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Post by kelly316 on Aug 11, 2021 1:45:41 GMT
I would do it now. Having to hear his idiotic thoughts on anything from politics to COVID is unbelievable. If I ever decide to date again, these topics will be added to the questionnaire. 😂 Anyone else dealing with this with an ex or dating?
ETA: Additionally, does anyone have experience with disagreeing with ex regarding vaccinating a child (approved age) for COVID? He already takes the child everywhere maskless during his time and there’s nothing I can do about that.
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Post by PLurker on Aug 11, 2021 2:05:35 GMT
I hear you and have said the same thing. If not for previous other reasons, the election of TFG and onward would have sunk us for sure. And in some ways I'd have an even lower opinion of him.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 11, 2021 3:16:55 GMT
I’ve been very outspoken and talked about my struggle with my dh and his political views on here. You can look at my previous posts. We both have said , if we had to do it all again, no way, no how would we be together. We’ve been married 33 years. Back then you didn’t talk about politics. Back then I was young, I had no idea what I believed in. Or how to express it. Now, I know what I believe and I’ve come in to my own about it, and hell if I’m backing down or playing MN nice about it. Oooh we fight, big time about politics but we are still together and making it work
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Post by kelly316 on Aug 11, 2021 3:28:10 GMT
I hear you and have said the same thing. If not for previous other reasons, the election of TFG and onward would have sunk us for sure. And in some ways I'd have an even lower opinion of him. Yes, I didn’t know it was possible to think less of him! |
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Post by kelly316 on Aug 11, 2021 3:29:50 GMT
I’ve been very outspoken and talked about my struggle with my dh and his political views on here. You can look at my previous posts. We both have said , if we had to do it all again, no way, no how would we be together. We’ve been married 33 years. Back then you didn’t talk about politics. Back then I was young, I had no idea what I believed in. Or how to express it. Now, I know what I believe and I’ve come in to my own about it, and he’ll if I’m backing down or playing MN nice about it. Oooh we fight, big time about politics but we are still together and making it work Good for you! Yours is an even more complicated scenario. I’m sure it is tough, but I hate to see a 33 year marriage end over it. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 11, 2021 3:32:49 GMT
Add to the questionnaire.... Will you have any issues with me buying more scrapbook paper, when I already have 1000 pieces. If that's going to be a problem for you, then >> BYE!   |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 11, 2021 3:34:17 GMT
My high school sweetheart and I are friends on fb. Now way would it have worked as our politics do not mesh at all.
Dh started medium right. Now he leans just a bit to the left
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Post by Really Red on Aug 11, 2021 3:46:03 GMT
I’ve been very outspoken and talked about my struggle with my dh and his political views on here. You can look at my previous posts. We both have said , if we had to do it all again, no way, no how would we be together. We’ve been married 33 years. Back then you didn’t talk about politics. Back then I was young, I had no idea what I believed in. Or how to express it. Now, I know what I believe and I’ve come in to my own about it, and he’ll if I’m backing down or playing MN nice about it. Oooh we fight, big time about politics but we are still together and making it work I talked about politics back then. I would never - EVER - have chosen someone who didn't agree with me politically, morally and ethically. We still agree with all of that. But I see a lot of couples who - like you - got along fine until 2016. I mean I have dropped "friends" who supported Trump. Those values do not align with mine. I never did that with Bush. |
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Post by PLurker on Aug 11, 2021 3:55:20 GMT
I’ve been very outspoken and talked about my struggle with my dh and his political views on here. You can look at my previous posts. We both have said , if we had to do it all again, no way, no how would we be together. We’ve been married 33 years. Back then you didn’t talk about politics. Back then I was young, I had no idea what I believed in. Or how to express it. Now, I know what I believe and I’ve come in to my own about it, and he’ll if I’m backing down or playing MN nice about it. Oooh we fight, big time about politics but we are still together and making it work Good for you, sincerely, that you can make it work. For me though when he knows and continues to support the side and folks that don't think our child deserves equal rights, and some on that side think they shouldn't exist, yeah fuq that 'dad'. How can you claim to love your children and vote for that sh!t? Cuz "fiscal reasons" from a fiscally ignorant and lower/mid wage earner, but that's always the "other guys" fault too. 🙄 Obviously my own children further awakened my left leaning more quickly and fully but I would like to think I would feel the same way about other people's children, too. My kids say I would/do which is why all the wide range of cool/weirdos drama kids were comfortable in my home, they say. I know now that things I knew way back when about some of them, were not common knowledge in their own homes. Sad. ETA. to clarify further, XDH views became more "warped" and he more bitter the longer he had alcohol un his system/life. Killed too many brain cells I'm afraid. If they (views) were same way back when... well I probably wouldn't have my 2 wonderful kids, so I'm grateful for that. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 11, 2021 4:00:17 GMT
