muggins
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Post by muggins on Aug 1, 2020 1:36:05 GMT
These are crazy times full of uncertainty and for some, pain, anxiety and grief. For others just juggling life. Some of us use this board for support, others may decide to take a break. Can I ask a favor please? If you decide to take a break from the board, could you let someone know? Even if you’re not a daily or even weekly poster, someone will miss you. You don’t have to create a thread to announce your temporary (or permanent) departure, but perhaps a PM to another pea would be great. A few of the ‘regular’ peas have gone MIA recently (including admin, dewryce and @megmc) and their absence is cause for concern, particularly during a pandemic. Please note, it’s not my place to instruct or demand anything from anyone, but just a polite request so that we don’t worry about missing peas:) |
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used2scrap
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Post by used2scrap on Aug 1, 2020 1:53:48 GMT
Maybe we need some sort of online triple buddy system so people don’t just disappear into the unknown?
Peace to all struggling in these extra shitty times...
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 1, 2020 1:57:00 GMT
Very odd for admin to disappear, as I've said numerous times. Megmc I'm also concerned about. She was pretty regular.
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Post by danor98 on Aug 1, 2020 1:58:03 GMT
Very odd for admin to disappear, as I've said numerous times. Megmc I'm also concerned about. She was pretty regular. And Dewryce, it’s been since July 5th😢 |
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basketdiva
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Post by basketdiva on Aug 1, 2020 2:01:32 GMT
Very odd for admin to disappear, as I've said numerous times. Megmc I'm also concerned about. She was pretty regular. Megmc had posted a lot about family issues in regard to BIL’s estate. She may have been advised to get off social media until things are resolved. |
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Post by brynn on Aug 1, 2020 2:05:47 GMT
I'm boring, but I'm staying. Communication is always good.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 1, 2020 2:13:24 GMT
I don't know anyone away from the board, so I don't even know who I would tell. I have taken breaks before, and I just go. I once left here for about 6 months, and I am pretty sure that no one noticed. LOL
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luckyjune
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 1, 2020 2:23:10 GMT
Maybe we need some sort of online triple buddy system so people don’t just disappear into the unknown? Peace to all struggling in these extra shitty times... I think this is a very good idea. It would be great for everyone to have someone they could contact off the board to say, "Hey, I'm taking a break. If my name comes up, it is okay to say XYZ." Also could be used as a contact for family members if a Pea gets sick. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 1, 2020 2:54:06 GMT
Very odd for admin to disappear, as I've said numerous times. Megmc I'm also concerned about. She was pretty regular. Megmc had posted a lot about family issues in regard to BIL’s estate. She may have been advised to get off social media until things are resolved. You can post on a message board and not talk about certain things |
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Post by papersilly on Aug 1, 2020 2:54:41 GMT
I like the idea of a "board buddy".
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Post by mom on Aug 1, 2020 3:49:39 GMT
Very odd for admin to disappear, as I've said numerous times. Megmc I'm also concerned about. She was pretty regular. Megmc had posted a lot about family issues in regard to BIL’s estate. She may have been advised to get off social media until things are resolved. Meg was my FB friend and we chatted occasionally. When she deleted her profile from here and Instagram, she unfriended me on fb as well. Not sure why either. I miss her. She’s back on FB but apparently doesn’t want to be friends any longer. I hope she’s ok. |
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Aug 1, 2020 3:52:53 GMT
I can understand why Peas don’t want to announce their breaks, as it may lead to accusations of seeking attention, or questions about why they’re leaving. I do like it when we are assured that our MIA Peas are doing well though.  |
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Aug 1, 2020 4:06:28 GMT
Teachers may need buddies really soon. I worry about all of us.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 1, 2020 4:48:31 GMT
She’s back on FB but apparently doesn’t want to be friends any longer. I hope she’s ok. It sounds like she was cutting 2Peas out of her life ~ probably nothing personally against you in particular. |
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Post by mom on Aug 1, 2020 5:18:02 GMT
She’s back on FB but apparently doesn’t want to be friends any longer. I hope she’s ok. It sounds like she was cutting 2Peas out of her life ~ probably nothing personally against you in particular. I hope that’s the case. It’s hard not to take it personal but I really don’t think I did or said anything to offend her. But who knows. I just hope she’s ok. |
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Post by PEAcan pie on Aug 1, 2020 5:50:00 GMT
There was someone that used to post regularly from when I first joined two peas...back in 2013. We were friends on facebook too.
Then she just disappeared (this was a many years ago).
I still wonder how she is. She lived in NY or Jersey? Her son was special needs (Hopefully that is still PC to say). Pretty sure she called him a swear word as an endearing term (Asshole??). I believe she was a photographer. Anyhow, I have thought about her and her son over the years.
I get what you are saying, sad to be apart of someone's online Social media/message board for many years and then they are gone.
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Post by Hayjaker on Aug 1, 2020 6:49:36 GMT
I’m staying here.
I’m staying on Instagram.
