sharlag
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Jun 26, 2014 12:57:48 GMT
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Post by sharlag on Jul 26, 2022 15:31:49 GMT
I find myself compulsively on my phone way too much. Suggestions?
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Post by paulao on Jul 26, 2022 15:36:55 GMT
I’m like that with my iPad. I tell myself NO, put it in its resting spot, and physically move away from it. I will do something to distract myself, even if it’s cleaning the kitchen. If I am waiting at an appointment I make myself sit quietly and think soothing thoughts.
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styxgirl
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Jun 27, 2014 4:51:44 GMT
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 26, 2022 15:37:14 GMT
Get on the computer! LOLOL! Seriously, I will read this thread with an open mind... I need ideas too. I spend way too much time on the phone and computer!!
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Post by Merge on Jul 26, 2022 15:43:20 GMT
For me, the answer is going back to work in a few weeks ... haha. But when I'm trying to do better, I leave my phone and laptop in the bedroom so I can't compulsively check them, and go about my day in the main part of the house.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jul 26, 2022 15:44:45 GMT
For me it's more the desktop and the iPad, but I still spend too much time on them. I'm making a stronger effort to spend time on my sewing or needlepoint. Going out in the evening when I'm usually online to water plants and deadhead flowers gets me away from the screen as well. If I can shift my focus to something else, then it's easier to forget about the online world.
As for the phone, half the time I don't even know where the thing is. I've never been one to carry it with me around the house.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jul 26, 2022 15:46:47 GMT
Get on the computer! LOLOL! haha!! my answer: switch to my iPad. LOL. I also have to physically put it down and find something else to do with my hands- I pick up my cross-stitching, or a book.
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Post by katlady on Jul 26, 2022 15:47:30 GMT
Get an iwatch. Lol! I get all kinds of notifications on it (text, email, IG, etc). I look at the notifications, dismiss them if not important, and I don’t need to look at my phone. Looking at my phone leads me into spending too much time on it because I fall down the rabbit hole.
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Post by Linda on Jul 26, 2022 17:58:55 GMT
my sister and BIL got basic phones - they can get texts, calls, emails, but not apps. They kept their smartphones but only use on wifi.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 26, 2022 19:01:56 GMT
Use my iPad.
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Post by disneypal on Jul 26, 2022 19:09:01 GMT
I am usually pretty busy at work during the day but do check my phone from time to time (email/FB/2Peas) but at 7 pm, I am done. I put my phone on the charger and say I am done for the day and don't generally look at it after that. Most everyone I know is aware of this so I seldom receive calls/text after 7 pm.
I won't say I NEVER check it after 7 pm but as a general rule, once it is on the charger, it stays there until after I am up, ready, showered and ready for work
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 26, 2022 19:16:35 GMT
Get a job where you can't bring your phone with you! I can't have mine for 8 hours a day... But that means I am super addicted to it in the evenings catching up. Oh yeah and don't get on TikTok.. that is addicting. I actually finally stopped and only give myself 1/2 hour before bed.
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SweetieBsMom
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Jun 25, 2014 19:55:12 GMT
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jul 26, 2022 19:19:22 GMT
My 'danger' time is at night. I don't have time to be on my phone during work. But I have a set a strict no screens after 8pm limit for myself. So I'll read a book from 8-9pm. I also have my phone set to go to DND at 8pm so I won't be tempted to pick it up to look at someone texting me.
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breetheflea
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Jul 20, 2014 21:57:23 GMT
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Post by breetheflea on Jul 26, 2022 19:22:24 GMT
Delete apps. Turn off notifications for apps (Gardenscapes...) I have do-not-disturb hours set on so I don't get texts when I'm getting ready for bed.
I'm thinking of doing a no-phone Sunday and turning it completely off for the day...
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 27, 2022 0:14:17 GMT
For me it's my MacBook rather than my phone. I have my MacBook open beside me from the time I finish dinner until the time I go to bed, which is about 4-5 hours most weeknights. I'm not on it that whole time, but almost! And you know what? I don't feel the need to reduce my screen time. It's what I enjoy doing. 🤷♀️
@breetheflea I am almost hyperventilating at the idea of a no-phone (or no-MacBook) Sunday! Sunday is my day to relax, if I don't have anything on, so that's the day I like to use my devices the most.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 27, 2022 0:15:35 GMT
I spend half my life not remembering where I put my phone or going to find it.
