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Post by librarylady on Jan 10, 2020 17:51:27 GMT
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 10, 2020 17:58:06 GMT
I am Gen X, but I'll tell you, I'm like this close to choosing an alcohol free lifestyle. I've been really paying attention to the effect that alcohol has on my system. And I can honestly say, it doesn't seem to be positive in any way. For years I kind of bought into the theory that minimal alcohol use didn't impact me. But I'm seriously rethinking that theory.
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Post by librarylady on Jan 10, 2020 18:19:50 GMT
I think any kind of medication creates a different reaction in our body than someone with no other things in the blood stream.
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Post by casii on Jan 10, 2020 18:30:49 GMT
I sent this to my DH a couple of days ago and told him at least I'm a cheap date when going out. My favorite place to drink is at home, in moderation and it's cheap.
But I'm doing Dry January myself. I'm GenX. Just in this past week, I'm a bit taken back by those who want to push alcohol on me. DH normally has a couple of drinks every night. My habit was to not drink on weekdays and only enjoy on the weekend, but he never got on board with that. Just this past week, he checked out the AA book from the library. I offered to go to an open meeting with him, but he acts like he doesn't need it. I'm not sure where he's going with this, but if he wants to continue after January, I'll get rid of all alcohol in the house somehow.
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Post by tentoes on Jan 10, 2020 18:32:43 GMT
I am a boomer and chose that lifestyle a long time ago. Guess I have something in common with them afterall.
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Post by ashley on Jan 10, 2020 18:37:27 GMT
I know a lot of people I know choose cannabis over alcohol.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2020 18:40:49 GMT
I'm on the border of two different generations but I'm alcohol free for the most part anyways. Sometimes I will have a beer or glass of wine but that's maybe 6 - 8 times a year.
As I've gotten older I've figured out that the penalty for drinking too much is far too steep.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jan 10, 2020 18:56:04 GMT
I drank fairly heavily in my early 20's before getting married. I grew up in a town that had a very anti-drinking stance (Christian Reformed, Dutch population). Teens drank, but from what I was exposed to, that was supposed to stop when you were an adult. My family didn't drink at family get togethers, my parents didn't drink at home or with friends, and none of my friends parents did, either from what I knew. There was one bar in town and it was never busy. However, my extended family lived outside of the county that I did and I never saw them drink, either.
I am SHOCKED at how much people drink where I live now. I don't how where I currently live compares to other states, just to where I grew up. My DH drinks more than I do. I just decided long ago that it wasn't worth how lousy I felt afterwards, especially once we had kids. Someone has to be the adult and parent the kids. I also didn't want to spend the rest of the weekend feeling sick. Drinking too much makes me very emotional and tends to bring up every bad thing in my life.
I don't think that using any substance to cope with stress is healthy, and I don't think that drinking or smoking pot every day is healthy, either. IMO, marijuana is not any better than alcohol, as some here like to propose. I have had plenty of clients who were negatively affected by frequent pot use, just like those who abuse alcohol. Most of them didn't recognize how much it was affecting them until they stopped.
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Post by Merge on Jan 10, 2020 18:59:03 GMT
I don't see the point in going completely dry for me, but we've cut back on our alcohol consumption since the holidays just because we were feeling a little unbalanced with it.
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Post by Gennifer on Jan 10, 2020 19:04:16 GMT
I’ve had a pretty unusual path to alcohol: I was raised Mormon, and even though I left the religion in my mid- to late-twenties, I didn’t really start drinking until I was in my late 30s. I drink on occasion... maybe a couple of times a month, and 99% of the time it’s at home. I’ve never been drunk, and I’ve never been hungover or felt sick during or afterward.
I don’t think I know anyone that drinks excessively.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jan 10, 2020 19:10:32 GMT
I'm not alcohol-free and have zero intention of ever being alcohol-free. I drink for the taste rather than the feeling and I never drink to excess.
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Post by snugglebutter on Jan 10, 2020 19:26:54 GMT
Gen X - I rarely drink and if I do it's usually like 1/2 glass of wine. I probably wouldn't bother if my husband didn't enjoy it.
