaching as a second career at age 42. That worked out pretty well! I had more patience and I was wise to children's ways. I enjoyed my teacher certification school work. Could you get a job as a paraprofessional in a school right now? The pay isn't fabulous but it is a very friendly schedule. Online courses could give you the flexibility to arrange everything.
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StephDRebel
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Jul 5, 2014 1:53:49 GMT
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Post by StephDRebel on Jan 3, 2020 15:23:03 GMT
You realize that other people opinions don't pay your bills and until they start writing a check to the power company their opinion doesn't matter.
Every person you meet makes you better or worse. I'd that aren't encouraging you to try new things and be better than you were before they wouldn't be getting my time.
I can be friendly and kind without allowing you to impact my drive, goals, or growth in a negative way.
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Post by disneypal on Jan 3, 2020 15:25:21 GMT
IMO...positivity comes from within. I think you just have to tell yourself "This will work" and trust it and not worry about others and their thinking.
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peabrain
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Jun 25, 2014 22:18:04 GMT
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Post by peabrain on Jan 3, 2020 15:30:53 GMT
How do you stay positive towards your goals? And not listen to the little voice in your head to give up or negativity from the peanut gallery. Like I want to open an Etsy to sell jewelry and maybe some other items. I am working towards it but then that little voice goes off or I start thinking of negative things people say... like people don’t want to pay the price for the all of the work... etc... Also applied to go to college to be a elementary teacher. I am 43 and know it will take me years to do since I am only going to take one or two classes a semester. Then I start thinking and can very easily talk myself out of it. How do you stay focused and not let negativity differ you? First of all, just go for it. No thinking involved. Or just take one step closer than you did yesterday. Secondly, there's always going to be stupid people who say stupid things. The people you do want in your etsy store are the people who see the value in your jewelry. Don't worry about the others. I am taking classes now online and it is hard and time consuming. But it's been better than I thought. I've taken some extra classes online that I can get through pretty quickly. I also took some testing to use my life-skills and certifications over the years. So I'm a year away from graduation and it's feeling great. I know I'll get there. You can too! So go for it lady! What are you waiting for! This is all about YOU! Change your life today!
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Jan 3, 2020 15:32:27 GMT
Have you ever posted your jewelry here?
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silverdaisy
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Post by silverdaisy on Jan 3, 2020 19:26:06 GMT
I have never posted any jewelry here. I need to take pictures this weekend.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2020 19:33:27 GMT
How do you stay positive towards your goals? And not listen to the little voice in your head to give up or negativity from the peanut gallery. Like I want to open an Etsy to sell jewelry and maybe some other items. I am working towards it but then that little voice goes off or I start thinking of negative things people say... like people don’t want to pay the price for the all of the work... etc... Also applied to go to college to be a elementary teacher. I am 43 and know it will take me years to do since I am only going to take one or two classes a semester. Then I start thinking and can very easily talk myself out of it. How do you stay focused and not let negativity differ you? I restarted my college in my late forties. I had about 18 credits from my youth. Didn't finish until I was 55. But, that degree opened a door I never dreamed would open. I now have a career with a decent pay that lets me be self supporting, great benefits and it is work that I both love and feel is valuable to the entire world. When the head voices start telling you it isn't worth it, how would you respond to your best friend? Respond to yourself as if you are your own best friend!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 3, 2020 20:42:25 GMT
For the Etsy shop, go for it! I think it's pretty low risk. That is true. It's 20 cents per listing to get started. As far as positivity -- one way to be willing to take risks is just to eliminate failure. By that I mean, refuse to define any outcome as failure. There's opportunity. There's experience. There's lessons to be learned. There's tried-it-and-changed-my-mind. Or whatever other way you want to define it. Just don't worry about failing. That's not what trying new things is all about.
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kelly8875
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Post by kelly8875 on Jan 3, 2020 23:18:46 GMT
I usually ask myself “what do I have to lose?” Usually, nothing. Only have things to gain from it.
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Post by birukitty on Jan 4, 2020 0:03:56 GMT
Don't listen to anyone or anything negative. I tell myself I can do anything I dream of if I truly want it. If I fall down I get back up. If I fall down again I get back up again. Failing isn't falling down. Failing is staying down. Never give up. If I keep that in my head I'll get there. It also helps that I'm tenacious and once I set my mind to something I really want I obtain it. It might take awhile, but I'll get there. I get that from my grandmother. When I was 19 my favorite singer was Al Stewart. I'd just discovered photography when I took an intro class to it as an elective in college. I fell in love with photography and after I got a new Al Stewart album I thought to myself, "One day my photo is going to be on his album". At the time his music was in the top 40 with "Year of the Cat" and I loved how his music told stories (not that one) about history rather than the usual songs. It took until I was 31 (1991) but it happened. By then we were buying CD's instead of albums and 6 of my photos were published inside the Live Album "Rhymes in Rooms" that sold internationally. I was so excited. When I finished working at a photography studio for 4 years I quit to have my son and stay at home to be a stay at home mom. After the first year I began my own wedding photography career with me as the sole employee working from home with all of the shooting work taking place during the weddings on weekends. I just dived right in and went for it with the knowledge I'd obtained from my 4 years at the studio. It worked very well and I didn't stop until I decided to homeschool DS from grades 6-12. I guess it helps that I'm an optomist but I also have an open mind. I look at things from all angles and then make up my mind-my father just told me I'm like this. I also love to research things and that helps too I think. For instance I just started knitting again for the first time since my Mom taught me the knit stitch (but not how to purl) when I was a teen. I started a bit but at the same time I checked out at least 20 books on knitting and read through them all. That helped me so much. It took the fear out of knitting-how in the world do you knit a sweater (you do it in pieces and then use a mattress stitch with yarn to seam them together) or put in a zipper or make cables (with a special cable needle-it's actually not as hard as I thought) or change colors (again not as hard as I thought) and so on. I wish you the very best of luck (not that you need it ) you'll do just fine. Don't let anyone stop you or bring negativity into your mind. Just think to yourself, "Oh yes I can!"
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