finaledition
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Post by finaledition on Aug 9, 2021 20:39:17 GMT
Has this been discussed? What’s the pea consensus about parking in another person’s driveway?
In this instance, my cousin, his wife and two young kids asked if they could stay with us for the weekend (I’ll just refer to them as the Clampett’s). He had a novice race at a track in my area and I’m pretty sure my mom (his aunt) commented about our pool. So the Clampetts arrive with two cars and park in our driveway.
Our driveway is long by California standards-we have a side loading garage so the first third is about 1 1/2 cars wide and the remaining about 3 cars wide. One car is in the garage, 3 in the driveway (two are my adult kids who live in the city).
This was just one of several “🤐” moments we got to experience with them, but dh and I both agreed that we would never park our cars in another driveway blocking vehicles particularly when street parking is available. What say the peas?
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 9, 2021 20:41:58 GMT
If I was visiting, street parking unless invited to drive on the driveway. No questions. If Clampett's have older vehicles then there is the oil issue. My DH is very anal about oil on the driveway. It's gonna happen but if you know your car can leak never ever park in someone's driveway.
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iowgirl
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Post by iowgirl on Aug 9, 2021 20:45:11 GMT
I think when I arrived I would probably pull in and park in a driveway, if it was clear.
I would ask soon after arrival about where the best spot to park was. At my son's house, on street parking is super limited and you can only stay parked on the street for a limited time (HOA). So that makes me nervous about parking on street sometimes. But I would always ask.
As a host, it is OK to let them know right away where you want them parked!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 9, 2021 20:45:57 GMT
I don't know anyone who actually does this. But here driveways are short and narrow and street parking is a given. My MIL God bless her will park in my driveway if my DHs truck isn't here. We have room for two cars and mine is always at the front. And then my DH will return from wherever he's gone and she will make him move her car. So he's got to park his on the street, get her keys, move her car, and then move his into the driveway. And because it's his mother, he does it completely without complaint.  |
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Post by elaine on Aug 9, 2021 20:48:41 GMT
Hahaha! This is such a complex issue. We have WEEKLY threads on Nextdoor started by people who are annoyed that others are parking on the street, sometimes in front of their house, when there is available parking on the driveway. The overwhelming majority say that everyone, including visitors, should park in garages/driveways, rather than on the street, because on-street parking can interfere with mail delivery and trash pickup.
So, after reading thread upon thread about this, I would probably park in your driveway if there was room, and then ASK YOU if that was okay or if you wanted me to park elsewhere. I think that there are some pretty strong cultural norms/beliefs about this depending on where you live.
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Post by katlady on Aug 9, 2021 21:01:21 GMT
I would probably pull into the driveway to unload the car, then I would ask where I should park. In my community, we cannot park on the street overnight, so guest have to park in the driveway (or outside the community) and we tell people to go ahead and park in the driveway. I even tell short-time guest to park in the driveway, but many don't want to.
ETA - If we are visiting someone for only a couple of hours, we'll automatically park in the street.
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Post by Linda on Aug 9, 2021 21:04:52 GMT
where we live there is NO on-street parking - when DS visited, he parked on the driveway (he arrived late at night) and asked the next morning about the best place to park.
When we used to visit my mum - again no on-street parking, we would park in the driveway and just move vehicles around as needed.
I'm trying to think if I've ever lived somewhere (in the States) with on-street parking where we also had a driveway...I don't think so, I think either everyone did on-street parking OR there were driveways but no on-street parking.
I think the bigger lapse of etiquette was asking to stay with you rather than waiting for an invitation
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Post by melanell on Aug 9, 2021 21:05:50 GMT
Even with neighbors that we have had for decades, and in whose driveway we have been given permission to park previously, we still always ask any given time we have a reason to do so again---if at all possible, that is. Obviously, if they are not home, and the use of the driveway is both important and short, then we may go ahead and use it. But otherwise, we ask.Forget all of that. I was being a moron. Okay, Take Two: If I am visiting someone with a driveway, I typically pull into the driveway if there is room. Then once I have alerted them to the fact that I am there, I ask the best place to put my car for the duration of the visit. Probably the only exception to that would be a party, where I might not want to get caged in by other cars. But for a planned visit, I'd park in the drive at least long enough to empty my bags, unless specifically asked not to do so. These days some HOAs don't even allow for street parking, so with that in mind, I would definitely ask before opting for street parking in the case of someone I hadn't visited before.  |
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tracylynn
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Post by tracylynn on Aug 9, 2021 21:08:18 GMT
No street parking at my house, so driveway.
