RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 7, 2020 9:47:22 GMT
I'm really lucky that my DH enjoys and appreciates practically anything I put in front of him. If he wants to dowse it in a spicy sauce then that's fine by me.
I do get where you're coming from, but everyone has different tastes. He obviously prefers more salt than you do.
ETA: @megmc You may have generously bought and cooked the meal, but that doesn't give you the right to police her taste buds. I'm actually shocked that anyone would think it was OK to give someone food, and then forcibly take it away from them before they can eat it. If that happened to a child, it would be called child abuse.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Apr 7, 2020 10:39:06 GMT
I don't care what they add to it just as long as they eat it. Ds only eats pizza eats pizza with hot sauce. Dh will add ketchup to a roast.
I always chuckle when I order an expensive steak at a restaurant and the waiter asks if I want steak sauce. If you make a good steak then it isn't needed. I don't use steak sauce either way though.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 7, 2020 11:04:47 GMT
I know you are ranting, but I hope you didnāt say anything to him. I am the main cook in my house. I cook what I like and how I like it. Once it goes on some elseās plate for them to consume, itās no longer my business. Just because I like something one way doesnāt mean everyone else does. It feels either controlling or needing validation (take your pick) to expect others to share your taste and to take it as a reflection on you when they donāt. I totally validate your choice to rant to the peas however. š I didn't say anything to him. But we have joked about the soy sauce in the past. Just as he's picked at me for not squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom. It's a silly thing. We can laugh about it. It certainly isn't cause for divorce or anything. Maybe it is controlling. I'm not a controlling person overall but maybe this one little thing is. And I think it goes back to my feeling that food is like art. If Jeremy proceeded to take out all my scrapbook layouts about him and rework them, I'd be offended. And that's kind of the way I feel about my food at times.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 7, 2020 11:20:25 GMT
jeremysgirl How can you not squeeze your toothpaste from the bottom? I'm not sure we can still be friends after THAT revelation, LOL. I'm so OCD, I roll the tube up with a binder clip on the end to hold it. A pretty BIL dear clip, of course.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 7, 2020 11:23:21 GMT
Please don't feel bad. I am like Jeremy. I love soy sauce. Rice is just a carrier for me! I get annoyed when my MIL likes a dish I prepared, asks for the recipe, then tells me how she made it better. Oh bless you for not telling her where to stick her altered recipe! This one is so funny/not funny I think my reaction if she told me how she made my recipe better would be to simply crack up laughing. She is a good cook, but still, it's annoying. I just roll my eyes, discreetly.
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Post by purplebee on Apr 7, 2020 11:29:23 GMT
I get your feelings, OP but around here, itās your plate and as long as you are not dousing mine with whatever condiment YOU like, then have at it. My Dad had an expression when I was growing up: āKeep your nose in your own plateā and I still believe that commenting negatively on anotherās food choices (FIL was always doing that) is just plain rude.
And if megmc took my food off the plate that was in front of me (thereās gotta be more backstory to that one) and threw it out, unless I was a minor child, she would end up with a broken arm... Just sayinā š¤¬
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Post by Dallie on Apr 7, 2020 11:32:11 GMT
I guess I am not fancy enough to consider food to be art. Or maybe, having been hungry in my life for sustained periods of time, I simply lost or never gained the ability to care about it as long as I have enough to stave off hunger. I enjoy a well cooked meal, but for me food is a bottom line item -- sustenance.
I do not care if someone adds to or subtracts from something I make -- they have the right to suit their own taste with what they are putting in their mouth and body.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 7, 2020 11:45:53 GMT
How can you not squeeze your toothpaste from the bottom? I'm not sure we can still be friends after THAT revelation, LOL. Haha! I, too, have annoying habits that get under my husband's skin. We can laugh pretty good at our quirks.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 7, 2020 11:47:17 GMT
Thank you, guys, for humoring me. I enjoyed this conversation. It was a pleasant distraction from all the virus threads. Now you all have one more item for the spreadsheet about how weird I am.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 7, 2020 12:12:12 GMT
I love to cook and view it as a creative outlet. Itās my crafting hobby, I suppose. So I do put effort into a nicely composed meal with flavors that complement and play off one another. Iād prefer that you eat it as prepared to appreciate all the subtleties of it. But, if you add something or even pull out one ingredient you donāt like (my son and mushrooms, for example), Iām okay with it.