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Post by MissBianca on Jan 10, 2020 19:27:48 GMT
Gen X here. I maybe have 3 drinks a year. New Year’s Day mimosa, 1 shakin Jamaican on a Disney trip and a Kahlua and cream somewhere, either Disney or around Christmas. In all transparency both sides of my family have struggles with addiction, booze, drugs and gambling. Thankfully I’m very aware of it, and I don’t shy away from talking about it. We have had some very open discussions with our kids about addiction.
I do have to say though raising 4 kids who are currently 13, 18, 19, and 23, I didn’t see the peer pressure to try drugs and alcohol that I had when I was their age. 2 of my boys worked at a pizza truck where there were alcohol and drugs used by customers, sometimes bands that came to play, and sometimes but rarely an employee, they were asked once and both said no and that was the end of it. No one asked again. There were fireballs in the freezer and my kids never touched them. It was like that through school too. Asked on occasion from someone in school, they said no thanks, and the response was cool man and they weren’t asked again.
Fast forward to now, my oldest does come home from work and has a beer with his dad. He does not drink if he goes out with coworkers unless I know ahead of time. If he does plan on drinking we set up a time for me to come get him and DH and I come and DH will drive his truck home. My 2 middles are teatotalers, they are not even remotely interested in drinking. My youngest loves the smell of red wine but says she will never drink. I think if she drank anything it would be wine and maybe 2-3 times a year. It’s just not their jam.
I read about sober bars opening up too. I told DS23 this would cool at their restaurant. To have a sober night or something. You can make some pretty fancy drinks with no alcohol in them.
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Post by bc2ca on Jan 10, 2020 19:28:12 GMT
Not drinking alcohol is a very deliberate decision completely tied to health for me right now. I've never had a problem telling people when I'm not drinking, or felt pressured to drink, but do get a little kick out of saying I'm sober curious. It is a great conversation starter. I've used the expression since seeing a news story on the movement and nonalcoholic bars some time last spring (maybe 60 Minutes?) and through it found out about a company that makes a nonalcoholic distilled spirit, Seedlip. One of my problems with virgin versions of most cocktails is they are too sweet. I'm not interested in drinking sodas and it is nice to have an alternative to drinking water. Seedlip has been a great find and I've brought it along on group weekends and friends who have tried it have add it to their home bars, too.
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Post by Dani-Mani on Jan 10, 2020 19:29:08 GMT
I’m a millennial who rarely drinks. I don’t remember the last time I did drink...
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Post by MorningPerson on Jan 10, 2020 19:30:29 GMT
That's really good to hear in my opinion. Our culture has become very WINE! MOMMY WINE TIME! I DESERVE WINE! and it wasn't until I stepped away from alcohol two years ago that I saw it and realized how immersed in that culture I was. I don't regret quitting one single bit - it has only brought positives in my life. I know many here have a very "take it or leave it" relationship with alcohol, or are very comfortable with having a drink or two a couple nights a week, but for any others here who, like me a few years ago, might be toying with the idea of quitting drinking, I highly recommend reading This Naked Mind by Annie Grace.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 10, 2020 19:36:06 GMT
I know a lot of people I know choose cannabis over alcohol. Although I do occasionally have a few glasses of wine, it is rare. I don't care a lot for alcohol because after a couple of drinks I start feeling stupid and I do not like feeling out of control or dumbed down. Pot on the other hand is relaxing and enhances my mental activity. I have never felt out of it with pot. I also don't smoke the super duper potent strains either. I have my own mellow, fun stuff that I have used for fifty years.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jan 10, 2020 19:43:52 GMT
Gen X and rarely drink. I'm not one of those who have a glass of wine/beer a night. Occasionally (once every couple of months) I'll have a glass or two while watching TV on a Friday or Saturday night. I do know that I'm going to Mohegan Sun for a concert next Friday night to celebrate my 49th birthday and I will have a couple of drinks but only a couple because I'm working Saturday.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 10, 2020 19:53:51 GMT
I never really drank a lot, neither did my DH. I gave it up (almost) entirely about 25 years ago or so. I’ve had one glass of champagne since. I decided it’s expensive and unnecessary, and with all the substance abuse running rampant in my family and DH’s I figured it would be setting a better example for my kid to just not drink. DH will have one beer or a single drink on occasion, but usually he’ll choose a citrus green tea or an Arnold Palmer instead. We’re both shocked by just how much some of our neighbors at the cabin can put down, and also by how often they do it. Some are people (just younger than us, maybe 48-50) with young kids like ours, and both parents will just get hammered which I can’t wrap my head around. Some are a little older than we are, and they’re constantly drinking. We never see them without a mixed drink or a beer or glass of wine in hand, and it has almost become a Facebook game to DH to “spot the drink in this photo” because there always is one. It really is surprising once you stop by just how many people will pressure you to drink only because they are. I had a casual friend years ago who always thought it would be “fun” to see me drunk. Really? Why? Quite honestly it wouldn’t be fun at all because I’m such a lightweight after all these years that I’d likely be curled up in a corner somewhere sleeping. Needless to say, she’s not my friend anymore and I’d venture to guess that about 98% of our friends now either don’t drink at all or if they do it’s very infrequent.
