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Post by leannec on Jan 20, 2020 1:29:15 GMT
So I've met ANOTHER young guy through Match ... young guys love older women! ... his name is Kyle and he is 34 ... he has just moved back to Calgary today from Toronto (grew up here) ... he is super cute and nice ... we've been texting for two days ... he's much more shy than I'm used to which is refreshing Add him to the spreadsheet ladies
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 20, 2020 4:51:22 GMT
I am so much cuter in the summer I despise cold! I'm having so much trouble finding some cute booties with heels that will fit my skinny foot. Every pair that I try on is way too wide. Guess I need to look at a very narrow width. In the meantime, I wear my flat ones. I love sleeveless dresses and tops and sandals- hate sweaters and coats. ETA: leannec I think I need to move to Canada!
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 20, 2020 4:59:27 GMT
Same .. if they talk about God or Jesus in their profile I'm out Once I had sex with a guy who wears a cross on a necklace and the cross kept hitting me in the face repeatedly and all I could think was: 1) how annoying, and 2) I don’t think God and Jesus would approve of this. Lol My son wears a cross. He isn't particularly religious, but he believes in Jesus. I am pretty sure Jesus just shakes his head at the cuss words that come out of his mouth. I know lots of people who believe but they aren't church goers.
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Post by leannec on Jan 20, 2020 12:38:18 GMT
ETA: leannec I think I need to move to Canada! I seem to be connecting with a lot of guys but we'll see who actually comes through in the end ... having fun texting right now though
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 21, 2020 0:00:29 GMT
Went to the hot springs yesterday on a date, I was excited about it since this one seems to have a brain in his head. It was..ok. He isn’t 5’10” though, my height so like 5’7-8”, which bugs me (so shallow but since discovering tall men I’m not going back!). We hung out in the hot tubs in the cold and talked all day, and he isn’t as clever as I’d hoped, so that’s a bummer. Really nice muscles though, he is cute. Went to dinner after and he can’t use chopsticks which is...really? I know this all sounds super picky but I guess I hoped for more “I like this guy!” Than occurred.
I never seem to really like anyone, except Aussie Simon but I can sense he isn’t good for me, so I broke that off last night actually.
Oh well, back to the drawing board I guess, time to sift through the inbox and see who is next 😂
I’m going to see FWB on Wednesday so that will be fun, at least!
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Post by leannec on Jan 21, 2020 0:19:13 GMT
He isn’t 5’10” though, my height so like 5’7-8”, which bugs me (so shallow but since discovering tall men I’m not going back!). That would piss me off ... I'm short (5'1") but my minimum is 5'10" ... I like tall men and it's simple as that
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Post by Skellinton on Jan 21, 2020 2:51:09 GMT
Went to the hot springs yesterday on a date, I was excited about it since this one seems to have a brain in his head. It was..ok. He isn’t 5’10” though, my height so like 5’7-8”, which bugs me (so shallow but since discovering tall men I’m not going back!). We hung out in the hot tubs in the cold and talked all day, and he isn’t as clever as I’d hoped, so that’s a bummer. Really nice muscles though, he is cute. Went to dinner after and he can’t use chopsticks which is...really? I know this all sounds super picky but I guess I hoped for more “I like this guy!” Than occurred. I never seem to really like anyone, except Aussie Simon but I can sense he isn’t good for me, so I broke that off last night actually. Oh well, back to the drawing board I guess, time to sift through the inbox and see who is next 😂 I’m going to see FWB on Wednesday so that will be fun, at least! Sorry, but the comment about the chopsticks made me laugh. Do you watch The Office? There was a whole thing with Plop/Pete and his ex finding it ridiculous and break up worthy because he couldn’t use chopsticks. Bummer the guy didn’t live up to expectations, hope you have fun Wednesday!
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 21, 2020 7:06:16 GMT
Went to the hot springs yesterday on a date, I was excited about it since this one seems to have a brain in his head. It was..ok. He isn’t 5’10” though, my height so like 5’7-8”, which bugs me (so shallow but since discovering tall men I’m not going back!). We hung out in the hot tubs in the cold and talked all day, and he isn’t as clever as I’d hoped, so that’s a bummer. Really nice muscles though, he is cute. Went to dinner after and he can’t use chopsticks which is...really? I know this all sounds super picky but I guess I hoped for more “I like this guy!” Than occurred. I never seem to really like anyone, except Aussie Simon but I can sense he isn’t good for me, so I broke that off last night actually. Oh well, back to the drawing board I guess, time to sift through the inbox and see who is next 😂 I’m going to see FWB on Wednesday so that will be fun, at least! Sorry, but the comment about the chopsticks made me laugh. Do you watch The Office? There was a whole thing with Plop/Pete and his ex finds it ridiculous and break up worthy because he couldn’t use chopsticks. Bummer the guy didn’t live up to expectations, hope you have fun Wednesday! I thought of that episode when I was writing my post 😂 so petty. But like- WE LIVE IN ASIA. How can you not know how to use chopsticks? What have you been eating?
