sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Mar 25, 2022 20:35:54 GMT
This past fall, I was scrolling on Tik Tok. A page came across for a lady that makes cremation jewelry. I knew immediately I wanted to get my DD something for her high school graduation. When we were at the hospital when my fil passed, the first thing she said was that he wasn't going to get to see her walk. That about crushed me.
I just ordered her a pendant necklace. It is so pretty. The center stone will be a pink color.
Has anyone here ever order anything like this?
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Post by rodeomom on Mar 25, 2022 20:47:31 GMT
I think it's a lovely idea.
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Post by chedanemi on Mar 25, 2022 21:19:08 GMT
I ordered blown glass globes and a flame shaped blown piece for myself and our daughters when my mom passed away. The company I used was very caring and did a wonderful job on the items. They offered jewelry items too.
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Post by jenjie on Mar 25, 2022 21:35:56 GMT
I have not but I’ve seen some beautiful pieces that meant a lot to the recipients. This will be very special to your daughter.
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Post by guzismom on Mar 25, 2022 21:41:58 GMT
It's not for me...but, if you think your daughter will treasure it then by all means get one.
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Post by roxley on Mar 25, 2022 21:49:08 GMT
My husband and I were just taking about doing something like this. Make me a pretty glass paperweight when I die. No casket, no tombstone, no grave. Throw me in a drawer, put me in your pocket, whatever. Our family just doesn’t do the visiting graves thing and I find it all kind of a waste. I am also not into funerals, so there is that.
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Post by milocat on Mar 25, 2022 21:50:38 GMT
My DD and sister in law got a pendant when my MIL passed. It was just the kind that have a bit of ash in it not using the ash to make something. They've worn them for the past almost 4 years. I ordered blown glass globes and a flame shaped blown piece for myself and our daughters when my mom passed away. The company I used was very caring and did a wonderful job on the items. They offered jewelry items too. I could see getting this, I've always loved blown glass and also the idea of the jewelry with ashes doesn't appeal to me personally. A glass piece of jewelry maybe. |
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Post by finsup on Mar 25, 2022 22:00:41 GMT
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Post by kate on Mar 25, 2022 22:17:44 GMT
I was interested (though not surprised) to learn that the Catholic Church doesn't approve of mementos that incorporate cremains. I wonder if they are approved for observant Jews or Muslims.
I fall into the "it's not for me" camp, though I think some of the blown-glass things are just gorgeous. I would never tell someone else how they should or shouldn't memorialize a loved one. It's so deeply personal.
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Post by epeanymous on Mar 25, 2022 22:21:17 GMT
I was interested (though not surprised) to learn that the Catholic Church doesn't approve of mementos that incorporate cremains. I wonder if they are approved for observant Jews or Muslims. I fall into the "it's not for me" camp, though I think some of the blown-glass things are just gorgeous. I would never tell someone else how they should or shouldn't memorialize a loved one. It's so deeply personal. The traditional Jewish view is that you do not cremate a body. |
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Mar 25, 2022 23:26:13 GMT
My husband and I were just taking about doing something like this. Make me a pretty glass paperweight when I die. No casket, no tombstone, no grave. Throw me in a drawer, put me in your pocket, whatever. Our family just doesn’t do the visiting graves thing and I find it all kind of a waste. I am also not into funerals, so there is that. I get this. We have pretty much all of fil's ashes. The only thing we have done was spread some at the beach last month when we went down. I'll send a small amount (less than 1/4 tsp) for her pendant. Not sure what to do with the rest. But that will be dh's call. And for the time being, he is ok with his remains tucked away behind some clothes in the closet. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2022 0:59:09 GMT
DH and I went over a lot of different cremation jewelry, trees, etc. Some of the jewelry is pretty. DH either wanted a tree or to be made into a diamond for me (too much $$ to do it).
