Just T
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Post by Just T on May 5, 2022 3:19:07 GMT
First of all, I just love this show, but last night was the biggest tearjerker for me. I wanted to start a thread so my thoughts/comments don't get lost in the other one.
I am pretty sure I sobbed more in this episode than any other, with maybe the exception of when Jack died. I've posted a little bit about the shitty situation I am in with my marriage that is ending, and this episode made me so, so sad. I kept thinking how I won't have that at the end of my life. I am almost 60 years old, and I think what scares me the most is if I have some health issue and I have no one around to help me. All those tender scenes between Rebecca and Miguel just broke me.
My kids are great, they really are. And while I do not want them to take sides, they are definitely Team Mom while still trying to maintain a relationship of some kind with their dad. But they are all young adults, trying to make their way in the world and establish their adult relationships, jobs, etc.
I don't even know what the point really is to this post. I've just been thinking of this episode of This is Us all day today and thinking that the way my life is right now is not what I ever expected at my age. I am scared of so many things, and right now, this is on my mind.
Thank you for reading. Some day, soon I hope, I will be able to fill in the missing parts of my story that I am not yet comfortable sharing.
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Mystie
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Post by Mystie on May 5, 2022 3:36:44 GMT
I didn't watch the show because I can't handle sad stuff 😊 but I just wanted to say I hear you. I'm so sorry your marriage is ending; it sounds very painful from the few things you've said. I hope you'll be able to talk about it more and get more support soon.
I don't have kids but I am a kid, I'd do anything in my power for my mom. I'm sure your kids feel the same way about you. But I know that's not the same as having a spouse to walk through the upcoming years with you. I'm really sorry you're having such a painful time.
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Post by putabuttononit on May 5, 2022 3:53:29 GMT
I hear your pain, and I’m so sorry. It’s so good that you have your kids but I realize it’s not the same, not the picture you had in your head for life in this season. I believe there’s ALWAYS hope for love to come along, and even if that doesn’t happen you’re going to be just fine. It may be the plan that YOU will help/support people in need and you’ll have the empathy and tenderness that comes with experience.
It’s hard to let go of our dreams and embrace some different but just remember- different can be wonderful. Different isn’t always bad.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on May 5, 2022 4:19:06 GMT
not the picture you had in your head for life in this season. Definitely NOT. I just wanted to say I hear you. I'm so sorry your marriage is ending; it sounds very painful from the few things you've said. I hope you'll be able to talk about it more and get more support soon. Thank you. |
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tanya2
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Post by tanya2 on May 5, 2022 5:10:15 GMT
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, and going through such a tough time right now.  |
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Post by mikklynn on May 5, 2022 13:08:43 GMT
Grief for the way things could have been is perfectly reasonable, in my opinion. You go out and live your best life without the EX and worry about end of life later.
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2022 1:27:11 GMT
First of all, I just love this show, but last night was the biggest tearjerker for me. I wanted to start a thread so my thoughts/comments don't get lost in the other one. I am pretty sure I sobbed more in this episode than any other, with maybe the exception of when Jack died. I've posted a little bit about the shitty situation I am in with my marriage that is ending, and this episode made me so, so sad. I kept thinking how I won't have that at the end of my life. I am almost 60 years old, and I think what scares me the most is if I have some health issue and I have no one around to help me. All those tender scenes between Rebecca and Miguel just broke me. My kids are great, they really are. And while I do not want them to take sides, they are definitely Team Mom while still trying to maintain a relationship of some kind with their dad. But they are all young adults, trying to make their way in the world and establish their adult relationships, jobs, etc. I don't even know what the point really is to this post. I've just been thinking of this episode of This is Us all day today and thinking that the way my life is right now is not what I ever expected at my age. I am scared of so many things, and right now, this is on my mind. Thank you for reading. Some day, soon I hope, I will be able to fill in the missing parts of my story that I am not yet comfortable sharing. Very similar feelings here (at age 61). All night I thought about DH being 62 when I met him and he seemed "elderly" ad distinguished to me. He was treated with respect wherever he went. He had a lot of medical issues and I was 14 years younger than he was. I definitely became his caregiver and instantly wanted to try everything to make him as healthy as he could get. I was able to get him off of his diabetes meds a few times, and he lost weight too. Still, nothing prepared us for him getting terminal cancer that only gave him "a few weeks" to live. He lasted almost 4 months. I am SO grateful for our 13+ years together. He did ask me many times in the beginning, "Are you sure you want to date someone so much older than you? You'd be stuck taking care of me." I responded with, "How do you know that I won't be the sicker one and you won't be taking care of me??" He DID take care of me each time I needed a surgery. He helped me through each migraine too.
So.......... don't be convinced that you won't meet "the one", even at age 60 (or more)!! Gary and I met when we LEAST expected or wanted a relationship. It just happened. It was like a Disney movie when we met. I moved in right away and we never wanted to be apart. It CAN happen!!! xo
P.S.: After having lived with the best partner I could ever imagine, I am left with grief too. I'm SO sorry that you are going through the sadness of a longterm relationship ending. It's SO difficult to know where to put those feelings. It's been hard for me to know that I'll never have that again with Gary and I'm sure it's difficult for you too. BIG hugs to you!!! xoxo
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Just T
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Post by Just T on May 6, 2022 3:21:42 GMT
Thanks to all of you who responded. I really appreciate it.
I really am trying to focus on the good things in my next phase of life. I just never imagined THIS would be my next phase of life. I never imagine my almost 60 year old husband cheating on me. Some days, I am doing great, feeling strong and ready to take on whatever is in store for me, other days, I am a puddle of tears and self doubt.
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