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Post by mammajamma on Sept 29, 2021 3:48:22 GMT
Feels like everyone is so divided. I feel like I lost a good friend today due to covid irreconcilable differences. Got many wondering how many others have lost friendships during the pandemic.
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 29, 2021 3:53:42 GMT
True friends, none. Acquaintances, a couple. There are just those people who have shown me who they really are in this time and it's made me realize we are pretty incompatible on some fundamental levels.
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Post by ntsf on Sept 29, 2021 4:00:31 GMT
I live in a bubble so not really. I anticipate trouble when I meet my son's new inlaws.. they are big trumpers.. but they live across the country so I won't see them often
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Post by Zee on Sept 29, 2021 4:04:41 GMT
I unfriended a few on Facebook, but no one I truly care about. I agree to disagree a lot of the time if it's someone I care about, but some people aren't worth it.
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Post by paget on Sept 29, 2021 4:09:07 GMT
I haven’t lost any friends but I have a very small bubble.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2021 4:17:12 GMT
3 good friends. At first I was sad but that lasted about a day or two.
Then I became glad because it was just so stressful.
And I ha e gained a few new friends. And I am thankful for them.
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Post by travelsoul on Sept 29, 2021 4:27:49 GMT
I lost a really good friend because of politics. My best friend won’t get vaccinated and that’s caused strain and we aren’t spending time with each other in person. I’d give her more grace but her reasons for not getting the shot are ridiculous and hypocritical.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2021 5:21:13 GMT
None yet. Hoping it stays that way.
If I had friends like this, I'd be miserable.
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Post by snowsilver on Sept 29, 2021 5:23:04 GMT
I have lost none, and I will lose none. I live in a very red area of New York and at least half (probably more) of the area is anti-vaxxers. I believe in the vaccine. I wear a mask. I believe in--and follow--all the protocols. Many, MANY of my friends do not. Because I love them, I have taken the time to actually listen to their reasoning and study the other side of the equation. I do not find them idiots. In fact, most of them are well educated. We find that we each have eminent scientists who support our respective sides. I disagree with them. They disagree with me.
But I believe they are more important than our disagreements. They have brought joy, friendship and caring into our relationships for more years than I can say. I do not disregard this. They are my friends. They will remain my friends. My love for them is large enough to allow for disagreements.
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Post by brynn on Sept 29, 2021 6:01:54 GMT
Probably one. Other friendships have become stronger. I have known this person since I was 14 years old, but there were differences in views as we aged. The pandemic has caused these differences to intensify.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Sept 29, 2021 6:20:12 GMT
None. A few have been paused because of contact issues but I've gained far more.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 29, 2021 6:23:48 GMT
For me it has been family and in-laws that have been the problem. Husband's family are just not interested in getting vaccinated and a week ago we learned that his BIL lost his fight with Covid. Two other members of his family have Covid right now. My own sister and brothers just don't take it serious either and my sister had Covid between Thanksgiving and Christmas last year. Her response? She was happy she got to see her grandchildren before she got it. AND she told me she was not going to be vaccinated. I have not spoke to her since we talked on the phone last Spring.
We have not gone No Contact, just have not really been interested in talking to them (both my family and his family)so as to not alienate them. So one could say we lost them as friends for the time being. They know how we feel and they know we don't approve of their attitudes so what else is there to say?
Friends? I have just been keeping in our bubble and not starting any arguments with friends. There is no changing anyone's mind so what is the use? One of these days we will come out the other end where Covid is a way of life and we will see then how it goes.
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Post by lucyg on Sept 29, 2021 6:27:16 GMT
I really can’t think of any. Everyone I know, even the conservatives, have been careful about social distancing, masking, and vaccinating. Now, discussing politics is another matter. There are a few I need to avoid that with.  |
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Post by gar on Sept 29, 2021 7:17:12 GMT
None, but the UK doesn't have the very stark political/Covid links you have there, on the whole.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2021 8:04:14 GMT
None. I might not have seen as many in person over the last 18 months but that isn't because of any division or disagreements over our actions over the pandemic. Lockdowns and logistics have made it a little difficult but all that is beginning to get back to normal now - I just need more time in the day!
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Post by mollycoddle on Sept 29, 2021 8:26:30 GMT
One. A friend since college, which was a very long time ago. She is very bitter about the election, calls Covid a “scam,” and is very vocal about it. Apparently I am a “sheep.” Oh well. These things happen. I miss the person that she used to be.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 29, 2021 10:04:09 GMT
@zingermack the woman has got to be taking the piss, surely. I can't find the original source.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2021 10:43:43 GMT
No real friends were lost. Several casual acquaintances were dropped, some because we simply weren't in the same stuff anymore and others because they showed their true colors. Contact with several in-laws and my family - all cousins of ours - have been cut off. They all believe in the Big Lie.
