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Post by leannec on Jan 10, 2020 15:12:53 GMT
Hey ladies! Welcome to week three Here is the link to last weeks thread: Single Ladies Week 2How did your surgery go ashley ? I hope you are doing well ETA: Just caught up on the other thread ... I'm angry for you So I went out last night for a drink with that ex boyfriend, Rick, from my past ... I thought it had been 30 years but he told me it had actually been 32 He looked really good ... much the same ... we had lot's of catching up to do and found that we had so many parallels in our lives ... there could have a number of opportunities for us to have run into each other throughout the years but it just never happened ... we talked about how he broke my heart and how he often treated me like shit when we were together ... he kept saying "Sorry!" until I had to tell him to stop and said that I forgave him a long time ago and that the good memories outweigh the bad ... they do Anyway, he's seeing someone right now so there is no future with him for me for the time being but she does live three hours away and I will say that I looked really good last night We hugged and he promised that we would do it again ... I'm hoping that I gave him something to think about Things are weird with Andrew right now ... I think he's got a case of "We got serious too fast and now I'm pulling back." ... I didn't hear from him for DAYS even though I texted him to say hi ... so last night I texted him saying that I got the hint - figuring he was dumping me ... he sent me this long text at 7am today saying that he told me he would be busy with work and now he has to go out of town for work next week so that's the way it will be for awhile ... I texted back saying that a simple hello would have done the trick ... he said he forgets stuff like that because he's been single so long ... so I don't know where we stand ... I'm leaving the ball in his court I had a new guy contact me yesterday that seems really nice ... I'll update you all after I chat with him a bit today Things are still good with Justin, the guy that lives three hours away, but he lives three hours away ... he says he's coming to visit me in about three weeks so we'll see What is new with all of you?
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jan 10, 2020 16:59:18 GMT
Communication is huge for me - and its so frustrating when you find someone who shows all the signs of being a good communicator and then they stop!
I'm a bit disappointed that my last 2 good first dates stopped there. I'm thinking about asking one of them to be straight with me about what happened - I think he's the type who might tell me like it is.
I had a first date last night, but I'm going to be the one who doesn't want a 2nd date this time. He was very sweet, but there were a couple of red flags - differences in moral judgements. It was a very interesting date for me - he has a disability, and I learned a lot about that and how he adapts.
I need to remind myself that plenty of the guys I've been out with are still reaching out - just not the ones I want!
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Post by ashley on Jan 10, 2020 17:26:58 GMT
My surgery went well!! I love that clinic and the doctor I am seeing and the nursing staff is amazing. I feel WAY better than I expected!! I had a biopsy done by a different doctor last summer and that recovery was awful... I bled so much and was in pain for three days. I’m not seeing anyone right now. I’ve been texting with a few guys since before Christmas but haven’t met any yet... was too crazy over the holidays and since then between work and family and waiting for the procedure I’ve really not wanted to move forward. All three are looking for long term, monogamous relationships. Two are local, one lives about 35 min away. The one further away I probably am most interested in, but there is something about him that just feels slightly off: he says all the right things, he’s professional and has a good job, he’s handsome, and he wants a serious relationship and is looking forward to going on his last first date. He uses my name a lot in texts. Some of his phrasing is just a tiny tiny bit off. I thought maybe he was born overseas and English wasn’t his first language but he says he was born here. So I am beginning to think scammer...
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 10, 2020 17:35:51 GMT
Ashley! So glad the surgery went well. I have a bladder surgery next month and I’m terrified...
It’s 230 am but suffice it to say date with Irish guy went swimmingly. We are having so much fun 😂 Why I spent so long miserable...dunno.
