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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 19, 2020 5:21:40 GMT
I call bullshit and I would NOT allow it in my home, car, or anywhere. On second thought, put that watch/listening device right on the counter and then turn a radio on and let it play all day. If she wants something to listen to, I'd give it to her. I’d also make sure the radio is tuned to some kind of music or station the mom absolutely can’t stand!
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Post by christine58 on Dec 19, 2020 12:26:44 GMT
UPDATE: DS informed me this is a listening device, she will be able to hear anything said or happening the whole time they are with him.
Your son NEEDS a LAWYER
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Dec 19, 2020 12:59:42 GMT
UPDATE: DS informed me this is a listening device, she will be able to hear anything said or happening the whole time they are with him.
He initially felt he had no choice to accept it, as their mom coached the five year old to be excited and happy about it. He’s now considering wether he wants to allow a precedent like this, as well as the over controlling intrusive nature of this. My 5 year old grandson just informed my son that his mother, who’s been obstructing parenting, and just lost big time in court, has purchased a bracelet to know where he is at all times. Is anybody familiar about how the courts view this? I know different states may feel differently, but any experience at all would give me something to think about. DS does not have a lawyer, he’s behind broke. But so far that hasn’t hurt him as far as the court. Even though when she left their home, it was a disgusting mess, while he was working full tune and she was home, now she is demanding proof that the house is pristine, acting like she gets to make tons of demands before he finally gets as chance to bring them home. Absolutely f*cking no!
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Post by jenjie on Dec 19, 2020 13:15:11 GMT
UPDATE: DS informed me this is a listening device, she will be able to hear anything said or happening the whole time they are with him.
Your son NEEDS a LAWYER This. The courts will not approve this, especially considering she already lost that means they trust him and not her. This is intrusive.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2020 13:21:01 GMT
UPDATE: DS informed me this is a listening device, she will be able to hear anything said or happening the whole time they are with him. He initially felt he had no choice to accept it, as their mom coached the five year old to be excited and happy about it. He’s now considering wether he wants to allow a precedent like this, as well as the over controlling intrusive nature of this. Isn't it against the law to " bug" someone's conversations in the US? I would have her back in court quicker than her legs would carry her. I'm saying this nicely - your son needs to grow a pair and stand up for his rights as the father of his child. He did have a choice - the choice of not let her walk all over him. He doesn't need to " consider" anything. What she is doing is wrong. She's a control freak. It's not up to her, of her own accord, to monitor every movement and conversation of her son while in the custody of his father. If there was a risk in your son having contact with his son then the courts would have made is a supervised visitation at all times.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2020 15:26:06 GMT
UPDATE: DS informed me this is a listening device, she will be able to hear anything said or happening the whole time they are with him. He initially felt he had no choice to accept it, as their mom coached the five year old to be excited and happy about it. He’s now considering wether he wants to allow a precedent like this, as well as the over controlling intrusive nature of this. Isn't it against the law to " bug" someone's conversations in the US? I would have her back in court quicker than her legs would carry her. I'm saying this nicely - your son needs to grow a pair and stand up for his rights as the father of his child. He did have a choice - the choice of not let her walk all over him. He doesn't need to " consider" anything. What she is doing is wrong. She's a control freak. It's not up to her, of her own accord, to monitor every movement and conversation of her son while in the custody of his father. If there was a risk in your son having contact with his son then the courts would have made is a supervised visitation at all times. Not to mention she can't use any of what she hears because she illegally recorded/heard conversations. Your son needs to contact your local court to be assigned a free/low cost lawyer AND also local YMCA to see if they offer free legal services (in my area they do). He needs to do this himself. He needs to stand on his own two feet and put an end to this shit. You are enabling him and he needs to stand up to his ex.
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Post by maryland on Dec 19, 2020 15:36:40 GMT
That's creepy! His ex is crazy! I hope he can get legal help, this does not sound right at all. I doesn't sound like it's in the best interest of the child to be near this woman unsupervised.
Could he contact the local bar association and ask about legal aid in your county? Or a group that aids men in family law cases?
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Post by anxiousmom on Dec 19, 2020 15:44:55 GMT
As divorced mother, every time my boys went to their dad’s I wished I could be the proverbial fly on the wall to watch over them. But... and this is the big but... I am a staunch believer in father’s rights. I always believed that as their dad he has every right to spend time with and share their lives as much as I did. So much so that as soon as they were old enough, as long as we knew by lunchtime on given day, they were allowed to go to whichever house they choose (they were registered on two different busses.)
I say all this because your son has every single right to parent during his time without interference as she does. Taking this to the attorney level is warranted. He gets to be daddy without her input.
Sure, some decisions should be made together and I challenge even married parents to prove they agree on everything, but I honestly believe that micromanaging coparenting harms everyone.
Barring unsafe conditions on the part of either parent, I believe the system needs an overhaul to be more equitable to fathers. It’s completely unfair to dictate when and for how long someone sees their children.
So yes please, encourage your son to stand up to this behavior.
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