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Post by schizo319 on Jan 10, 2020 20:00:33 GMT
Interesting. On our local news the other day they were talking about how more millennials than any other group drank alcohol when out in restaurants - I think it was like close to 60% (with genx being the least at about 30% if I'm recalling the story correctly).
For me (GenX), I don't see myself ever going completely alcohol free. I drink a glass or two of wine/beer once or twice a month either at home or when I'm at a girls' night. I don't notice any adverse side-effects when I drink (unless you count falling asleep faster), and I don't notice any difference when I've been a month or more without either.
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Post by RosieKat on Jan 10, 2020 20:06:05 GMT
Isn't this where I'm supposed to say something like "Well, they can't afford it because they spend all their money on avocado toast?"
Sorry, just had to play along with that game, I don't actually mean it.
I think the idea that some places have of creating cool mixed drinks that are nonalcoholic is a good one. I drink but it's very sporadic - maybe one or two in a month unless I'm on vacation and then, yes, I have more. I've never been a bar scene kind of person, but yes, there is always that pressure to drink if you're out and socializing. It would be more fun to not drink if you could get something that you don't just have on an ordinary day - cool tropical juices with seltzer and lime or something, for a random example - way more fun than a Diet Coke.
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Post by ashley on Jan 10, 2020 20:34:12 GMT
I know a lot of people I know choose cannabis over alcohol. Although I do occasionally have a few glasses of wine, it is rare. I don't care a lot for alcohol because after a couple of drinks I start feeling stupid and I do not like feeling out of control or dumbed down. Pot on the other hand is relaxing and enhances my mental activity. I have never felt out of it with pot. I also don't smoke the super duper potent strains either. I have my own mellow, fun stuff that I have used for fifty years. and no hang over! Or being inebriated.
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Post by snowsilver on Jan 10, 2020 20:54:26 GMT
Not drinking alcohol is a very deliberate decision completely tied to health for me right now. I've never had a problem telling people when I'm not drinking, or felt pressured to drink, but do get a little kick out of saying I'm sober curious. It is a great conversation starter. I've used the expression since seeing a news story on the movement and nonalcoholic bars some time last spring (maybe 60 Minutes?) and through it found out about a company that makes a nonalcoholic distilled spirit, Seedlip. One of my problems with virgin versions of most cocktails is they are too sweet. I'm not interested in drinking sodas and it is nice to have an alternative to drinking water. Seedlip has been a great find and I've brought it along on group weekends and friends who have tried it have add it to their home bars, too. I had never heard of Seedlip before. I checked the site and did some reading. I LOVE the taste of cocktails, but gave up drinking many years ago, both for religious reasons and for the fact that I loved the taste just too darn much. I worried I might end up on a road I didn't want to travel. So Seedlip is interesting. What do you like best from there?
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Post by mustlovecats on Jan 10, 2020 20:59:25 GMT
I’m GenX and sober for 3 1/2 years. I feel the alcohol free movement has been driven by people 15 years younger than me and mostly women, and I love watching it unfold. I am not anti alcohol at all, but I chose to live clean when I discovered that alcohol was influencing my anxiety, making me feel vulnerable, and leading me down a path I would not want for myself or anyone else. I grew up with an alcoholic and I never wanted to be her so I chose 100% abstinence.
Few decisions have influenced my life for the positive the way going dry did.
