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Post by Delta Dawn on Mar 11, 2021 1:30:25 GMT
Hi someone leaves a nice rock on my mom’s headstone every time we visit. Her BFF is half Jewish though is a Christian. Is this a Jewish thing? I read somewhere it’s a custom. Ideas?
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Post by hop2 on Mar 11, 2021 1:31:19 GMT
Yes it is a jewish thing
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Post by Delta Dawn on Mar 11, 2021 1:31:57 GMT
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Post by hop2 on Mar 11, 2021 1:34:25 GMT
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Post by Restless Spirit on Mar 11, 2021 2:06:06 GMT
I love this. What a thoughtful, caring sign of remembrance and respect. TFS |
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Post by scrappinghappy on Mar 11, 2021 2:22:44 GMT
And it’s not good practice to remove them.
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Post by vsimone on Mar 11, 2021 2:40:06 GMT
I didn't know that. What a lovely thing to do. I sometimes wonder if anyone one else visits the family graves besides my mum and I. I'd love to find a stone placed on the graves.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Mar 11, 2021 2:43:13 GMT
And it’s not good practice to remove them. I didn’t remove one but I used it to help prop up flowers. The rocks are still there. Today is the anniversary of her death so I assume her BFF left a new rock today. Gosh I miss her. |
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Post by zztop11 on Mar 11, 2021 3:24:46 GMT
Sometimes the cemetery care givers will remove the stones if it gets all full on top of the grave. We have had that happen. Then you can just start over with placing a stone on top. My parents did lapidary work. (stone and gems and the work involved in engraving, cutting, or polishing.) I have a bunch of stones that they finished. I have used some to put on my daughters grave. It is very comforting. No one has removed those. It brings a family member some peace to know that others have been thinking about their lost loved one.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 11, 2021 3:39:28 GMT
Rocks symbolizes eternal life. They never die. We don't leave flowers because flowers, die.
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Post by jlynnbarth on Mar 11, 2021 3:58:43 GMT
I never knew that either. Now when we go to the cemetery I’ll understand the stones.
The Military does something similar with coins.
A penny- just visited, paid respect
A nickel- you trained together
A dime-served in same unit
A quarter- you were there when they passed.
Both are beautiful remembrances. ❤️
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Post by VanC on Mar 11, 2021 4:04:48 GMT
That answers a question I've had ever since I first saw the movie Schindler's List years ago. At the end they show all those people pass by his gravesite and leave the stones. Thank you.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Mar 11, 2021 5:17:24 GMT
This is a really nice ending to a sad but thoughtful day.
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Post by zztop11 on Mar 11, 2021 5:26:16 GMT
Rocks symbolizes eternal life. They never die. We don't leave flowers because flowers, die.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Mar 11, 2021 12:44:29 GMT
Yup, Jewish thing. My dh is Jewish and I had no idea until we went to visit his dad's site. The most moving thing is when we went to Dachau and they had the outlines of the barracks where Jews were housed. The outlines were there and they were filled with millions of rocks. That really stuck with me.
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Post by schizo319 on Mar 11, 2021 13:10:26 GMT
Yes. There is a very well respected business man in town who was Jewish (a real anomaly in my area of the South), when we did a tour of our city cemetery, we were told about the rock tradition and many of us left a rock at Mr. Denbo's grave that day. I think it's a lovely tradition.
My uncle (before he died) always left a whole unlit cigarette at my grandpa's grave - it was nice to know someone else had been there - but what an odd thing to leave, I guess it was because it was all he had with him?
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Post by iowgirl on Mar 11, 2021 16:38:40 GMT
I knew it was a Jewish tradition, but I think it has been co-opted around here. I see it a lot and there are not any Jewish persons in my area. My uncle (before he died) always left a whole unlit cigarette at my grandpa's grave - it was nice to know someone else had been there - but what an odd thing to leave, I guess it was because it was all he had with him? I see a lot of odd stuff left at graves here, and I know it has some type of special meaning between the person who left it and the deceased. It pains me to see the liquor and beer left at a grave of a guy who was was drunk and killed himself and another person by getting behind the wheel. Cringe. |
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