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Post by kluski on Apr 9, 2020 1:59:42 GMT
My poor baby girl. My heart hurts for her. First the virus caused campus to close, a big event we bought tickets for a year ago was canceled, college closure extended and can’t even get her stuff, Florida trip cancelled, easter canceled, and now her best friend turned boyfriend broke up with her today. Apparently in his best Ross Geller, they’re on a break. We all know what that means. Every single thing he has given her over the past three years is in trash bags to be set on his porch tomorrow. I really thought he was the one. I think they did too. They’ve been best friends for the past seven years. They chose to go to the same college. Like so many of us there’s nothing we can do to take her mind off it. I don’t have those magic words to say that will comfort her. Just sucks.
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Post by flanz on Apr 9, 2020 2:01:15 GMT
Aw, huge hugs to your dear daughter! That is a lot to deal with
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Post by jubejubes on Apr 9, 2020 2:11:29 GMT
My poor baby girl. My heart hurts for her. First the virus caused campus to close, a big event we bought tickets for a year ago was canceled, college closure extended and can’t even get her stuff, Florida trip cancelled, easter canceled, and now her best friend turned boyfriend broke up with her today. Apparently in his best Ross Geller, they’re on a break. We all know what that means. Every single thing he has given her over the past three years is in trash bags to be set on his porch tomorrow. I really thought he was the one. I think they did too. They’ve been best friends for the past seven years. They chose to go to the same college. Like so many of us there’s nothing we can do to take her mind off it. I don’t have those magic words to say that will comfort her. Just sucks. Please wait awhile before putting the trash bags on his porch. Emotions are running high right now. Everything isn't normal. Please don't make a hasty decision. |
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Post by jenjie on Apr 9, 2020 2:16:29 GMT
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Post by Zee on Apr 9, 2020 2:19:51 GMT
Maybe he is still the one...but they're very young and have growing to do still. Perhaps one day down the road they'll figure it out.
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Post by kluski on Apr 9, 2020 2:25:49 GMT
Maybe he is still the one...but they're very young and have growing to do still. Perhaps one day down the road they'll figure it out. That’s what I’m thinking. But boy this is a rough time to pull ‘the break’ card. They are still in college with a lot of living and growing up to do. Just breaks my heart to see her so sad. |
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Post by cindytred on Apr 9, 2020 2:28:42 GMT
My poor baby girl. My heart hurts for her. First the virus caused campus to close, a big event we bought tickets for a year ago was canceled, college closure extended and can’t even get her stuff, Florida trip cancelled, easter canceled, and now her best friend turned boyfriend broke up with her today. Apparently in his best Ross Geller, they’re on a break. We all know what that means. Every single thing he has given her over the past three years is in trash bags to be set on his porch tomorrow. I really thought he was the one. I think they did too. They’ve been best friends for the past seven years. They chose to go to the same college. Like so many of us there’s nothing we can do to take her mind off it. I don’t have those magic words to say that will comfort her. Just sucks. Please wait awhile before putting the trash bags on his porch. Emotions are running high right now. Everything isn't normal. Please don't make a hasty decision. Thats what I was going to suggest. Cindy |
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Post by NicL on Apr 9, 2020 2:38:34 GMT
I'm sorry for your daughter, break-ups suck at the best of times. And it's hard on parents too. A funny, clever Australian girl called Zoe Foster Blake made an app called the Break Up Boss (it costs $9.99, may be cheaper in the US). I have no experience with it but Zoe is well known in Australia for her wit, charm, business sense (she has a skin care line called Go-To as well as novels, magazine gigs and tv shows under her belt). It may help your daughter through this shitty time. Here is a link to the website breakupboss.com.au Break up bossAnd the app app infoHTH |
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 9, 2020 2:41:05 GMT
Ah I’m sorry. But if he’s one to run away as soon as shit gets tough, it might be for the best.