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Post by jlynnbarth on Jan 10, 2020 21:16:28 GMT
I'm glad to hear it! My kids are not drinkers. It has to be a special occasion for them to even consider it. Son in law isn't a drinker. DS's girlfriend was raised with the theory of 'you have wine while cooking and eating dinner'. I think she has at least a couple glasses a night. I'm not a drinker at all anymore. I used to do the special occasion drinking, but I have zero need or want to now. My dh is an everyday beer drinker. Thankfully he is fully functioning and not a mean drunk. He also will not drive drunk. He is also cheap, so he drinks at home since it's less expensive.
I'm struggling right now because my Mom just passed away in Nov. Her death was due to liver and kidney failure. In part due to alcohol abuse and in part due to long term Dr. prescribed pain meds. The really crappy part is that for the first 27 years of my life, my Mom didn't drink. She started drinking when my Dad left her. She never got help for her depression and tequila became her medicine of choice for that. Her Dr. prescribed Norco was for arthritis and back pain which would have never been needed had my Mom advocated for herself with the Dr. to find the cause of her back pain. It ended up being her hip that was the issue and not her back. That diagnosis came from her freaking Gynecologist, 12 years after the pain began. She needed a hip replacement. Her back muscles had been over compensating for her messed up hip which is why she thought it was her back.
So all of this to say I'm struggling because besides my kids, almost everyone I know is a drinker. We're not talking a drink now and again, but drink every single day drinkers. It's always bothered me that people can't seem to have fun without alcohol and that I am always expected to be the DD. But that fact that even though I have explained to them what happened to my Mom, in detail, including the fact that she had a Doctors appointment that she was scared to death to go to and took 4 shots of tequila before she left (plus whatever else she had that day) and the neighbor had to help my stepdad get her into the car to take her and that her BP had crashed by the time they got to the Dr and they rushed her to the ER and she was in ICU for 28 days due to Septic Shock, liver and kidney failure, UTI etc...That she was completely jaundiced, she couldn't swallow, she could barely speak. She had a feeding tube, and catheter for urine and rectal needs and the list goes on, until we had to make the choice of what to do. Would she want to live in a nursing facility like this the rest of her life or would she want to go home with hospice? With a verbal "home" from Mom, we brought her home and watched the most horrifying death a person can live through. Starving and dehydrating to death, and trying to keep her comfortable by giving her Morphine that her body can't process, while she chokes on it going down her throat because she can't swallow. All these people hone in on is that "it was the Norco that killed her". Are you freaking kidding me? Why can't people open their eyes to the fact that their daily drinking can lead to this. Even my dh! Alcohol is poison to your body! Once in awhile, your body can handle it. Daily? Your body was not meant to have it. It seems that's all I can focus on now. I can't go out with anyone because I know I'm going to bring it up. I know I'm going to judge. I know that I'm not in the right frame of mind yet. I know I can't just get over it. I know I sound like a total bitch. So I stay home. I don't say anything to dh as I don't want to fight. But I have told him, "I will not bring you home with hospice and watch you die. You will be either in the hospital when you die or in a hospice facility, because I will never again feel like I am the one putting the last nails in your coffin by giving you morphine. Someone else can have the honor of that". I know it seems dramatic and whatever else people have said, but it's how I feel. It's how my sister and my daughter feel because we are the ones (along with stepdad who was so out of his mind with grief that he could have never done it) that lived it.
So I am glad to hear that the younger generation isn't drinking as much. I hope the trend continues and I hope they don't look for other ways to "take the edge off" as so many in my generation X and the boomers do.
