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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:13:13 GMT
I'm in L.A. for work. I was coming back from lunch to my hotel and a relatively "rough" looking man walked past me and very loudly called me a fat ass. I stopped dead in my tracks and said "excuse me?" And he screamed "You're a fat ass". Everyone on the street stared.
I know this man probably has issues, homeless, etc, whatever, but I'm just floored. For one, I've just hit my 50 lb weight loss last week. I've been literally working my ass off for months. I'm just sitting here eating my feelings from the mini bar. (It started with a mini Jack Daniels bottle and then kind of went downhill from there..lol).
I'm so mortified and just upset.
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Post by magentapea on Oct 20, 2014 22:16:28 GMT
I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. What an ass! 50 pounds is an amazing weight loss. Congratulations! Don't let his words diminish your hard work. And, everyone that stared, was staring at HIM, not you.
Lisa
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:16:37 GMT
Sorry, there are a lot of crazies out there. Keep your chin up!
Ann
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Post by newlywoods03 on Oct 20, 2014 22:18:08 GMT
I'm sorry that happened to you  Sounds like you are doing amazing on your weight loss journey. Please don't let him rain on your parade. Keep up the good work! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:18:45 GMT
I'm in L.A. for work. I was coming back from lunch to my hotel and a relatively "rough" looking man walked past me and very loudly called me a fat ass. I stopped dead in my tracks and said "excuse me?" And he screamed "You're a fat ass". Everyone on the street stared. I know this man probably has issues, homeless, etc, whatever, but I'm just floored. For one, I've just hit my 50 lb weight loss last week. I've been literally working my ass off for months. I'm just sitting here eating my feelings from the mini bar. (It started with a mini Jack Daniels bottle and then kind of went downhill from there..lol). I'm so mortified and just upset. He doesn't know you...he doesn't get a vote. Period. I'm sorry. |
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Post by fkawitchypea on Oct 20, 2014 22:19:28 GMT
I'm so sorry. That is a horrible feeling. Congrats on the weight loss!
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Post by librarylady on Oct 20, 2014 22:20:03 GMT
He is a mean ASS! You can (and did) change your ass, but chances are, he will be an ass 'till he dies.
Ignore him and his hurtful ways.......
Too bad you didn't just yell back, "Yea, and don't you forget it!!" Don't let the [HASH]$%^&* know he got under your skin!
Now, step away from the mini bar, look in the mirror and say,"I'm darn good looking, especially after I have hit my weight loss goal!"
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Post by Nink on Oct 20, 2014 22:20:21 GMT
I know it's easier said than done, but don't let the words of some complete stranger with issues derail all your success. Just keep on doing what you're doing and keep your chin up, you're doing great.
And as a side note, not all of us in LA are assholes.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:20:24 GMT
Uhhh, I'm sorry. He probably did have issues. We were at an amusement park and my son was in full meltdown mode and screamed. I was struggling to pick him up and get him out of the park. It was obvious I was trying. Some lady said "Oh Gooooooddddddddd" really loud. I told her LOUDLY my son has Autism I'm doing the best I can.
Then I lost it like you did after we exited the park. ((hugs)).
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Post by Judy26 on Oct 20, 2014 22:21:08 GMT
Awe...Don't take it so hard. You're right. He definitely had some mental problems. Send out some good thoughts or prayers for him and be glad that you are able to be in a room with a minibar. (That's what you should do. Not what I would do. I would have yelled back that the junk in my trunk was a whole lot more refined than the shit he had for brains!)
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Oct 20, 2014 22:21:38 GMT
How bizarre. Let's call him names back. I'll start: "Cretin!"  (Congratulations on your weight loss!  ) |
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Post by peabrain on Oct 20, 2014 22:22:49 GMT
You're beautiful
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Post by mallie on Oct 20, 2014 22:23:54 GMT
I know it's easy to say, but try not to take it personally. People with meanness or mental illness are really not talking to you as a person, as a human being. Your'e just... there. Convenient.