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Post by leannec on Jan 21, 2020 12:45:15 GMT
So I've been texting with Kyle at least twice a day since connecting with him through Match a few days ago Poor guy has strep throat so we haven't met yet Brad was out of town and came back last night so I should hear from him today (he texted me last night to say that I would!) ... if I take anyone to my friends place it will likely be him
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 21, 2020 13:42:57 GMT
Yay Leanne!
I tell you what, my FWB saves the day 😂 He knew I had a date, and I had a message this am asking how it went. Lamentable, but he just “gets it”. He is an actual FRIEND, it’s not just using for sex. We chat about our day, he always checks in, it’s not just sex but it’s not a relationship either. Like I’m, you know, an actual human being 🙄 It’s perfect.Why men in general cannot get that a casual relationship still has to have basic decency and politeness, I do not know.
I hope you get use of that free house soon 😉
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Post by leannec on Jan 21, 2020 23:33:47 GMT
Another update from me: Justin and I have decided to "take a break" ... whatever that means We've been texting practically everyday for 2.5 months but because he lives three hours away we haven't met yet ... he has made so many promises to come and see me and never comes through so I basically told him that I couldn't do it anymore ... I'm sad but it's for the best ... I have a feeling that I'll hear from him in the future I still have two young guys (Kyle and Jory) and two older guys (Brad and Laurent) and maybe still Andrew interested in me so I'm not as upset as I could be
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Post by ashley on Jan 21, 2020 23:34:56 GMT
leannec... I’m sorry he couldn’t come through for at least one fun night.
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Post by leannec on Jan 21, 2020 23:52:27 GMT
leannec ... I’m sorry he couldn’t come through for at least one fun night. Exactly ... I pretty much told him to put up or shut up ... twerp.
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Post by ashley on Jan 21, 2020 23:54:29 GMT
leannec ... I’m sorry he couldn’t come through for at least one fun night. Exactly ... I pretty much told him to put up or shut up ... twerp. Ive found this to be something that seems to happen... empty promises.
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Post by sharlag on Jan 22, 2020 3:20:49 GMT
It’s weird when they just want to yak via text. I’ve heard it’s because they are seeing other people in person, but they want you as a back up.
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 22, 2020 10:42:15 GMT
It’s weird when they just want to yak via text. I’ve heard it’s because they are seeing other people in person, but they want you as a back up. It is weird, isn’t it? My personal ground rules are I never message first (well, I use Tinder and Bumble, Bumble you have to- women first) and I never suggest a meet up. The guys who just text and never suggest meeting...I stop answering them after around a week, unless a mitigating factor like out of the country or something. I do wonder if those types are married-! That’s my biggest fear, I feel like I’d know the signs but would I?
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Post by leannec on Jan 22, 2020 12:29:55 GMT
I do wonder if those types are married-! That’s my biggest fear, I feel like I’d know the signs but would I? I would hope I would be able to tell if someone was married but probably not ... I'm suspicious of scammers but I obviously have no trouble texting for long periods of time
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Post by leannec on Jan 22, 2020 12:35:47 GMT
So Brad texted me last night just like he said he would ... and it got, once again, a bit HOT He seems really nice and really interested in me We're hoping to get together on the weekend ... we'll see ... I'm hoping Kyle will feel better by then too
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 22, 2020 12:55:52 GMT
So Brad texted me last night just like he said he would ... and it got, once again, a bit HOT He seems really nice and really interested in me We're hoping to get together on the weekend ... we'll see ... I'm hoping Kyle will feel better by then too Hot texting is a whole new world isn’t it😂? Hope the weekend works out!
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Post by leannec on Jan 22, 2020 14:12:55 GMT
Hot texting is a whole new world isn’t it😂? It is! Wasn't something I had EVER done before I met Justin ... 2.5 months of long distance hot texting there ... I've had lot's of practice now
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 22, 2020 14:52:41 GMT
I have a lot to catch up on leannec with your men! Hot texting is a whole new world isn’t it This is all they seem to want BEFORE meeting. I hate getting caught up in it and then meet and have ZERO chemistry-makes it so awkward. I've stopped and they just disappear- which is fine. I'm thinking maybe I'm not cut out for multiple FWBs- one is probably enough. I know I'm old, but for once I would just like to meet a nice (GORGEOUS) guy and go on a date. You know the kind where you sit and actually talk about normal stuff. Ignore me- I guess I'm just out of sorts this morning... I need my hormones.