Sorry for your dd. Things are just extra extra hard right now.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 9, 2020 2:41:24 GMT
My poor baby girl. My heart hurts for her. First the virus caused campus to close, a big event we bought tickets for a year ago was canceled, college closure extended and can’t even get her stuff, Florida trip cancelled, easter canceled, and now her best friend turned boyfriend broke up with her today. Apparently in his best Ross Geller, they’re on a break. We all know what that means. Every single thing he has given her over the past three years is in trash bags to be set on his porch tomorrow. I really thought he was the one. I think they did too. They’ve been best friends for the past seven years. They chose to go to the same college. Like so many of us there’s nothing we can do to take her mind off it. I don’t have those magic words to say that will comfort her. Just sucks. Please wait awhile before putting the trash bags on his porch. Emotions are running high right now. Everything isn't normal. Please don't make a hasty decision. Sitting with you on this bench. Keep them in the garage. Seven years of friendship might eventually have more roots than she knows. I would just tell her to put them out of sight and support her. |
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Post by justcindy on Apr 9, 2020 4:13:30 GMT
dude, I am SO sorry...for your sweet daughter, and for you. As a Mom, its our nature to want to "fix it" what ever "it" is. The ones we want to fix the most, are often the ones we can't touch, like break ups. and in the middle of all this #($*& that she can't even escape or have much distraction. And with the length of time they dated, Im sure you were attached at least somewhat as well. That really shook me and took me by suprise, how much the break up hurt me as a person, besides being the bystander. We lose a family member as well!
No advice, just hugs and empathy. Hang in there.
Cindy in Texas
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Post by lucyg on Apr 9, 2020 4:17:21 GMT
aww, your poor baby girl. I would sit on those bags for awhile, too. Things can change, feelings can change. Good luck to her.  |
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 9, 2020 4:21:05 GMT
Aw poor girl, that really sucks!
I am going to agree with everyone who has said not to put the bags of stuff on his porch. Everything is super raw right now, she shouldn't be doing knee jerk reactions like this. And hopefully you're not encouraging this. I totally understand the hurt, we've all been there plenty of times. But it's an immature and rash thing to do. Please don't think I don't understand, I really do. My DD went through it last year with "the one." I know how hurtful it is. But I never would have allowed her to dump his stuff on his porch.
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Post by summer on Apr 9, 2020 4:36:58 GMT
I’m sorry your daughter is hurting, You never know if they will get back together down the road or become friends at some point given their long history. I agree with everyone saying do not let her drop off a bag of his stuff on the porch! Always choose to be classy and not stoop to rash decisions based on hurt. She will feel much better about herself in the long run if she holds her head high.
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Post by kluski on Apr 9, 2020 8:37:00 GMT
Aw poor girl, that really sucks! I am going to agree with everyone who has said not to put the bags of stuff on his porch. Everything is super raw right now, she shouldn't be doing knee jerk reactions like this. And hopefully you're not encouraging this. I totally understand the hurt, we've all been there plenty of times. But it's an immature and rash thing to do. Please don't think I don't understand, I really do. My DD went through it last year with "the one." I know how hurtful it is. But I never would have allowed her to dump his stuff on his porch. No definitely not encouraging anything. Just listening. Crying on the inside and clearly not sleeping. I’m hopeful that they can work through their issues. He’s a good kid and treated my dd as one would hope. I would not want to enter the dating world again and it scares me for her. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 9, 2020 9:10:47 GMT
Aw poor girl, that really sucks! I am going to agree with everyone who has said not to put the bags of stuff on his porch. Everything is super raw right now, she shouldn't be doing knee jerk reactions like this. And hopefully you're not encouraging this. I totally understand the hurt, we've all been there plenty of times. But it's an immature and rash thing to do. Please don't think I don't understand, I really do. My DD went through it last year with "the one." I know how hurtful it is. But I never would have allowed her to dump his stuff on his porch. No definitely not encouraging anything. Just listening. Crying on the inside and clearly not sleeping. I’m hopeful that they can work through their issues. He’s a good kid and treated my dd as one would hope. I get it. I am still upset over DD's break up with her boyfriend, which was way back in February last year. He was just the best guy, and everyone adored him. He and DD are still good mates. Hopefully your DD and this boy can get to that point, once the initial shock and hurt has subsided for her a bit. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 9, 2020 11:20:51 GMT
I'm so sorry for your dd. Heartbreak sucks.
