tincin
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Post by tincin on Apr 2, 2020 4:36:00 GMT
I just spoke with my DB today who told me, “I’ll admit it, I’m a wanderer. I just can’t stay home all day.” I was so upset. His wife was there too (speaker phone) and I asked her if she was sleeping in a spare bedroom. She’s pretty upset with him too but ... they are going back and forth between their cabin and their house on top of it. The houses are about 150 miles apart. They just came home today after being at their cabin all week, running into town to pick up stuff for repairs, get gas, etc. They came home to run errands together, pick up rent from tenants, etc.
I’m both stunned and disappointed. I thought he was smarter than that. He has so much, why would he risk it? Three kids, two grandchildren, wife, properties, toys, great job, you name it. He’s a hard worker, he’s a great guy, WTH? He’s one of my closest siblings. We lost the brother between us just a few years ago. I seriously just don’t get it. I know I’m not alone, that other people are wondering the same think about their friends and relatives.
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Post by chaosisapony on Apr 2, 2020 4:37:57 GMT
My step-sister (although I never call her that, ick). Her husband works at the hospital and she does not work. She just refuses to stay home. Taking her kids all over shopping, hiking, hanging out with friends. Then she hinted that she wanted my older parents (her dad is 68) to watch her kids for an entire week because she couldn't deal with them anymore. No no no no no. But my parents rarely say no to anything so I wouldn't be surprised if they wind up with those kids at some point. I will be shocked if they don't get sick.
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stittsygirl
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Post by stittsygirl on Apr 2, 2020 4:40:47 GMT
All my family are in Utah, which doesn’t have an official stay-at-home order yet, so my siblings were group texting about the things they were out doing today and if anyone wanted to meet up at our family cabin this weekend. I was just like  . I haven’t left my home in Washington state in ten days, except to get the mail from the box and drive my cars around the block a few times. My own family and I are currently living in a different world than my extended family. |
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Apr 2, 2020 4:42:44 GMT
Maybe when someone he knows comes down with the virus, it will suddenly sink in.
I really think some people just can’t make sense of this - can’t wrap their minds around this new reality. This is something completely outside our collective experience.
Personally we’re on Day 18 of self-isolation. My husband’s immune compromised state makes this all too real for us.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Apr 2, 2020 4:44:28 GMT
Maybe when someone he knows comes down with the virus, it will suddenly sink in. I really think some people just can’t make sense of this - can’t wrap their minds around this new reality. This is something completely outside our collective experience. Personally we’re on Day 18 of self-isolation. My husband’s immune compromised state makes this all too real for us. That was another thing that surprised me, he thinks this is a conspiracy by the government to see how much they can restrict our freedom and how far they can push us. 😳 |
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 2, 2020 5:11:56 GMT
My father in law
He's gonna kill my mil because he is going to expose her
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Apr 2, 2020 5:49:59 GMT
All my family are in Utah, which doesn’t have an official stay-at-home order yet, so my siblings were group texting about the things they were out doing today and if anyone wanted to meet up at our family cabin this weekend. I was just like . I haven’t left my home in Washington state in ten days, except to get the mail from the box and drive my cars around the block a few times. My own family and I are currently living in a different world than my extended family. This isn't surprising. Utah is doing a terrible job staying at home. The governor refuses to do a lock down so it's just a suggestion. No one seems to be taking the suggestion well. My oldest called to let us know his coworker was tested today, so he's quarantinig himself for 14 days or until the test comes back negative. He's 40 minutes away from us at school. I ran over to drop off a thermometer, some masks I made, disenfectant and some oreos at his door. There were so many people all over the place. No one in this state is going to self isolate until they are made to. And even then I doubt they will interpret that to mean stay away from extended family too. |
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stittsygirl
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Post by stittsygirl on Apr 2, 2020 5:56:13 GMT
All my family are in Utah, which doesn’t have an official stay-at-home order yet, so my siblings were group texting about the things they were out doing today and if anyone wanted to meet up at our family cabin this weekend. I was just like . I haven’t left my home in Washington state in ten days, except to get the mail from the box and drive my cars around the block a few times. My own family and I are currently living in a different world than my extended family. This isn't surprising. Utah is doing a terrible job staying at home. The governor refuses to do a lock down so it's just a suggestion. No one seems to be taking the suggestion well. My oldest called to let us know his coworker was tested today, so he's quarantinig himself for 14 days or until the test comes back negative. He's 40 minutes away from us at school. I ran over to drop off a thermometer, some masks I made, disenfectant and some oreos at his door. There were so many people all over the place. No one in this state is going to self isolate until they are made to. And even then I doubt they will interpret that to mean stay away from extended family too. I agree. My mom is an RN, but in an administrative role so she can work from home. That’s necessary because she is in remission from the leukemia she battled all last year. My stepfather had open-heart surgery a month ago. They are doing a good job staying home but they have had my siblings and the grandkids over several time in the past few weeks. I’m afraid something is going to be carried to my parents but nobody else seems to be worried about it, including my mom |
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Post by flanz on Apr 2, 2020 5:59:42 GMT
I'm sorry for all of you dealing with this frustration! ((HUGS))
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Post by gar on Apr 2, 2020 8:03:02 GMT
We all are so far. My son in law really baulks at being 'instructed' to do anything so he was the one who left it to the last minute to lay off staff but he's behaving himself so far now. He'll struggle though...the temptation to nip here or there, pop out to wherever all be strong for him.