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Post by leannec on Jan 10, 2020 17:38:46 GMT
Communication is huge for me - and its so frustrating when you find someone who shows all the signs of being a good communicator and then they stop! I'm a bit disappointed that my last 2 good first dates stopped there. I'm thinking about asking one of them to be straight with me about what happened - I think he's the type who might tell me like it is. I had a first date last night, but I'm going to be the one who doesn't want a 2nd date this time. He was very sweet, but there were a couple of red flags - differences in moral judgements. It was a very interesting date for me - he has a disability, and I learned a lot about that and how he adapts. I need to remind myself that plenty of the guys I've been out with are still reaching out - just not the ones I want! I wouldn't contact that guy to ask him why he didn't ask you out again ... not worth your time and energy ... I haven't been out with enough men to have that experience yet but I'm sure it will happen and it will suck I know what you mean about getting lot's of attention from guys you aren't into ... I have so many messages from men that I'm not responding to just based on their photos and/or profiles ... lot's!
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Post by leannec on Jan 10, 2020 17:41:11 GMT
The one further away I probably am most interested in, but there is something about him that just feels slightly off: he says all the right things, he’s professional and has a good job, he’s handsome, and he wants a serious relationship and is looking forward to going on his last first date. He uses my name a lot in texts. Some of his phrasing is just a tiny tiny bit off. I thought maybe he was born overseas and English wasn’t his first language but he says he was born here. So I am beginning to think scammer... That could be hinky ... I'm super suspicious of stuff like that too ... I watch too many catfish episodes of Dr. Phil
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Post by ashley on Jan 10, 2020 17:51:48 GMT
The one further away I probably am most interested in, but there is something about him that just feels slightly off: he says all the right things, he’s professional and has a good job, he’s handsome, and he wants a serious relationship and is looking forward to going on his last first date. He uses my name a lot in texts. Some of his phrasing is just a tiny tiny bit off. I thought maybe he was born overseas and English wasn’t his first language but he says he was born here. So I am beginning to think scammer... That could be hinky ... I'm super suspicious of stuff like that too ... I watch too many catfish episodes of Dr. Phil For sure! I’m just going to be cautious and see what happens.
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Post by jubejubes on Jan 10, 2020 19:29:25 GMT
That could be hinky ... I'm super suspicious of stuff like that too ... I watch too many catfish episodes of Dr. Phil For sure! I’m just going to be cautious and see what happens. This sounds like a scammer to me. Be especially careful if they say that they are in the military and are coming home soon. If they are repeating your name often, it is because they are reading from a script. Also scammers use the "I am going away on a business trip" and will contact you when they get home, only to contact you when they are away and need something from you, usually $$. I have some dozy stories to tell about some who tried to scam me. One was about needing an Apple product. I told him that where I lived, the only apples were at the orchard or grocery store and what variety did they enjoy. Really confused the guy. I had fun with that one.
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Post by ashley on Jan 10, 2020 20:33:38 GMT
For sure! I’m just going to be cautious and see what happens. This sounds like a scammer to me. Be especially careful if they say that they are in the military and are coming home soon. If they are repeating your name often, it is because they are reading from a script. Also scammers use the "I am going away on a business trip" and will contact you when they get home, only to contact you when they are away and need something from you, usually $$. I have some dozy stories to tell about some who tried to scam me. One was about needing an Apple product. I told him that where I lived, the only apples were at the orchard or grocery store and what variety did they enjoy. Really confused the guy. I had fun with that one. Yup! I’ve had the military type ones approach on dating websites before, I just block them immediately. I’d never send anyone money or accept a cheque for anyone so I’m not going to get into any trouble here if this is the case. None of the typical red flags are there — like the military background, being born overseas but now working for the US government/military, having his heart broken by being cheated on, etc.
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Post by ashley on Jan 10, 2020 22:10:08 GMT
Well he called me on the phone after texting for most of the day and truly sounds like a legitimate male human being! I’m still going to be cautious!