If someone had a large driveway like you described, I would likely pull into it as well. I would ask if I needed to move it, but my expectation would be to park in the driveway unless told differently.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 9, 2021 21:11:48 GMT
Even with neighbors that we have had for decades, and in whose driveway we have been given permission to park previously, we still always ask any given time we have a reason to do so again---if at all possible, that is. Obviously, if they are not home, and the use of the driveway is both important and short, then we may go ahead and use it. But otherwise, we ask. I think the op is taking about your driveway for your guests |
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Aug 9, 2021 21:13:07 GMT
I would ask when I arrive.
When I have company for the weekend, I usually move my car to the street so that they can put theirs in the driveway.
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Post by melanell on Aug 9, 2021 21:13:07 GMT
Even with neighbors that we have had for decades, and in whose driveway we have been given permission to park previously, we still always ask any given time we have a reason to do so again---if at all possible, that is. Obviously, if they are not home, and the use of the driveway is both important and short, then we may go ahead and use it. But otherwise, we ask. I think the op is taking about your driveway for your guests Thank you! I don't know where my head was when I read that! I'll go try again! |
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Post by rgibson on Aug 9, 2021 21:13:41 GMT
I think when I arrived I would probably pull in and park in a driveway, if it was clear. I would ask soon after arrival about where the best spot to park was. This what I would do and would expect visitors to do as well. |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 9, 2021 21:13:43 GMT
If our driveway is open, our guest park there. If for some reason I need to get out, we will just move cars around.
Sometimes we save the driveway foe the older guests, but I would totally expect my guests to park in the driveway.
Overnight? It would depend on who needed to leave first.
My kid's friends always park on the street.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Aug 9, 2021 21:16:43 GMT
If I was visiting, street parking unless invited to drive on the driveway. No questions. If Clampett's have older vehicles then there is the oil issue. My DH is very anal about oil on the driveway. It's gonna happen but if you know your car can leak never ever park in someone's driveway. This. Even if the driveway were empty, I'd park on the street. |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 9, 2021 21:17:50 GMT
Thinking about this and I usually park on the street when visiting unless it is my parents or my inlaws
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 9, 2021 21:25:23 GMT
If I was visiting, street parking unless invited to drive on the driveway. No questions. If Clampett's have older vehicles then there is the oil issue. My DH is very anal about oil on the driveway. It's gonna happen but if you know your car can leak never ever park in someone's driveway. This. Even if the driveway were empty, I'd park on the street. I would say reading the other responses, it would defiantly make sense to use a driveway if there is no off street parking, or limited parking. Or I wouldn't park in front of someone else's house unless I had to. So I would revise this a bit to say, street parking unless you just can't or it seems to be an issue. Get directions from the homeowner. |
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 9, 2021 21:31:28 GMT
In my town, we aren't allowed to park on the street overnight, so guests park in the driveway. We ask them to leave their keys on the counter in case we need to move cars.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 9, 2021 21:33:09 GMT
In my town, we aren't allowed to park on the street overnight, so guests park in the driveway. We ask them to leave their keys on the counter in case we need to move cars. the entire town? Wow. |
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 9, 2021 21:35:57 GMT
In my town, we aren't allowed to park on the street overnight, so guests park in the driveway. We ask them to leave their keys on the counter in case we need to move cars. the entire town? Wow. Yep. No overnight street parking from 2A-5A. You can request temp overnight parking through a form on our village site, and you can request 4 nights/month. If longer term street parking is needed, you can consult with the police department for special dispensation (long term guest or construction). So, there is some flexibility there. |
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Post by Patter on Aug 9, 2021 21:51:06 GMT
We have plenty of room, and we are also at the end of the cul-de-sac. It's hard to park in the circle out on the street. I don't mind at all if people are in my driveway.
