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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2021 19:52:53 GMT
DH had a routine CT scan for his post-bladder/prostate cancer. It showed 2 small lesions in his liver. They set up an appt with the Oncology team dealing with Neuroendocrine cancer, and we went this morning....
The Oncologist had very grim news. His type of cancer in his liver is HIGHLY aggressive right from the start. It's 80% aggressive, which is dire. This didn't metastasize from his previous cancer. They'll do a PET scan on Saturday to try to find out where it originated (they're thinking it's the colon, pancreas or lungs).
He begins chemo next week. They want to do it right away, but they need to learn more about how his cancer is forming, etc......... They'll know more from the PET scan. The chemo will be 3 consecutive days per week for 3 weeks, if he could tolerate it. Then more scans, and then they hope to repeat it all for 3 more weeks.
All they could do is to scan him, try to shrink the tumor with chemo/drugs and watch it. He asked for a timeline of life. They don't like to answer that, especially without the PET scan and other tests, but she said that it's "a few months to 2 years maximum" if he's able to do the chemo, etc. We weren't expecting that at all. Neuroendocrine cancer is usually very slow growing. SO many friends called us to tell us stories of people they know with it. His response was, "Well, I want to make it to 80 because no one in my family lived that long, but the Lord watches over me and I trust him, and I've lived a very good life." Ugh. I just wish I was back in NY with family and friends. This will be a very tough road all alone. xo
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 16, 2021 19:55:08 GMT
I’m so, so sorry to hear this! Keeping you all in my prayers!
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Post by christine58 on Aug 16, 2021 19:55:32 GMT
I am sorry. Is there any way you can get back to NY? You and your DH have a lot to think through. Quality vs quantity of life. Hugs
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Post by dmopal on Aug 16, 2021 19:56:00 GMT
I'm so sorry for your bad news. Hoping and praying that the scans show something different.
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Post by inkedup on Aug 16, 2021 19:57:39 GMT
I am wrapping you in love and care. You are part of the Pea family and I am just so sorry you and DH are going through this.
Please vent here and let us know what we can do to support you through this. I'm so sorry.
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Post by Jili on Aug 16, 2021 19:59:08 GMT
I’m so very sorry. I also hope the PET scans are more positive.
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 16, 2021 20:01:27 GMT
I am so sorry. I am keeping you and your DH in my thoughts and prayers. Is there anyway that some family could come down to Florida to be with you?
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 16, 2021 20:02:40 GMT
Very sorry for you received bad news...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2021 20:07:11 GMT
I’m sorry. Hope the PET scan will result in better news.
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Post by emelle64 on Aug 16, 2021 20:16:18 GMT
I am so terribly sorry. I hope that the pet scan provides some hope.
Emelle
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Post by birukitty on Aug 16, 2021 20:22:15 GMT
Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry you received this terrible news Bergdorblonde! Please know that we are all here for you. I'll be praying for you both and I'm sending you big hugs.
Hopefully the PET scans will give you better news.
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Post by purplebee on Aug 16, 2021 20:22:24 GMT
So sad to hear this. Keeping you both in my prayers.
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Post by katlaw on Aug 16, 2021 20:30:25 GMT
I am so sad to read this today. Sending you lots of love and healing thoughts. We are always here for you, praying for you and your DH.
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Post by used2scrap on Aug 16, 2021 20:31:45 GMT
I’m so sorry for this news.
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Post by Zee on Aug 16, 2021 20:32:15 GMT
Hugs and love to you both ❤️ I'm so sorry for what you're going through
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Post by gillyp on Aug 16, 2021 20:40:20 GMT
Ugh. Every.single.time you get back up, you are pushed straight back down again. I am so sorry. Sending many hugs and positivity.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2021 20:44:50 GMT
Not the update I hoped for. Gosh darn it, now I am getting teary eyed. You are both loved and we are all sending warming, comforting hugs.
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Post by tracylynn on Aug 16, 2021 20:44:50 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear this news! You and your husband will be in my thoughts.
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Post by peabay on Aug 16, 2021 20:47:08 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope this goes the best it can go.
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Post by marmargirl on Aug 16, 2021 20:48:31 GMT
I’m so sorry. Sending you lots of love. ❤️
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 16, 2021 20:48:35 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear your update. Sending strength and caring vibes
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2021 20:49:21 GMT
Thank you all for your words of support. I'm in tears reading them.
I keep mulling over the move to NY, but we'd need a very wealthy fairy to make it happen. We're in a 3 bedroom apartment that's packed with stuff. No one down here is interested in buying anything, even if it's $1, because people are constantly moving and getting rid of their belongings. We'd need moving people who help box everything up. Besides that, we have nothing saved $$wise now, due to medical bills for the past few years. We'd never be approved even for a 1 bedroom in NY....... (Stinks that they don't take into account that in 10 years we've NEVER been late with our rent). So, I doubt it'll happen..
As far as family coming down to visit: Right now they're all extremely hesitant with FL being a hotspot. I'm sure that when DH's situation gets more critical, they'll come down. (I can't hope for even a phonecall from DH's own adult children though--long story there, and right now it's "heartbreaking" for DH, so I'll just hope for the best there).
The PET scan is just to see where the liver cancer originated from. It's DEFINITELY an aggressive neuroendocrine cancer in his liver. They'll be able to see how his cells are behaving from the PET scan and other tests. The most we could hope for is the 2 years, at best.
Thank you all again. Sometimes I can't even get on the phone with DH so closeby, so posting here really does help. xo
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Post by Linda on Aug 16, 2021 20:49:25 GMT
I'm so very sorry. I hope the PET scan gives some direction and hope. ((((Hugs))) and prayers
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Post by Really Red on Aug 16, 2021 20:50:54 GMT
Oh no. Not the news we so hoped to hear. I am sorry. I hope that your DH is the exception. I know you have to be strong for him. We'll be strong for you  |
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Post by bbkeef on Aug 16, 2021 20:52:06 GMT
Hugs, hugs and more hugs!
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Post by PLurker on Aug 16, 2021 20:52:18 GMT
I'm so sorry. Wishing you both the best. ((Hugs))
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Post by tentoes on Aug 16, 2021 21:03:43 GMT
Praying for good results from the chemo. ((HUGS)) After all you guys have been through, this breaks my heart.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2021 21:04:19 GMT
I am so sorry for everything you are both going through, keeping you in my thoughts.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Aug 16, 2021 21:06:42 GMT
I'm so sorry the news wasn't more encouraging. I hope with the additional information they're hoping to get, they'll be able to revise things in a bit more positive manner. Virtual hugs and wishes for the best possible outcome for both of you.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 16, 2021 21:08:50 GMT
Oh no! I'm so, so sorry. You're the second of my friends in a few weeks whose DH has been given a similar prognosis.  |
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