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Post by melanieg on Jan 11, 2020 0:10:07 GMT
Im meeting a guy for "coffee" tomorrow. By that I mean I will have something else as I dont drink coffee but everyone else in the world seems too lolol We chatted last summer, then stopped. There was a reason, maybe tomorrow I will remember why lol
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 11, 2020 1:27:08 GMT
Well he called me on the phone after texting for most of the day and truly sounds like a legitimate male human being! I’m still going to be cautious! Have you asked for more pics? That's what I do if I'm on the fence about being a scammer. I haven't had anyone ask me for money because I always figure them out- it's fun to catch them but so frustrating, too. I matched with a guy on Tinder and we chatted for a couple of days on the app. He wanted to message another way, so I gave him my Kik ID. He seemed legit at first and he did send another pic without me having to ask. Let's just say he had gained about 30-40 lbs from his profile pics. Sorry, if I seem shallow but a nice body is a must have for me. Anyway.... some of his wording seemed a little off- not bad but I noticed. I knew I wasn't going to continue to talk to him, so I would just answer politely and try not to engage too much. Every morning for 2 weeks, he sent a message. Things like "You're so blessed to be alive today." and "The world is a beautiful place with you in it."- crap like that. I'm thinking you don't even know me- maybe I'm a terrible bitch... so yeah I'm thinking scammer. And I just ghosted him. So far, Match has not been good. I rejoined for 3 months but I'm probably done after that. I know I don't give guys a chance and I'm too judgy with pics.
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Post by ashley on Jan 11, 2020 1:32:15 GMT
Well he called me on the phone after texting for most of the day and truly sounds like a legitimate male human being! I’m still going to be cautious! Have you asked for more pics? That's what I do if I'm on the fence about being a scammer. I haven't had anyone ask me for money because I always figure them out- it's fun to catch them but so frustrating, too. I matched with a guy on Tinder and we chatted for a couple of days on the app. He wanted to message another way, so I gave him my Kik ID. He seemed legit at first and he did send another pic without me having to ask. Let's just say he had gained about 30-40 lbs from his profile pics. Sorry, if I seem shallow but a nice body is a must have for me. Anyway.... some of his wording seemed a little off- not bad but I noticed. I knew I wasn't going to continue to talk to him, so I would just answer politely and try not to engage too much. Every morning for 2 weeks, he sent a message. Things like "You're so blessed to be alive today." and "The world is a beautiful place with you in it."- crap like that. I'm thinking you don't even know me- maybe I'm a terrible bitch... so yeah I'm thinking scammer. And I just ghosted him. So far, Match has not been good. I rejoined for 3 months but I'm probably done after that. I know I don't give guys a chance and I'm too judgy with pics. Yes, that kind of dramatic phrasing is always a give-away! I haven’t asked for more photos yet but will. Conversation today with him seems pretty normal, but we will see what happens.
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Post by leannec on Jan 11, 2020 20:32:32 GMT
So I met a new guy on, of all places, POF He's my age, an optician (could come in handy as I really think I need glasses ) and sings and plays the guitar on youtube ... he appears to be kind of cute so I agreed to meet him tonight when he gets off work at 7:30 ... we're just going for coffee but we'll see what happens
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Post by craftymom101 on Jan 11, 2020 22:03:22 GMT
The guy I was dating (Mr. Red Flags) and I broke up so I am officially on the market again.
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Post by ashley on Jan 11, 2020 22:05:23 GMT
The guy I was dating (Mr. Red Flags) and I broke up so I am officially on the market again. There are better men ahead!
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 12, 2020 4:30:36 GMT
leannec How did it go? Inquiring minds want to know...
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 5:51:11 GMT
leannec How did it go? Inquiring minds want to know... OK ... was going to post in the morning Most boring date EVER!!!! The dude, Aaron, was kind of cute, but all he did was talk about his guitar playing ... this was after I bought him coffee at Starbucks ... we sit down and he proceeds to talk about his music, his videos, his music ... snore ... he said I was really pretty ... went back to talking about guitar playing ... his guitars ... saxophone playing ... drums ... snore He asked me almost nothing about myself other than how my experience was on the POF site ... I said I was VERY picky We were there for only an hour and then hugged it out I expect he'll text me but I won't be going out with him again although he promised to learn "Wrecking Ball" by Eric Church for me (my fav) On another note, things are still going really strong with Justin ... the 30 year old who lives three hours away ... we text pretty much every night (and sometimes during the day depending on his work schedule) ... quite hot if I'm honest He will be coming to see me February so he says ... we'll see
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Post by ashley on Jan 12, 2020 13:14:03 GMT
leannec... ugh, sounds really boring!! I generally ask my date a lot of questions and let him talk a lot, but I expect a conversation should have some variety! The last new man I went on a date with was back in September and it was a lot like that... he just talked and talked and talked about nothing other than the cannabis industry and all my attempts to change the topic failed.