I will freely admit I donāt have a lot of patience with picky eaters. Iāll accommodate you on one or two things you donāt prefer and of course any genuine food allergies (my husband and tangerines), but just pickiness? I find that very tiresome as a cook.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Apr 7, 2020 12:35:03 GMT
Wow, that's incredibly rude of you. Nope. Not one bit. I was 19, it was tenderloin ( with all the trimmings) it cost me a fortune and she put ketchup on it. She deserved the plate of dog food But Yes I would still do the same thing today. What an . . . . interesting response.
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Post by scrappert on Apr 7, 2020 12:58:14 GMT
((((Hugs)))) I hate it when I'm making the menu and grocery list and ask for suggestions/ideas/requests and am met with dead silence or "I don't care, whatever is fine" and then when I've shopped, people all of a sudden have opinions about the dinner menu (rarely positive) and all sorts of "how come you didn't buy x" EVERY. SINGLE. TIME!! UGH
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2020 12:58:21 GMT
My family would not be happy if you mixed the rice in. And no I would not be happy with someone adding something other than salt/pepper. I picked up my sister-in-lawās steak and threw it out when she put ketchup on it. I figure if she wanted to ruin a steak than she could eat dog food. I left home shortly after that. God you're weird. Do you really think giving someone dog food is ever justified?
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Post by SabrinaP on Apr 7, 2020 13:01:03 GMT
((((Hugs)))) I hate it when I'm making the menu and grocery list and ask for suggestions/ideas/requests and am met with dead silence or "I don't care, whatever is fine" and then when I've shopped, people all of a sudden have opinions about the dinner menu (rarely positive) and all sorts of "how come you didn't buy x" Ugh! My DH and 2 boys do this all the time. Iām about to permanently turn over the shopping chore to the 3 of them!
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Apr 7, 2020 13:18:04 GMT
I prepare the meals to my taste, as far as salt/spice level, etc goes, and DH is welcome to adjust his serving in any way with whatever add in he likes.
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Post by JustTricia on Apr 7, 2020 13:19:59 GMT
I guess I just donāt understand why everyone has to like things the way (general) you do. Iām sure there is some food something that you donāt like, letās say mushrooms. If your husband cooked a dish that had mushrooms in it, would you eat it all or would you pick out the mushrooms? Or if he cooked you dinner and didnāt salt a single thing, would you eat it that way or would you add salt?
I cannot eat even mildly spicy foods. The second it comes near my lips my nose immediately starts running. An ex-boyfriend loved to cook with spice, but he knew how I reacted so heād salt and pepper my chicken while adding lots of spice to his. Itās not an allergy, just canāt eat it.
My son doesnāt like tomato based foods, mainly pasta. Not an allergy, just doesnāt like it. My favorite food in the world is pasta. I donāt cook those on nights Iām feeding him.
I guess I would rather cook something that makes everyone happy rather than making only me happy which in turn makes me mad because they donāt like it.
This is all said as a picky eater who has tried for YEARS to reform and eat new foods and just canāt. Iād give a pinky finger if I could be an adventurous eater; it would make food SOOOO much easier. But at this point itās just not going to happen. I order things plain at a restaurant, even going so far as ordering a chicken dish that is doused in sauces and cheeses and vegetables and the kitchen sink and asking for it plain. How I order it should have no effect on your meal whatsoever. If youāre focused on my meal, thatās your issue. Iām over here highly enjoying mine! š
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Post by gar on Apr 7, 2020 13:24:27 GMT
Wow, that's incredibly rude of you. I picked up my sister-in-lawās steak and threw it out when she put ketchup on it. **** Nope. Not one bit. I was 19, it was tenderloin ( with all the trimmings) it cost me a fortune and she put ketchup on it. She deserved the plate of dog food But Yes I would still do the same thing today. It cost you a fortune yet you wasted it by throwing it to the dogs. She was about to eat it I assume. Sounds like a bit of an overreaction.
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Post by LisaDV on Apr 7, 2020 14:16:01 GMT
I'm lucky enough to have a family that in general is pretty open to trying new things. We all critic new foods and make suggestions for improvement. If we've tried a bite or two and decide to go for something else to flavor it, I'm good with that. Whatever. DS would dip apple slices in a variety of sauces when he was little experimenting for flavor he liked. Of course, I was like go for it. (in my head, apples with ketchup - you are one messed up kid).
