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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 16:10:06 GMT
do you think you should see it through? Engaging with respondents, etc? I know it's a completely irrational thing but this is one of my pet peeves and I even peeved myself the other day.  I always try to see a thread through when I post one. My last thread, I started it and I read through all your comments, but I just didn't have much information to actually add. I responded several times, but I did not engage the way I normally do on a thread I start. Mostly because I didn't have much to say, yet I read all your opinions and experiences. It just makes me a little bit nuts when someone does this. ETA: I just want to say that I apologize if my post comes across as anything other than mindless drivel. I thought I was being silly. This is why I called it irritational pet peeve and said I peeved myself. I didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or like they have to do something. I just get invested in your stories and I always hope (sometimes I even pray) for resolution. And when I'm hosting a thread, I always feel committed to see it through. It's my quirk and I own that. Anyway, I certainly didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or angry. This wasn't a vent or anything like that. |
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Post by christine58 on Feb 3, 2022 16:12:48 GMT
I checked the first box but I have an explanation. I think if somebody asks for input/basically has any kind of question where they’re looking for input then yes I think they should see it through. But I get that sometimes people forget or get busy.
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Post by Violette Vixen on Feb 3, 2022 16:13:17 GMT
I wouldn't say its a pet peeve, but I AM nosy and like updates...  |
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 3, 2022 16:15:21 GMT
I didn't vote since my opinion is that a poster should return and give at least a comment by the end, but I don't think they have to comment throughout. I have started a thread and then not come back to it for a day or so and by then the convo has fizzled out, so I comment and let it go.
I also think that some people write much more interesting original posts than I do and there tends to be a lot more comments, so more follow through would seem important.
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Post by librarylady on Feb 3, 2022 16:17:55 GMT
Depends on the post.
If the person asked for information, then (sometimes) I want to know what the OP decided to do.
If it is about a problem/family drama, then I like to know how it ended, if there is a conclusion.
I think of that very old post where a sibling gave the OP a pair of chairs and then asked for the chairs to be returned AFTER the OP had paid to have them reupholstered. I really appreciated an update. But often an update is not really needed.
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Post by mnmloveli on Feb 3, 2022 16:19:39 GMT
I really don’t care one way or the other.
I can fully understand when the OP bows out when the thread goes off the rails in a totally different direction.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 16:19:45 GMT
I wouldn't say its a pet peeve, but I AM nosy and like updates... Haha...me too. I always want to know if the comments everyone gave made any sort of difference. That's probably it. I'm just nosy.  |
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Post by Mel on Feb 3, 2022 16:20:16 GMT
I chose "Other" because it makes me nuts when there's a post asking for opinions or help or a health-related post and there's no update or follow-up. The others "Meh" LOL
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Post by myboysnme on Feb 3, 2022 16:22:59 GMT
It doesn't make me nuts necessarily but I generally like when the OP chimes back in. But others' discussion is equally important.
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Post by paget on Feb 3, 2022 16:26:13 GMT
I’m kind of between the first two choices but more with the first - that I want the OP to participate through the thread - or at least with “likes.”But people do make enough interesting comments I’m fine reading without more OP input, but it would “enhance” the experience. Lol
And dang it, now that I’ve been reminded of those chairs I need to know as well! That was something.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Feb 3, 2022 16:28:33 GMT
I picked meh! I enjoy updates, but I don't really have a problem either way.
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Post by quiltz on Feb 3, 2022 16:29:19 GMT
IF the thread is about a product or a problem, a response at some time with information about if the product information was useful or how/it the problem was resolved is appreciated.
A general thread or a "fluff" thread really doesn't need a final response.
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Post by peano on Feb 3, 2022 16:32:16 GMT
When I ask for input or advice, I like to come back and thank people, but I don't get too worked up if other people don't. Life happens.
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Post by JustTricia on Feb 3, 2022 16:32:59 GMT
I prefer for OPs to be engaged at least for a while. I don’t expect them to be engaged with every comment or for days, though.