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Post by ametallichick on Apr 2, 2020 8:53:49 GMT
My dd is married and has two kids plus a stepdaughter, which they have her1week on 1 week off. My daughter has two babies. 1 at 2 years and And 1 at 11 1/2 months. She had a friend come over yesterday and she has a child that is almost the same age as my oldest dgd. I thought it was reckless as me and my dh aren’t even going over there to see them. I don’t want to take the chance to infect them if I’m a non-systematic carrier. It kind of pisses me off actually. NV is a stay at home orders state and I’ve done mostly that besides my physical therapy I get three times a week for a knee replacement I had 7 weeks ago. I guess my ds (he lives at home) ripped her a new one on the phone. I’ve told her my opinion but it still worries me. Ugh!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 2, 2020 9:20:27 GMT
My DIL I live with. She comes up with every excuse possible to go shop. Sometimes she takes the three year old with her. She was saying today she wants to bring DGD to her parents for awhile. DS had to explain that would increase risk to all involved. She thinks that since she might be exposed at work, she should be exempt from the social distancing guidelines.
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Dallie
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Post by Dallie on Apr 2, 2020 10:49:29 GMT
All my family are in Utah, which doesn’t have an official stay-at-home order yet, so my siblings were group texting about the things they were out doing today and if anyone wanted to meet up at our family cabin this weekend. I was just like . I haven’t left my home in Washington state in ten days, except to get the mail from the box and drive my cars around the block a few times. My own family and I are currently living in a different world than my extended family. This isn't surprising. Utah is doing a terrible job staying at home. The governor refuses to do a lock down so it's just a suggestion. No one seems to be taking the suggestion well. My oldest called to let us know his coworker was tested today, so he's quarantinig himself for 14 days or until the test comes back negative. He's 40 minutes away from us at school. I ran over to drop off a thermometer, some masks I made, disenfectant and some oreos at his door. There were so many people all over the place. No one in this state is going to self isolate until they are made to. And even then I doubt they will interpret that to mean stay away from extended family too. I have been hearing for weeks from people that they are isolating/distancing themselves, BUT not from people they know. Why? They trust the people they know not to be out of they been sick or have symptoms. Try explain being asymptomatic, etc to someone who is foolish enough to trust others to safeguard her own health. |
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Post by hop2 on Apr 2, 2020 11:36:25 GMT
My cousin’s DD is out partying & getting together with friends.
My cousin is currently fighting cancer & is on Chemo. I can’t say anything because I don’t want to guilt her or start an issue. My cousin made a FB post about quarantining then 3 days later her DD is hanging with 3 friends. Clearly they are not getting it.
I was just in the process of booking a trip to see my cousin but hesitated with all the health news mid February I held off.
I get the feeling I’m not going to get to see my cousin. If her DD’s carelessness doesn’t infect her I wouldn’t put it past her ass of a husband to frustrate her to death.
I’m just sad.
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Post by Really Red on Apr 2, 2020 11:48:03 GMT
People don't get it. I don't get people who don't get it.
My immediate family is all self-quarantining - my two kids in their respective homes and my dd here. My sisters are doing the same thing. My brother, after being an idiot in Florida (and way too old to be called a Spring Breaker), is now quarantining. So no. I don't know anyone in my family who is ignoring this. Some cousins, yes. but not close family.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 2, 2020 12:01:52 GMT
My mother acts like she is, but she still goes to the corner store (gas station) to pick up items she can get when she picks up her grocery order. It’s so scary and frustrating and maddening and I want to throttle her with the same hands I want to hug her with. She was just upset because I wouldn’t let her and my brother come into town to have dinner on my birthday. Uh, no. We aren’t making the effort of keeping ourselves safe only to risk it for a birthday dinner. And DH works closely with residents in a nursing home and she knows how worried we are about them, and the responsibility he feels. Argh!