I think it would be a very special thing for your DD to have & might make her feel like your FIL is there with her. xo
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 26, 2022 10:43:42 GMT
It's not for me, but I can understand how others would appreciate it.
I was really afraid one of DH's sisters would ask for some of my late DH's ashes. That was a no go for me and my kids. We had him interred at the military cemetery according to his wishes. I actually suspect one of them asked DS, because he said something about it being no way afterward. I am not asking him, because I don't want to know which one.
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Post by auntkelly on Mar 26, 2022 13:45:37 GMT
It’s not for me, but I can see how others would treasure cremation jewelry.
One thing I’d be worried about is how awful I’d feel if I lost it. My husband had a beautiful cross necklace made from several pieces of jewelry my mother left me. I lost it and I still feel terrible about it to this day. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if it had her remains in it.
The other issue I would worry about is how future generations might feel about it. Are they going to treasure having a necklace with the ashes of their great great grandma that they never met, or is it just going to become a burden that they feel they can’t get rid of.
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Post by iowgirl on Mar 26, 2022 16:19:23 GMT
One thing I’d be worried about is how awful I’d feel if I lost it. One of my friends has a necklace with the pendant being a thumbprint of her late sibling. It is so lovely, but it came off the chain and she lost it. She was heartbroken. Her daughter in law contacted the funeral home and they were able to make her another one from the copy of the mold they had kept. That was so wonderful - and how is that for love from a daughter in law! ♥ |
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Post by rymeswithpurple on Mar 26, 2022 19:08:40 GMT
One thing I’d be worried about is how awful I’d feel if I lost it. One of my friends has a necklace with the pendant being a thumbprint of her late sibling. It is so lovely, but it came off the chain and she lost it. She was heartbroken. Her daughter in law contacted the funeral home and they were able to make her another one from the copy of the mold they had kept. That was so wonderful - and how is that for love from a daughter in law! ♥ My husband has something like this. When his mom passed away, his dad got keychains for him and his sister with their mom's fingerprint on it. We keep it in our lockbox. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 26, 2022 22:27:49 GMT
sweetpeasmom what a lovely idea! I'm sure your daughter will be thrilled. Does she know you've ordered it, or will it be a surprise? I ordered blown glass globes and a flame shaped blown piece for myself and our daughters when my mom passed away. The company I used was very caring and did a wonderful job on the items. They offered jewelry items too. I've looked into this as well. I'm not sure whether I would get a desk ornament, or a piece of jewellery.
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Post by chedanemi on Mar 26, 2022 23:12:15 GMT
I've looked into this as well. I'm not sure whether I would get a desk ornament, or a piece of jewellery. I didn't want jewelry, so this is what I ordered. Spirit Flame |
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Post by pilcas on Mar 27, 2022 0:48:59 GMT
I find it a little creepy, to be honest.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Mar 27, 2022 0:49:09 GMT
sweetpeasmom what a lovely idea! I'm sure your daughter will be thrilled. Does she know you've ordered it, or will it be a surprise? I ordered blown glass globes and a flame shaped blown piece for myself and our daughters when my mom passed away. The company I used was very caring and did a wonderful job on the items. They offered jewelry items too. I've looked into this as well. I'm not sure whether I would get a desk ornament, or a piece of jewellery. Thank you. She does not know. It will be a surprise. |
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Mar 27, 2022 0:50:44 GMT
One thing I’d be worried about is how awful I’d feel if I lost it. One of my friends has a necklace with the pendant being a thumbprint of her late sibling. It is so lovely, but it came off the chain and she lost it. She was heartbroken. Her daughter in law contacted the funeral home and they were able to make her another one from the copy of the mold they had kept. That was so wonderful - and how is that for love from a daughter in law! ♥ That is a great idea. I am so happy the funeral home was able to recreate it. |
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Post by KelleeM on Mar 27, 2022 9:32:56 GMT
I bought a flower pendant from Amazon and have dh’s cremains inside it. Most people just think it’s a pretty necklace.
