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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 24, 2020 23:08:11 GMT
Is anybody else opting out of Christmas? I just could not bring myself to care. We have no tree, no meal planned and basically will just get up and do the same thing tomorrow that we did today, yesterday and everyday since Thanksgiving. Younger daughter (46) who is part of our "bubble" is working Christmas Eve and Christmas Day (she asked for those days) and Older Daughter and family are going to wait until next summer to do any visiting. (They live almost 2 hours away.)
We have been staying home and keeping as safe as we can. My husband is on daily chemo that he takes at home and life expectancy is uncertain. The younger daughter is more than half way through her chemo treatments for breast cancer. There is the possibility that both of them may be having their last Christmas. We have almost lost my husband twice already in the past year, though I try not to think that way. Because of Covid we cannot celebrate and cannot do the regular stuff.
We are hoping at least to have a nice meal with younger daughter on Sunday. Don't get me wrong, we are glad daughters are working at staying safe and I am proud they are not whining about it. But there just seems to be no point in doing Christmas this year. At 70, it has become a bit much for me to do on my own and it would really take a lot out of me to try.
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Post by mom2kbs on Dec 24, 2020 23:13:11 GMT
I am so sorry things are hard for you. I wish you the peace you are looking for.
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Post by beaglemom on Dec 24, 2020 23:17:32 GMT
Hugs!
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 24, 2020 23:17:42 GMT
(((Hugs)))
I'm sorry this is an especially rough year.
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Post by gar on Dec 24, 2020 23:19:57 GMT
I hope you are able find some peace and pleasure tomorrow ((hugs))
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Post by iluvpink on Dec 24, 2020 23:21:15 GMT
I'm sorry. That sounds so hard. (((HUGS)))
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Post by valincal on Dec 24, 2020 23:26:37 GMT
So sorry...I can completely understand why you aren’t in the mood for the holidays. All the best to you and your family.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 24, 2020 23:27:27 GMT
I’m so sorry you’re having a rough time right now. I’m hoping your family will be able to all be together in a few months. Hugs, all of that is so hard.
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Post by cycworker on Dec 24, 2020 23:33:10 GMT
I am so sorry you're having such a tough time.
I'm spending part of tomorrow with my parents. It will be different in some ways, and the same in others.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 24, 2020 23:33:55 GMT
Best wishes to you. I do understand. I am forcing myself to "do Christmas."
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Post by Zee on Dec 24, 2020 23:38:55 GMT
This month has gone by so incredibly fast that Christmas is here before I was even really ready. Thank goodness for online shopping and the fact that I decorated even before Thanksgiving. It looks magical in here even when I don't feel magical. I opted to work tomorrow because the pay they're offering this year is outrageous, and because I actually like my co-workers so it's not a hardship to spend time with them  I'm tired but so is everyone else. When I get home we're going to make pizza and watch Elf. I'm trying to make sure I stay positive! |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 24, 2020 23:50:35 GMT
Sorry for your very rough year.
This year is a time to do what is best for you and your family. There are no rules and no expectations for anyone.
((((((((((HUGS)))))))) for you all.
I purchased and had all the items delivered to DIL and adult grandsons. I did put up a small pre-lite tree and put some glass icicles on it. I am done. Oh I just did a load of laundry. I real festive, NOT!
Wait I did put an unfinished, unpainted nativity set under the tree. I never got around to doing anything with it. Been a while since I have had a nativity set.
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Post by lisae on Dec 25, 2020 0:13:51 GMT
You are having a really tough year even without Covid. I hope the chemotherapy works in both cases.
We are mostly ignoring the holiday. We will visit my mother at assisted living tomorrow - no touching, plexiglass between us but we do get to be in the visiting room with her which is more than a lot of people get in these situations. I only gifted to 2 other people besides her and they were really easy gifts. Sent a few cards and that was it.
Let's all hope for better days in 2021.
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Post by lucyg on Dec 25, 2020 0:24:04 GMT
I think you’re totally within your rights to skip Christmas this year. Wishing you a better 2021.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2020 0:24:23 GMT
We are "semi" opting out. The tree is up and has lights (pre-lite) but it only has maybe seven ornaments. My daughters and I wrapped a few gifts yesterday. For our "normal" Christmas Day meal we normally have baked ham, mashed potatoes, cakes, pies, homemade bread, cranberry sauce, etc. This year it's chili. Yes, chili.
My niece has COVID. She exposed my 77 year old mom three days ago. My sister who is fighting Stage 4 advanced breast cancer was exposed to COVID by her husband Monday. So far everyone is testing negative but you just don't know. We cancelled our plans to drive up to see them on the 26th. I had the stops planned, hand sanitizer and Clorox wipes laid out - everything. I haven't seen my mom in a year. So yes, I feel like opting out because 2020 has been nothing but hard.
