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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 21, 2020 16:45:43 GMT
I swear people are just dumb.
My DH and I were invited to my DD boyfriend's parents house for Christmas Eve. At first I was like okay, their house is big enough we can all spread out and there is six of us. DD calls me and says "MOM, Jason's parents invited 17 PEOPLE to their house" Okay six and seventeen is a huge difference. Their house isn't THAT big.. two rooms for 17 people.
I told DD that there is not a chance we are going. I'll send the mom a message and telling her that I can't afford to risk getting sick as I am already usually out and about because I work I don't need to be around other people let alone all those strangers, shoot I could give it to them (but I've been tested 25 times as of today, so far I'm negative). DH is on the road like 250 days of the year and he can't chance getting it if he is in another state! Call me crazy though. OYE....
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2020 17:10:57 GMT
Wow just wow.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 21, 2020 17:19:07 GMT
What are they thinking? Does your dd have to go? I say no!!
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Post by seaexplore on Dec 21, 2020 17:20:05 GMT
People do not get it.
We are planning to spend the day with my parents and my sister and her family- 10 total people between the 3 households. In preparation for this, we are going NO WHERE and seeing NO ONE 12/19-1/2 (when we see them). Like, not even doing grocery pick up! My sister was ok with it but now she's not so sure. I get it. I really do but I very much want to see my parents and be able to sit down and have a meal with them. My parents (who are most at risk here- and are SUPER cautious) are ok with it happening. My BIL still goes to Costco. We aren't even doing that! I'm really annoyed with her. They drove from CA to TX and spent 3 weeks there in one of my other sisters houses so it's not like they've been staying at home.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 21, 2020 17:25:16 GMT
What are they thinking? Does your dd have to go? I say no!! She feels stuck in the middle almost. If she goes then that will rule her out coming to our house. She is suggesting he spends his holiday with his side and she spends it with us. But I don't know how that is going to fly with him. He is pretty relaxed about things but I think he fees like he is in the middle to. It's just dumb all the way around. DD wants to come home because her dad (my DH) will be home and we never see him to begin with. AND it will be the first year in over seven years all of us will be together since DS is home from the service. So you would think they would understand. We'll figure it out one way or another but DH and I are not going. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 21, 2020 17:30:45 GMT
She needs to think about future holidays if she is getting serious with him... Things will not end well .. Game changer for me! workingclassdog |
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Post by mayceesgranny on Dec 21, 2020 17:35:39 GMT
I see people doing so many variations. Some are getting together with no masks and no concerns. I'm not quite that brave. No one really knows what is safe and what is not. We have dd#1's family who will have just finished quarantine today, our dd #2 and family all tested negative on 12/19, our DDIL had Covid in October - my son and the kids were negative, but they work at home and don't go out in public, DH and I have tested twice (12/14 and 12/19) and we are both negative.
We are going to have each of our 3 children and their families visit us at our home at different times over the 24th and 25th just for gift opening and some snacks, no big sit down meal. We plan to wear masks and distance as well. I will clean and disinfect the bathrooms and kitchen between visits. It seems like its going a little overboard, but when I hear about the long term issues people are having I'd rather not get Covid, especially since the vaccine is going to be available to us older people soon.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Dec 21, 2020 17:37:28 GMT
And this is why cases will continue to rise. I hope your DD can spend it with you and her boyfriend can spend it with his family.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 21, 2020 17:46:29 GMT
mayceesgranny it is hard work, but will certainly be doing the very best for your whole family.
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Post by psoccer on Dec 21, 2020 18:09:24 GMT
My husband wanted to go to his daughters for Christmas Eve, or Christmas. She had a big group at her house at Thanksgiving, they are anti maskers, and don't have a bubble. I had already said I wasn't going, it was not in my comfort zone. My husband just found out one of his childhood friends just passed from COVID. There were no underlining health conditions. It really shook my husband and he is reconsidering his visit. I am so sad that it took that to let his see how serious this is.
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Post by Skellinton on Dec 21, 2020 18:12:23 GMT
That is bonkers. I wouldn’t have been going in the first place, but this would be a hell no.
I am sorry your daughter is feeling torn, I hope she realizes it is best for them to spend Christmas apart and if her bf has a fit that might be good info for her to have!
