Post by heartland on Apr 3, 2020 15:59:10 GMT
My mother passed on Monday due to the Covid 19 virus. She had been on a ventilator for over a week and was continually going down hill. We had to make the horrific decision to remove the ventilator and let her pass naturally. I hadn’t been able to see or talk to my mother for that whole week - just receiving twice daily updates on her condition. I have been told though that there were two nurses who sat with her during the last hours and held her hands. I feel so grateful that she wasn’t alone, but that should have been me at her bedside.
Then on Tuesday afternoon my brother, father and I gathered at the funeral home to make arrangements. We couldn’t hug or even touch each other. It really hit home during the planning just how different of a funeral this would be. Just a viewing with no more than 10 people in the building at one time. People would have To basically make an appointment to come in and see her/us. And the same for the funeral. Only 10ish people allowed. How do you choose who is “important” enough to be able to attend?
My father mentioned being short of breath several times while we together, and he’s the type of guy to jut shrug off aches and pains or the like. Just keep going and power through. It took all we and the funeral director (a close friend) could do to convince him that he needed to go get this checked out. Could it be the virus although he hadn’t seen my mom in about 10 days, or something else? Turns out it was a blood clot between his heart and lungs. They admitted him, and because of the breathing issues and the situation with my mom - also tested him for the virus. He ended up on the same floor of the hospital with several of the same nurses that my mom had had.
Thank God that we did get him to the hospital and they were able to treat this. They gave him medicine to break up/ disolve the clot and he will be able to go home today. However until the test comes back, he is quarantined at home, I am quarantined at my home alone, and my brother who has a family is self quarantining in my mother’s sewing room ( in a separate building from my parents house) so that he did not have to take this home to his family and young kids who may not respect the boundaries of a quarantine within their own home.
They do believe that his breathing issues were caused by the clot and not the virus, as they have gone away - but until we receive confirmation we are all stuck at home indefinitely and are unable to plan a date for my mother’s funeral. This is heartbreaking. I just don’t really know how to react to any of this. She was not just my mother but also my best friend. I am so lost without her.
Please everyone one stay safe and tell your loved ones everyday how much they mean to you. This shit is so real and they can be alive but taken from you in a heartbeat with this horrible virus.
Then on Tuesday afternoon my brother, father and I gathered at the funeral home to make arrangements. We couldn’t hug or even touch each other. It really hit home during the planning just how different of a funeral this would be. Just a viewing with no more than 10 people in the building at one time. People would have To basically make an appointment to come in and see her/us. And the same for the funeral. Only 10ish people allowed. How do you choose who is “important” enough to be able to attend?
My father mentioned being short of breath several times while we together, and he’s the type of guy to jut shrug off aches and pains or the like. Just keep going and power through. It took all we and the funeral director (a close friend) could do to convince him that he needed to go get this checked out. Could it be the virus although he hadn’t seen my mom in about 10 days, or something else? Turns out it was a blood clot between his heart and lungs. They admitted him, and because of the breathing issues and the situation with my mom - also tested him for the virus. He ended up on the same floor of the hospital with several of the same nurses that my mom had had.
Thank God that we did get him to the hospital and they were able to treat this. They gave him medicine to break up/ disolve the clot and he will be able to go home today. However until the test comes back, he is quarantined at home, I am quarantined at my home alone, and my brother who has a family is self quarantining in my mother’s sewing room ( in a separate building from my parents house) so that he did not have to take this home to his family and young kids who may not respect the boundaries of a quarantine within their own home.
They do believe that his breathing issues were caused by the clot and not the virus, as they have gone away - but until we receive confirmation we are all stuck at home indefinitely and are unable to plan a date for my mother’s funeral. This is heartbreaking. I just don’t really know how to react to any of this. She was not just my mother but also my best friend. I am so lost without her.
Please everyone one stay safe and tell your loved ones everyday how much they mean to you. This shit is so real and they can be alive but taken from you in a heartbeat with this horrible virus.
