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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jun 3, 2021 18:34:44 GMT
Oldest ds is graduating Saturday. The younger two (ages 9 and 12) don’t really want to go. They also have baseball all day and it had expected to be 99 degrees outside. Dh and I are leaning towards not making them go if they don’t want to. But my mom says “they really should go.” We also just found out that we can’t get another ticket for her, so if she is to go, she would need to use one of their tickets.
The ceremony is also in a gym and they aren’t requiring masks. That alone makes me nervous, especially for the kids that aren’t vaccinated yet.
What would you do in this situation?
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Post by mom on Jun 3, 2021 18:51:18 GMT
I think its important for younger kids to support their sibling. Id make them go. If they didn’t go it would be so grandma could go. But otherwise, baseball can wait for another day.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2021 18:51:20 GMT
I've done graduations in a gym when the temps outside were in the 90's. I absolutely hated it. One was mine and I nearly passed out. Let the kids stay home. Take pictures at home afterwards.
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Post by magellen on Jun 3, 2021 18:58:12 GMT
Is there anyway that you can get another ticket? If you can than siblings should go. If not, I think it is more important for grandma to to be there. Let the sibling set up the graduation party.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 3, 2021 19:02:43 GMT
I’d let them stay home. As far as baseball, that’s way too hot for kids to be playing.
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Post by FurryP on Jun 3, 2021 19:04:43 GMT
I think if they don’t want to go they shouldn’t have to. High school, I assume? I doubt your graduating son will care if they are there or not.
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Post by kraft4fun on Jun 3, 2021 19:06:19 GMT
I'm in the camp of setting up with another parent to take children to baseball, let grandma attend graduation with you and donate extra ticket to a family that has 2 grandparents that want to attend and won't have to make the decision.
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Jun 3, 2021 19:07:34 GMT
Personally, I would find a sitter for the younger kids so I could enjoy the graduation.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jun 3, 2021 19:08:03 GMT
I'm with Mom. I think siblings should go. BUT if you need a ticket for grandma, I think it would mean more to her. Make the oldest of the 2 go, leave the youngest home. As far as baseball, graduation is more important. I would think there are other in the same boat, and surprised they are even playing. HS graduation is important in MN. it's just the memories, the ceremony, family and friends.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jun 3, 2021 19:12:38 GMT
They will be doing baseball no matter what. I was just pointing that out because they (And DH and I) will be out in the heat all day prior to a 7:30pm graduation in a hot gym.
We did apply to have an extra ticket and didn't get it (lottery system). So, unless the people who did get extras in the lottery don't claim all of the tickets, the only way for grandma to go is to use one of the other boys' tickets.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jun 3, 2021 19:17:52 GMT
No masks, indoors, and unable to be vaccinated? I wouldn't make them go.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 3, 2021 19:22:26 GMT
I wouldn’t make them go to the ceremony. I would make them go to any family celebration for it.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 3, 2021 19:23:30 GMT
If they were older, I'd make them. At that age and unvaccinated, probably not.
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Post by amom23 on Jun 3, 2021 19:33:42 GMT
My kids all went to each other's graduations. It was important for them to be there and support each other. Even HS graduation is a big milestone.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jun 3, 2021 19:37:38 GMT
I'm generally in the you go and support your family camp - I think that with unmasked indoors and unvaccinated, I'd let them skip - baseball has nothing to do with it in my world.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 3, 2021 19:39:56 GMT
They will be doing baseball no matter what. I was just pointing that out because they (And DH and I) will be out in the heat all day prior to a 7:30pm graduation in a hot gym. We did apply to have an extra ticket and didn't get it (lottery system). So, unless the people who did get extras in the lottery don't claim all of the tickets, the only way for grandma to go is to use one of the other boys' tickets.Then let them stay home and grandma can use the ticket. It's a no brainer. Those two will be bored and probably EXHAUSTED from playing baseball in that kind of heat. Get a sitter and let them stay home. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jun 3, 2021 19:43:34 GMT
They will be doing baseball no matter what. I was just pointing that out because they (And DH and I) will be out in the heat all day prior to a 7:30pm graduation in a hot gym. We did apply to have an extra ticket and didn't get it (lottery system). So, unless the people who did get extras in the lottery don't claim all of the tickets, the only way for grandma to go is to use one of the other boys' tickets.Then let them stay home and grandma can use the ticket. It's a no brainer. Those two will be bored and probably EXHAUSTED from playing baseball in that kind of heat. Get a sitter and let them stay home. That was my thought but my mom is being stubborn and sAying that she doesn’t want to take one of their tickets. I just told her that if she didn’t, we would likely give their tickets to someone else anyway if they don’t want to go. She said she will think about it. It kind of seems like she herself is trying to find ways not to go... |
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Post by christine58 on Jun 3, 2021 19:44:43 GMT
That was my thought but my mom is being stubborn and sAying that she doesn’t want to take one of their tickets. I just told her that if she didn’t, we would likely give their tickets to someone else anyway if they don’t want to go. She said she will think about it. It kind of seems like she herself is trying to find ways not to go... Is she vaccinated??? Maybe she is concerned about the size of the group. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jun 3, 2021 19:57:47 GMT
That was my thought but my mom is being stubborn and sAying that she doesn’t want to take one of their tickets. I just told her that if she didn’t, we would likely give their tickets to someone else anyway if they don’t want to go. She said she will think about it. It kind of seems like she herself is trying to find ways not to go... Is she vaccinated??? Maybe she is concerned about the size of the group. Yes. I think she just doesn’t want to drive here and she was gone visiting my stepbrothers a few weeks ago. I think it would mean more to ds to have her there than the two youngest brothers (15yo is going to the ceremony) but we will see what she does. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2021 20:01:17 GMT
I think I would let the graduate decide.