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Post by dewryce on Apr 2, 2020 12:03:16 GMT
People don't get it. I don't get people who don't get it. Exactly this. Or, they don’t see/admit to seeing the social responsibility aspect of this whole thing. It’s.not.just.about.you. |
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Post by SockMonkey on Apr 2, 2020 12:26:53 GMT
My cousin’s DD is out partying & getting together with friends. My cousin is currently fighting cancer & is on Chemo. I can’t say anything because I don’t want to guilt her or start an issue. My cousin made a FB post about quarantining then 3 days later her DD is hanging with 3 friends. Clearly they are not getting it. I was just in the process of booking a trip to see my cousin but hesitated with all the health news mid February I held off. I get the feeling I’m not going to get to see my cousin. If her DD’s carelessness doesn’t infect her I wouldn’t put it past her ass of a husband to frustrate her to death. I’m just sad. If there was ever a time to say something, it's now. To the DD. It's not about guilt, it's about saving her mother's life. |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 2, 2020 12:32:37 GMT
One of my siblings is sneaking off to get her nails done...the nail tech just has everyone coming to her home for appointments.
Not family, but I know someone who was to quarantine because of being in a work situation with someone who tested positive, yet they felt it was okay to go shopping, ho to home improvement stores to work on house while in quarantine. This one pissed me off so much I haven’t spoken to them yet.
I’ve gone out 4 times in the last 3+ weeks just to get fresh veggies, milk, and to JoAnns to get fabric for mass mask making.
I won’t let anyone but my little family into my house!
A relative was coming to pick up stuff for mask making, and I left it on my porch and told them that I wasn’t coming out! Lol
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Post by dewryce on Apr 2, 2020 12:33:54 GMT
My cousin’s DD is out partying & getting together with friends. My cousin is currently fighting cancer & is on Chemo. I can’t say anything because I don’t want to guilt her or start an issue. My cousin made a FB post about quarantining then 3 days later her DD is hanging with 3 friends. Clearly they are not getting it. I was just in the process of booking a trip to see my cousin but hesitated with all the health news mid February I held off. I get the feeling I’m not going to get to see my cousin. If her DD’s carelessness doesn’t infect her I wouldn’t put it past her ass of a husband to frustrate her to death. I’m just sad. If there was ever a time to say something, it's now. To the DD. It's not about guilt, it's about saving her mother's life. I agree. And if she argues and insists it’s “no big deal”, personally I would suggest she calls her mom’s oncologist to get his opinion. Maybe that will help her recognize how selfish she is being and the very real risk she is taking. |
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Post by Merge on Apr 2, 2020 12:34:45 GMT
I'm not in contact with anyone who continues to go out for fun. I suspect that some of my relatives on my mom's side are ignoring the orders, and of course many live in states or localities that don't have orders, but those are the parts of the family I don't really talk to any more, anyway.
(Oh, wait, I do have some FB acquaintances among the idiot horde who continue to run at the big, popular parks. One was like, "Social distancing tough at Memorial Park today," and I made a comment about maybe running in his neighborhood, instead. He did the laughing reaction.)
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miyooper2b
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Post by miyooper2b on Apr 2, 2020 12:41:20 GMT
My dad. He has health issues and should stay in. He is a super social person and I knew this would be a struggle for him. He used to go out everyday for something prior to the lock down. Me and my brother are doing our best to keep him in but mom says he's been sneaking out. I know the longer the lock down goes on the tougher it will be to keep him in. Short of tying him down I don't know what else we can do but to keep after him to stay put.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 2, 2020 12:48:14 GMT
Our DS. He is pretty safe at work as he only has 2 employees. He goes to play cards with friends at one's shop. He says it's fine, because he knows them. He tried to golf, but couldn't get a tee time, as it was too busy.
When I tried to educate him, I literally got "OMG, mom!" His 16 and 11 years olds are practicing social isolation, but I'm afraid he will bring it home. They live with him half the time.
Luckily he is 850 miles away from us, so I don't have to worry about him wanting to visit. That would be a hard no.