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Post by snowsilver on Jan 10, 2020 21:41:02 GMT
I'm glad to hear it! My kids are not drinkers. It has to be a special occasion for them to even consider it. Son in law isn't a drinker. DS's girlfriend was raised with the theory of 'you have wine while cooking and eating dinner'. I think she has at least a couple glasses a night. I'm not a drinker at all anymore. I used to do the special occasion drinking, but I have zero need or want to now. My dh is an everyday beer drinker. Thankfully he is fully functioning and not a mean drunk. He also will not drive drunk. He is also cheap, so he drinks at home since it's less expensive. I'm struggling right now because my Mom just passed away in Nov. Her death was due to liver and kidney failure. In part due to alcohol abuse and in part due to long term Dr. prescribed pain meds. The really crappy part is that for the first 27 years of my life, my Mom didn't drink. She started drinking when my Dad left her. She never got help for her depression and tequila became her medicine of choice for that. Her Dr. prescribed Norco was for arthritis and back pain which would have never been needed had my Mom advocated for herself with the Dr. to find the cause of her back pain. It ended up being her hip that was the issue and not her back. That diagnosis came from her freaking Gynecologist, 12 years after the pain began. She needed a hip replacement. Her back muscles had been over compensating for her messed up hip which is why she thought it was her back. So all of this to say I'm struggling because besides my kids, almost everyone I know is a drinker. We're not talking a drink now and again, but drink every single day drinkers. It's always bothered me that people can't seem to have fun without alcohol and that I am always expected to be the DD. But that fact that even though I have explained to them what happened to my Mom, in detail, including the fact that she had a Doctors appointment that she was scared to death to go to and took 4 shots of tequila before she left (plus whatever else she had that day) and the neighbor had to help my stepdad get her into the car to take her and that her BP had crashed by the time they got to the Dr and they rushed her to the ER and she was in ICU for 28 days due to Septic Shock, liver and kidney failure, UTI etc...That she was completely jaundiced, she couldn't swallow, she could barely speak. She had a feeding tube, and catheter for urine and rectal needs and the list goes on, until we had to make the choice of what to do. Would she want to live in a nursing facility like this the rest of her life or would she want to go home with hospice? With a verbal "home" from Mom, we brought her home and watched the most horrifying death a person can live through. Starving and dehydrating to death, and trying to keep her comfortable by giving her Morphine that her body can't process, while she chokes on it going down her throat because she can't swallow. All these people hone in on is that "it was the Norco that killed her". Are you freaking kidding me? Why can't people open their eyes to the fact that their daily drinking can lead to this. Even my dh! Alcohol is poison to your body! Once in awhile, your body can handle it. Daily? Your body was not meant to have it. It seems that's all I can focus on now. I can't go out with anyone because I know I'm going to bring it up. I know I'm going to judge. I know that I'm not in the right frame of mind yet. I know I can't just get over it. I know I sound like a total bitch. So I stay home. I don't say anything to dh as I don't want to fight. But I have told him, "I will not bring you home with hospice and watch you die. You will be either in the hospital when you die or in a hospice facility, because I will never again feel like I am the one putting the last nails in your coffin by giving you morphine. Someone else can have the honor of that". I know it seems dramatic and whatever else people have said, but it's how I feel. It's how my sister and my daughter feel because we are the ones (along with stepdad who was so out of his mind with grief that he could have never done it) that lived it. So I am glad to hear that the younger generation isn't drinking as much. I hope the trend continues and I hope they don't look for other ways to "take the edge off" as so many in my generation X and the boomers do. Oh, girl, what a terrible post! My heart goes out to you in every way. How awful to see the mother you loved go through that. You are NOT a bitch. Thank you so much for taking the time to type that. Some of us might have needed it! Many hugs.
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Post by MorningPerson on Jan 10, 2020 22:04:26 GMT
Oh jlynnbarth I'm so sorry - I can't imagine the pain you have gone through and continue to go through. As snowsilver said, it's important that these stories are shared. Don't let your friends' comments silence your message.
