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Post by Patter on Jan 16, 2022 10:57:23 GMT
When I call someone and they pick up the phone, I always ask "Is this a good time to talk?" I sometimes will even text first--"if you are available to talk, call me." My bestie and my mom and I do this mostly with texting first. Anyway, I never want to take someone's time for granted, and I know people are busy. I want to make sure they are able to talk before I ramble on. LOL! What do you do?
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Post by gar on Jan 16, 2022 11:14:00 GMT
It depends who I’m calling I guess. I know with my Dad or Mum in law the chances of them being too busy to talk is unlikely. With my DDs or my sister we might be starting a text conversation and say “Is it easier to call?” and go from there.
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Post by hannahruth on Jan 16, 2022 11:19:49 GMT
Yes I usually send a text asking if it is okay to phone. I either get a positive response or the person phones me back.
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Post by muggins on Jan 16, 2022 12:09:59 GMT
With the time difference between Tokyo and the U.K., I will often text my family to see if they’re free to FaceTime. MIL on the other hand keeps calling until we pick up- drives me insane. We have told her multiple times that if we don’t pick up the first time, we are too busy to talk right then. I rarely make any local calls to friends, it’s usually texts.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jan 16, 2022 12:40:48 GMT
We always text first.
We're probably in the minority, but if we call without texting, it's urgent or an emergency. The text just gives the heads up that we just wanna chat, and it's not urgent or alarming.
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Post by oliquig on Jan 16, 2022 12:46:26 GMT
Yes, especially if I know it is work time. My BFF, who is a stylist, I will text “call me when your free” and “not an emergency” so she call call when she is done with a client. I will also text my step dad, “can you take a call,” as he is often in zoom/Microsoft teams meetings during the day.
Currently I am making a lot of phone calls for work to people. The amount of people who answer the phone and then tell it’s not a good time to call them back astound me. I really want to say, you know you could have just not answered the phone, right? You do understand how that works? You don’t answer, I leave a message, you call me back when it’s a good time for you. Not rocket science.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jan 16, 2022 12:47:34 GMT
I hate talking on the phone and so if I call someone it is usually necessary and brief. DH's sister calls him a lot just to chat and she does always ask him if it's a good time. The problem is that he ALWAYS says it's a good time no matter what is actually going on. She has a knack of calling while we are preparing a meal, and then he just walks away and leaves me to finish on my own and then his food sits there and gets cold while she talks. Just tell her it's time for lunch and you've gotta go!
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Post by peabay on Jan 16, 2022 12:56:40 GMT
It's amazing how quickly this changed for me. I think it was once my parents passed away - they were callers, not texters - I pretty much went to all texting and a "can you talk on the phone now?" text if I want to talk to someone. My kids still call me without texting first; my sisters will call me and my step-mother; and my brother in law (he just called yesterday) but pretty much everyone else is a text first or text only.
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Post by Ramona on Jan 16, 2022 12:56:58 GMT
I usually don't, but I think this is a good habit to start. Thanks.
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Post by Jockscrap on Jan 16, 2022 13:28:15 GMT
Depends who it is, but yes, I often text first to see if it’s a good time to talk. I don’t with my family or my best friend. If they can’t take the call, they’ll see from their phone that I’ve tried and will call me back or text that they are in a meeting or whatever. I’ve now more or less got my parents to text me and leave a message if I haven’t picked up the phone to them so I’d know if it was something pressing to drop everything for or something which can wait. I have answerphone switched off as the ‘hi it’s mum, not really calling for any reason’ messages drive me a bit bonkers and require a few minutes of time to access. A message can be surreptitiously glanced at when in company or quickly checked when in the middle of a meal, but I don’t drop everything to answer the phone so if it’s not convenient to talk I don’t pick up but I’ll call folk back.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jan 16, 2022 13:38:59 GMT
No. If someone is busy when I call, I assume that they will let me know.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 16, 2022 13:41:23 GMT
Almost always. It also helps to let people know that it’s a real call and not spam. In our family, it’s just easier.
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 16, 2022 14:46:12 GMT
Except for my parents, I text first.
