More power to her! 57 yo gives birth [Child death mentioned]

Well I guess if that makes them happy...

I can't imagine that though. I'll be 50 this summer. That's a huge nope for me!

This is within 30 mins of where I live and I read the story early in the week. And yeah, no. LOLOL I'm not even 45yo yet and I'm tired. I cannot imagine starting with a baby at 57.

This is local to me, NH. All I could think is "damn, you're going to have a teenager at 70". Good Lord, best of luck to you.

Nope no way I could handle that at 54 and have felt that way for many years. More power to her and I hope it works out well for them.

I am 57 and I can't even imagine caring for a newborn. I'm tired and a little selfish with my time since I already raised a family.

But hey, I haven't walked in her shoes so I can't judge. I didn't read the story but I have to wonder how it's going to be for the child having dinosaur parents. Obviously the child isn't going to have the years with its parents like most of us have. Is the child an only?  

This is local to me. The story of the loss of her 13 yr old was heartbreaking. I am about to turn 50 and no way in heck would I have a baby! But they truly seem happy

I was just talking about this with one of the teachers when I brought dgd to daycare this morning. I just turned 59 and have a 5 year old living in my house. NO WAY IN HELL would I ever have a baby!!!!

Good for her! I'm happy for her!

good for her and her husband, if they want to do it. Like she said in the article, no one knows how long their parents will be around.  If they love their son, and they went thru a LOT to have him-- then why should any of us judge them for having him when we know nothing about their life except their ages?  

Men routinely have kids with younger women with they themselves are in their 50s, 60s and even 70s. There is little commentary about those dads being “dinosaur” parents.

As far as dying when the child is young or in college, you never know what’s going to happen. I watched a friend from high school be buried last summer at 40. She had a three year old. She lost her own mother when she was five. You never know what life holds or when someone is going to die. If the have the resources and capacity to care for the child, go for it. It’s interesting that we don’t see the same judgements when men are having babies with younger women when they are on their 50s or older.

I had always wanted a large family.  I divorced after having one, and never found a suitable partner to have another.  I was always the neighborhood mom that was outside arranging things to do for the kids. Partly because I enjoyed it and partly because I wanted to have other kids around my son so that he learned to share and wait his turn.  Things you need other kids around to understand.  I was also the only one brave enough to take on all of my nieces and nephews at the same time when there was an event the family needed to attend. I always volunteered to miss it and stay back with the kids.

But, now that I'm older, I just don't have the patience.  When my niece lived here with her 2-year-old daughter, I about went nuts.  The child was never disciplined, so that is a large part of it. I realized that I had no empathy and that I might have to admit to myself that I was beyond the patience stage.

So now, would I consider taking on a baby?  No.  I would have adored having a grand, but my son and his fiancé do not want children of their own. 

You may not know that you're going to die early when you have children, but you certainly know you'll die old. Why set up a child to be parentless at an early age? That's years they are definitely missing out on, not "maybe" missing out on. I can't imagine my 23 year old son worrying about caring for 80 year old me, and it would be a lot for someone so young, even with elder care already planned for and in place. It also feels like being a replacement child would be a hard burden, but they would definitely know they were wanted, so...

Plus I'm 49 and can't imagine going back to raising a child all over again. My time is my own and I like it that way. I loved raising my kids but I can't imagine doing all the sleeplessness again along with working!

I don't know what you read or who you speak to but I see plenty of negative comments about those older men.
And ultimately it's highly likely that that when they die, there will still be the younger wife left to continue raising the child.

Personally, I don't think medicine should be helping women to have babies into their late 50s.
I hope their other daughter is prepared to take over raising her little brother if the need arises.
Or an even worse case scenario is if the parents get some sort of debilitating illness and that poor kid ends up being a carer to his parents when he's still a tanager.