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 15:08:37 GMT
leannec ... ugh, sounds really boring!! I generally ask my date a lot of questions and let him talk a lot, but I expect a conversation should have some variety! The last new man I went on a date with was back in September and it was a lot like that... he just talked and talked and talked about nothing other than the cannabis industry and all my attempts to change the topic failed. I asked him if he had any other interests ... nope I was waiting for him to ask me a few things about myself but he didn't ... lame Back to the drawing board
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 12, 2020 15:12:35 GMT
leannec- Welcome to my world! Ugh-I hate it when they don't ask questions about my life. Some guys are clueless. I have to tell y'all about a guy I went out with about a year ago. He asked to take me to dinner which is really rare. He wanted to go to Fatz- which was one strike against him already, but ok it was nice of him to actually want to buy dinner. So he orders fried fish and I swear it had enough batter on it for the entire lake. He then proceeds to rip it apart with his hands and eat it while talking excitedly about discovering a TV channel where he could watch Andy Griffith and other old sitcoms every night. I mean I can carry on a conversation with anyone about anything, but this was just a snooze fest. And all of that grease-ugh. I couldn't get out of there fast enough. I think I saw him at the gym last week and I just kept walking... Oh, and he's another one who posted pics from about 5 years ago. You ever meet someone and then just don't even want to go through with the date? That's my life basically.
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 15:27:17 GMT
Oh, and he's another one who posted pics from about 5 years ago. You ever meet someone and then just don't even want to go through with the date? That's my life basically. This is my first experience with total boredom ... I'm so picky I thought having a guy singing and playing "Wrecking Ball" to me would be so sexy ... but I don't think I can deal with the rest of his personality We'll keep looking
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Post by ashley on Jan 12, 2020 15:36:58 GMT
So the guy who is too good to be true wants to take me out to dinner. Hahaha.
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 15:53:42 GMT
So the guy who is too good to be true wants to take me out to dinner. Hahaha. But is he hinky???
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Post by ashley on Jan 12, 2020 15:59:54 GMT
So the guy who is too good to be true wants to take me out to dinner. Hahaha. But is he hinky??? I can’t tell. I’m suspicious because he doesnt look like a troll, doesn’t care that I have children, finds me attractive, and is looking for a serious long term relationship. He also says he’s new to online dating and has an upgraded Tinder account.
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 20:55:13 GMT
But is he hinky??? I can’t tell. I’m suspicious because he doesnt look like a troll, doesn’t care that I have children, finds me attractive, and is looking for a serious long term relationship. He also says he’s new to online dating and has an upgraded Tinder account. Hmmm, too good to be true ... we are so suspicious but maybe he's legit
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Post by ashley on Jan 12, 2020 20:59:50 GMT
I can’t tell. I’m suspicious because he doesnt look like a troll, doesn’t care that I have children, finds me attractive, and is looking for a serious long term relationship. He also says he’s new to online dating and has an upgraded Tinder account. Hmmm, too good to be true ... we are so suspicious but maybe he's legit Yup! Exactly too good to be true! But he’s definitely not a typical scammer if he is one. He says he’s focused on his career and is tired of coming home to a quiet house.
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 21:45:14 GMT
Hmmm, too good to be true ... we are so suspicious but maybe he's legit Yup! Exactly too good to be true! But he’s definitely not a typical scammer if he is one. He says he’s focused on his career and is tired of coming home to a quiet house. Well, I say go out with him and tell us all about it
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Post by leannec on Jan 12, 2020 21:50:08 GMT
OK, dude from last night just texted me ... "We will meet very soon " ... the thing is he is cute and if he sings "Wrecking Ball" to me I could be lost Should I give him one more chance?
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 13, 2020 0:28:59 GMT
Well, I say go out with him and tell us all about it I say go! Should I give him one more chance? How old is he? Is he just someone to play with or maybe longterm?
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