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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 1:32:35 GMT
So weird. Honestly, I told my son (who was with me) that I feel like the guy was trying to pick me up.
DS and I were at a local bbq place for lunch today. We’d never been. We were seated (kinda like bar seating…but seating on both sides…so DS was sitting across from me). We were eating and talking when a man walks up and asks if anyone was sitting in the seat next to me. I said no and politely moved my stuff over a bit to ensure he had room.
Guy proceeded to ask if it was our first time there and if we were local. I was polite, but didn’t offer a ton of info or conversation. DS was having none of it. 😂
Guy proceeded to tell me what he got and how yummy it was. He asked if I wanted to try. Of course, I again politely declined. It seems he REALLY wanted me to try it as he took his clean fork, and stabbed a piece of “burnt end” and put it on my plate. He then put one on DS’s plate.
Seriously…a woman you don’t know, that you’re not on a date with politely declines to try your food…by all means that does not mean put it on her plate.
In the car, I told DS that I was getting a pick up vibe. He agreed.
Never in my life has that happened before 😂
DS was having none of the polite though.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jun 25, 2021 1:37:42 GMT
NOPE NOPE NOPE Not in these COVID streets, and not even in the non-COVID streets.
GROSS, disrespectful of boundaries, weird, inappropriate.
I'm horrified that someone would think this is at all appropriate or acceptable. I think I would have moved (after shoving his food off my plate).
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 1:38:27 GMT
Nothing says I want you more than someone giving you their prized BBQ pieces. At least he used a clean fork. 🤣
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Post by 16joy on Jun 25, 2021 1:39:42 GMT
Was the BBQ good though..not counting the burnt ends? That’s most important.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 1:40:55 GMT
Nothing says I want you more than someone giving you their prized BBQ pieces. At least he used a clean fork. 🤣 As he ate his banana pudding he told me that he wasn’t sharing that. Thinking back on it now I’m thinking “buddy I’m pretty sure that IF I wanted your banana pudding, you’d give it to me and you know it.” 😂 |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 1:41:46 GMT
Was the BBQ good though..not counting the burnt ends? That’s most important. My food was delicious. The food I ordered and was on my plate. |
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Post by jenjie on Jun 25, 2021 2:19:36 GMT
Oh my! Dude needs to learn boundaries.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 25, 2021 2:23:53 GMT
Yes, of course no boundaries, no filter, but from your story, he kind of reminds me of a Sheldon Cooper type. Maybe a little bit on the spectrum? Anyway, I’m glad your son was with you.
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Post by edie3 on Jun 25, 2021 2:49:35 GMT
Yuck on the forwardness and the cleanliness of that!
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Jun 25, 2021 2:53:18 GMT
It’s definitely a little weird. Is it possible he works there? The owners at a couple local BBQ joints sit and visit with customers, and often add sauce to your food or grab an extra piece of cornbread or tell me I have to try whatever it is they just cooked and hand out samples. While it’s weird, and I doubt I would have eaten it, it feels like a BBQ joint vibe for someone to behave that way.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 3:18:30 GMT
It’s definitely a little weird. Is it possible he works there? The owners at a couple local BBQ joints sit and visit with customers, and often add sauce to your food or grab an extra piece of cornbread or tell me I have to try whatever it is they just cooked and hand out samples. While it’s weird, and I doubt I would have eaten it, it feels like a BBQ joint vibe for someone to behave that way. That was my initial thought as well…the owner making rounds to see what people thought. I don’t think it was the case. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 3:21:27 GMT
My son actually talked to me in the car…explaining why he wasn’t as polite as I was. He is totally on to something…I think too often people (perhaps especially women) don’t want to come across as rude…and we are more polite than we need to be. That is the kind of thinking that will get people (especially women) into trouble. (Thinking about Ted Bundy here)
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2021 3:43:45 GMT
My son actually talked to me in the car…explaining why he wasn’t as polite as I was. He is totally on to something…I think too often people (perhaps especially women) don’t want to come across as rude…and we are more polite than we need to be. That is the kind of thinking that will get people (especially women) into trouble. (Thinking about Ted Bundy here) Absolutely. As I've gotten older, I've gotten bolder at calling things out. I would have said "This makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. Please stop." If he didn't I would get someone over. We don't need to be polite in all situations. Sometimes we have to put safety/peace of mind over "being nice". |
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 25, 2021 11:44:24 GMT
You have raised a very smart son. He's so right that we as women often don't enforce boundaries. I think I'm getting better.
I'll validate you that his actions were creepy and out of line.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 25, 2021 12:04:04 GMT
That is just bizarre. I can't imagine being in that situation. I'm pretty laid back, but I think I might have lost my shit over that.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 25, 2021 16:36:40 GMT
Bizarre.
I probably would have been so stunned I would not have called him out.
I hope I would have moved and asked manager to remove him.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 25, 2021 17:08:12 GMT
Yikes. Really weird behaviour.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 25, 2021 17:32:03 GMT
Gross. Gross. Gross and weird! Weird. Weird. Weird and Gross.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jun 25, 2021 18:27:35 GMT
NOPE NOPE NOPE Not in these COVID streets, and not even in the non-COVID streets. GROSS, disrespectful of boundaries, weird, inappropriate. I'm horrified that someone would think this is at all appropriate or acceptable. I think I would have moved (after shoving his food off my plate).  |
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Post by gramasue on Jun 26, 2021 15:48:28 GMT
I'm sure you were polite and said "No, thanks", but what part of NO did he not understand?
Yeah, that would have weirded me out, too.
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Post by NanaKate on Jun 26, 2021 17:20:40 GMT
Weird. Glad your son was with you.
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