Facebook is the place that I am taking a break from.
The idiots who do not take the time, or have the mental capacity, to critically think before they post are Inciting rage in me.
It is not good for my health to participle in Facebook.
I respect the differing viewpoint offered here.
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Post by manda on Aug 1, 2020 8:06:26 GMT
There was someone that used to post regularly from when I first joined two peas...back in 2013. We were friends on facebook too. Then she just disappeared (this was a many years ago). I still wonder how she is. She lived in NY or Jersey? Her son was special needs (Hopefully that is still PC to say). Pretty sure she called him a swear word as an endearing term (Asshole??). I believe she was a photographer. Anyhow, I have thought about her and her son over the years. I get what you are saying, sad to be apart of someone's online Social media/message board for many years and then they are gone. SmartyPants. |
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Post by gar on Aug 1, 2020 8:39:37 GMT
Very odd for admin to disappear, as I've said numerous times. Megmc I'm also concerned about. She was pretty regular. And Dewryce, it’s been since July 5th😢 On the other thread asking about Dewryce someone intimated that they knew she was taking a break. I can't remember who is was now but I took that as she's fine, just not posting for now. |
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 1, 2020 9:36:51 GMT
I don't know anyone away from the board, so I don't even know who I would tell. I have taken breaks before, and I just go. I once left here for about 6 months, and I am pretty sure that no one noticed. LOL I don't think she meant that it should be someone you know, just someone who you ask to be that "board buddy". I think it's a good idea during this pandemic when people can get sick suddenly, and worse.  |
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admin
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Post by admin on Aug 1, 2020 18:12:52 GMT
Seems I need to drop by to say that I am definitely not missing! I am around a bit less than I used to be: the pandemic has increased my workload, meaning I am working longer hours and it is more intense, so I'm not able to drop in and out of the board throughout the day like I did before. During the week I usually just manage a few minutes at the beginning and/or end of the day to read a few threads under my 'regular pea' guise, and occasionally reply to one or two. With spending all day looking at a screen now I'm WFH full time that's about all I can handle, time notwithstanding. Admin duties are saved for the weekend - like now - when I can give them more attention. That doesn't mean I need help - there were only 3 spam posts this week, hardly swamping the board - just that I'm not getting rid of things as quickly as I may have done in the past, except where it is clear that something needs rapid attention. I very rarely post as 'Admin' anyway - so not seeing me is nothing unusual - just log in to deal with any spam/trolls and check all my other notifications. The best thing for everyone to do with spam threads is report them, note that you've done so so that others can see it's in hand and they don't need to report it again, then ignore. They'll quickly drop off the front page and then they'll be removed within a few days. I do have some Peas I'm in contact with off the board so if I were truly unable to get here for some reason I'd make sure they knew (or my DH would...) I also have a couple of potential options for additional moderators in mind if it becomes any more difficult for me to get here / we have a huge influx of spam - but doing that also has to be balanced against the potential for harm to the board (power to delete spam = power to delete anything, for example) so I have to be very sure of the people I trust. I totally get the concern more generally about people vanishing from the board during this horrid pandemic, but I'm going nowhere |
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Post by flanz on Aug 1, 2020 18:17:16 GMT
Many, many thanks admin! You rock! |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 1, 2020 19:56:01 GMT
YAY! admin!! it's good to see you!! I know it's only been 3 spam messages, but it seems to be ramping up. I also fear from some clicking on links and getting a virus if the posts are left for any length of time. Who knows. I'm not very computer savey! haha
Thanks for checking in and letting us know!
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Post by gar on Aug 1, 2020 20:18:06 GMT
Good news Admin, and thanks  |
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Post by MZF on Aug 1, 2020 20:33:31 GMT
I think it’s a great idea to let somebody know . You can just pick up another poster that you feel comfortable with and let them know that you’re taking a break.
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Post by JoP on Aug 1, 2020 20:39:47 GMT
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Post by gillyp on Aug 1, 2020 21:03:46 GMT
Thank you for all you do, admin, particularly as your life sounds so busy. It’s much appreciated. |
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Post by littlemama on Aug 1, 2020 21:26:16 GMT
I am fb friends with a couple peas, so I think they would know if anything was wrong.
I am on somewhat of a break- I only post on the Animal Crossing thread and occasionally still on the dinner thread.
The past 4 months have been a lot to take and I just need peace right now
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snyder
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Post by snyder on Aug 1, 2020 21:34:12 GMT
Being a fairly new member, why is it a secret as to who owns the board?
Anyway, I have a document for my family that has all the pertinent info on it should something happen to me and I have listed access info to the places I visit such as here, FB, etc and have asked my son to post something to those places.
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Post by gar on Aug 1, 2020 21:53:11 GMT
why is it a secret as to who owns the board? When the old board sank without trace very suddenly this place was set up by a pea. She posts as herself as well as the admin and so wants to keep the 2 separate. It's not a big deal in itself, it's just for her so that she can enjoy the board as an ordinary pea like everyone else. |
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