But, if it is a thread that should have an update, please, in the name of all that is holy, UPDATE THE OP. If you can update the title to say “update in thread” but don’t put the update in the OP, I stop caring. I won’t search a thread to find an update. Lots of people use the TapaATalk app and there aren’t page numbers on there so “update on page 3” doesn’t help.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 16:33:17 GMT
Does it matter if you start one of the regular threads? Like the Craft Thread/Reading Thread/Weightloss-Lifestyle Thread/Dinner Thread. If you start one of those do you think you are obligated to comment throughout? I start the monthly craft thread on the regular and I still feel like I should see it through and respond to comments. I'm just weird that way. LOL!
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Feb 3, 2022 16:34:02 GMT
I don't really care either way.
I don't think people should feel obligated to respond to or like every comment on their post. Sometimes it is enough to start the discussion. I know if there was a "requirement" that I keep going back and responding that would make me inclined to post less because it would feel like a chore. I'm all in favor of encouraging people to post more, not less.
Some other reasons I don't follow through: I don't like the turn a thread has taken and just want to drop the subject, people are responding in ways that show they haven't actually read all the info provided, I've gotten enough info and don't need to keep the thread going, I don't want to be "that person" who keeps bumping their own thread, I just got busy and didn't get back to it, the thread fell off the first page and I lost track of it.
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Post by iluvpink on Feb 3, 2022 16:34:43 GMT
Ugh I am bad at this. I read them all and try to like but often only comment on one or two as replying to all is overwhelming or repetitive. And I don't know how to respond without saying the same thing over and over.
But trust me if I start a thread I do read them all and try to like, especially if it's not just a "fun" post.
ETA as for what others do, I only really care if I'm worried about the poster, or there is something really compelling about their problem, or it turns into drama.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 16:36:10 GMT
I know if there was a "requirement" that I keep going back and responding that would make me inclined to post less because it would feel like a chore. I'm all in favor of encouraging people to post more, not less. No, I don't think there should be a requirement. And certainly, I don't want to encourage anyone to post less. I really enjoy hearing the different perspectives. |
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Post by epeanymous on Feb 3, 2022 16:48:04 GMT
It depends. If it is a poster who drops a poop bomb, and they don't come back, and they do that repeatedly, I just don't read their threads.
If the poster asks for advice, I would like to see them respond at some point (although I don't think they have to respond to every suggestion, particularly after the thread has gone on for a while and they've received some response).
The fluffier threads, or even the political discussion threads that are in good faith, I don't even think I look to see if the OP responded.
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Post by snowsilver on Feb 3, 2022 16:48:21 GMT
Depends on the thread. When it is a family situation where help is needed and given, yes, it is good to get an update though I don't judge anyone who doesn't do that. It may be that things got so bad that 2Peas is the last thing on their mind. I can understand that.
On political threads where the OP is bullied for having a different opinion than the majority, I certainly don't mind the OP bowing out. I do that myself. I'm simply not going to get down in the ditch and be snotty back, so I just leave it alone.
But generally, I don't expect someone to participate in a thread even if they start it. Sometimes they are just interested in other's opinions.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 16:59:20 GMT
It may be that things got so bad that 2Peas is the last thing on their mind. I can understand that. This is definitely a thing. I know exactly how this is. I've posted some pretty intense threads in the past and sometimes after a few really intense days, I've got to let it go for a while. I like to come back and update but sometimes it's all just so overwhelming. I needed this reminder that it may be too for others. Sometimes we just can't even see something from someone else's perspective. |
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Post by gar on Feb 3, 2022 17:03:11 GMT
I think it’s courteous to respond (even with just a like or two) when you’ve asked for input and people take the time to offer it.
I try to respond but I might miss later responses if it’s gone to page 2 before someone else posts something.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Feb 3, 2022 17:05:05 GMT
I am going with "meh" as I have been on both sides of the poster/postee debate. I think it really depends on the topic and type of post. In all but my reading threads, I have followed through with probably 90% of the threads I have started, but there were a few that I either felt I didn't have much to say and/or I just got really busy and didn't make it back.