(((((HUGS)))))
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Post by travelscrapper on Dec 25, 2020 0:31:20 GMT
So sorry for all the struggles your family is having this year. Yes we're not having a Christmas mostly becuase of the way life fell this year. My Dh and I have no kids, my parents are deceased, my sister lives in Florida and her kids (all in their late 30's w/kids) went to see her this year so no family clebration on my side. My Dh is working tomorrow and his parents are going to his sisters house---who I'm not talking to. I could have gone to my BF house but declined since I had covid recenlty. So the dog & I are staying home which I am 100% OK with, I might order Chinese.
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Post by smannes on Dec 25, 2020 0:43:04 GMT
We have a tree up and some decorations but that it. DH and I aren’t exchanging gifts. (I’ve been super busy with work and honestly haven’t made time to shop. Haven’t even sent the nieces and nephews their cards and haven’t gotten their gifts yet.) It’s just the 2 of us (unfortunately we never had any children (we’re in our 40s)), our families are all in different states (not like we’d even get together during Covid times) so Christmas this year is going to be just another day. I’m bummed. On top of that, my dang cat peed on the carpet in my bedroom. I’m so mad.
On the bright side, because I need to find something, our families currently are healthy and DH and I are still employed.
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Post by melanieg on Dec 25, 2020 1:16:28 GMT
Im thinking of it as a 4 day long weekend this year to get through. Its the mindset i have to keep. Our province and the one the rest of the family lives in have banned indoor social gatherings. Im on my own so im getting stuff done around my place.
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Post by CeeScraps on Dec 25, 2020 1:23:38 GMT
I’m so sorry you’ve had so many crappy issues this year. You don’t need to feel the least bit guilty about not having nor celebrating Christmas.
We do not have a tree nor any decorations up. My husband teaches and is totally exhausted. Our daughter has been working from home and she too has had it. I’m struggling now with all of this. I’ve been ok, but yeesh people just wear a mask to help control this crap.
We have presents wrapped and sitting on the floor in front of our couch. I did set the table with a Christmas tablecloth. We aren’t cooking. No one felt like it. We’ve ordered ribs and are picking them up tomorrow. Ho, Ho, Ho!
Stay safe.....those who are traveling I don’t understand. I just don’t.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Dec 25, 2020 1:26:58 GMT
(((hugs)))
I have a tree up. Youngest DS, DH & I will "celebrate" Christmas. We are holding off seeing my oldest DS & DIL and my mother until it is "safe" I'm trying to decide if I will keep my tree up until then (sometime in January)
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Post by Merge on Dec 25, 2020 1:34:09 GMT
It’s perfectly ok not to feel “merry and bright” this year (or really any year). Hoping things get better for you soon so you can feel a holiday spirit on your own timetable. There’s no law against giving people presents and having a big meal together in the middle of May, if you’re so inclined.
Best wishes for a peaceful season.
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Post by purplebee on Dec 25, 2020 1:38:51 GMT
We are having a low key Christmas. I usually put up a live tree, but just wasn’t up for it this year. I do have a small fiber optic table top tree up but no ornaments. Dh and I will have breakfast with Ds and his SO, and have invited a friend who is alone this year to share our dinner tomorrow. We are all being very careful and will distance.
I wish you and your family better days, and do not blame you for not wanting to go to the effort of doing Christmas this year. Hugs, hope your day tomorrow is filled with love and peace and comfort.
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Post by ntsf on Dec 25, 2020 2:36:44 GMT
I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time. I think in 2021, whenever we actually get the vaccine.. we will have christmas in June or christmas in July (we used to do this at summer camp).. get out all the decorations and have bbq and celebrate as those do down under!!!
maybe look forward to that.
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Post by phoenixcov on Dec 25, 2020 10:25:14 GMT
I hope that things go so well for your families recoveries that next year can be a big celebration for you to make up for this year. Best wishes
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 25, 2020 14:52:41 GMT
nlwilkins I don't blame you for skipping it this year. I've posted about the year I didn't put a single ornament on the tree. I hope you'll pick up favorite takeout and treat yourself. If not today, soon. Hugs and best wishes to you and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2020 15:06:28 GMT
Wishing you health, happiness and peace for all the coming days - whether you celebrate one particular holiday or any others or none at all.
You are valued.
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Post by piebaker on Dec 25, 2020 15:25:18 GMT
nlwilkins - (((Hugs))) thinking of you, your husband and daughter and their treatment plans, and your daughter. Peace and Hope, Lynn
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Post by bklyngal62 on Dec 25, 2020 15:52:13 GMT
I am so sorry you are going through such a tough year. Praying that 2021 will be better for you. {{{HUGS}}}
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Post by auntkelly on Dec 25, 2020 16:00:53 GMT
I’m so sorry you are going through such a tough time and I wish I had something to say to make you feel better. My heart really hurts for you.
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Post by scrappintoee on Dec 27, 2020 9:59:01 GMT
I am SO sorry about your Dh *AND* your dd having cancer! That is just too much for one family to deal with.....many ((( hugs ))) I TOTALLY opted out this year, except for baking some cookies to give to some special people. I'm hoping next year I'll get in the spirit and do all the decorating I normally love to do, travel to see our families, etc.  |
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