luckyexwife
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,067 
|
Post by luckyexwife on Jan 6, 2022 3:09:24 GMT
I went through a very rough divorce 3 years ago. My ex just decided one day he wasn't happy, and had an affair. There were no warning signs, he just did it. Our friends were shocked, we were the happy couple, and we were, right up until he decided he wasn't.
I went through a rough 6 months, pulled myself together, and built a new life. Things were good, so I decided to put myself out there and try dating. I met a great guy 7 months ago. We started out as friends, and went slow with a relationship. Things were great, and I thought we had a good future, as we were building a solid base.
Today, he broke up with me. He didn't really give a reason. I'm shattered all over again. I knew I really liked him, and I am devastated.
If you pray, could you pray for me? If you don't, could you send healing vibes? I have to pick myself up and move forward, and I just don't know how.
|
|
tincin
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,368
Jul 25, 2014 4:55:32 GMT
|
Post by tincin on Jan 6, 2022 3:11:21 GMT
I’m so sorry. I’ve been in your shoes. It is painful but as you now, time helps. Hang in there.
|
|
|
|
Post by mom on Jan 6, 2022 3:15:04 GMT
I am so sorry. Just remember, things can still be good and you will be ok with or without him. I’ll pray for you. ❤️
|
|
samantha25
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,934
|
Post by samantha25 on Jan 6, 2022 3:16:35 GMT
Think positive things about you. Try not to be tied to others. Think about what makes you happy such as a favorite artist and sing along, loudly.
|
|
|
|
Post by lucyg on Jan 6, 2022 3:18:33 GMT
I’m really sorry this happened. You deserve a good relationship. Clearly he is not the one, but there’s someone right for you still out there. Good vibes for surviving this breakup, and finding Mr. Right next time.
One thing, though … I’m glad he told you, like a man, rather than just ghosting you or worse.
Here’s to a better 2022.
|
|
|
|
Post by elaine on Jan 6, 2022 3:19:18 GMT
(((Hugs)))
|
|
scrappinwithoutpeas
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,938
Location: Northern Virginia
|
Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Jan 6, 2022 3:22:41 GMT
I'm sorry you're struggling. Possibly the breakup dredged up some unwelcome feelings lingering from the divorce (understandably). (((Hugs))) We're here to listen and I'm sending prayers and healing vibes your way.
|
|
|
|
Post by mollycoddle on Jan 6, 2022 3:25:03 GMT
I’m very sorry. One step at a time, my dear. You will get through this.
|
|
purplebee
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,742
|
Post by purplebee on Jan 6, 2022 3:25:38 GMT
So sorry for the pain you are feeling. Saying a prayer for comfort and peace. Hugs…
|
|
|
|
Post by freecharlie on Jan 6, 2022 3:29:48 GMT
I'm sorry. Please reach out if you want to chat.
|
|
|
|
Post by mellyw on Jan 6, 2022 3:40:44 GMT
I’m so sorry. Sending healing vibes your way
|
|
|
|
Post by zima on Jan 6, 2022 3:42:38 GMT
Sending good thoughts. I wish you much more happiness and soon.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Jun 10, 2024 7:05:35 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2022 3:53:39 GMT
Give yourself a weekend of just doing whatever you want - a long soak in the tub, a facial or some beauty treatment (I'm a fan of temporary bright colors myself), ice cream for breakfast, wine for dinner. Find a playlist of girl power songs and blast them. Binge watch something that's totally ridiculous. Most shows on CW or freeform are good for this.
Then Monday morning, get up, and grab the day by its balls. Screw the guy and take the time to just enjoy the little things you get from being single.
His loss.
|
|
kate
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,533
Location: The city that doesn't sleep
Site Supporter
Jun 26, 2014 3:30:05 GMT
|
Post by kate on Jan 6, 2022 4:16:41 GMT
I'm so sorry for your pain.
I'm glad he showed himself now, rather than even later! You deserve so much more.
|
|
|
|
Post by freecharlie on Jan 6, 2022 4:20:47 GMT
Give yourself a weekend of just doing whatever you want - a long soak in the tub, a facial or some beauty treatment (I'm a fan of temporary bright colors myself), ice cream for breakfast, wine for dinner. Find a playlist of girl power songs and blast them. Binge watch something that's totally ridiculous. Most shows on CW or freeform are good for this. Then Monday morning, get up, and grab the day by its balls. Screw the guy and take the time to just enjoy the little things you get from being single. His loss. I have a list I will share and maybe others can add some as well. |
|
|
|
Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 6, 2022 4:22:43 GMT
That sucks. Hang in there and know I’m sending good thoughts your way.
