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Post by elaine on Jul 11, 2022 0:35:09 GMT
I went with my family to see what I expected to be a comedy-Marvel movie, which Guardians and Thor movies tend to be.
I was unprepared for the amount of time spent on one character’s battle with cancer. And surprised by how much it upset me.
I talked about it with Dh on the way home and he looked it up on the internet, and it seems that I wasn’t alone by being upset by it.
To be clear, I have NO issue with cancer being portrayed in movies. Some of my favorites revolve around it (Terms of Endearment, for example). I choose when I watch them, however, depending on my mood.
I had another infusion just a couple of weeks ago (and found that the new guidelines are 5 years of these infusions instead of 3, so I have 2 more years), so the long haul journey against cancer was on my mind.
Marvel movies are my escape. Especially Guardians. And I had heard that this Thor was heavy on the comedy. I just wasn’t ready for the underlying cancer substory that ran literally the entirety of the movie, to the second post-movie clip. If I knew, I’m not sure that I would have chosen to see it right now.
Anyhow, just a heads up for those going to see it.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 11, 2022 0:38:40 GMT
I'm so sorry that this movie triggered you. Thank you for the warning. After fighting so hard IRL, the last thing you needed was this. ITA, if we know that the movie is about cancer then we can mentally prepare, but this is not OK. No one should have to fight this horrible disease. No one. I'm sorry about the bad news that they're gonna extend your infusions, too. Cancer SUCKS!
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Post by TXMary on Jul 11, 2022 0:46:30 GMT
I'm so sorry. It’s very hard sometimes to watch that when you’re still dealing with it yourself. It’s easier for me now that I'm 13 years out, but during and for quite some time after treatment I just couldn’t watch it. I remember Kitty on Brothers and Sisters and Monica on Parenthood almost broke me. They were both such great shows and those storylines were handled so well. Maybe a little too well. It hit way too close to home.
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 11, 2022 1:45:37 GMT
Thank you for the heads up. I definitely won't see it now, after losing DH to cancer.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 11, 2022 1:49:53 GMT
We saw Thor today too. It gave me a punch in the gut too. And It felt very out of place with so much over the top comedy.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 11, 2022 1:50:31 GMT
I am really sorry. I get exactly what you mean. I found out my father had a secret second family recently, and, suddenly, I feel like every book I read has that as the plot--it's not nearly as hard as dealing with cancer, I don't think, but when I think I am getting escapist entertainment, right now, that is how what I am looking for!
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Post by katybee on Jul 11, 2022 2:06:43 GMT
Thank-you for the TW. My brother and SIL LOVE Marvel—especially Thor, because of Taika Waititi (my SIL is from New Zealand). But this will be REALLY hard for him, considering he has late stage cancer and cancer is his whole life right now…
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Post by destined2bmom on Jul 11, 2022 2:06:43 GMT
elaine  Thank you for the warning. You are an amazing woman and I am so sorry that you were hit with that when you have been through so much yourself. Now I am rethinking whether I want to go see it with my family.
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Post by quinlove on Jul 11, 2022 2:10:43 GMT
((( elaine ))) I’m so sorry this happened. ❤️
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Post by rickmer on Jul 11, 2022 2:22:02 GMT
i wasn't expecting that either - i saw it yesterday. it did seem out of step with the rest of the movie (which was generally light and comedic for "end of days" kinda story). it certainly took me away from the escapism i was hoping for from the show.
it is tough when things unexpectedly hit you hard. i remember seeing war of the roses when i was in high school and my parents were divorcing, i didn't think it was a "dark comedy" at all and really didn't enjoy it.
i have a friend going thru a difficult situation with her marriage and want to go see "mrs harris goes to paris" with her when it comes out - but unfortunately will need to scope out the storyline first to ensure there is nothing regarding her current issue as main plotline.
