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Post by craftedbys on Nov 25, 2021 16:28:56 GMT
Naturally I am missing my Mom and my sister, but today I have a miss my MIL something fierce.
Thanksgiving was "her" holiday. Oh she spoiled my kids (her only grands) terribly at Christmas (and all through the year) and always had every inch of her house decorated for Christmas.
But Thanksgiving was when she really shined. She loved to cook (did it for her career) and would spend all week cooking for her side of the family, despite them being a bunch of lazy, ungrateful locusts.
Seriously, some would come in right when dinner was supposed to be served, push their way to the front to fill their plate even before the mamas could fill plates for the little ones, then sit in the most comfortable spots and when they were finished count get off their lazy asses to even carry their plate to the trash. Some didn't even have the good manners to say thank you, much less speak to DH and our family who were the only ones not local.
Despite their rudeness, she was never less than gracious.
Although she cooked massive amounts of food (that noone else offered to help pay for) she always made extra and kept back so our family could enjoy leftovers.
Thanksgiving was also when she brought out (after everyone was gone) the first batch of chex mix of the year and the first batch of fudge, two of DH's favorites.
I have so many wonderful memories of our Black Friday adventures, years before you could shop online and had to get yourself out of your nice warm bed and go out in the cold before the ass crack of dawn to buy toys for the babies.
Our BF shopping was planned out and executed like a precision military strike (I did learn something from DH's years in the Army) and and I never worried about losing her in a crowd because she had a voice that could carry throughout a store and any time she was in line she was chatting with total strangers and making friends.
I know DH and the kids are missing her as well, she was a hell of a lady, one of the last of the Big Shouldered Broads.
I love you Miss Pat,
aka Grandma Fred
Please share your stories of who you are missing this Thanksgiving.
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Post by anaterra on Nov 25, 2021 16:56:44 GMT
That is such a sweet testament... im sure she loved yall dearly...
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Post by lindas on Nov 25, 2021 17:06:20 GMT
So sorry you’re missing such a wonderful person today, hang on to those good memories.
I’m just missing everyone this year. Thanksgiving and Christmas are no longer my favorite holidays.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 25, 2021 17:20:34 GMT
I miss my brother right now. He would crack a joke and lighten up the tension.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 25, 2021 17:24:00 GMT
My dad...this was by far his most favorite holiday. He is so missed....
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Post by hop2 on Nov 25, 2021 17:33:24 GMT
A lot of people.
But mostly my dad & my sister
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Post by littlemama on Nov 25, 2021 17:35:59 GMT
My father in law, my gramma, dh's grandma. These are all older losses.
To anyone who has had a more recent loss, it does get better. The pain becomes less sharp with time.
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 25, 2021 17:48:04 GMT
I know it isnt the same, but my husband isnt home for Thanksgiving and I hate it.
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Post by scrapmaven on Nov 25, 2021 17:49:13 GMT
I miss my parents. Though I have a happy life, it's never been the same w/o them.
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Post by Why on Nov 25, 2021 18:00:09 GMT
So sorry you’re missing such a wonderful person today, hang on to those good memories. I’m just missing everyone this year. Thanksgiving and Christmas are no longer my favorite holidays. .......................................  |
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Post by Ramona on Nov 25, 2021 18:14:01 GMT
I'm missing my Husband and Dad. My husband passed in Oct 2019 from Leukemia (he fought it for 14 years). My dad came down every morning after the funeral and we would have coffee. He is the only reason I got out of bed. In Dec 2019, Dad passed unexpectedly. Two weeks later, our dog died.
In Sept 2021, my cousin passed and this Sunday his father will be buried. It seems like 2019 all over again.
Both my Husband and Dad loved oyster dressing for Thanksgiving. Husband would buy a gallon of oysters!!
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Nov 25, 2021 18:52:30 GMT
This is the first Thanksgiving since my husband died. It will be so strange to not have him at the table.
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Post by sueg on Nov 25, 2021 19:01:08 GMT
I don’t celebrate Thanksgiving - I am not American nor do I live there, so it just isn’t on my radar. But today would have been my Aunty Pat’s 79th birthday, and it popped up on my Facebook feed this morning, which shook me a bit. She only passed at the end of October, so it is still a bit raw.
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Post by lesley on Nov 25, 2021 19:08:04 GMT
To those of you missing someone precious today - I am so sorry. craftedbys, thank you for sharing your memories of your MIL. You have described her so vividly that I can clearly picture her. 🥰 |
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Post by katybee on Nov 25, 2021 19:21:16 GMT
My mom. I make Thanksgiving dinner exactly as she taught me. As I’ve been cooking today, I’ve been imagining what she would say if she could see me. I think she would be shocked that I can pull it all off!
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Post by destined2bmom on Nov 25, 2021 19:21:52 GMT
I am so sorry for everyone who is missing someone.
My sister passed away 12 years ago today. I miss her and my mom. But I am so glad that I am having a nice day with my DH, sons and the dog.
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Post by malibou on Nov 25, 2021 19:51:13 GMT
Yes, I liked your posts. I liked them as a way to show support for those that made our holidays better for just being there.
As a kid we had the big Thanksgiving dinner with all of our relatives. I loved those dinners! As an adult, I haven't been to a big Thanksgiving dinner. I have always lived far from my side of the family and Dh has a little family that are British, and didn't really celebrate it. So what I am missing is the big ass family gathering with all of its smiles, laughter, practical jokes, someone drinking too much, delicious food (and some that sucks), catching up with my cousins, playing games, and even the washing up.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2021 19:55:08 GMT
My dad and my ILs. Grateful for the love and memories.