We are having porch Christmas with my family. And I know they are being safe. My mom only sees my nephew as she is his caregiver while his moms are working and she leaves the second a mom comes home. We will go see her and open presents and be outside while she is inside. Fortunately she has a big bay window and nice covered porch, but that is as comfortable as we get since she is considered high risk. She is over 75 and has congestive heart failure, even though she presents as very healthy and fit, she is high risk. My nephew and his moms will be inside, but masked up and socially distanced from my mom. It will be super weird, but make for funny pictures!
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Post by gizzy on Dec 21, 2020 18:12:38 GMT
That's a shame they are doing that & now it's going to mess with your family plans. I wish I could be as carefree about this as some others are.
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Post by elaine on Dec 21, 2020 18:18:37 GMT
My husband wanted to go to his daughters for Christmas Eve, or Christmas. She had a big group at her house at Thanksgiving, they are anti maskers, and don't have a bubble. I had already said I wasn't going, it was not in my comfort zone. My husband just found out one of his childhood friends just passed from COVID. There were no underlining health conditions. It really shook my husband and he is reconsidering his visit. I am so sad that it took that to let his see how serious this is. I’m sorry for your dh’s loss and hope it serves as a wake-up call that it could very easily happen to him. As to the OP, just 😱! I’m glad that you aren’t considering going. |
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Post by jubejubes on Dec 21, 2020 18:18:52 GMT
My DH and I were invited to my DD boyfriend's parents house for Christmas Eve Is this the same boyfriend that she was supposed to get married to earlier this year? They need to learn to make decisions for themselves, as a couple. I would not be going and would give my regrets. Covid-19 is real! |
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Post by christine58 on Dec 21, 2020 18:20:53 GMT
She is suggesting he spends his holiday with his side and she spends it with us. But I don't know how that is going to fly with him. His response would determine--for me---whether the relationship was worth it. She needs to NOT go and instead be with her family. |
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Post by Nanner on Dec 21, 2020 18:25:54 GMT
Glad you're not going!
We can't have any of that here. No gathering - only those that live in the same household. You can't even get together with friends outside. If you live alone, you can choose 2 people to gather with. It can't change - it's those 2 people for the duration.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 21, 2020 18:30:33 GMT
She is suggesting he spends his holiday with his side and she spends it with us. Which still has the potential to spread the virus as they get together between the parties.  Don't both your DD and her BF work in a hospital? |
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Post by epeanymous on Dec 21, 2020 18:30:35 GMT
Just in the past few days, I have had two friends who have been decently cautious diagnosed with COVID. The numbers are up and people are some combo of stupid and selfish.
I cannot believe some people.
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Post by auntkelly on Dec 21, 2020 18:40:28 GMT
Covid aside, I would not want to spend Christmas Eve with a bunch of strangers.
I would do what you did and politely decline.
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Post by flanz on Dec 21, 2020 19:18:28 GMT
She needs to think about future holidays if she is getting serious with him... Things will not end well .. Game changer for me! workingclassdog No way would I go, I'm glad you're not planning to. And no way would I allow dd to come over to my house if she attended that event, or even if she doesn't but her BF does. He will expose her to everyone at that party and everyone they have been in contact with, etc. etc.... |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 21, 2020 20:22:57 GMT
That is crazy. They clearly do not get it.
We are having my MIL and BIL. They isolate as much as possible. They will have their own table in our entry. DH, DD, and I will sit in the living room, about 25' away. Masks all around, except when eating. I'll serve them, so they will stay in the entry. I feel so rude, but they get it and are just happy to be with us.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 21, 2020 20:27:51 GMT
They are both very smart kids (DD and boyfriend, yes they were getting married). So I have a feeling when it comes down to it neither one will go.. I hope! Yes, they both work at hospitals. And normally both are very cautious. I just think as we get closer to the holidays it is just hard to figure this stuff out. I just hope it doesn't come down to a fight or disagreement. Maybe they will both just come to our house. We are all in the same bubble (except DH who is never there) but we have the space to spread out away from each other as there will only be six of us.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 21, 2020 21:00:31 GMT
We are not going to be with family at all, just us.