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Post by elaine on Jul 11, 2022 2:59:18 GMT
Thank-you for the TW. My brother and SIL LOVE Marvel—especially Thor, because of Taika Waititi (my SIL is from New Zealand). But this will be REALLY hard for him, considering he has late stage cancer and cancer is his whole life right now… I’m so sorry for what your brother is going through. 🙁 If you tell him - it doesn’t ruin the plot or anything to know - at least he can choose. There is additional info in the spoiler below. Natalie Portman’s character loses her battle with cancer near the end of the film and dies of it. If that will be problematic, he should know. 😢 We saw Thor today too. It gave me a punch in the gut too. And It felt very out of place with so much over the top comedy. Jen, (((hugs))) I can’t imagine what it was like to be you in the theater today. I’m sorry. |
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Post by elaine on Jul 11, 2022 3:06:28 GMT
Thank you for the heads up. I definitely won't see it now, after losing DH to cancer. I am sorry for your loss, mikklynn. 😢 |
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Post by tanya2 on Jul 11, 2022 3:18:57 GMT
Thank you for the heads up! I'm only 4 years out from my battle with it, and my SIL is currently stage 4 metastatic breast cancer, and it's not looking good. I'm glad I won't be caught unaware when we see this. I'm sorry it was a blindside for you and so triggering! |
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Post by jenjie on Jul 11, 2022 3:41:35 GMT
elaine thank you. My reaction took me by surprise bc I’ve been doing really well. I’m sorry for you and each of our pea friends who is struggling or has someone dealing with cancer. This movie hit an odd chord, I think you mentioned it in the op. Suffering and comedy running concurrently was an odd combination.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Jul 11, 2022 3:50:55 GMT
That just seems an odd addition to a comedy. I think I will be waiting to see it. I don’t need that storyline. Thanks for the warning.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 11, 2022 3:52:59 GMT
This reminds me of when I took my kids and their friends to see Stepmom with Julia Roberts. The trailers for it ONLY showed funny parts.
instead I get hit with Susan Sarandon dying of cancer. I was bawling in the theater, my mother had recently passed of pancreatic cancer. My kids were embarrassed in front of their friends.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 11, 2022 4:08:34 GMT
I’m 25 years out from my cancer treatment and I don’t think this would bother me on a personal level for being a cancer survivor specifically … but I don’t want to see a sad, unexpected death of any young, likable character for any reason without some warning. That stuff breaks me up. It ruins movies for me. Also, I’ll just throw this out there since your post made me think of it … I took my kids to see Mrs. Doubtfire in the theater, along with a friend and her kids, two weeks after my husband was killed. Everyone else including my kids loved it, but I hated it. The whole movie I was thinking, what are these stupid kids whining about? So they don’t get to live with their father anymore. Big deal. At least they have a father! I don’t think I was in the right frame of mind, at that time, for that movie. At all.  |
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Post by peace on Jul 11, 2022 13:16:15 GMT
I really appreciate the warning. These movies are usually a great mental escape for me but I know I am not in the frame of mind at this time to subject myself. Thank you!!
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Post by quiltz on Jul 11, 2022 14:23:45 GMT
elaine thank you. My reaction took me by surprise bc I’ve been doing really well. I’m sorry for you and each of our pea friends who is struggling or has someone dealing with cancer. This movie hit an odd chord, I think you mentioned it in the op. Suffering and comedy running concurrently was an odd combination. I am not surprised at your *surprise* reaction. Many things are stored in our brain, just not up-front. Sometimes it is a scent or a song or something at a movie and - BOOM - I am back where I was 18 years ago. Crazy, but true. Still keeping you in my thoughts as you continue on in life. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2022 19:38:24 GMT
I'm sorry it was hard for you with your own treatments going on. That surprises me it would be in the story line and I definitely agree it should have a warning or be included in the movie description. I don't have any current reason for it to be a trigger for me, although in general, story lines with cancer generally get to me emotionally. Take care!
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