I'm on my MacBook plenty though.
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Post by peano on Jul 27, 2022 2:52:59 GMT
I got a puppy.
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Jul 27, 2022 3:16:37 GMT
I’m on my MacBook, then my iPad, then my phone. I need to go back to work. That’s coming quickly. 🤣
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 27, 2022 4:26:04 GMT
Eat some Cheetos or Doritos. That orange cheese dust makes greasy fingerprints on the screen! 🤣
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 27, 2022 11:04:46 GMT
I do most of my communication, Facebook, Instagram, peaing, reading the newspaper, etc. all through my phone. I've just been putting my phone in my bedroom after dinner. I allow myself to have it all day long and then I'm like done with electronics and I put it to bed for the night. This is my time to visit with Jeremy and wind down with some crochet or a book or my bass.
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craftykitten
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Jun 26, 2014 7:39:32 GMT
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 27, 2022 11:12:54 GMT
I use my iPad more than my phone because it has a case that lets it stand, so I’m not giving myself carpal tunnel syndrome from holding a phone. I use the kindle app and try to read rather than just mindless browsing. I use The Procreate app to do art rather than just mindless scrolling (Reddit, I’m looking at you). And sometimes the act of physically closing the case and putting the iPad down signals my intention to focus on something else.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2022 11:36:21 GMT
These are some good ideas. I tried reading book about putting your phone down more.
How to break up with your phone : the 30-day plan to take back your life / by Catherine Price.
I tried downloading an app...stayfree? I have to use my phone FOR work throughout the day and I think I worry I will miss something from my mom...sometimes she gets our house number and my cell number confused...so not sure she would try house phone if she needs us... when my daughter goes to college that is going to get worse, I think I will feel on call 24/7. Ugh.
I like the idea of putting it away, moving away physically. Going in the yard is nice. It's really tricky for me to have the self discipline.
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gensmith
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Post by gensmith on Jul 27, 2022 13:03:26 GMT
I have a love/hate relationship with my phone. I don’t understand how I can get on it to look at one thing and an hour passes. One Saturday I had my husband hide it from me and that Saturday seemed like it had so many more hours in it. I got so many things accomplished, too. I need to do that more often.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 27, 2022 13:49:09 GMT
A lot of good ideas here.
Like most others, I really waste too much time on the phone. I get on for a 'legitimate' reason and then realize I've stayed on doing useless stuff. I'd like to do better about that.
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Post by candygurl on Jul 27, 2022 13:49:41 GMT
Put it away in a different room!
Grab my kindle and read.
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Post by melanell on Jul 27, 2022 14:37:09 GMT
I never bring my phone in the house, which definitely means a very low amount of time spent on it. But I have a landline, which makes that perfectly possible to do, and I realize many people have let go of their landlines since they already have their phones on them 24/7. (Which I guess can make a bit of a vicious circle of sorts if you're in that type of situation and then also decide to try to spend less time on it.) But, even if you are someone who uses it as your only phone, it can still have a particular place to live in your home, just like a corded phone would have back in the day. Maybe create a special spot for it somewhere, and only use it when you're in that spot? A living room end table or dining room table or some thing? Maybe make a to-do list, and let the phone be your break after so many things done. Or, make a list of fun little things you might like to do, and keep that list near the phone, so that you can make the choice to do one of the items off of your list instead? Along that same line, keep fun things near the phone's new spot---if you like to read or do crossword puzzles, for instance, keep a few books and a puzzle book with your phone. Or maybe keep your sunglasses with it as a reminder to go outside for a bit? Best of luck!!
