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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 4, 2021 17:45:57 GMT
Small update:
Bonus daughter #1 has signed lease on an apartment and can move in in six days. Talked to her boyfriend and they decided to just take a break and reevaluate things in a couple months. They both have childhood trauma issues they need to deal with on their own.. She has a good therapist and I think everything will work out fine.
My DD: just came home and she is fighting with her loser boyfriend. Let’s hope they break up (for good) before she moves on the 19th.
Keep the prayers and positive thoughts coming! Hope to hear about DH job interview next week.
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My family could use some prayers for a few situations right now.
First the easiest one. Today my DH has an interview for a big promotion at work. Hoping other situations don’t interfere with his interview mentally.
Bonus daughter #1 just called hysterically crying. She broke up with her boyfriend and is now homeless. She’s packing now to come here but it’s a 4 1/2 hour drive and college starts in 13 days.
Bonus daughter #2 has a very toxic relationship with her mother and needs to get out of her house. Her college starts later this month but she has decided she wants to change her major but no clue to what.
My DD moves to an apt in 15 days for college. She plans on moving her boyfriend in with her. Even tho I’ve explained she cannot legally do that according to her lease for a campus apt. He doesn’t work, doesn't go to school, doesn’t have a drivers license or a car. He is almost 21 and no ambition. Why can she not see that he’s useless? She’s a beautiful, intelligent young woman. She can do so much better.
Three different colleges, in all different directions. None close enough to live with us.
Please just say a prayer that things work out soon. My stress levels are thru the roof.
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Post by ntsf on Aug 4, 2021 17:47:38 GMT
prayers.. adult children are challenging to love too sometimes.
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Post by malibou on Aug 4, 2021 18:22:23 GMT
Wow, that is a lot!
First, sending out confident, articulate vibes to your husband for a smashing interview.
Bonus #1, breakups are so hard, I wish for her to use this as a tool for what she does and doesn't want in a relationship. I would also strongly recommend she take the time to make a detailed list of what all she needs to accomplish to pull this together on time and with a good result.
Bonus #2, does she want to stay at the same college though? Unless she is making a change that seems super out of character - research scientist to underwater basket weaving - I'd let her figure it out. I will keep her tucked up in my thoughts safely while she navigates her relationship with her mother.
Your dd, is she paying for school herself? Because I would let her know I'm not funding something that I know to be against policy. Give her the facts she needs on what will happen from the schools standpoint if/when she is caught. Then let her know what your consequences will be and hope she sees her way to a clear decision.
And a big hug to you while you wiggle out from under the pig pile.
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Post by floridagirl on Aug 4, 2021 18:25:09 GMT
Sending lots of prayers
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Post by librarylady on Aug 4, 2021 19:53:21 GMT
Prayer for your family and all the stress and mess.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Aug 4, 2021 20:01:41 GMT
Will keep you in my prayers that all the craziness will settle. Is BD#1 the one who ran off with the crazy loser BF right after graduation, or do I have you confused with someone else? If so, I'm glad she has come to her senses and is coming home.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 4, 2021 20:03:23 GMT
That is a lot to deal with - praying for all situations.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 4, 2021 20:04:27 GMT
Your dd, is she paying for school herself? Because I would let her know I'm not funding something that I know to be against policy. Give her the facts she needs on what will happen from the schools standpoint if/when she is caught. Then let her know what your consequences will be and hope she sees her way to a clear decision. THIS |
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 4, 2021 20:10:48 GMT
Will keep you in my prayers that all the craziness will settle. Is BD#1 the one who ran off with the crazy loser BF right after graduation, or do I have you confused with someone else? If so, I'm glad she has come to her senses and is coming home. No that’s not me. Thank goodness! |
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 4, 2021 20:12:57 GMT
Your dd, is she paying for school herself? Because I would let her know I'm not funding something that I know to be against policy. Give her the facts she needs on what will happen from the schools standpoint if/when she is caught. Then let her know what your consequences will be and hope she sees her way to a clear decision. THIS She has scholarships and her job pays a big chunk of her tuition. Her wages will pay for her apt and living expenses. So technically I am not paying for school. But I know she deserves better! |
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Post by malibou on Aug 4, 2021 21:25:14 GMT
She has scholarships and her job pays a big chunk of her tuition. Her wages will pay for her apt and living expenses. So technically I am not paying for school. But I know she deserves better! I'm inclined to agree with you that she deserves better, for more reasons than just what you have shared here. This must be so hard to watch. Perhaps when they move in together she will see the inequity in things. If she got caught would it affect her scholarships? |
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Aug 5, 2021 0:12:50 GMT
prayers.. adult children are challenging to love too sometimes. This. I often miss the simpler problems that they had when younger |
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 5, 2021 0:22:45 GMT
She has scholarships and her job pays a big chunk of her tuition. Her wages will pay for her apt and living expenses. So technically I am not paying for school. But I know she deserves better! I'm inclined to agree with you that she deserves better, for more reasons than just what you have shared here. This must be so hard to watch. Perhaps when they move in together she will see the inequity in things. If she got caught would it affect her scholarships? I don’t think so. |
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 5, 2021 0:23:41 GMT
prayers.. adult children are challenging to love too sometimes. This. I often miss the simpler problems that they had when younger Yes! 100% this! |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 5, 2021 1:12:52 GMT
That's a lot to worry about. I hope all the girls' situations work out for the best. And good luck to your husband with the promotion!
