bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Jun 22, 2020 15:15:05 GMT
Thanks to Covid. He's in the oil and gas industry and works for a smaller firm. They basically terminated or furloughed 75 percent of their staff on Friday and cut the hours of the remaining 25 percent. We expected something to happen, there has been very little work since the shutdown. Of course, he's got baggage (calling it PTSD seems to be much, but it's also a good descriptor) from previous job situations not working. Took him a long time to find his place employment wise. (training in his field and therapy helped too) so it was a long weekend in our house.
I feel terrible for the company, to see something you've built over the last 10 years basically fall apart in a matter of months due to no fault of your own has got to be devastating. I hope they can rally.
He went in today to pack up his office and turn in his computer. Was able to have a good conversation with his boss about how much they had to cut, really helped him get out of the "here we go again" hole he'd dug for himself and helped him get closer to the this is not personal mantra that I've been saying since Friday.
We have a nest egg, and he's got marketable skills. The single worst year of our lives was 2012 when, amongst other messes, he was unemployed for an entire year. I keep telling him this is not 2012, we're in a much different place now and it will be ok. If I keep repeating it I'll believe it too right?
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Jun 22, 2020 15:17:17 GMT
I’m sorry. Even when you know it’s not personal it’s still hard. My neighbor is going through that now. He’d always survived the cuts and layoffs before, but this time he didn’t.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 22, 2020 15:19:31 GMT
He will also be eligible for the extra $600 a week unemployment due to this layoff being due to COVID. Hope he finds something new soon
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julieb
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Post by julieb on Jun 22, 2020 15:20:29 GMT
I'm so sorry. DH is in same field and his company is cutting 25%. So hard.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 22, 2020 15:22:57 GMT
I’m sorry
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Post by spitfiregirl on Jun 22, 2020 15:23:35 GMT
the oil industry is screwed right now. I am so sorry its effecting your family. I dont know how long it will take to recover, but many many many oil and gas companies will fold. Thank goodness you have savings.
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Post by berty on Jun 22, 2020 15:28:45 GMT
I’m so sorry. You're a great wife for helping him to try and not get caught up in all the negative thoughts.
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Gravity
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Post by Gravity on Jun 22, 2020 15:31:02 GMT
I am so sorry.
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janeliz
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Post by janeliz on Jun 22, 2020 15:33:23 GMT
I’m so sorry. That’s incredibly stressful. I hope he finds something else very soon.
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Post by cmhs on Jun 22, 2020 15:39:25 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by cme37 on Jun 22, 2020 15:43:23 GMT
So sorry. Welcome to the the club. My dh is in retail corporate (buyer, planner, etc.) and lost his job in March. His industry is getting decimated. I'm really worried on how long it is going to take him to find a new job. I keep asking him if he can take his skills to a different industry because this is the fourth time we have gone through this. The first time was when we were engaged. Then the last three have all come since the 2008 financial crisis. I certainly did not realize 20 years ago when we got married how volatile the retail industry would become. And this time is worse than all of the others.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jun 22, 2020 15:49:03 GMT
I'm really sorry for you and your DH. Good luck to him as he tries to find something else. It's definitely a rough time in the industry. DH has been in O&G for 40 years now. We went through 3 layoffs in the 1990's. As soon as the Saudis and Russians started with the oil price mess, my anxiety went through the roof because I knew what was coming. So far so good for DH but I'm always waiting on the other shoe to drop.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Jun 22, 2020 15:51:56 GMT
I'm sorry
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 22, 2020 15:52:03 GMT
May your dh find a great job very soon. This is not personal, it's just a bad break for the company. I hope that your dh will be reassured and able to find a better job elsewhere.
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Post by used2scrap on Jun 22, 2020 15:53:00 GMT
I’m so very sorry.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 22, 2020 15:54:24 GMT
I am so sorry. This situation is hurting so many blameless people. Good luck to him and the company. Also to your DH, cme37. I hope things start looking up for everyone this summer. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jun 22, 2020 15:54:43 GMT
I'm sorry. It sucks. My husband lost his job almost a month ago and I am trying to be positive as well, but it is hard some days.
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Post by Anita on Jun 22, 2020 15:58:00 GMT
I'm really sorry.  |
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Post by sam9 on Jun 22, 2020 16:00:58 GMT
I’m so sorry this is happening to your family and the company.
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 22, 2020 16:06:56 GMT
I know that while you work to reassure your husband that you’re in a decent place and will be okay, you likely still carry worry of your own. You’re doing the job of being positive for both of you. And you’re going through it too. (((HUGS)))
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Post by needmysanity on Jun 22, 2020 16:22:45 GMT
My husband lost his job due to COVID too. We have been fortunate to manage but it's been hard on him. He hates being home and companies aren't hiring right now.
I hope he finds something soon.
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Post by greendragonlady on Jun 22, 2020 16:24:30 GMT
Sorry for the loss of his job. Make sure he files for unemployment right away.
Hopefully he'll find something else soon.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jun 22, 2020 16:27:42 GMT
I am sorry. I hope he stays positive and finds something he’d like to do quickly.
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Post by newscrapper05 on Jun 22, 2020 16:38:58 GMT
I'm so sorry - DD is also in the oil & gas business and started at a new company in January. So far she's hung on. DSIL is in food services for a major league baseball team so we've been on pins and needles through this whole thing! Best wishes for both of you!
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 22, 2020 16:49:19 GMT
I'm sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2020 16:55:50 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 22, 2020 16:57:06 GMT
I’m so sorry this has happened to your family. I feel for you and the other peas in the same boat. Certain industries seem particularly hard hit by this.
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Post by mnmloveli on Jun 22, 2020 17:03:49 GMT
Sorry to hear about your husband’s job loss. Please make sure he applies for unemployment immediately. He’ll get whatever your state’s regular unemployment is plus the Federal $600 a week until the end of July. We won’t know until mid-July if the Federal $$$ will be extended at a lower rate or at all.
Stay strong.
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Post by roberta on Jun 22, 2020 17:11:54 GMT
So sorry. All of this really stinks. Wishing you peace and strength in these stressful, difficult times.
Hope he is able to get a new job soon. Hopefully the unemployment will help you enough. My dd is unemployed also. She is going to have to move back home. I love to have her but she is sad about it of course. Her dad, dh, is now working from home so I'm sure there are going to be some bumps getting used to each other again, not to mention the stress. It is hard.
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Post by snyder on Jun 22, 2020 17:14:47 GMT
Sorry to hear the devastating news of job loss. Hopefully, they will be called back soon. The price of gas has been slowly climbing here, so I was hoping that would have helped many in the gas and oil industry, but sounds like it was not. {{{{H}}}} May your husband be okay with this chapter in life, and find even better employment should the current company not do call backs.
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