Family drama for holidays

Ridiculous. Actions have consequences: plain and simple. He made a choice and this is the result. Deal with it - freaking snowflake.

The nephew and step-mom are the unreasonable ones. His non-actions are on him. Continue to keep your family safe.

Do you have your nephew’s number? I think you should talk to your nephew directly. He is not a minor, so there is nothing inappropriate about you explaining the situation directly to him. I wouldn’t trust the stepmom to serve as the go between.

I agree with calling him directly—relying on intermediaries in this situation is bound to lead to miscommunication.

Thing is that he is an adult but he is also in that age bracket where people take principled stands about stupid things and ruin relationships over them. Which is not to excuse him at all, but is to say that he probably doesn’t have the best judgment, and even though I think he is being ridiculous, I would keep the door open for future him to come around.

I am sorry. This sucks. It really hurts when people won’t endure extremely minor inconvenience to protect us.

Our families have already cancelled the extended family Christmas get togethers, as there are several 20 year olds that are choosing to not get vaccinated. It is hard to understand why they made that choice for themselves as their generation has been well protected from many serious diseases because of vaccines.

My husband and I both have underlying health issues, and our doctors are adamant that we need to continue to be careful. We were fortunate enough to get boosters 6 weeks ago.

Please keep yourself and your girls safe. If that means smaller groups, can you start a new tradition this year?

Went to a thanksgiving gathering Thursday and before we exited the vehicle everyone was provided a rapid OTC test. Wasn’t offended. Even though we were all vaccinated. Two severely compromised individuals were there. It was graciously presented and we complied. The hosts accepted the cost. Didn’t even see an issue. I would have gotten a test if they would have. I think it’s a courtesy these days if someone is hosting you in their home!

Ah, that makes more sense.  Confusing as the stepmom is interjecting herself into the conversation. But even so, it sounds like SIL is around nephew and she will be attending so I’d want her to be tested as well.  

His right to choose - and accept the consequences. If he won’t consider your health and that of other people, then you have the right and responsibility to look after yourself.

My response every time something like this comes up is that they have the right to remain unvaccinated. I have the right to protect myself. There’s no way that someone with this stance will remain properly masked in your home, so he stays home. He’s making the choice for himself.

Dontcha know there is covid on the swabs 🤪 don't get tested man it'll kill ya! I heard this from a guy who's so concerned about what goes into his body he lives on hot dogs and cigarettes.

We have been so careful since this started to stay vigilant and quarantined. None of the 4 of us can afford to take a chance as we all have health issues. My mom left for her home to have T-day with my brother, so she wasn’t here when my DD caught a cold. DD got really sick, to the point she went to have Covid test before seeing her dr.

Test was negative and dr said DD had a sinus infection from the cold. At my insistence, DD came to stay after she went 24 hours with no fever and on the antibiotics. DH stayed in another room, never coming anywhere near DD. He got sick anyway, and his cold went into a sinus infection. Since he is on a blood thinner, he kept getting bloody noses that wouldn’t stop. by the time he saw the dr via Zoom, he looked so bad she ordered him to the ER. He didn’t go, but he did take the meds she ordered.

I got sick as DH was getting better. I didn’t get super sick, mostly a headache and cough.

Thru it all, we kept saying how lucky we were that it was only a cold that got thru. We were all aware of how much worse it could have been. DD will be even more careful since she feels so guilty for making us sick.Neither her Dad nor I would have had her be away when she felt so bad, though. If she had stayed home, I’d have gone there.

So, please, be careful. Don’t feel bad about being careful with your family’s health.

Marcy

They are being very selfish and not thinking of your welfare at all, so I would stop thinking about theirs.

I completely agree with this. When I was pregnant with DS at 29, there was a neighbor with a kid who had chicken pox. I’d been tested before I got pregnant because I’d had it twice and knew that I was highly immune. I still called my doctor and was surprised to find that I should avoid the family anyway because it could be dangerous. I’d just been blithely going on with my life. I was a very cautious pregnant mom because I spent years as a fertility patient and I didn’t know.