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 5, 2021 2:53:43 GMT
You have a lot on your plate. I'm thinking the best thoughts for your family. Your dd will hopefully grow tired of being her bf's meal ticket. Hopefully, she'll see that he's a loser and dump the chump. Let her come to her own conclusion. When she's working hard, studying and doesn't have downtime and he's watching tv all day and doing nothing she'll come to resent him. GOOD!
May your dh ace his interview.
Little children little problems. Big children big problems. Remember when we thought that chasing after a 2 year old was the hardest part of parenting? What many of us would give to be at that stage, so that we could still kiss all of their boo boos and make the hurt go away.
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 7, 2021 1:32:40 GMT
Sending prayers!
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Post by kate on Aug 7, 2021 1:50:00 GMT
Praying for some smooth waters for you and your girls, and a perfect outcome for your DH's interview!
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Post by jennifergeorge1067 on Aug 7, 2021 8:37:49 GMT
My family could use some prayers for a few situations right now. First the easiest one. Today my DH has an interview for a big promotion at work. Hoping other situations don’t interfere with his interview mentally. Bonus daughter #1 just called hysterically crying. She broke up with her boyfriend and is now homeless. She’s packing now to come here but it’s a 4 1/2 hour drive and college starts in 13 days. Bonus daughter #2 has a very toxic relationship with her mother and needs to get out of her house. Her college starts later this month but she has decided she wants to change her major but no clue to what. My DD moves to an apt in 15 days for college. She plans on moving her boyfriend in with her. Even tho I’ve explained she cannot legally do that according to her lease for a campus apt. He doesn’t work, doesn't go to school, doesn’t have a drivers license or a car. He is almost 21 and no ambition. Why can she not see that he’s useless? She’s a beautiful, intelligent young woman. She can do so much better. Three different colleges, in all different directions. None close enough to live with us. Please just say a prayer that things work out soon. My stress levels are thru the roof. I will put you on my prayer list. A group of us pray every morning at work, but I pray at home too, so you'll be covered. |
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Post by gramasue on Aug 7, 2021 12:21:23 GMT
Adding my prayers and good thoughts that your family's situations all work out for the best. It's just hell worrying about adult kids. Good luck to your DH!
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 8, 2021 1:55:19 GMT
Small update:
Bonus daughter #1 has signed lease on an apartment and can move in in six days. Talked to her boyfriend and they decided to just take a break and reevaluate things in a couple months. They both have childhood trauma issues they need to deal with on their own.. She has a good therapist and I think everything will work out fine.
My DD: just came home and she is fighting with her loser boyfriend. Let’s hope they break up (for good) before she moves on the 19th.
Keep the prayers and positive thoughts coming! Hope to hear about DH job interview next week.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 8, 2021 2:02:07 GMT
Just remember to step back and let your dd and the loser fight. If they make up you want to be her soft place to land and you don't want her defiantly leaving because you "just don't understand him". Plus, you want her to be able to come to you when they get into their next big fight. Here's hoping that this fight leads to the big breakup. Dump the chump. Repeat that to her, subliminally, 200,000,0000 times.
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 8, 2021 2:22:03 GMT
Just remember to step back and let your dd and the loser fight. If they make up you want to be her soft place to land and you don't want her defiantly leaving because you "just don't understand him". Plus, you want her to be able to come to you when they get into their next big fight. Here's hoping that this fight leads to the big breakup. Dump the chump. Repeat that to her, subliminally, 200,000,0000 times. Exactly why I posted here instead of saying what I think to her directly. Dump the chump! Dump the Chump! Dump the Chump! 😂😂 |
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