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 28, 2022 12:18:32 GMT
I do most of my communication, Facebook, Instagram, peaing, reading the newspaper, etc. all through my phone. I've just been putting my phone in my bedroom after dinner. I allow myself to have it all day long and then I'm like done with electronics and I put it to bed for the night. This is my time to visit with Jeremy and wind down with some crochet or a book or my bass. I'm going to try this. I spend too much time in the evening playing games or reading garbage on Google.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 28, 2022 13:20:09 GMT
I do most of my communication, Facebook, Instagram, peaing, reading the newspaper, etc. all through my phone. I've just been putting my phone in my bedroom after dinner. I allow myself to have it all day long and then I'm like done with electronics and I put it to bed for the night. This is my time to visit with Jeremy and wind down with some crochet or a book or my bass. I'm going to try this. I spend too much time in the evening playing games or reading garbage on Google. You know I was reading an article last week, two weeks ago? about giving our minds a rest and I recognized myself. I meditate on the regular, but it's not a significant section of time and it's usually in the morning when my brain is at its freshest anyway. My head is already empty in the morning as the day is new. But when I get to evening, my mind is full, my brain is tired. And sometimes I get to a point where I'm just too exhausted to even hobby. So after reading that article, I was like, what did we do in the years without phones? I sat in a waiting room at the dentist yesterday with others and everybody was on their phones while they were waiting and I just kept thinking it wasn't like this 30 years ago. We just gave our minds a break. And that's what the article was talking about. How we never give our minds a break anymore. So Jeremy goes to bed at 8 pm and I go to bed at 9 pm. He's a big TV watcher, but I am not. At 8pm when he goes to bed, he turns off the TV and I've just been sitting there for almost an hour and do literally nothing. I might pray. I might think of something I read. I might even listen to music. But I absolutely have not been taking in any new information. I've been trying that since I read that article.
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sharlag
Drama Llama
I like my artsy with a little bit of fartsy.
Posts: 6,574
Location: Kansas
Jun 26, 2014 12:57:48 GMT
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Post by sharlag on Jul 28, 2022 13:51:00 GMT
How we never give our minds a break anymore. I feel like I compulsively listen to podcasts. I'm rarely in my home without some audio input. jeremysgirl, 30 years ago *I* was reading magazines in the doctor's office, and reading the back of cereal boxes in the morning. It's not just a 'sign of the times' for me-- I've always been an 'input junky'.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jul 28, 2022 14:21:37 GMT
I'm rarely in my home without some audio input. me, too- it's rare for me to actually sit with 'silence' around (although actual silence is tough, with three dogs in the house, lol). I do try to make some of the audio 'ambience' music, though- soothing music with the sounds of nature, like you'd hear in a spa/salon. And I absolutely do think it's an inherited personality trait for me; I used to read the cereal box or a book when I was eating my breakfast as a kid (my dad would read the paper at the table every evening while we ate dinner; ugh). As I've gotten older, I think it's not such a great thing, though, to always have to be 'multi-tasking' with my brain-- my dad had anxiety, and I've probably had it for years, too, just never got treated for it before. I do like doing activities that put my brain into a 'flow / zen' state, like when I garden, or when I'm art-journaling or cross-stitching. I just don't do them often enough.
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pantsonfire
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Jun 19, 2022 16:48:04 GMT
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Post by pantsonfire on Jul 28, 2022 14:35:44 GMT
I'm going to try this. I spend too much time in the evening playing games or reading garbage on Google. You know I was reading an article last week, two weeks ago? about giving our minds a rest and I recognized myself. I meditate on the regular, but it's not a significant section of time and it's usually in the morning when my brain is at its freshest anyway. My head is already empty in the morning as the day is new. But when I get to evening, my mind is full, my brain is tired. And sometimes I get to a point where I'm just too exhausted to even hobby. So after reading that article, I was like, what did we do in the years without phones? I sat in a waiting room at the dentist yesterday with others and everybody was on their phones while they were waiting and I just kept thinking it wasn't like this 30 years ago. We just gave our minds a break. And that's what the article was talking about. How we never give our minds a break anymore. So Jeremy goes to bed at 8 pm and I go to bed at 9 pm. He's a big TV watcher, but I am not. At 8pm when he goes to bed, he turns off the TV and I've just been sitting there for almost an hour and do literally nothing. I might pray. I might think of something I read. I might even listen to music. But I absolutely have not been taking in any new information. I've been trying that since I read that article. I would read magazines or play games in the kids magazines. Everyone back then was reading. Now it's just on a phone instead of a magazine. I think the difference is though is the amount of information thrown at us on our phones/tablets over a magazine. You have pop up ads, scrolling, ads within the articles or games...it's all mindless. It's a habit for many with their finger just going through the motions and their mind absorbing what it can. I found that being outside is my off brain time. Swimming in the pool with the kids/dh, taking a small hike, taking photos. I can relax and just be.
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