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Post by flanz on May 26, 2020 18:15:42 GMT
Huge hugs lucyg and freeatlast and anyone else I missed who experienced such a devastating loss at a young age. I'm so sorry that you've got personal experience with this. Great advice that you've given, from the heart. (((HUGS)))
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Post by questioning on May 26, 2020 18:39:30 GMT
How sudden. I am so sorry. My marriage and kids are approximately same ages. I can't imagine how disorienting and sad you all are.
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 26, 2020 18:39:36 GMT
It's not at all unusual for many accounts to be POD (payable on death) so not part of the estate - life insurance, 401k and savings/checking accounts are all typically not part of the actual estate. I'm always careful to advise people to make sure they understand the various rules of states as well as it's not uniform and can often be complicated. Many, many people die with no actual estate assets - everything they own will pass on death with no probate, no lawyers. Others will need to go through the process of settling the estate and in that case debt will absolutely factor in. Just giving MY experience. I don’t get why you are so hand slappy most times. JEEZ! ? Not sure why you'd see my post as a handslap - I was providing information. This thread is for SweetieBugs-I'm just trying to make sure she has accurate information.
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~Susan~
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Post by ~Susan~ on May 26, 2020 18:41:26 GMT
I have no advice, but I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am (((HUGS)))
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Post by laurasw on May 26, 2020 20:31:56 GMT
Gosh, I am so, so sorry for your loss.
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Post by bearmom on May 26, 2020 21:32:31 GMT
Very sorry for your loss.
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Post by Menjiness on May 26, 2020 21:35:21 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family.
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ellen
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Post by ellen on May 27, 2020 3:37:17 GMT
Oh my goodness. This is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.
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Post by SweetieBugs on May 27, 2020 4:02:10 GMT
Thank you all so much for the kind words, support and advice. I have an appointment tomorrow at a mortuary that does direct cremation. I'll be going by myself but I think that is best. I'm an introvert and I think the quarantine is almost protecting me from having a house full of people right now. I am immensely sad for how abruptly my life and my children's lives have turned upside down.
If you are reading this, please, please remember that tomorrow isn't a sure thing. DH and I always planned for retirement and the things we would do and the big family we would have with our children's spouses and their children. It feels very empty right now. I'm being very strong for the kids right now and will do what ever I have to do to be there for them. Our future is just very different now. I'm just 54 so a lot of years of working still and our house is far too much to take care of so I won't be able to hold onto it for more than a few years. I'm trying to keep things in small pieces and only think of one or two things at a time so it isn't completely crushing.
It is sad that there are so many widows here. I know I've read the posts over the years and you just don't even think it will be you. Seize the day, look into your DH's eyes for 10 minutes straight. We said I love you every day but I really want him to hear another I Love You.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2020 4:22:25 GMT
I am so sorry. No advice, but many thoughts of sympathy and wishes of peace for your family.
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Post by peanutterbutter on May 27, 2020 5:09:15 GMT
I'm sending you some hugs. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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georgie
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Post by georgie on May 27, 2020 8:02:06 GMT
So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.
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Post by kellapea on May 27, 2020 9:53:54 GMT
So very sorry for your loss.
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Post by katlaw on May 27, 2020 10:24:42 GMT
I am so sorry. You have lots of advice here so I am just sending you some love.
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Post by brandy327 on May 27, 2020 11:26:51 GMT
Your questions have already been answered but I just wanted to give my condolences. I'm so very sorry about the loss of your husband. I cannot imagine your pain and the pain of your children. Thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on May 27, 2020 12:07:15 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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ellaknits
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Post by ellaknits on May 27, 2020 12:57:11 GMT
I'm so sorry to read this. Thinking of you.
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Post by gramasue on May 27, 2020 12:58:52 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. You've received some good advice here and if you start with the funeral home, they will tell you most everything you need to know and who to contact next.
Sending hugs and deepest sympathy to you and your family.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on May 27, 2020 15:19:02 GMT
I'm so sorry for the loss of your wonderful husband.
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Post by ddly on May 27, 2020 19:53:52 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss! You and your family are n my thoughts!
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Post by artsyk on May 27, 2020 20:00:42 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2020 20:04:46 GMT
Thank you all so much for the kind words, support and advice. I have an appointment tomorrow at a mortuary that does direct cremation. I'll be going by myself but I think that is best. I'm an introvert and I think the quarantine is almost protecting me from having a house full of people right now. I am immensely sad for how abruptly my life and my children's lives have turned upside down.
If you are reading this, please, please remember that tomorrow isn't a sure thing. DH and I always planned for retirement and the things we would do and the big family we would have with our children's spouses and their children. It feels very empty right now. I'm being very strong for the kids right now and will do what ever I have to do to be there for them. Our future is just very different now. I'm just 54 so a lot of years of working still and our house is far too much to take care of so I won't be able to hold onto it for more than a few years. I'm trying to keep things in small pieces and only think of one or two things at a time so it isn't completely crushing.
It is sad that there are so many widows here. I know I've read the posts over the years and you just don't even think it will be you. Seize the day, look into your DH's eyes for 10 minutes straight. We said I love you every day but I really want him to hear another I Love You.
My heat is breaking for you. I read it when you first postEd and I can tell you I went outside to be next to my husband because he was up on a ladder. Nothing I can say can even begin to ease your pain. I can only imagine just a tiny fraction of what you must be going thru. May his memory and legacy forever live on in the hearts of your family and that you can heal the best you can. Hugs to you.
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Post by christine58 on May 27, 2020 20:15:52 GMT
I really want him to hear another I Love You. He can hear you...I believe that
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lisaknits
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Post by lisaknits on May 27, 2020 20:27:08 GMT
I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Hugs to you and to your family.
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