Mystie
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Jun 25, 2014 19:53:37 GMT
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Post by Mystie on Dec 14, 2020 7:53:20 GMT
I did make the drive to Ohio Friday; the roads and rest stops were quite empty and I felt safe. My hotel room is off in a quiet corner and I've requested and received minimal maid service and covered the remote with a plastic bag, among other precautions. 😊
My dad was unconscious by the time I got here and didn't know I was here. I decided to stay longer than my planned dash in-and-out, since most of my family kept a vigil around him and I wanted to be part of that time with them. We've been as vigilant as we can with masks and keeping our distances, but it's tricky when eating meals, weeping, talking, trying to give quick arm's-length hugs, etc.
Dad passed away very peacefully just before 11:00 tonight (Sunday.) I had just fallen asleep at my hotel when my sister called and I hustled back to the house to meet with the hospice nurse and funeral home men, and to comfort my mom.
Our upcoming week is complicated by a big winter storm (and end-of-term finals) that might delay my brother's wife and girls and my husband from getting to us, but tomorrow we'll meet with the funeral director and plan a graveside service for our family hopefully for the end of this week. So my planned "short stay" will be quite extended. We'll try to have a real celebration of Dad's life next summer when hopefully extended family and friends can gather safely again.
My dad battled brain cancer for six years. I'm grateful that he's at peace and that I was here to hold his hand. I get bits of covid panic here and there because of the proximity we've all been in and continue to be in, but I just have to hope that we can be careful enough. I hate having that fear hanging over this time that's already so sad and stressful.
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Dec 14, 2020 7:56:23 GMT
I’m glad you were able to be with your dad today. I hope you are able to spend safe but meaningful time with your family. My thoughts are with you.
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craftykitten
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Post by craftykitten on Dec 14, 2020 8:00:10 GMT
I'm so sorry Mystie. I'm glad you're with your family. Thinking of you and sending love.
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sueg
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Post by sueg on Dec 14, 2020 8:02:04 GMT
I am sorry for your loss, especially in these difficult times. Take care - I hope all goes smoothly this coming week.
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Post by FrozenPea on Dec 14, 2020 8:28:57 GMT
I am glad that you were able to be there. Sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the memories.
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joelise
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Post by joelise on Dec 14, 2020 8:33:58 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by stumpedagainof3 on Dec 14, 2020 8:36:42 GMT
So sorry for your loss!
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johnnysmom
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Jun 25, 2014 21:16:33 GMT
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 14, 2020 8:37:55 GMT
I’m so sorry 😢. Glad you were able to be there for him and you’re family.
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Post by gar on Dec 14, 2020 8:38:37 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss but pleased that you can take some comfort in having been there with him.
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Post by miominmio on Dec 14, 2020 9:38:52 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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Post by piebaker on Dec 14, 2020 9:47:11 GMT
I am sorry for your loss.
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michellegb
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Jun 26, 2014 0:04:59 GMT
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Post by michellegb on Dec 14, 2020 9:48:11 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you got to see him and to be with your family during this difficult time. Big hugs...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2020 10:18:37 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss Mystie but glad that you were able to be there. What an awful extra stressful time this is for anyone who have lost a loved one during this pandemic. Keep safe ((((hugs))))
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Post by malibou on Dec 14, 2020 10:43:11 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss. May your happy memories of your dad help see you thru the difficult days ahead.
I'm so glad you were able to be there.
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Post by cmhs on Dec 14, 2020 11:18:20 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to get there and be there safely.
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 14, 2020 11:21:36 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your loss. It’s a complicated time to grieve.
Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 14, 2020 11:23:13 GMT
Im so sorry for your loss, but glad you were able to be with your family during that time.
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Post by christine58 on Dec 14, 2020 11:30:25 GMT
We'll try to have a real celebration of Dad's life next summer when hopefully extended family and friends can gather safely again. My dad battled brain cancer for six years. I'm grateful that he's at peace and that I was here to hold his hand. I get bits of covid panic here and there because of the proximity we've all been in and continue to be in, but I just have to hope that we can be careful enough. I hate having that fear hanging over this time that's already so sad and stressful. We did the same for my dad although he was cremated when he died in January (pre-covid) and we had planned a celebration for May--which got moved to July when our numbers here in our area were pretty much non-existent. I am glad you were able to be with him.
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Post by karenlou on Dec 14, 2020 11:30:59 GMT
So very sorry for your loss...I feel your pain as I too lost my Dad this week. 😢😢 It is not easy especially in these "Covid" times, with restrictions etc... ((((((((HUGS))))))))
Karen
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Post by Patter on Dec 14, 2020 11:32:10 GMT
So thankful you were able to get there. So sorry for your tremendous loss!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 14, 2020 11:34:25 GMT
I'm so sorry, Mystie. I am glad you got to be with your dad and family. Stay safe.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 14, 2020 11:42:24 GMT
Hugs
I’m so sorry for your loss. You & your family will be in my prayers
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Post by MZF on Dec 14, 2020 11:55:13 GMT
I'm sorry , Mystie.
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Post by christine58 on Dec 14, 2020 11:59:17 GMT
So very sorry for your loss...I feel your pain as I too lost my Dad this week. 😢😢 It is not easy especially in these "Covid" times, with restrictions etc... ((((((((HUGS))))))))
Karen I am so sorry. It's not easy during Covid and I am so thankful my Dad passed before it hit. Cannot imagine the pain some of you have gone through with deaths because of the restrictions.
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Post by peajays on Dec 14, 2020 12:05:39 GMT
So glad you were able to make the trip, and got to be with your family during his passing.
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Gravity
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Post by Gravity on Dec 14, 2020 12:10:00 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad.
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Dec 14, 2020 12:18:06 GMT
Glad you were able to be there with your Dad and family. Sorry for your loss ((HUGS))
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 14, 2020 12:34:43 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you were there before he passed and are there as comfort and support for your Mom. My Dad passed on Thursday and I’m regretting not getting there before he passed to say goodbye but I was there before the funeral home took him. He’s the third man that I had loved that I gave a last kiss to before they were taken. My ex passed on September 5, 2019 and my husband on October 11, 2019 and now my Dad. ETA: I hadn’t read the thread before posting. karenlou above is my sister ❤️
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cakediva
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Jun 26, 2014 11:53:40 GMT
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Post by cakediva on Dec 14, 2020 12:43:28 GMT
Hugs to you and your family. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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lisaknits
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Post by lisaknits on Dec 14, 2020 12:51:52 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Glad to hear that you were able to get there to be with your family. You and your family are in my prayers. ((HUGS))
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