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Post by malibou on Jun 30, 2021 6:29:08 GMT
I don't think anyone knows ours. We know Ds because he is 20 and was very excited about how much he made for his first job. 😁
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Post by compeateropeator on Jun 30, 2021 9:28:34 GMT
Yes my parents know what I make (roughly). They know what my big expenses and bills are and roughly what I have for my savings and retirement . Although up until I just traded in my car last month I didn’t have any large expenses left, but they went with me when I bought my car so they know that also. We are pretty open about most things, including finances.
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Post by gar on Jun 30, 2021 9:48:20 GMT
Ball park figures all round I’d say.
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Post by supersoda on Jun 30, 2021 9:56:45 GMT
Not our parents and they'd probably be surprised if they found out. I know some nosy relatives have looked at our home value and the sticker prices of our kids' private colleges, but those aren't great indicators of our income.
We're pretty open with our kids, but I don't think they could quote our incomes if you asked them. We know what our young adult kids make and still help them negotiate financial issues. Of course, it will be up to them how much they want to share as they mature, have life partners, etc.
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Post by peaname on Jun 30, 2021 10:42:23 GMT
No but I bet they could all estimate reasonably well.
I know my sister and brother-in-law’s income bracket but I also know they spend more than they make and are in debt up to their eyeballs. Knowing someone’s net worth is much more telling than just income. Expenses are harder to understand by onlookers.
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Post by smartypants71 on Jun 30, 2021 11:18:11 GMT
I don't think anyone knows ours. We know Ds because he is 20 and was very excited about how much he made for his first job. 😁 Mine too! He shows me his paycheck every week bc he is so happy!
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Post by kibblesandbits on Jun 30, 2021 11:57:46 GMT
I'm sure my mom makes a good swag at the number, and then brags it all over to her friends. Makes me nuts.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 30, 2021 12:05:33 GMT
My mom has a few things she obsesses about, due to early memory issues/dementia. Money is one of them. She'd love to know our income, but I never talk about it. She asked me what we paid for our new townhouse, but I told her I didn't think we needed to discuss it.
Mom obsesses over what people pay for things and over what she pays for basics, like milk and eggs. I am sure she has discussed our townhouse purchase with my siblings. They won't care and may look up the value when we close, but I don't think they'll tell her.
I do know what DD makes and she knows what our income and net worth are. She is a financial analyst and will handle our estate. DS probably has a good idea. I can guess what he makes, as we were in similar industries.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jun 30, 2021 12:09:23 GMT
My parents knew what my income was because I shared the offer letter with them because I was excited. But that was 24.5 years ago. If they were still alive, I don't know that we'd discuss it.
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Post by kitkath on Jun 30, 2021 12:13:01 GMT
No one knows our income, it’s not anyone’s business. I do know my daughters because they aren’t that far out of college and we followed their paths to their jobs/careers. Daughter #2 just changed jobs and called me on the way to the bank yesterday. A REAL bank building - because her signing bonus/first paycheck was too big for a mobile deposit. (She was pretty excited about that!). I’m guessing she hadn’t set up automatic deposit yet beca8se now that I think about it - why did she have an actual check?
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Post by librarylady on Jun 30, 2021 12:19:26 GMT
You need an "other" choice.
We know one couple's income because they were so thrilled at a recent raise our DIL received. The other 2 son's and family, we have no idea. If they told us, I would not believe what was said. Why? Because when one couple was newly married she (in my presence) told 2 others about her new job and the salary changed with each telling.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 30, 2021 12:27:34 GMT
I think my family could take a good guess at what we make. My salary is searchable. So if someone really wanted to find out how much I'm paid, there's a salary range out there and they know I'm at the top of it as I only get a COLA raise each year. Jeremy's wage is harder to put a number on. His pay also fluctuates week to week as he gets paid a base pay and then commissions on how many cases he delivers. With that said, we have the least expensive home among our family and they can see by our purchase ability that we make less than they do. They also know that we received the government stimulus checks and some of them did not. So I'm guessing they could get close to a ballpark figure.
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Post by Jamie on Jun 30, 2021 12:30:44 GMT
My parents know what I make as well as I do for them. Not down to the penny but within a couple thousand. Outside of them I don't talk about finances with anyone.
Now my husband, before he got hurt on the job and went on SSDI, he gladly talked about what he was making and still does it when we buy a vehicle or bigger purchase like that. Drives me nuts. It's none of your families business how much our vehicles cost or what we spend our $ on.
Not may fault they choose to spend their money on going to the casinos instead of investing in themselves or something they want. Hubby used to be the same way with the casino the first few years we were married until I put it this way - would you rather take $100 and loose it all at the casino and have nothing to show, or take that same $100 and get a fishing pole, which you then have something. That finally got through to him and he might go once a year now.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jun 30, 2021 12:32:52 GMT
Everyone knows my income. I'm a teacher and it's public record.
ETA: Is this about the Reddit AITA thread?? Because DAMN.
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Post by ellen on Jun 30, 2021 12:33:57 GMT
My dad doesn't know what my husband and I make. We know what my daughter and her husband make. They are both in the military and that information is easily available.
