Prenups - yes or no?

If two older adults marry, each with kids from previous marriage(s), I think either a prenup or living trust spelling everything out is called for.

Depends. Are both starting out with nothing? No pre-nup. Have one or both acquired investments and cash before marriage, definitely a pre-nup.

We don’t have one (second marriage), but I’m not opposed to them. Especially if one person has significantly more assets than the other.

We have no pre-nup because we were married in the dark ages. My husband gave me ten grand before we were married to put in a bank account for him (in my name). He always says he had to marry me to get his money back. 😂🤣

I come from a working-class family and came into our marriage with student loans. My husband comes from an affluent family who paid for his education, passed on money to him, etc. His parents were very unhappy that he married someone in my financial position, and, for the 27+ years we have been together, have made any number of comments about how “grateful” I should be to have married into their family, etc. It has made me feel, as a person with multiple graduate degrees and a successful career, who has worked every day of my adult life (when going to school, too, which my husband never did) like some sort of charity case.

With those particular dynamics, if my husband had asked me for a prenup, it would have been a deal-breaker.

Now that we have kids, if something were to happen and I someday remarried, I would probably have one to protect the kids, however.

As an older adult with adult children, I would be OK with signing one. I don't know that I'd require it because if I ever was foolish enough to get married again, it would definitely be to some rich old man!

Based on my taste in men I definitely need a prenup.

My father did when he remarried 27 years ago. It spells out what goes to my step-mother’s family and what goes to my brother and me. Our step mother never had kids, but Dad wanted it all spelled out. I would do the same if I ever remarried, but DH and I didn’t have one when we married 31 years ago. We were both a month out of college and neither of us had more than our school books and clothes to our name. Everything we have now is literally marital assets.

We were both poor, in our late 20s, I had just graduated with a BS, and the year before, Dh had graduated with his JD. Neither of us was bringing anything in, but earning potential was there. We agreed to a 50/50 split and to be decent about it all and any inheritance was that persons to keep.

No prenup when we got married in our 20s but had no money.
If I were to remarry I’d have one though. I don’t think I would actually remarry though - just be in a relationship

That is hilarious. I love it!

What about those marriages where one of them works hard for the other to finish college with the understanding that they will have their turn later? You used to hear about it all the time when wife worked to help put husband through college only to have him divorce her once he finished. Sometimes it was because he found someone more educated and who suited his position better. Or you would hear about a husband who continually went to school or who never was able to get a good job because the degree was not in a lucrative field.

Before someone works hard to put a spouse through college, there should be a legal document stating what happens once the degree is achieved. Even if a spouse already has a degree and a good career, there should be agreements on what happens once he/she pays tuition for the other to get a degree.

That is the kind of prenup I would insist upon. Also, I agree if there is a disparity in wealth between the two, a prenup is wise. It shuts down any doubts not only from each other, but from family members.

And I just want to add that when my dad dies, his wife (my stepmother, though I don't really think of her that way because she's only 5 years older than me) should get everything plus a giant medal for putting up with him for far longer than my mother did or anyone else would ever want to. She's a saint. Lol

They've been married for over 25 years and I know it hasn't been easy for her. He's difficult.