My food related vent is actually the clean up. I've told DH to start at the bottom of the dishwasher as if you move the top rack or the 2nd to top rack water will drip down and you have to dry the whole thing. If you gentle pull the bottom rack first to empty there is very minimal drying. Then gently pull the middle rack, there is usually a bit more to dry here. But the very top rack always has standing water. He doesn't listen. I'm trying really hard not to care how he does when he is because he is doing it. But it irks the heck out of me. Why would you work harder and not smarter??!! I've come to the conclusion he is just trying to 1) make my head explode, 2) get out of doing it (and he doesn't do dishes that often). I stopped myself from griping yesterday and walked away.
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Post by mich5481 on Apr 7, 2020 16:57:36 GMT
I'm lucky enough to have a family that in general is pretty open to trying new things. We all critic new foods and make suggestions for improvement. If we've tried a bite or two and decide to go for something else to flavor it, I'm good with that. Whatever. DS would dip apple slices in a variety of sauces when he was little experimenting for flavor he liked. Of course, I was like go for it. (in my head, apples with ketchup - you are one messed up kid). My food related vent is actually the clean up. I've told DH to start at the bottom of the dishwasher as if you move the top rack or the 2nd to top rack water will drip down and you have to dry the whole thing. If you gentle pull the bottom rack first to empty there is very minimal drying. Then gently pull the middle rack, there is usually a bit more to dry here. But the very top rack always has standing water. He doesn't listen. I'm trying really hard not to care how he does when he is because he is doing it. But it irks the heck out of me. Why would you work harder and not smarter??!! I've come to the conclusion he is just trying to 1) make my head explode, 2) get out of doing it (and he doesn't do dishes that often). I stopped myself from griping yesterday and walked away. My mom is staying with me right now, and it drives me batty how she loads the dishwasher! š
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Post by likescarrots on Apr 7, 2020 17:21:11 GMT
I love to cook and have been told I'm good at it. If someone tried to tell me HOW to cook a meal I was working on, that would not end well for them. But once it's served I could care less if they sprinkle dirt on and eat it. I'm happy when the people I've cooked for are happy and full.
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Post by artbabe on Apr 7, 2020 17:25:21 GMT
I am a really adventurous eater that doesn't have any patience for picky eaters. I'll eat absolutely anything but raw carrots. I try to get it in my head that to them, everything is raw carrots, but it is still hard for me to wrap my head around it. My nephew is a very picky eater and it is so frustrating trying to find somewhere we can eat. If they don't have chicken fingers, we can't go. It takes a lot of ethnic food off the table and I love food from all different countries.
That being said, I do love a good hot sauce. I tend to put hot sauce on a large variety of food- eggs, potatoes, Mexican, etc. I've even brought my own hot sauce to Waffle House before.
Your meal sounds lovely and I'd be disgruntled about the soy sauce, too. I wouldn't say anything but in my head I'd judge. I guess I'm a hypocrite.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2020 17:35:30 GMT
Nope. Not one bit. I was 19, it was tenderloin ( with all the trimmings) it cost me a fortune and she put ketchup on it. She deserved the plate of dog food But Yes I would still do the same thing today. I'm glad I'm not your sil then, as I like ketchup on my steak too. *YOU* wasted your money when you pitched a fit and threw her steak away. I am glad that you arenāt the sister-in-law, then you would be married to the ashat that is my brother... I would never ever wish that for anybody. Those 2 deserve each other.
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Post by Just T on Apr 7, 2020 17:45:10 GMT
jeremeysgirl, I feel your pain. I have been married to a man for 33 years who covers every freaking thing with barbecue sauce. If I make plain chicken, or meatloaf or hamburgers, knock yourself out. It IS frustrating though when I take the time to make an actual recipe and before he even tastes it, out comes the barbecue sauce. It makes me feel like the only way the food I make is edible is if it is doused in barbecue sauce. I used to get mad about but now I just let it go and I fume inside. LOL I sometimes/often wish he would just try something, even one bite, and see if he likes it. I love to cook and try new things, and it just frustrates me.