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Post by iluvpink on Jun 30, 2021 12:42:26 GMT
I imagine my parents/sister could make a rough guess on mine. I know we have discussed it, but it's been a few years. As for dh's, no. He's a self employed general contractor and so it varies. Right now it's quite good. Ten years ago it was pathetic and we had to borrow money from my parents twice. I know they know he's making good money now, but I doubt they know more than that.
I do know dd's, but that's because she's 21 and living at home still.
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Post by lesley on Jun 30, 2021 12:43:10 GMT
My kids roughly know my income. I know theirs. My XDH also knows my income because he does my tax return every year.
I also know my next-door neighbour’s income because he likes to tell me. 🙄 He’s an electrician and does a lot of jobs on the side, so he tells me every month how much extra that brings in. I also know what his pension will be when he takes early retirement next Christmas, and all sorts of other financial things I have no interest in knowing! 😄
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Post by maryannscraps on Jun 30, 2021 12:46:01 GMT
I never knew my parents', but I know my mom's net worth now - I'm involved with helping her with her finances. I doubt she knows mine because she never asked.
My kids know ours and we know theirs. They're young and independent and ask for advice all the time on budgeting and saving and other financial questions.
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Post by Really Red on Jun 30, 2021 12:57:53 GMT
I knew my parents, but they have passed on. My kids are 100% aware of mine and I know theirs (well, the two that are old enough to work).
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Post by craftedbys on Jun 30, 2021 13:14:50 GMT
Our kids know DH's income because they fill out the FAFSA forms for school.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 30, 2021 13:22:01 GMT
Not really but in the ballpark.
My mom doesn't know and she has been out of the workforce for years and in retirement, and lives in the country. She still can't come to the terms that going to a fast food restaurant can cost more than $4 or $5 dollars.
My kids don't know our income and I could guess my son's since he tells me what he makes per hour at Lowe's and drives for Door Dash... and when he was in the military we knew.. it was discussed at some point for whatever reason. My daughter isn't making much as she is doing internship type job.. she is getting paid a bit but only works 2 days a week right now. She is (I think) getting ready to apply for her master's degree. I have no idea what her husband makes.. but he has a pretty good job so probably not to shabby.. He is a surgical tech, first assist.
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Post by danalz on Jun 30, 2021 13:23:06 GMT
My husband works for the state so anyone can look up his income because it's public record. I've never really shared how much I make but knowing what I do for a job, they can make a ballpark estimate.
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Post by Bobomommy on Jun 30, 2021 13:23:30 GMT
Teacher salaries are public knowledge. My family knows how many years I’ve taught, so they can look up my salary if they are so inclined.
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Post by scorpeao on Jun 30, 2021 14:47:17 GMT
I work for the state...it's public knowledge.
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Post by iluvpink on Jun 30, 2021 14:59:47 GMT
Well, my income is a matter of public record. I don’t believe anyone knows DH’s. Same here. Anyone in my life who is truly interested to see how little I make, can easily find it!
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Post by artbabe on Jun 30, 2021 16:07:58 GMT
My salary is public record and my mom looked it up once. My dad thought it wasn't any of her business.
Now it is just my dad. My dad knows now because I've shared it with him and I'm proud of it. He also knows how much money I have in the bank, again, because I'm proud of it and I know he isn't going to tell anyone.
I know my dad's because he is 82 and has a lot invested. He is very concerned about where the money goes when he dies and I'm in charge of that. We are both in agreement that the money is for my nephews to complete any after high school college/training they need to get a head start on life.
My sister is unemployed at the moment. I have no idea how she is keeping afloat. I know she had severance and I assume she is getting unemployment now. Either that or she is living off air.
I know my nephew's hourly rate and I know how many hours he works so I guess I could do the math but it isn't any of my business, so I don't.
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Post by Gennifer on Jun 30, 2021 18:55:24 GMT
Everyone knows my income. I'm a teacher and it's public record. ETA: Is this about the Reddit AITA thread?? Because DAMN. The vacation one? If so, what a dick he was.
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Post by Kerri W on Jun 30, 2021 19:08:42 GMT
I have a rough idea of my children's salaries as they are young adults (one teen still at home) and have had questions about how to set up finances, need a little bit of help here and there, etc. We haven't hidden our income from them and it's probably been mentioned but I'm not sure. We are very open about bills, etc and always have been with our children.
I am not comfortable telling other family members. Neither of our salaries are public knowledge and oddly not searchable really so it wouldn't be easy to figure out. They also wouldn't know what investments we've made or the cash flow from those. I'm private in general about that type of thing but I also know we are in a different place than any of my family and there would be quite a bit of judgement and sadly from some, entitlement. Not so much DH's family, they are similarly employed, but they're all very private as well. We tend to live below our means and don't have the desire for a lot of toys or vacations so I think our financial picture would probably be surprising to some.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jun 30, 2021 19:30:48 GMT
My husband works for the federal government so anybody could probably find his income if they wanted to look. We don't talk to anybody about our income, though - no.
Which is funny, I guess, since I know all of their incomes. One of the by-products of being the only accountant in the family.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jun 30, 2021 19:51:07 GMT
my mom could probably make a good guess for the approximate amount that my DH and I bring in... I don't really talk to my siblings about it, but I do talk to my mom about financial issues, retirement, etc. (she used to work in a bank, and has a very good head for financial stuff.)
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