peaname
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Post by peaname on May 8, 2022 16:16:22 GMT
Here’s a safe space to vent for anyone who feels sadness on Mother’s Day. Some of us wanted to be mothers and it didn’t happen, some of us have lost children, some of us lost our mothers and some of us were not shown love by our mothers. I hope we all can find some joy and peace today.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 8, 2022 16:27:58 GMT
Thank you peaname. Your mother was a wonderful lady and she is deeply missed. Each day I think of her when I post the dinner thread and I hope that she's with us, as we post our daily stories. I miss my mother terribly. She's been gone for over 20 years, but that doesn't change a thing. Mother's Day will never be the same w/o her. How I wish I could take her on a special trip. My mother was so much fun and we had a great time when we traveled. May everyone on this thread find comfort, peace and healing. To those of you who were unable to have children or lost children my heart is w/you today. |
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anniebeth24
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Post by anniebeth24 on May 8, 2022 16:33:59 GMT
Thank you for posting this. I'll add mothers who have chosen adoption to the list of those who may have a difficult day today.
Sending special hugs to any Pea birth moms.
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hannahruth
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Post by hannahruth on May 8, 2022 16:38:16 GMT
I can’t enjoy this day as my mother passed away in July 1989, I was just 34 I still needed her in my life. I miss her to this day.
I made the most of things when our DS and DD were young and now DD is a mother herself I love that innocence of our grandchildren.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 8, 2022 17:05:19 GMT
Thank you.
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Post by quinlove on May 8, 2022 17:14:29 GMT
Sending love to all peas. 💚💚💚💚
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joelise
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Post by joelise on May 8, 2022 17:22:58 GMT
Thank you!
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on May 8, 2022 17:26:33 GMT
Thank you. This is one of the hardest days of the year for me. My wonderful mom is still alive and 88 years old. I'm so blessed to have her and we spent the day with her yesterday.
But it's a hard day for me as DH and I were unable to have children and it's a pain that hurts me to my very core. Most days I handle it okay but this year it seems extra painful for some reason. DH and I are in a group chat with two other couples who both have 3 daughters. I love them all and their children but one of the wives posted a Mother's Day greeting in the chat today and said it was for her and the other mom. I know it wasn't to intentionally hurt me but it did. I have decided that maybe social media isn't the place for me today.
Sending love and hugs to all the peas who are hurting today.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on May 8, 2022 17:41:39 GMT
Love to all of you whom are struggling today.
This is the 5th mother's day without my mom, and my heart hurts. I miss her. I even miss fighting with her.
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Post by sunnyd on May 8, 2022 18:28:01 GMT
Sending love to all who are sad today. I'm struggling too. But it's a hard day for me as DH and I were unable to have children and it's a pain that hurts me to my very core. I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you. |
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Post by mom on May 8, 2022 19:46:48 GMT
I get it. I hate Mothers Day and generally try to avoid it.
I started the other thread for Mothers Day because I was just so sad about Mothers Day coming up. No other day of the year reminds me so much that my mom isn't here anymore and that I am missing one of my babies.
Love to all of you.
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Post by Skellinton on May 8, 2022 20:13:02 GMT
Gentle hugs to all of you struggling today.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 8, 2022 21:52:22 GMT
Again, thank you. I get over most of the sadness, because my mom's birthday is May 5th.
It has been 51 years without her. She would have been so proud of her grandson and he has been gone almost 12 years. Some of you 'knew' him here.
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Post by janniepea on May 8, 2022 22:08:23 GMT
It’s bittersweet for me too. My husband and 2 of my 3 children are so kind and thoughtful.
The other one is an alcoholic and has pulled away from family to the point where he only communicates with us is when he wants something. We have some pretty strong boundaries and he’s not a fan of those but that’s too bad.
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Post by pmm on May 8, 2022 22:17:24 GMT
Big hugs to those that are struggling today.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on May 8, 2022 22:24:13 GMT
Thank you. This is one of the hardest days of the year for me. My wonderful mom is still alive and 88 years old. I'm so blessed to have her and we spent the day with her yesterday. But it's a hard day for me as DH and I were unable to have children and it's a pain that hurts me to my very core. Most days I handle it okay but this year it seems extra painful for some reason. DH and I are in a group chat with two other couples who both have 3 daughters. I love them all and their children but one of the wives posted a Mother's Day greeting in the chat today and said it was for her and the other mom. I know it wasn't to intentionally hurt me but it did. I have decided that maybe social media isn't the place for me today. Sending love and hugs to all the peas who are hurting today. That was really thoughtless of her. I'm sorry that happened to you. |
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peabay
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Post by peabay on May 8, 2022 22:25:04 GMT
Again, thank you. I get over most of the sadness, because my mom's birthday is May 5th. It has been 51 years without her. She would have been so proud of her grandson and he has been gone almost 12 years. Some of you 'knew' him here. That was my mom's birthday too. I miss her every day so Mother's Day doesn't really sting that much more for me. |
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Post by refugeepea on May 8, 2022 22:40:16 GMT
It has been 51 years without her. She would have been so proud of her grandson and he has been gone almost 12 years. Some of you 'knew' him here. If it helps you to talk about your son please, do so! I know I talk too much about my youngest son on here, but I feel like it's safer here. Last year was really rough for me on Mother's Day with my oldest child. I cannot say I completely understand, but Mother's Day is usually a holiday I want to go by quickly ((hugs)). |
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 8, 2022 23:54:19 GMT
Thanks for posting this. My mom passed away on March 15th (my daughter's birthday). I miss her a lot. We used to talk often about her beloved Pittsburgh (I moved here 3 years ago while she was in CA). She loved the sports teams here, we talked about the weather and different places I went that she had also gone to.
I also wasn't with my adult kids but I will see them when I visit CA early next month. I did text/talk with them so that's good.
My bf and I were going to go for a hike but I told him I just wanted a quiet day at home. He made me breakfast, dinner and dessert and just let me be all day. It was good.
Yesterday, I spent some time making my mom's favorite cookies and passing out some of them downtown. I will take some to work tomorrow too.
Hugs and prayers to all those hurting.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on May 9, 2022 0:18:01 GMT
(((Big hug))) for all those not having a great day...
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Post by shessoaverage on May 9, 2022 5:23:02 GMT
It’s not one of my favorite days. Glad it’s over. My mother died when I was 30, and within a couple of years, as we were trying to conceive, I found out I was already in premature menopause. It’s been a while, so I’m mostly used to it all now, but it makes the whole day feel pointless and sort of painful.
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Post by lily on May 9, 2022 13:20:23 GMT
Thanks for posting this. I felt so sad all day yesterday. We have 2 sons - oldest is autistic and youngest died from suicide 18 years ago May 4th. His funeral back then was the day before Mother's Day. So ever since I frankly hate Mother's Day. I feel like I am/was not a good mother. Plus my own mother passed away about 6 years ago and I really don't miss her hardly at all. Not sure if it was because she had dementia and didn't know who I was for at least six years prior to her death or what.
Anyway, it was a sucky day.
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