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Post by J u l e e on Sept 29, 2021 10:49:26 GMT
Zero. And I have friends who think and believe very differently than me. None are like girl in the video though. If they were, no matter the history of our friendship, it would not continue.
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Post by peabay on Sept 29, 2021 10:51:05 GMT
I live in a bubble so not really. I anticipate trouble when I meet my son's new inlaws.. they are big trumpers.. but they live across the country so I won't see them often Ditto everything - but replace "son" with "daughter." That being said, they are vaccinated - so they're not entirely stupid. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2021 11:29:37 GMT
I can understand why friendships can be under strain and lost.
I think that people are generally more understanding if you already have pre-existing health problem and are more vulnerable so can’t be as sociable as you normally would.
If one person takes maximum precautions and the other doesn’t it can potentailly literally and metaphorically kill a friendship if meeting in person.
I think that if there was more accurate news reporting about the spread of the virus and the necessary precautions required and told in such a way without omission or bias then people would be more likely to be on the same page fighting the virus rather than each other.
We have been lucky in that keeping in touch via phone and online has been enough . One friend makes pots of homemade jam and grows their own veg and drops them at our door and we give them a wave out the window and they are very understanding.
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Post by mom on Sept 29, 2021 11:43:15 GMT
None.
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Post by peasapie on Sept 29, 2021 11:54:54 GMT
My relatives and a few acquaintances and I have been very careful not to offend each other. I’ve deleted a bunch of contacts on FB if they are constantly banging the drum, but people whom I truly care about, I just ignore. I’m never going to change everyone’s minds so I don’t try.
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Post by teddyw on Sept 29, 2021 11:58:14 GMT
No friends but my DD’s fil refuses to be vaccinated. She’s having a baby in a few weeks and he was told by his son he can’t see him until he’s fully vaccinated including the flu and pertussis booster. The pediatrician gave them a list printed out by them to give to family.
My sister’s dh and dd also refuse. We never saw them before the pandemic so no loss.
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Post by monklady123 on Sept 29, 2021 12:02:24 GMT
I live in a blue bubble so thankfully no, I haven't lost any good friendships. It's interesting though that even friends who live scattered around the country are all Democrats, except one who I know is Republican and she hates trump.
Acquaintances though, yes.... But I wouldn't say I've "lost" them as much as now I know not to be too friendly. Polite, but not friendly.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 29, 2021 12:08:24 GMT
Lots of school mom acquaintances. Some pulled their kids out of school entirely. Some moved. Some have shown themselves to be antimaskers and I just can't abide by that.
It feels really lonely when I pick the kids up.
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Post by sawwhet on Sept 29, 2021 12:12:57 GMT
So far, none. Although I do look at a few neighbour's differently. One neighbour is an antivaxxer and posts Youtube or TikTok videos of random nobodies on Facebook declaring that the vaccine is dangerous.
My family and friends are all vaccinated. Many of my close friends are scientists from university so they're good.
Dh's friend (who I'm friends with on FB) is an antivaxxer but he's not nuts and understands that people have different views. He's 64 yrs old, has a heart condition and works with a lot of people in a factory. Doesn't make sense to me but not my problem.
All crazies on FB have been unfollowed to prevent my blood from boiling.
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Post by disneypal on Sept 29, 2021 12:34:40 GMT
None - my friends and I may not always see eye to eye on things but I'm not going to let things like the come between us.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 29, 2021 12:35:08 GMT
@zingermack the woman has got to be taking the piss, surely. I can't find the original source. That we've got so many moronic thinkers that you can no longer tell the difference is the horrendous part. Poe's law in action. |
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Post by supersoda on Sept 29, 2021 12:44:48 GMT
I finally made the final cut with a friend early in the pandemic. She was someone I always kept at arms length because of high drama and big differences in life choices, but we were close in high school and she understood parts of my history that most people don’t.
We survived big political differences by just not talking about them and keeping our margarita meet-ups focused on work and family. But I couldn’t get past the anti-masking and ignorant travel-planning at the height of the pandemic. (I pulled away before vaccines came up, so I don’t even know where she fell on that, but I can guess.)
I lost another friend and former work colleague a couple of weeks ago because he died of Covid. We never discussed political issues and I had no idea he wasn’t vaxxed.
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