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Post by tentoes on Jan 10, 2020 22:14:31 GMT
I'm glad to hear it! My kids are not drinkers. It has to be a special occasion for them to even consider it. Son in law isn't a drinker. DS's girlfriend was raised with the theory of 'you have wine while cooking and eating dinner'. I think she has at least a couple glasses a night. I'm not a drinker at all anymore. I used to do the special occasion drinking, but I have zero need or want to now. My dh is an everyday beer drinker. Thankfully he is fully functioning and not a mean drunk. He also will not drive drunk. He is also cheap, so he drinks at home since it's less expensive. I'm struggling right now because my Mom just passed away in Nov. Her death was liver and kidney failure. In part due to alcohol abuse and in part due to long term Dr. prescribed pain meds. The really crappy part is that for the first 27 years of my life, my Mom didn't drink. She started drinking when my Dad left her. She never got help for her depression and tequila became her medicine of choice for that. Her Dr. prescribed Norco was for arthritis and back pain which would have never been needed had my Mom advocated for herself with the Dr. to find the cause of her back pain. It ended up being her hip that was the issue and not her back. That diagnosis came from her freaking Gynecologist, 12 years after the pain began. She needed a hip replacement. Her back muscles had been over compensating for her messed up hip which is why she thought it was her back. So all of this to say I'm struggling because besides my kids, almost everyone I know is a drinker. We're not talking a drink now and again, but drink every single day drinkers. It's always bothered me that people can't seem to have fun without alcohol and that I am always expected to be the DD. But that fact that even though I have explained to them what happened to my Mom, in detail, including the fact that she had a Doctors appointment that she was scared to death to go to and took 4 shots of tequila before she left (plus whatever else she had that day) and the neighbor had to help my stepdad get her into the car to take her and that her BP had crashed by the time they got to the Dr and they rushed her to the ER and she was in ICU for 28 days due to Septic Shock, liver and kidney failure, UTI etc...That she was completely jaundiced, she couldn't swallow, she could barely speak. She had a feeding tube, and catheter for urine and rectal needs and the list goes on, until we had to make the choice of what to do. Would she want to live in a nursing facility like this the rest of her life or would she want to go home with hospice? With a verbal "home" from Mom, we brought her home and watched the most horrifying death a person can live through. Starving and dehydrating to death, and trying to keep her comfortable by giving her Morphine that her body can't process, while she chokes on it going down her throat because she can't swallow. All these people hone in on is that "it was the Norco that killed her". Are you freaking kidding me? Why can't people open their eyes to the fact that their daily drinking can lead to this. Even my dh! Alcohol is poison to your body! Once in awhile, your body can handle it. Daily? Your body was not meant to have it. It seems that's all I can focus on now. I can't go out with anyone because I know I'm going to bring it up. I know I'm going to judge. I know that I'm not in the right frame of mind yet. I know I can't just get over it. I know I sound like a total bitch. So I stay home. I don't say anything to dh as I don't want to fight. But I have told him, "I will not bring you home with hospice and watch you die. You will be either in the hospital when you die or in a hospice facility, because I will never again feel like I am the one putting the last nails in your coffin by giving you morphine. Someone else can have the honor of that". I know it seems dramatic and whatever else people have said, but it's how I feel. It's how my sister and my daughter feel because we are the ones (along with stepdad who was so out of his mind with grief that he could have never done it) that lived it. So I am glad to hear that the younger generation isn't drinking as much. I hope the trend continues and I hope they don't look for other ways to "take the edge off" as so many in my generation X and the boomers do. I am so sorry you had to watch your mom die. I can totally understand your hatred of alcohol, and of drugs. My father was an alcoholic, which has a lot to do with my decision not to drink alcoholic beverages. Thankfully, he quit drinking about 3 years before he died at age 43. I had a real father for 3 years. It makes me sick to my stomach when I see my children or their spouses drink alcohol. Thankfully, I don't think any of them have a "problem" with alcohol. And in one way, it's been good to know that people can drink and NOT be an alcoholic. I didn't trust myself enough, though, to try it at all.
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Post by beaglemom on Jan 10, 2020 22:22:52 GMT
I think this is very interesting. I'm 10 years younger that my oldest sil and her dh. He has mental health issues (mainly pretty significant depression) and always has at least one drink when he gets home from work, she goes out to happy hour a lot with friends. My other sil rarely drinks and her husband might have a drink a couple of times a week, but I don't think I have ever seen him drunk. DH and I don't drink at home more than 2-3 times a year --- unless we have others over. But if it is just the two of us we don't tend to drink. We both enjoy cocktails, so when we go out to eat (1-2 times a month at max) we both enjoy having one. That said the other time I find myself drinking is when I am around my inlaws. I make sure I have at least one drink to mellow me out. Which probably has them thinking I drink all the time - but I really don't - it's just around them to keep me sane!
My sister's husband is in his early 30's and stopped drinking about a year and a half ago. At first, he said it was for health issues, then it became clear it was a reaction to his dad's functional alcoholism. My sister still drinks occasionally, but she was never a heavy drinker to begin with. I totally respect anyone's decision to not drink and it always bothers me when people try to push alcohol on others.
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Post by Sparki on Jan 10, 2020 22:54:05 GMT
I'm Gen X and have always chosen to be alcohol free. Just not interested.
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