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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 7, 2020 17:48:49 GMT
This is a completely irrational pet peeve. I hate when people alter my meal. Whew! I said it out loud. I just made apple rosemary chicken with rice. I made the entire meal in a skillet with diced chicken and apples and I made a sauce with fresh rosemary. And I mixed in cooked white rice. I ate it and thought it was alright. And Jeremy ate three bowls! So I thought he loved it. As I was returning to the living room I went over to give him a kiss as he was finishing up his third bowl. Thinking that he seemed very appreciative of my meal and therefore I would smooch him. And I look in his bowl. He doused his food with soy sauce. Soy sauce. That doesn't belong in this dish. I cannot even imagine what that must have tasted like. But he feels compelled to use soy sauce every time I serve a dish with rice. And it makes me nuts. So I'm venting my pet peeve at you guys instead of him. I'm just going to let him think I'm appreciative he ate my meal. And yes, I'm also peeved when people request non-allergy related alterations in a fancy restaurant too. So maybe I'm just a food snob. Anyway...you can feel free to share your irrational food related pet peeves too. You would HATE me with a passion... hate hate hate.... hate hate hate... I am ALWAYS altering my food. It's not that what I get is bad, I just like to add my own thing to it. I have done this my whole life. Never thought twice about it. I don't care if people do it to their food either that I serve.. in fact I'm an enabler.. "Do you want soy sauce? Do you want BBQ? Ranch??" It goes on and on.. SORRY (but not really.. haha)
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Post by casii on Apr 7, 2020 17:54:12 GMT
I feel you! MY DH is the same way but with a myriad of hot sauces, peppers and spicy seasonings.
I gave up. It wasn't a hill I was ready to die on. What has helped him change his ways is that he would literally take so long to putz with his food that most of the rest of the family would be done or almost done before he'd finally join us at the table. So he no longer takes 10-15 minutes to play with his food before calling it good, yes we timed him a couple of times, lol. Now he takes about 5 minutes. We tried to follow the standard of waiting for everone to be seated before we dug in, but if we kept to that rule, we'd always be eating cold food.
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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 7, 2020 18:05:18 GMT
I am just sitting here shocked at that comment about the dog food. I'm speechless.
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Post by NanaKate on Apr 7, 2020 18:21:47 GMT
I will admit Iām a bit of a Sally myself about whatās on my own plate. But in our family, weāve got one who likes bbq sauce on most everything, one who puts ketchup on most things and then thereās my grandson who dips most things he eats in ranch dressing so the soy sauce thing wouldnāt bother me as long as they ate what I cooked.
It most definitely would never occur to me to take someoneās food away from them, throw it away and think they deserve to eat dog food. All because they prefer theirs with ketchup. Wow! Besides enjoying a meal together, I like for my guests to enjoy themselves and look forward to spending time together.
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Post by tyra on Apr 7, 2020 18:43:09 GMT
Your meal sounds delicious! Can you share a recipe? Yes that's a huge problem with children. You ask and get crickets and then suddenly they don't want to eat what you serve. Children... and my husband. It drives me insane. I have been going even more insane trying to get him to eat leftovers. He is worse than a child about them. HE bought the family reunion size meal of chicken at KFC on Friday (he was coming home from work, drove by and saw that it was open). HUGE bucket of chicken. 18 pieces I think? I ate one, DS at one, he ate 2. So we still had a bucket of chicken left. Yesterday he asks what is for dinner. I said fried chicken. He got a look on his face and asked why, we just had it on Friday. Because I don't want to waste it!!!! Made sides to go with it. Later he made some comment about eating it for dinner when I knew he didn't want fried chicken. Like I am supposed to thank him? HE bought enough to feed our whole block. I am not throwing out $40 worth of chicken because he doesn't want to eat it. Ug. The man has something against leftovers. Not just the damned chicken, ANY leftovers. My vent. Thanks for letting me share.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 7, 2020 18:49:24 GMT
My fil went through a crazy hot sauce phase after chemo. I think it killed his taste buds and he'd drown everything in hot sauce so he could taste something. I'm really not one to care if people add condiments to things. Although the ketchup on pizza my bil's family does always seemed weird - it already has red sauce, why would it need ketchup? But they do ketchup and potato chips too, which I find bizarre, find some dip people or eat real chips and salsa! I have the opposite problem with my kids and soy sauce - they HATE it and if I make anything using soy sauce they whine.
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Post by chlerbie on Apr 7, 2020 18:55:50 GMT
As long as I'm happy with what I cook, I don't mind if DH adds things to it, though usually I'm the one adding stuff to things he cooks. I sometimes like more salt, or ketchup on things that he doesn't. Neither of us is bothered when the other does.
I'm also kind of dumbstruck that someone would take the plate and throw it away simply because someone added ketchup. I mean--everyone has different taste buds.
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