My dd found an artist on Etsy who used a stone dd sent her to create a pendant for her dad’s cremains. My sister paid for it as a gift to dd. It is beautiful and you would never knew it holds cremains.
I don’t find it creepy but know that it’s not for everyone. I happen to have the rest of dh’s cremains in my bedroom…gives me a little comfort to know they’re here sometimes.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 27, 2022 11:43:09 GMT
This past fall, I was scrolling on Tik Tok. A page came across for a lady that makes cremation jewelry. I knew immediately I wanted to get my DD something for her high school graduation. When we were at the hospital when my fil passed, the first thing she said was that he wasn't going to get to see her walk. That about crushed me.
I just ordered her a pendant necklace. It is so pretty. The center stone will be a pink color.
Has anyone here ever order anything like this?
It sounds like it will be a sweet comforting thing fir your daughter to feel like he’s with her for her big day. |
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Post by dewryce on Mar 27, 2022 16:38:05 GMT
I haven’t, but I think it’s a lovely idea. DH says he’s “going to turn me into a glass egg.” I am of the opinion that everything after I’m gone is to make others feel better so I completely support this. My only concern is how guilty he’d feel if it got broken. chedanemi that flame is gorgeous, I’m going to show him tfs! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 27, 2022 22:47:23 GMT
chedanemi that flame is gorgeous! TFS. Make me a pretty glass paperweight when I die. No casket, no tombstone, no grave. Throw me in a drawer, put me in your pocket, whatever. Our family just doesn’t do the visiting graves thing and I find it all kind of a waste. I am also not into funerals, so there is that. You are me! I am you! Everything you said is exactly how I feel. 
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Post by meriannj on Mar 27, 2022 23:18:17 GMT
I honestly want my ashes sent off in the most amazing fireworks display, take some cool pictures and call it a day!
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Post by tealpaperowl on Mar 27, 2022 23:45:33 GMT
I have been looking to have a piece made. My aunt passed and our favorite thing to do was shop. We'd go on Saturdays for 10-12 hours shopping store to store. So I've been trying to find someone who can make a shopping bag pendant for ashes for a necklace. I haven't found one yet!
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Post by KiwiJo on Mar 28, 2022 0:00:44 GMT
Whoa, I must have been living under a rock - I had no idea that cremation jewellery was a thing. It isn’t something that interests me however, so perhaps that’s why it has escaped me until now. It sounds like the modern day version of mourning jewellery, particularly from the Victorian times, when some of the deceased’s hair was incorporated into a brooch or similar.
But the idea of what will happen to my ashes after I’ve gone has been of interest lately, and somewhat confronting. DH and I discussed it when we recently updated our wills - he wants the ashes from both of us buried together, near to where his Mum’s and Dad’s ashes are, but I am really not keen on that; I would like my ashes to be sprinkled over the crematorium’s garden, just as my Mum’s and Dad’s were.
I have always been (& still am) an atheist who believes there is nothing after death, the person just ceases to be. So why am I feeling so confronted about the idea of ‘spending eternity’ near to my in-laws?? I got along with them just fine, but I would rather become part of a garden, nourishing some plants. Why am I even thinking about “spending eternity” anywhere if I believe there is nothing there? Surely it shouldn’t matter what happens to my remains. It really is confronting and needing some real thought.
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Post by teddyw on Mar 28, 2022 0:04:28 GMT
I have been looking to have a piece made. My aunt passed and our favorite thing to do was shop. We'd go on Saturdays for 10-12 hours shopping store to store. So I've been trying to find someone who can make a shopping bag pendant for ashes for a necklace. I haven't found one yet! You could probably get one made. Try looking up jewelry artists on Instagram or Etsy. It would be a custom piece so probably not cheap. I make jewelry but this is out of my scope. I follow metalsmithsociety on Instagram. Just click on her follower list and view some of their pages. |
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