It sucks, but it’s hot to be done.
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Post by beepdave on Dec 21, 2020 21:41:24 GMT
We are not going to be with family at all, just us. It sucks, but it’s hot to be done. Same! I especially don't understand having waves of family members into your house, even with disinfecting in between. It's not worth it! Celebrate virtually and plan for when the weather is nice and you can celebrate outdoors! |
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Post by beepdave on Dec 21, 2020 21:44:27 GMT
I see people doing so many variations. Some are getting together with no masks and no concerns. I'm not quite that brave. No one really knows what is safe and what is not. We have dd#1's family who will have just finished quarantine today, our dd #2 and family all tested negative on 12/19, our DDIL had Covid in October - my son and the kids were negative, but they work at home and don't go out in public, DH and I have tested twice (12/14 and 12/19) and we are both negative. We are going to have each of our 3 children and their families visit us at our home at different times over the 24th and 25th just for gift opening and some snacks, no big sit down meal. We plan to wear masks and distance as well. I will clean and disinfect the bathrooms and kitchen between visits. It seems like its going a little overboard, but when I hear about the long term issues people are having I'd rather not get Covid, especially since the vaccine is going to be available to us older people soon. This is a dumb move. |
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Post by julieb on Dec 21, 2020 21:54:29 GMT
I agree - it's crazy. I definitely would not send a text belittling their decision and the reasons why you aren't attending. Nicely say you have decided to stay home. No explanation needed. Keep their relationship positive.
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Post by julieb on Dec 21, 2020 21:56:19 GMT
I see people doing so many variations. Some are getting together with no masks and no concerns. I'm not quite that brave. No one really knows what is safe and what is not. We have dd#1's family who will have just finished quarantine today, our dd #2 and family all tested negative on 12/19, our DDIL had Covid in October - my son and the kids were negative, but they work at home and don't go out in public, DH and I have tested twice (12/14 and 12/19) and we are both negative. We are going to have each of our 3 children and their families visit us at our home at different times over the 24th and 25th just for gift opening and some snacks, no big sit down meal. We plan to wear masks and distance as well. I will clean and disinfect the bathrooms and kitchen between visits. It seems like its going a little overboard, but when I hear about the long term issues people are having I'd rather not get Covid, especially since the vaccine is going to be available to us older people soon. This is a dumb move. My gosh. It is her decision - you have no idea what went into that decision and the need of others. I think your plan sounds nice and reasonably safe. |
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 21, 2020 22:21:33 GMT
I just think as we get closer to the holidays it is just hard to figure this stuff out. Honestly, it isn't hard to figure out. Yes, it is disappointing. Yes, it is frustrating. Yes, it is just one day, one meal, one visit. Yes, we all have pandemic fatigue. But the numbers are rising now because people couldn't "figure it out" over Halloween and Thanksgiving. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 21, 2020 22:43:02 GMT
I agree - it's crazy. I definitely would not send a text belittling their decision and the reasons why you aren't attending. Nicely say you have decided to stay home. No explanation needed. Keep their relationship positive. No I wouldn't do that. I am just going apologize for changing my mind and that I just feel like we should stay home. Especially with DH not being home all the time. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 21, 2020 22:49:01 GMT
I just think as we get closer to the holidays it is just hard to figure this stuff out. Honestly, it isn't hard to figure out.  Yes, it is disappointing. Yes, it is frustrating. Yes, it is just one day, one meal, one visit. Yes, we all have pandemic fatigue. But the numbers are rising now because people couldn't "figure it out" over Halloween and Thanksgiving. Well it is hard to figure out.. you want to do the right thing and it's hard to do that. This whole thing is hard. We have done what we could. Time ticks away and we think we have time to see if we can move on to where we can be with family and friends and all of a sudden there is no time. It's HARD. It's hard to say we are staying home. It's hard to say no family at Christmas. It is frustrating too. It's disappointing. It SUCKS. We have made the best decisions through this whole thing. And maybe not the right ones all the time. But we (as in everybody who is literally trying to follow the rules as much as possible) are doing the best we can. Halloween and Thanksgiving sucked. We made the right decisions as best as possible. It's damn HARD. Sorry for that rant. |
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