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Post by lisae on Nov 25, 2021 21:09:07 GMT
Thanksgiving is not a big holiday for us. My mother hated to cook and was grateful for any meal she didn't have to prepare. I think the last Thanksgiving meal she fixed was when I was a child and there were few of those because my grandmother cooked most years.
At this time of the year, I most miss my favorite aunt. Her birthday would have been this week. It was always near Thanksgiving, sometimes on the day itself. She had terrible degenerative joint disease but it did not stop her from whatever she wanted to do on the farm. She was a lot of fun. Dh and I would walk over to her house for a visit and sit and gossip in her very warm 1950's era kitchen with it's wrap around windows, original printed linoleum, those 50's vinyl dining chairs, and new bird themed clock that made a different bird call on the hour.
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Post by FurryP on Nov 25, 2021 21:35:39 GMT
Most recently I am missing my parents. But also the Thanksgiving celebrations we would have when I was growing up. My aunt and uncle, my cousins, their kids. So much fun and adventure. Now we are all spread out.
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Post by mom on Nov 25, 2021 21:55:09 GMT
My mom and my daughter.
My mom loved having everyone together for Thanksgiving. She would have loved today with everyone around the table.
I realized the other day that my daughter should be spending her last year at home this year. She’d be a senior and we should be looking at colleges and all that entails. I caught myself today wondering how things would be different if she had lived.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Nov 25, 2021 23:32:42 GMT
My fil. He passed in September. It was unexpected. He had lived with us since 2009. We were his only family. I wouldn't say we were super super close. But he had been my family longer than he hadn't (we've been married almost 21 years). I found myself weepy this week. It didn't help that our dd got her first college acceptance late last week. The first things she posted on facebook was that her grandpa would be so proud of her right now.
He always made the corn. It was fresh corn. He'd shuck it and scrap it off the cob and cook it. I really wish I had asked him how he made it. For some reason at 73, I didn't think to. He taught me how to make his mom's mac-n-cheese years ago. That has been my signature for years now. So I have that to pass on.
While we were missing him today, we did add some new faces to our table. So that was nice.
Hugs to all of ya'll missing someone today and everyday.
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Post by disneypal on Nov 25, 2021 23:33:42 GMT
Everyone in my family-I am alone this year My brother & dad are no longer living & I especially miss them My sis-in-law, niece & her family are in New Zealand My sister went to visit my mom in another state. Since sis went out of town, I needed to stay behind to watch our pets (she has taken care of mine a lot lately since I have been out of town quite a bit the past few months This was this first Thanksgiving that I have spent all alone  |
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Post by jenjie on Nov 25, 2021 23:58:41 GMT
Thank you for sharing sweet stories of Miss Pat with us.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 26, 2021 0:10:52 GMT
Today I worked on the yard. We'll have dinner with the kids tomorrow, so for me, it just didn't feel like Thanksgiving. I think that helped in missing both of my parents. I haven't had my mom around for 32 years and my dad for 20. While I miss them every day, it isn't nearly as painful as it used to be years ago. Hugs to all of you who are still in the extreme hurting stage. It is awful.
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Post by iowagirl50147 on Nov 26, 2021 0:40:55 GMT
Hugs to everyone that is missing loved ones. I'm missing my dad and his brother and Grandma Neta but most of all I've missed my cousin Trish the most today. We lost her in May 2019. We were miles apart and hadn't celebrated together for years. But every year without fail, she would send some goofy text about Thanksgiving, some silly joke or funny meme. For some reason today with every ping, I hoped it was from her.....
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Post by TXMary on Nov 26, 2021 4:17:22 GMT
I always miss my grandma and my dad at Thanksgiving. They both died in 1993. My dad loved Thanksgiving and I miss him more than usual on this day.
This year I am missing my sister most of all. She died in February 2020 shortly after being diagnosed with cancer. We didn’t gather last year so today felt like our first Thanksgiving without her. It was hard. But her wife came and I am glad we could share the day with her.
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Post by moodyblue on Nov 26, 2021 6:02:09 GMT
My grandmother died on November 25th many years ago now; that year it was the day before Thanksgiving and the next day was my uncle's birthday. He is gone too. Last year we lost my aunt in October and my mom on November 1st. They were the last of their generation.
When I was a kid all holidays were at my grandparents' house, and then my mom took over. For some of my cousins, they only remember holidays at my parents' house. Now we are the "oldest" generation, and with my husband's death in January 2019, the oldest of our generation is also already gone.
We had some traditional family foods today, and that was good. We continue with other traditions that grandma started back when she was the hostess.
All major holidays have deaths connected to them for my family (grandma at Thanksgiving, two uncles died on Christmas Eve in 2007, a cousin died by suicide the day before Easter in 1996, my mother-in-law died on Halloween). I have made a conscious effort to not let the holidays be ruined because of the associations. Honestly, the hardest for me is missing my husband; the profound sadness is always there along with whatever else I am feeling.
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Post by simplyparticular on Nov 26, 2021 6:42:56 GMT
I’m missing my dad who passed unexpectedly in June, and made the hard choice not to celebrate with extended family due to vaccination status, plus our dog needed surgery and has a high maintenance recovery before a second surgery.
2021 has been a shitty year for 7 reasons that aren’t COVID, so it was challenging to find gratitude today.
And my heart goes out to everyone on this thread or lurking feeling the same.
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Post by artbabe on Nov 26, 2021 15:37:26 GMT
My mom. She was the best mom. I miss her every day.
She also was a wonderful cook. I miss all of the stuff she used to make. She was amazing with pies. My sister comes close but mom's were extra amazing.
I also miss my family's big gatherings- cousins, 2nd cousins, etc. Covid has killed those. I hope next year we can resurrect them.
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