Ever Said Something That Shocked Even You

Been there. An apology really does help

Yep... BTDT

I did apologize and didn't make any excuses - I said something like "I'm sorry - that was completely out of line and rude of me."

I've said lots of horrible things to people that I wish I could take back. The things I think in my head and don't say out loud are even more shocking to me.

Never.  I'm way too refined and perfect for that.   Of course, I have and I'm sure it's been on more than one occasion.  Apologize if you can and let it go.  The only person likely to continue beating you up is you!  If it's on a message board and you can do so, PM the person and apology and then move on.

  Plus, we've all been on the receiving end at one time or another, and have behaved with dignity and good grace. ?

not really.... i have mis-worded things or said things that i wish i had been more careful about.... but i have never swore at someone or said something purposefully mean/hurtful to someone (well, as a full grown adult that is).

i did lose my mind and yelled at the community centre staff when they neglected to tell me swimming was cancelled on halloween two years ago. it was dd's bday, my son forgot half his costume at school and was hysterical, it had been a hell day and took everything i had to get them to that pool.

when i asked why didn't you call us, i was told "we told the kids last week". my son was 5. so i yelled at them "why would you tell a 5 year old and not the parent standing on the side holding his towel?? when my taxes are done, my account calls ME, the person who pays her, NOT my five year old!!". i apologized at the time, said i knew it wasn't *that* person's fault but i was really frustrated. i also made a special trip BACK to the community centre the following week to apologize again.... to be honest that seemed to make a huge difference. they were all indifferent to me, now when i walk in they smile and greet me by name...... lol!!

and i love chipolte.... i think they recently came to canada and have been twice. and funny enough, i found the staff to be AMAZING both times!

what you said was mean.... apologizing and acknowledging it is all you can do. it's one thing to say "sorry" but to admit "i had no right to speak to you that way" makes it more sincere.

Sure I have. Most of the time the person deserved it so I don't feel guilty. Rarely do I say that kind of stuff to people who don't deserve it. Then I feel guilty.

OMG Yes! I was 12 (at least I had youth on my side) and I said the most horrible thing to the boy with one arm. He was teasing me and I just wasn't thinking.

It still makes me feel ashamed and horrible that I said it.

Since then I try to always, always watch what I say and make sure I'm saying what I mean.
I sometimes fail and still offend, but I immediately apologize.

Sadly I hear that kind of junk too often from customers. The best one was last week when a woman said to me. I spend more shopping in a week than you make in a month at your crappy retail job. Well then. Go you. Idiot.

Most of us try to be thoughtful. We fail. Just apologize and move on. We are human it happens.

Yes... I apologized fairly soon after, but then brought the subject up again after a little time and gave the apology again... I was worried that the first apology didn't sound sincere or that I did that just as a sort of reflex... Everyone has those moments, and this is when you can rely on your character... People will know immediately if it's out of character for you... The apology is still needed IMO, but people can tell when something is a pattern and when it's an anomaly... Your character will be what people judge you on, not just one comment...

  What an ass!