People who love (or maybe live?) to argue

I used to be like that (to a degree) when I was younger. Not 'you're wrong!' - but I always had to argue MY point. It's embarrassing to think about it now.

The older I get, the more exasperated I get with arguers, though. I mean- at a certain point, shouldn't you be older and wiser?
I find myself sighing and saying "OK." Then, a subject change, or I'm urgently needed elsewhere.

Oh my I am sorry you have to deal with one of those too. We have one of them at work. Nobody likes him and he can't understand why? He is always right, no matter what. Even our vendors don't want to deal with him when they come in. He will also cross from one end of our shop to the other to butt his nose in.

I will give him credit for one thing though. He is good at his job he just needs to be in a room all by himself. It would be better for everyone.

oh I forgot to answer your question. I ignore him totally.

My husband's best friend is like that. Those two used to live together before we got married and there were nights I would just throw my hands up and refuse to engage. Most of the time he didn't even believe/agree with his position, he was just playing devils advocate for the sake of doing it. When he felt like his position was being threatened by anyone else he would raise his voice.

I simply refused to engaged with him. Now that he has to come to my home I am much more willing to call him on his behavior. I refuse to be belittled or pestered in my house.

My co-irker is one of those. Unfortunately saying, "Agree to disagree" is like waving a red flag in front of a bull. It INCENSES her.

So sometimes I do that just for the fun of it. Then keep repeating it.

DD and DH are both like that. I (and DS) walk away from them when they're in that mood. They've learned to indulge that trait with each other and leave us alone. We call it "recreational bickering".

My brothers. They will actually say inflammatory things on my Facebook posts just to see if they can upset me. (Like saying a teapot I posted a picture of looked like a bong. I was using it to promote a silent auction benefiting a charity I believed strongly in and hoped to bring attention to the sale with the cute teapot. Another brother said something mean and derogatory when I posted a photo of the brand new fridge I'd been wanting for five years.)

I walk away. There is nothing on this earth you can say that win them to your side even if they secretly believe what your arguing. They can't lose face. They must win. This is what they call "fun."

Sometimes my dad can be like this. It has caused some pretty heated battles between us where I have flown off the handle at him. For instance, he was in town when we were house hunting and looking for the home and location we would build for our retirement home. We knew of certain things we didn't want. Some of those things are gorgeous in a home but for our purposes, were a huge waste of space that we had to pay for, heat and cool, pay taxes on, etc. For the next 3 days, every chance he got, he threw in how wrong I was about the type of home we needed to build. I finally flew off the handle on about day 3 and yelled at him that when he was spending his money, then he could decide what kind of house DH and I purchased but until then, it was none of his business. He also LOVES to try to give me financial advice. This man worked well into his 70's before he was finally laid off because he had never saved a penny. He spent everything as fast as he could get it and then some. He was always in debt way over his head and still is to this day. On the other hand, DH and I are very financially responsible. We are 100% debt free. We have savings and investments. A financial adviser has told us that we are sitting very well financially to be able to retire at a younger age (we don't want to work until 65+). When he tries to give me financial advice, I usually just laugh and tell him that he is the last person I would take financial advice from. I love my dad but he can really drive me bonkers some times.