snyder
Pearl Clutcher
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Location: Colorado
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Post by snyder on Dec 7, 2022 0:24:04 GMT
Very generous to help your friend in need. Could you possibly go somewhere closer and just tell her due to time constraints that Hawaii wouldn't be freasible for you at the time, but you hate not to go some where that you/she can enjoy for a bit?
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 7, 2022 2:09:26 GMT
I had typed out a long reply, but the board ate it, so I will instead make a short sharp statement: Your friend is dying. She's most likely drinking to help her cope with that horrendous thought. To say that you won't take her on the trip because of her drinking would be unnecessarily cruel. Please don't do it. I wish I could have read the whole comment. Yes, I am so relieved that I can see my way clear to replacing that trip with something closer and easier. And simply use my own limitations as explanation. Something I have not mentioned is that I was raised by two alcoholics, and was married to one for 34 years. Caring for them has been second nature. I love spending time with my friend, but once she starts drinking, she is a different person. I think I was just really confused in this situation about the best way to explain why I can’t do it. |
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 18, 2022 8:48:41 GMT
UPDATE in OP
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RedSquirrelUK
Drama Llama
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Location: The UK's beautiful West Country
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Dec 18, 2022 10:31:54 GMT
Re: your update. Sometimes things work out the right way without you doing anything. My Mum's attitude was always "how can we fix this?" and my Dad's was "let's wait and see". Often his way was the answer, while Mum and I lost sleep trying to work out what to do.
I'm sorry for your friend, but very thankful that you didn't need to risk damaging your friendship by initiating that conversation. I hope you can take that break, refresh yourself and be ready for whatever support she needs.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 18, 2022 13:07:47 GMT
Wishing your friend well..
But moreso, may you find peace. May you enjoy traveling with your family.
HUGS!!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 18, 2022 13:48:35 GMT
I'm glad you didn't have to tell her. I'm sorry she is so unwell.
Have a wonderful time with your family.
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Post by destined2bmom on Dec 18, 2022 13:57:10 GMT
I am sorry that your friend is feeling so sick. But I am glad that things worked out and you didn’t have to have to tell her how you felt and feel terrible about it.
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purplebee
Drama Llama
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Post by purplebee on Dec 18, 2022 17:32:06 GMT
Glad to hear that your dilemma was solved without having to hurt your friend. You are everything that a friend could want, kind and caring, and I hope you can enjoy the trip with your family.
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