But I'm not going to be on the bench of maybe they'll get back together. He just showed his true colors. Between you & me, i wonder what would make him suddenly decide - while self isolating - that he needed a break from your dd.
He sounds like a turd that doesn't deserve her.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 9, 2020 11:21:55 GMT
My poor baby girl. My heart hurts for her. First the virus caused campus to close, a big event we bought tickets for a year ago was canceled, college closure extended and can’t even get her stuff, Florida trip cancelled, easter canceled, and now her best friend turned boyfriend broke up with her today. Apparently in his best Ross Geller, they’re on a break. We all know what that means. Every single thing he has given her over the past three years is in trash bags to be set on his porch tomorrow. I really thought he was the one. I think they did too. They’ve been best friends for the past seven years. They chose to go to the same college. Like so many of us there’s nothing we can do to take her mind off it. I don’t have those magic words to say that will comfort her. Just sucks. Please wait awhile before putting the trash bags on his porch. Emotions are running high right now. Everything isn't normal. Please don't make a hasty decision. The OP isn't doing this---her DD is. |
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Post by jubejubes on Apr 9, 2020 14:01:36 GMT
Please wait awhile before putting the trash bags on his porch. Emotions are running high right now. Everything isn't normal. Please don't make a hasty decision. The OP isn't doing this---her DD is. I suppose that I wasn't specific enough or detailed the correct people to address. You must have a lot of time on your hands. What is it about the post that AussieMeg made that is so different than mine? Aw poor girl, that really sucks!
I am going to agree with everyone who has said not to put the bags of stuff on his porch. Everything is super raw right now, she shouldn't be doing knee jerk reactions like this. And hopefully you're not encouraging this. I totally understand the hurt, we've all been there plenty of times. But it's an immature and rash thing to do. Please don't think I don't understand, I really do. My DD went through it last year with "the one." I know how hurtful it is. But I never would have allowed her to dump his stuff on his porch. |
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Post by likescarrots on Apr 9, 2020 15:20:42 GMT
I'm sorry for your daughter having a crappy time.
I just came to say, please check up on him if this seems out of nowhere. My friend took his life 2 weeks into our stay at home order. I was really not thinking about how hard this is on some people, as I'm an introvert and a homebody and not really struggling with staying home. I don't want you and your daughter to have these regrets thinking he's a jerk when it may be that he is really struggling. (And better to check and have it be that he really is just a jerk than this alternative).
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Post by Zee on Apr 9, 2020 17:27:08 GMT
Maybe he is still the one...but they're very young and have growing to do still. Perhaps one day down the road they'll figure it out. That’s what I’m thinking. But boy this is a rough time to pull ‘the break’ card. They are still in college with a lot of living and growing up to do. Just breaks my heart to see her so sad. I get it... Never easy to see your babies hurting! |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 9, 2020 17:28:43 GMT
I just came to say, please check up on him if this seems out of nowhere. My friend took his life 2 weeks into our stay at home order. I was really not thinking about how hard this is on some people, as I'm an introvert and a homebody and not really struggling with staying home. I don't want you and your daughter to have these regrets thinking he's a jerk when it may be that he is really struggling. (And better to check and have it be that he really is just a jerk than this alternative). That's worth some consideration. Maybe this situation is affecting him in such a way as to be triggering behaviors that are not typically in character for him. |
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Post by kluski on Apr 9, 2020 22:29:45 GMT
I'm sorry for your daughter having a crappy time. I just came to say, please check up on him if this seems out of nowhere. My friend took his life 2 weeks into our stay at home order. I was really not thinking about how hard this is on some people, as I'm an introvert and a homebody and not really struggling with staying home. I don't want you and your daughter to have these regrets thinking he's a jerk when it may be that he is really struggling. (And better to check and have it be that he really is just a jerk than this alternative). Geesh...i didn’t even give that a thought. Thank you for another perspective |
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Post by PLurker on Apr 9, 2020 22:46:40 GMT
((hugs)) to your DD
I too suggest letting in breathe a bit.
This madness is hard on everyone. He could be not dealing well.
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