It probably isn't very good manners to ask a question and not come back to the thread and interact, but at the same time, it is a message board, and real-life sometimes gets in the way. I think just liking responses is OK too. Not every question/response needs written interaction. Obviously posting shit-stirring topics and leaving is, well, pretty crappy and trollish.
As far as my reading threads, I took them over when I was avidly reading, and then I really slowed down the last few years. I did feel a little bad I wasn't interacting much, but I felt it kinda just needed to be started each week, and that it was OK to just let it be self-directed. I always hoped to go back to reading more---which I am again, for now, so I am glad I didn't hand it off to someone else--even if maybe I should have.
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Post by workingclassdog on Feb 3, 2022 17:15:57 GMT
Other..I usually try to, but sometimes forget about it. I just remembered I started a thread a day or so ago and I don't think I went back to it (because of my work schedule that happens)
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Post by busy on Feb 3, 2022 17:15:58 GMT
I think it varies depending on the type of thread.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Feb 3, 2022 17:20:39 GMT
I think if you post a thread, yes you should be involved in it. The other pet peeve I have is Ps that never post anything on other threads, but come on here and post a thread and expect advice and help. Well, I think we give better advice if we interact more with that person, or feel invested? KWIM? I know that sounds petty probably. but I'm like that. har har.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 17:25:02 GMT
I am going with "meh" as I have been on both sides of the poster/postee debate. I think it really depends on the topic and type of post. In all but my reading threads, I have followed through with probably 90% of the threads I have started, but there were a few that I either felt I didn't have much to say and/or I just got really busy and didn't make it back. It probably isn't very good manners to ask a question and not come back to the thread and interact, but at the same time, it is a message board, and real-life sometimes gets in the way. I think just liking responses is OK too. Not every question/response needs written interaction. Obviously posting shit-stirring topics and leaving is, well, pretty crappy and trollish. As far as my reading threads, I took them over when I was avidly reading, and then I really slowed down the last few years. I did feel a little bad I wasn't interacting much, but I felt it kinda just needed to be started each week, and that it was OK to just let it be self-directed. I always hoped to go back to reading more---which I am again, for now, so I am glad I didn't hand it off to someone else--even if maybe I should have. I think the reading thread is a bit different too in that it's harder to interact with people. If you haven't read their books, you don't have much to say. At least that's how I always feel there. So it's a bit of a different breed of post. |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 3, 2022 17:27:52 GMT
I agree that it varies a lot depending on type of thread. I do like when people stay engaged when they ask for advice. But just random thread where the OP is really not essential, don't care - especially as they can go on for days. That's kind of what happened with my Whoopi thread. I was interested and wanted to chat that night, but had a super busy day the next day so couldn't really contribute. I notice that it's still going on and have a pile of work and really not any more real insight than my thoughts the night of - so hopefully I'm not driving people crazy!
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Post by gillyp on Feb 3, 2022 17:28:12 GMT
Does it matter if you start one of the regular threads? Like the Craft Thread/Reading Thread/Weightloss-Lifestyle Thread/Dinner Thread. If you start one of those do you think you are obligated to comment throughout? I start the monthly craft thread on the regular and I still feel like I should see it through and respond to comments. I'm just weird that way. LOL! If it's a regular thread I almost view it as being hosted by whomever started it that month. (says she who started the Feb Craft thread and will be checking regularly that I respond appropriately.  ) It might sound weird but that's me. Any other type of thread then I don't really take on board who has started it every time but it's nice if the OP acknowledges at least some posts along the way imo. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2022 17:30:17 GMT
I'm in the camp of I don't really care either way.
Some updates are unnecessary. Others are like "oh ok, thanks for letting us know." And then there's the rare "I gotta know!" thread. I think during lurking, there was one of those but now I can't even think of what it was. My memory is so short at times that after a while, I forget who said what.
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) It might sound weird but that's me. Any other type of thread then I don't really take on board who has started it every time but it's nice if the OP acknowledges at least some posts along the way imo. 