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finaledition
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Post by finaledition on Aug 9, 2021 22:27:37 GMT
I think the bigger lapse of etiquette was asking to stay with you rather than waiting for an invitation Well they would've been waiting forever as we are not close at all. I really love my aunt and uncle, but I have limited contact with my cousin. I didn't even get invited to his wedding and have never received a thank you (written or otherwise) for gifts I sent for wedding or their kids' births so honestly should I have expected them to have any manners when they came, absolutely not. I felt a bit put on the spot and figured it was just the weekend (Fri-Sun), how bad could it be?? Hahahaha. Live and learn. Hahaha! This is such a complex issue. We have WEEKLY threads on Nextdoor started by people who are annoyed that others are parking on the street, sometimes in front of their house, when there is available parking on the driveway. The overwhelming majority say that everyone, including visitors, should park in garages/driveways, rather than on the street, because on-street parking can interfere with mail delivery and trash pickup. So, after reading thread upon thread about this, I would probably park in your driveway if there was room, and then ASK YOU if that was okay or if you wanted me to park elsewhere. I think that there are some pretty strong cultural norms/beliefs about this depending on where you live. I figured that their would not be a consensus on this as the situation varies widely. I know that for friends, I would only park in their driveway if my car was idling and I was dropping off and picking up. With our driveway, it is on the side of our house and there's not direct route to the front door so you're not in a better place to unpack your luggage. There's street parking directly in front of our door so it seems the more obvious place to park especially with it being a weekend and no need to worry about garbage cans or street cleaners. If they had made one comment about confirming it was ok, it would have been a non-issue, it was just the assumption that blocking 4 cars was perfectly fine and they didn't even try to get close to the hedge, they parked dead middle. I'm probably still reeling from this visit. I'd blame their lack of manners on their age (late thirties), but my kids (early twenties) know better-they are just idiots. |
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Post by Gennifer on Aug 9, 2021 22:29:57 GMT
I would expect my guests to park in our driveway, and I would probably park in theirs, and (hopefully remember to) ask if that was where they wanted me.
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Post by MerryMom on Aug 9, 2021 22:32:58 GMT
I think when I arrived I would probably pull in and park in a driveway, if it was clear. I would ask soon after arrival about where the best spot to park was. At my son's house, on street parking is super limited and you can only stay parked on the street for a limited time (HOA). So that makes me nervous about parking on street sometimes. But I would always ask. As a host, it is OK to let them know right away where you want them parked! This |
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Post by leannec on Aug 9, 2021 22:47:11 GMT
People can't park on my street on weekdays ... nights and weekends are OK ... I'm fine with my friends and family parking on my driveway If I was the visitor I would park on the driveway and then ask where I should park ... |
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Post by gizzy on Aug 9, 2021 22:48:50 GMT
I never gave it a thought to park in the driveway. Unless I was attending a party, then I'd park in the street. From now on, I will ask the homeowner.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Aug 9, 2021 22:53:53 GMT
I would probably pull into the driveway when I first arrived, and ask where the best place to park would be.
If we visit our friends' house for the day and they're not going anywhere during the time we're there, they will tell us to go ahead and park in the driveway. But that's just for the day. Otherwise, there would be a lot of jockeying cars around if someone had to leave the house. It also does depend on the situation- at my parents' house, the driveways are really long, there's not a curb, and the street isn't really wide enough for on-street parking (small town). So when we go back for holidays, etc. we always have to do the 'jockeying' around thing.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Aug 9, 2021 23:08:27 GMT
I've never really thought about it. If I had a guest park in the driveway and I didn't want them to, after they unloaded their things I would ask them to move to the street.
What does surprise me is the large number of people here who feel obligated to host guests that they don't want.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 9, 2021 23:41:00 GMT
If there is room, I always let my house guest park in my driveway but I will tell them to let me pull out and let them in so my car is in the back (since I usually do the driving for all of us). If they will be using their car more than me, then I will park in front of them.
However, when I go to visit someone, I always park on the street unless they tell me otherwise. So...IMO, the Clampetts should have checked with you and asked you where it would be best for them to park. If they aren't parked in a good location, notify them to park elsewhere (or re-arrange the cars)
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Post by breetheflea on Aug 9, 2021 23:53:51 GMT
We have a wide driveway built to fit giant 1970's cars, we can fit three cars across) and plenty of street parking (because no one that lives around here parks on the street because of the huge driveways.
I don't care if anyone parks in my driveway, but usually don't park in anyone's driveway when I'm visiting, I don't know why.
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