|
|
teddyw
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,875
|
Post by teddyw on Jan 6, 2022 4:25:36 GMT
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Do something really nice for yourself.
|
|
|
|
Post by leannec on Jan 6, 2022 4:36:17 GMT
I'm sorry! Sometimes men just suck!  Like others have said, at least he told you now ... Spend some time alone if that is what you want to do or move on and look for someone better!  |
|
luckyjune
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,685
Location: In the rainy, rainy WA
|
Post by luckyjune on Jan 6, 2022 4:37:14 GMT
I'm sorry. I'm sending good vibes for happiness and healing your way! (((hugs)))
|
|
|
|
Post by malibou on Jan 6, 2022 4:56:13 GMT
I'm sorry you are hurting. Sending you a big enveloping hug.
|
|
|
|
Post by callmenutz on Jan 6, 2022 5:09:16 GMT
I’m so sorry, prayers going up. 🙏🏻
|
|
|
|
Post by brynn on Jan 6, 2022 5:19:56 GMT
((Hugs)) I want happiness for you.
|
|
lesley
Drama Llama
My best friend Turriff, desperately missed.
Posts: 7,189
Location: Scotland, Scotland, Scotland
|
Post by lesley on Jan 6, 2022 5:25:25 GMT
I’m really sorry.  I’m in a very similar situation, where my best friend dumped me in November after our three-year friendship turned intimate. The main difference is that he did ghost me, and has just disappeared out of my life. I’m still struggling, but I know it’s as much because of the cruelty of the breakup as it is missing him. PM me if you want to chat. |
|
|
|
Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jan 6, 2022 8:57:03 GMT
Lots of healing thoughts coming your way.
I'm sorry you're hurting.
|
|
|
|
Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 6, 2022 9:43:16 GMT
I’m so sorry this happened, especially after you were brave enough to let yourself be vulnerable this way.
But I agree with the poster that said his being honest with you is better than ghosting or any other less than upfront means of breaking up.
Of course it hurts.
|
|
|
|
Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 6, 2022 9:55:56 GMT
I read a quote just the other day from Brene Brown and she said "the heartbroken are the bravest among us. They dared to love."
It took a lot to put yourself out there and be vulnerable and I'm sorry you got hurt. I will pray that you recover from this and find your way. Also that you will be brave enough to risk heartbreak and love again. ❤️
|
|
joelise
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,649
|
Post by joelise on Jan 6, 2022 10:02:20 GMT
I’m sorry. I’ve been in the exact same position as you. It does get better, I’m now married to a lovely man.
Sending loads of positive thoughts and vibes your way. Take care of yourself.
|
|
michellegb
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,915
Location: New England and loving it!
Jun 26, 2014 0:04:59 GMT
|
Post by michellegb on Jan 6, 2022 10:21:45 GMT
I'm sorry. You can do this - one step at a time. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and big hugs....
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Jun 10, 2024 7:05:35 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2022 10:35:40 GMT
Give yourself a weekend of just doing whatever you want - a long soak in the tub, a facial or some beauty treatment (I'm a fan of temporary bright colors myself), ice cream for breakfast, wine for dinner. Find a playlist of girl power songs and blast them. Binge watch something that's totally ridiculous. Most shows on CW or freeform are good for this. Then Monday morning, get up, and grab the day by its balls. Screw the guy and take the time to just enjoy the little things you get from being single. His loss. I was trying to think of something to say and then I read THIS!!!! A thousand percent what she said! What these guys did sucks balls!!! You ARE WORTHY...these guys aren't. Be good to yourself and pamper you. It's a shitty path at the moment, but if there is one thing I know for sure is that the sun always shines. Love and hugs to you. |
|
|
|
Post by mollycoddle on Jan 6, 2022 11:43:37 GMT
Give yourself a weekend of just doing whatever you want - a long soak in the tub, a facial or some beauty treatment (I'm a fan of temporary bright colors myself), ice cream for breakfast, wine for dinner. Find a playlist of girl power songs and blast them. Binge watch something that's totally ridiculous. Most shows on CW or freeform are good for this. Then Monday morning, get up, and grab the day by its balls. Screw the guy and take the time to just enjoy the little things you get from being single. His loss. I like how you think! |
|
I’m in a very similar situation, where my best friend dumped me in November after our three-year friendship turned intimate. The main difference is that he did ghost me, and has just disappeared out of my life. I’m still struggling, but I know it’s as much because of the cruelty of the breakup as it is missing him. 