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Post by johnnysmom on Jun 3, 2021 20:01:43 GMT
I can’t speak to what I’d do in a pandemic world but yds was raised in the sidelines of every activity ods did. It was not optional, unless there was a good reason for him not to go (far away game on a school night or sick) we all were there to support him (and same now that yds is in things). So yes would be at graduation and IMO grandparents don’t trump siblings. We didn’t even invite grandparents to the ceremony (of course the ceremony was done in an abnormal fashion.....2020 🙄).
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Post by myshelly on Jun 3, 2021 20:05:47 GMT
I literally don’t remember if my siblings were at any or all of my graduations.
Heck, I didn’t want to be at any of them, but my parents bribed me with jewelry 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jun 3, 2021 20:18:01 GMT
I think I would let the graduate decide. I agree with this. Does your oldest even care if they are there or not? I'd also be concerned about them being too young to be vaccinated. Have you taken them to other large indoor events? If you have been avoiding large indoor events because of their vaccination status, be prepared for a lot of "but you made us go to the graduation so why can't we go". |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2021 20:18:19 GMT
Pre covid? They would go. I was 10 and 11 when my siblings graduated.
Now? No way. Unmasked, non vaccinated = no
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Post by craftedbys on Jun 3, 2021 20:43:37 GMT
Coming from the perspective of the youngest of four siblings, don't force them to go if they don't want to.
My brothers are 14 and 11 years older than I am, my sister was 4 years my senior. I was drug to every graduation, ceremony, recital etc growing up. I expected to dress up, be on my best behavior etc.
By the time it was my time to be the focus, they had gone on with their lives and they were never expected to go to or congratulate me on any of my achievements. Of course, by then I was expected to start attending all of the nieces and nephews events.
So, I say let them skip the ceremony and participate in any family celebration.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jun 3, 2021 20:48:51 GMT
I think I would let the graduate decide. I agree with this. Does your oldest even care if they are there or not? I'd also be concerned about them being too young to be vaccinated. Have you taken them to other large indoor events? If you have been avoiding large indoor events because of their vaccination status, be prepared for a lot of "but you made us go to the graduation so why can't we go". We haven't been to any other large indoor events. They wear masks to school, but the school says that the state mandate only applies to the school hours so masks don't have to be worn at activities outside of school hours. I would have the kids wear masks, but that will add to the temperature worries. And I am not sure how much that would help if there are 1000+ other people there and not knowing how many are unvaccinated and unmasked. |
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Post by tracylynn on Jun 3, 2021 20:48:54 GMT
My brother was 3 grades below me and you know? I can't at all remember if he was at my graduation or not.
I wouldn't make them go. In a gym where it's been 100 degrees all day ... it's going to be miserable. You'll be miserable. You'll be 10x miserable with them there being miserable.
Edit: That was without the thought of Covid. With Covid, no way in heck would I do indoors, with no masks.
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Post by myboysnme on Jun 3, 2021 20:50:51 GMT
I would not make them go if they don't want to go. What kid wants to sit through something like that? No one wants to except the proud parents and grandparents and maybe a girlfriend or boyfriend. I have no memory if my siblings went to mine or not, but I know we had 1300 graduates and no one could even see their family nor could they really be seen, but sitting through that many walks is pure torture.
Sorry to disagree with many peas, but I do not consider it support of an older sibling to make kids sit through that ordeal.
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Post by amom23 on Jun 3, 2021 20:55:02 GMT
I agree with this. Does your oldest even care if they are there or not? I'd also be concerned about them being too young to be vaccinated. Have you taken them to other large indoor events? If you have been avoiding large indoor events because of their vaccination status, be prepared for a lot of "but you made us go to the graduation so why can't we go". We haven't been to any other large indoor events. They wear masks to school, but the school says that the state mandate only applies to the school hours so masks don't have to be worn at activities outside of school hours. I would have the kids wear masks, but that will add to the temperature worries. And I am not sure how much that would help if there are 1000+ other people there and not knowing how many are unvaccinated and unmasked. Isn't your school gym air conditioned? I would be really surprised if a large suburban school in Minneapolis wasn't. |
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Post by kate on Jun 3, 2021 20:58:49 GMT
I'm in favor of Grandma taking a ticket. Leave the sibs at home. I guess it depends a little on how big the event will be, though. There were about 750 kids in my high school graduating class. That's a LOT for younger sibs to sit through.
That said, I'm making my other kids (older and younger) go to DD's graduation next week. Her class has only about 60 kids, and it will be a much more intimate (quicker) affair - and there will be a photographer outside taking family portraits afterward. We don't have a picture with all of us, so that's the main reason the other kids have to go! LOL
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