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Post by purplebee on Jan 16, 2022 14:52:05 GMT
I always text my sisters before calling, and they do the same. We live far away from each other, so usually like time for an extended conversation about once a week or so. We also email, and sometimes that gets lengthy, too. I envy those who live close to their sisters, I always miss my two!
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jan 16, 2022 15:00:11 GMT
Currently I am making a lot of phone calls for work to people. The amount of people who answer the phone and then tell it’s not a good time to call them back astound me. I really want to say, you know you could have just not answered the phone, right? You do understand how that works? You don’t answer, I leave a message, you call me back when it’s a good time for you. Not rocket science. Right? What is driving DH nuts lately is people call, sometimes 2-3 times, but never leave a voice mail. Then later they want to know why he didn't call them back! His attitude (and mine) is that if you really need/want to talk to me you will leave a message. If not, we assume you just wanted to shoot the breeze and no need to return that call with any urgency.
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Post by peano on Jan 16, 2022 16:24:28 GMT
I mostly text with friends but if I want to call, I will text first to see if it’s a good time.
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Post by katlady on Jan 16, 2022 17:15:50 GMT
I rarely call anyone to just chat anymore except for family members, and I don’t text them first.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jan 16, 2022 17:21:01 GMT
I never text first. When I call you, I expect that if you pick up the phone, you are available to talk.
If you aren't, you don't pick up and I leave a message to call me back when it is convenient for you.
If you answer, but it isn't a good time, as soon as you tell me, I reply "ok, call me later - not urgent" or just "ok bye".
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Post by myshelly on Jan 16, 2022 17:21:18 GMT
If I am calling it is an emergency.
Like a someone died level emergency.
And everyone I would call knows that.
Everyone who would call me also doesn’t talk on the phone, so if someone is calling me, I know it’s an emergency and I answer.
We all only text.
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Post by justkat on Jan 16, 2022 17:22:51 GMT
I rarely talk on the phone. We mostly text. Actual phone calls are either spam/scam, business calls or emergency/bad news generally. On the rare occasion someone needs to call and it's not bad news they'll send a quick text "hey I'm going to call it's not an emergency".
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Post by epeanymous on Jan 16, 2022 17:27:20 GMT
Ha ha the only person I call rather than text is my mother and she will immediately tell me if she can’t talk.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 16, 2022 17:46:56 GMT
There are only 2 people I call - my mom and my cousin. I assume they won’t pick up or will tell me if they are busy so no I don’t say that.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 16, 2022 17:57:27 GMT
Only if I am calling a parent from school
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Post by tracylynn on Jan 16, 2022 17:58:41 GMT
No, but in my circle (family and friends) if you're busy, you don't answer the phone. No biggie. OR, you answer and say "Hey, in the middle of something, I'll call you back". But a non-answer is just as good.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 16, 2022 17:59:07 GMT
Yes, especially if I know it is work time. My BFF, who is a stylist, I will text “call me when your free” and “not an emergency” so she call call when she is done with a client. I will also text my step dad, “can you take a call,” as he is often in zoom/Microsoft teams meetings during the day. Currently I am making a lot of phone calls for work to people. The amount of people who answer the phone and then tell it’s not a good time to call them back astound me. I really want to say, you know you could have just not answered the phone, right? You do understand how that works? You don’t answer, I leave a message, you call me back when it’s a good time for you. Not rocket science. When I call the school's number shows up. I know I always answer if it is my kid's school and I suspect other parents do as well.
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Post by lisae on Jan 16, 2022 19:26:23 GMT
If it is someone where I know the conversation will be long, I do ask if it is a good time to talk. Bff and I often text beforehand but I don't do that with anyone else. Otherwise, I expect them to tell me if they need to call back at another time or not to have answered the phone in the first place.
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Post by chances on Jan 16, 2022 22:02:52 GMT
I hate texting. I’m more on the outside as our social norms move more to texting, but I would be irritated if friends or family texted to say they were gonna call. Just call.
I will text first if I need to talk to a work colleague.
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Post by Patter on Jan 17, 2022 11:06:14 GMT
It is fun to see the variety of answers here.
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