And really, our views on body size are totally effed up. One of my dds is having trouble keeping weight on for no apparent reason. She's quite underweight and under a doctor's care right now trying to solve the problem. Do you know how many people have complimented her on her "amazing' weight loss? First of all, she was never overweight. Never. Not even close. She was fit and trim, could not pinch an inch. Secondly, she's too thin now. But the number of people who thinks she looks great now is mind-boggling. Our attitude toward body size is sick.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:24:04 GMT
I'm in L.A. for work. I was coming back from lunch to my hotel and a relatively "rough" looking man walked past me and very loudly called me a fat ass. I stopped dead in my tracks and said "excuse me?" And he screamed "You're a fat ass". Everyone on the street stared. I know this man probably has issues, homeless, etc, whatever, but I'm just floored. For one, I've just hit my 50 lb weight loss last week. I've been literally working my ass off for months. I'm just sitting here eating my feelings from the mini bar. (It started with a mini Jack Daniels bottle and then kind of went downhill from there..lol). I'm so mortified and just upset. He doesn't know you...he doesn't get a vote. Period. I'm sorry. I agree!! Keep your head up (and out of the Jack)  |
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Post by epeanymous on Oct 20, 2014 22:24:59 GMT
I am really sorry. No matter how much you tell yourself that what people call you is about their issues, not yours (and it is, absolutely), it still hurts.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:29:21 GMT
My favorite response when some oddball calls me fat or fat-ass: "You only say that because it's more than you could handle." Then I smile VERY nicely and keep on walking.
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Post by tania7424 on Oct 20, 2014 22:32:19 GMT
Agreed. You look very happy in your profile pic, and like someone I would like to know personally. |
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Post by scrapngranny on Oct 20, 2014 22:34:15 GMT
I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. He doesn't know your journey or struggles. If he knew you have lost 50 pounds he would congratulate you. That is the problem when we judge others, we never know their struggles and pain. He obliviously has his own issues to be so hurtful to say something like that. It's his problem not yours. You are beautiful. Step away from the mini bar. LOL
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:35:19 GMT
Thanks you guys..your kind words are really helping. I'm a bit buzzed but stepping away from the mini bar. LOL
I have about 40 lbs to go til I hit my goal, but at least I'm over halfway there.
If I was sure he wasn't armed, I would probably be in jail. :/
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Oct 20, 2014 22:36:07 GMT
Wow, how rude! I would chalk him up to being mentally disturbed. I mean who goes around saying that to strangers on the street?!
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Post by peasapie on Oct 20, 2014 22:37:51 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear that you encountered an individual like that -- and congratulations on that wonderful weight loss! Tomorrow, when you are feeling guilty for having a couple of drinks and eating a little too much, remember how good you've been doing and get right back on track. I want to see updates on how well you're doing!  |
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Post by laureljean on Oct 20, 2014 22:41:45 GMT
((hugs))
What a mean thing to say!
My knee jerk reaction would be to say,"At least this fat ass has a nice bed to sleep in tonight and people who care about me"
But I guess that would be just as mean.
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 20, 2014 22:42:26 GMT
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Time to put on some Taylor Swift and "Shake it Off".
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Post by J u l e e on Oct 20, 2014 22:44:16 GMT
I'm so sorry. Thats really hurtful. Congratulations on your weight loss! You've done an amazing job!
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Post by akathy on Oct 20, 2014 22:44:51 GMT
I'm so sorry  Don't let him get you down, he's a jerk! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 22:45:34 GMT
What an asshole! I would have been tempted to punch him in the face but I have a bad temper so you might not want to listen to me  |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 20, 2014 22:48:55 GMT
But I'm still sorry his words were hurtful to you. You know what you've accomplished -- 50 pounds lost is amazing. Good for you!
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Post by iowgirl on Oct 20, 2014 22:51:37 GMT
My reply to people who say things like that - "I can always lose weight - you will always be an obnoxious mo-fo" |
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Post by gloryjoy on Oct 20, 2014 22:53:39 GMT
He doesn't even know you. And you're a better person than him. Even after he was rude you politely said excuse me, which is more than I would have done.
Don't let a person who has no significance in your life make you feel bad.
Losing 50 lbs. is a big accomplishment!
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Post by tinydogmafia on Oct 20, 2014 22:57:07 GMT
CONGRATULATIONS on the weight loss!!!!!!
Do not let that jerk take up anymore room in your mind. Deep breath, shake it off, and remind yourself how far you've come! Forgive yourself for eating your emotions and get right back on the horse! Keep up your hard work!
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Sounds like you are doing amazing on your weight loss journey. Please don't let him rain on your parade. Keep up the good work!
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Don't let him get you down, he's a jerk!