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cakediva
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Post by cakediva on Apr 2, 2020 12:50:02 GMT
My brother - although he was in his own space for two weeks isolating really so he came to stay here a few days. We are more the danger to him than he to us, as DS works at a grocery store.
but my mother is going to be the end of me. She refuses to shop at senior hour because she’s healthy. That’s not the point! She is also going to a friend’s home and having wine on her deck sitting 8 ft apart. 🤦🏻♀️
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Post by hop2 on Apr 2, 2020 12:51:52 GMT
My cousin’s DD is out partying & getting together with friends. My cousin is currently fighting cancer & is on Chemo. I can’t say anything because I don’t want to guilt her or start an issue. My cousin made a FB post about quarantining then 3 days later her DD is hanging with 3 friends. Clearly they are not getting it. I was just in the process of booking a trip to see my cousin but hesitated with all the health news mid February I held off. I get the feeling I’m not going to get to see my cousin. If her DD’s carelessness doesn’t infect her I wouldn’t put it past her ass of a husband to frustrate her to death. I’m just sad. If there was ever a time to say something, it's now. To the DD. It's not about guilt, it's about saving her mother's life. The chances that my cousin will survive the cancer aren’t great to begin with. I’m not going to put that guilt on her daughter ( who I don’t know that well ) because my will most likely not beat this this time around. Her prognosis was for extending her life not saving it. I really thought there’d be time that I could sneak in one last visit before the inevitable, but Covid 19 had other ideas. So no, I’m not going to guilt trip a teenager over this. That will probably happen naturally |
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Post by LisaDV on Apr 2, 2020 12:54:31 GMT
Does a niece taking her 3 children (ages almost 1 to almost 7) by plane to her parents?
They got a first flight (freshly cleaned) and direct to help reduce exposure. 1 child has ADD, 1 they just found out is on the spectrum. She, herself, has many health issues. She really does need the help. She wouldn't be able to drive alone with 3 kids as it's at least a 12 hour drive. Her DH is essential and still working. They are worried about the travel, but doing it anyway.
She is my niece that is always on the go. I figure they're still going to get together with my other niece who is local and her son. I doubt she even makes them wait a 14 day quarantine period, unless her DH says they have to.
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Post by maryland on Apr 2, 2020 13:11:37 GMT
My step-sister (although I never call her that, ick). Her husband works at the hospital and she does not work. She just refuses to stay home. Taking her kids all over shopping, hiking, hanging out with friends. Then she hinted that she wanted my older parents (her dad is 68) to watch her kids for an entire week because she couldn't deal with them anymore. No no no no no. But my parents rarely say no to anything so I wouldn't be surprised if they wind up with those kids at some point. I will be shocked if they don't get sick. That is awful! I hope she and the kids are living in the garage, or elsewhere before they expose her husband (and everyone at the hospital)!
Those poor kids! She is really putting them at risk. I can understand the hiking (if it isn't crowded and it's just them together,not friends), and if it's the only way to go shopping (husband working round the clock, kids to young to stay at home). But limit the trips, and don't shop just to shop, go to get what you need and get out. But hanging out with friends? Handing her kids to her parents because she can't deal with them. We are all frustrated having everyone at home!
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Post by dewryce on Apr 2, 2020 13:21:32 GMT
If there was ever a time to say something, it's now. To the DD. It's not about guilt, it's about saving her mother's life. The chances that my cousin will survive the cancer aren’t great to begin with. I’m not going to put that guilt on her daughter ( who I don’t know that well ) because my will most likely not beat this this time around. Her prognosis was for extending her life not saving it. I really thought there’d be time that I could sneak in one last visit before the inevitable, but Covid 19 had other ideas. So no, I’m not going to guilt trip a teenager over this. That will probably happen naturally . |
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Post by brookeq on Apr 2, 2020 13:25:51 GMT
All my family are in Utah, which doesn’t have an official stay-at-home order yet, so my siblings were group texting about the things they were out doing today and if anyone wanted to meet up at our family cabin this weekend. I was just like . I haven’t left my home in Washington state in ten days, except to get the mail from the box and drive my cars around the block a few times. My own family and I are currently living in a different world than my extended family. My SIL in Utah is also not really sheltering. I mentioned this on another post but basically her older son is a senior in high school and she feels bad that he is missing his senior year. So he can go out with friends and come and go as he pleases. But the other kids all stay at home. SIL than goes and visits my MIL who is in the high risk category. WTF. |
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Post by brookeq on Apr 2, 2020 13:27:45 GMT
My other SIL in Utah had a daughter come home from school that was exposed to someone. They quarantined her and now that she is done she wants to go back to school. Basically she doesn't like being home and told not to go out. She will go back to school and hang out with everyone and do what she pleases.
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