I’ve been very outspoken and talked about my struggle with my dh and his political views on here. You can look at my previous posts. We both have said , if we had to do it all again, no way, no how would we be together. We’ve been married 33 years. Back then you didn’t talk about politics. Back then I was young, I had no idea what I believed in. Or how to express it. Now, I know what I believe and I’ve come in to my own about it, and he’ll if I’m backing down or playing MN nice about it. Oooh we fight, big time about politics but we are still together and making it work I talked about politics back then. I would never - EVER - have chosen someone who didn't agree with me politically, morally and ethically. We still agree with all of that. But I see a lot of couples who - like you - got along fine until 2016. I mean I have dropped "friends" who supported Trump. Those values do not align with mine. I never did that with Bush. Good for you! I mean we may have, briefly? But the politics of these days and back then?! They just seem so much further apart. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 11, 2021 4:03:01 GMT
I’ve been very outspoken and talked about my struggle with my dh and his political views on here. You can look at my previous posts. We both have said , if we had to do it all again, no way, no how would we be together. We’ve been married 33 years. Back then you didn’t talk about politics. Back then I was young, I had no idea what I believed in. Or how to express it. Now, I know what I believe and I’ve come in to my own about it, and he’ll if I’m backing down or playing MN nice about it. Oooh we fight, big time about politics but we are still together and making it work Good for you, sincerely, that you can make it work. For me though when he knows and continues to support the side and folks that don't think our child deserves equal rights, and some on that side think they shouldn't exist, yeah fuq that 'dad'. How can you claim to love your children and vote for that sh!t? Cuz "fiscal reasons" from a fiscally ignorant and lower/mid wage earner, but that's always the "other guys" fault too. 🙄 Obviously my own children further awakened my left leaning more quickly and fully but I would like to think I would feel the same way about other people's children, too. My kids say I would/do which is why all the wide range of cool/weirdos drama kids were comfortable in my home, they say. I know now that things I knew way back when about some of them, were not common knowledge in their own homes. Sad. Oh I get it. I do have to say he is much more a republican then a trumplican. And doesn’t totally follow everything they do, and same goes for me and being a liberal. They want us to be so black and white, but it’s not!! |
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Post by PLurker on Aug 11, 2021 4:39:11 GMT
Good for you, sincerely, that you can make it work. For me though when he knows and continues to support the side and folks that don't think our child deserves equal rights, and some on that side think they shouldn't exist, yeah fuq that 'dad'. How can you claim to love your children and vote for that sh!t? Cuz "fiscal reasons" from a fiscally ignorant and lower/mid wage earner, but that's always the "other guys" fault too. 🙄 Obviously my own children further awakened my left leaning more quickly and fully but I would like to think I would feel the same way about other people's children, too. My kids say I would/do which is why all the wide range of cool/weirdos drama kids were comfortable in my home, they say. I know now that things I knew way back when about some of them, were not common knowledge in their own homes. Sad. Oh I get it. I do have to say he is much more a republican then a trumplican. And doesn’t totally follow everything they do, and same goes for me and being a liberal. They want us to be so black and white, but it’s not!! I get what you're saying but voting republican these days is voting for the above mentioned horrors, trump or no trump. Those are still on the republican side, part of their agenda. What's more important/worth it on their agenda than that? Nothing in my mind. I am happy for you and your marriage that you can separate the two. I dont know I could, probably in good part because of my kids and a lot of the inequities I've seen and know to exist. |
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 11, 2021 6:05:25 GMT
It used to be political leaning had nothing to do with ethics or morals. Even Nixon had enough shame to resign. But, I doubt it will ever happen again. There is no shame anywhere for what they have done.
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Post by kelly316 on Aug 14, 2021 3:26:28 GMT
Bumping for my additional question.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 14, 2021 3:30:53 GMT
Bumping for my additional question. It would depend on what the court documents say about medical decisions, but only one parent has to be there so if I wasn't breaking any court order, I'd do it. |
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Post by kelly316 on Aug 14, 2021 3:34:43 GMT
Bumping for my additional question. It would depend on what the court documents say about medical decisions, but only one parent has to be there so if I wasn't breaking any court order, I'd do it. Ugh, it probably says joint decisions. I think I would win if he took me to court though. Seriously regretting marrying an idiot and having a child with said idiot. |
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