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Post by leannec on Jan 22, 2020 15:23:11 GMT
I have a lot to catch up on leannec with your men! Hot texting is a whole new world isn’t it This is all they seem to want BEFORE meeting. I hate getting caught up in it and then meet and have ZERO chemistry-makes it so awkward. I've stopped and they just disappear- which is fine. I'm thinking maybe I'm not cut out for multiple FWBs- one is probably enough. I know I'm old, but for once I would just like to meet a nice (GORGEOUS) guy and go on a date. You know the kind where you sit and actually talk about normal stuff. Ignore me- I guess I'm just out of sorts this morning... I need my hormones. Kyle hasn't said anything sexual yet ... he's been super sweet and he is totally gorgeous ... maybe too gorgeous for me Of course he's been under the weather the entire time I've known him so we'll see what comes out when he's feeling better
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Post by sharlag on Jan 22, 2020 19:54:15 GMT
I hate getting caught up in it and then meet and have ZERO chemistry-makes it so awkward. This has happened to me! Weird that the same person who can text like a fiend can end up having no IRL chemistry. Makes you realize it ain't ALLLL about the brain.... (the brain in our skull)
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Post by ashley on Jan 23, 2020 1:41:39 GMT
I have three coffee dates lined up for the next week... but I’m honestly not feeling that excited. They’re all fine men — good jobs, educated, we have lots in common, they’re interesting, etc. Maybe I’m just tired but it just seems like a lot of effort.
How do any of you who work and have families have time for a relationship? I get up at 5:15, leave for work at 6:45 (I’m slow in the mornings and hate feeling rushed), get to work before 8, leave work at 4, home by 5ish, then make dinner. Dinner is usually done and cleaned up by 7, I spend time with the little girls and read with them and then they go back to my mom’s to seep there at 7:45. And by then I’m either ready for bed, or I do dinner and lunch prep for the next day.
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Post by leannec on Jan 23, 2020 2:44:43 GMT
How do any of you who work and have families have time for a relationship? Well, I haven't been in a relationship yet but I do go out ... with my friends and on dates ... My dd's are older than yours which makes a difference ... they are 16 and almost 21 so I don't have to entertain them at night at all ... I only cook about three weeknights and the 16 year old fends for herself or we get takeout on the other nights ... if the older one is here to eat then she eats with us (usually her boyfriend is here too so I often feed him - no biggie) ... It is a new normal for us ... me having a social life ... everyone is adjusting ... the dd's don't necessarily like it because they still pine for a reconciliation but I think they are starting to realize that it's not going to happen I also don't need a lot of sleep ... I get up at 4am or 4:30am ... leave the house at 6:15am to be at work by 7am ... work until about 3:30pm unless I have meetings or parent teacher interviews, etc. (I'm a teacher) ... I usually stop at the grocery store on the way home so I get home around 4:30pm or 4:45pm ... we eat at about 6:30pm if I'm staying home ... I go to bed by 10pm most nights but I don't sleep before 11pm and I wake up many times in the night ... sigh!
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Post by leannec on Jan 23, 2020 12:50:59 GMT
So I thought I would text Jory (the 30 year old that lives three hours away and is in Cuba right now on vacation) last night just for something to do ... and he texted back ... from Cuba He had just gotten back to his room ... so we texted and Facetimed ... he is so cute He's still interested in me despite the fact that I was wearing reading glasses the whole time he saw me He said that I looked gorgeous We'll see how many weeks it takes for him to make it to Calgary
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 24, 2020 15:47:54 GMT
Anyone have any dates this weekend? I started talking to a 42 yr old last week, but once again when he started sending current pics I wasn't interested. Why can't guys just show what they look like now? I know I sound like a broken record, but it's very frustrating. I swear I'm going to insist that a current pic be first before I waste my time. My regular guy will be gone next week, so it that's a no-go. He knows I tend to try to get into trouble when he's gone though and gives me a hard time haha.
Another thing... I'm not paying for any more dating sites! I'm doing Tinder Gold for a month- it's a joke! I'm doing Match for 3 months- worst joke. I searched last night for ages 48-64 wihtin 60 miles and got like 45 results? Are you kidding me? I've played around with searching for different age ranges and it's ridiculous.
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