janeinbama
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Location: Alabama
Jan 29, 2015 16:24:49 GMT
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Post by janeinbama on Mar 7, 2023 1:08:05 GMT
So your BFF was not the only person surprised on this weekend!! Kuddos to you for keeping your cool and enjoying the weekend!
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Post by silverlining on Mar 7, 2023 1:17:55 GMT
OMG! I could be a good sport the first night but by about 4:00 the next day I would be not so charming and by about 9:00 that evening I would be in serious risk of losing my sh*t
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Post by mollycoddle on Mar 7, 2023 1:26:11 GMT
I am glad that the trip was a success for your friend. I would have kicked them out at midnight, so you are a better person than I am.
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cycworker
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Jun 26, 2014 0:42:38 GMT
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Post by cycworker on Mar 7, 2023 1:58:08 GMT
Yup you are a better person than I am. I'd be like, 'Guys, I'm old. I turn into a pumpkin at midnight."
I really don't like this lady. She's a troublemaker. I suspect she was hoping you'd cause a scene & upset your friend. Good for you for not letting her win.
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scrappinwithoutpeas
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Aug 7, 2014 22:09:44 GMT
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Mar 7, 2023 2:19:44 GMT
OMG! I could be a good sport the first night but by about 4:00 the next day I would be not so charming and by about 9:00 that evening I would be in serious risk of losing my sh*t I'd be a good sport about it the first night and then I'd probably work out some way to either switch rooms with someone else on the trip who's a night owl/late sleeper, or just check out and go to the other hotel like you had originally planned. Troublemaker lady can stuff it! Glad your BFF enjoyed it though!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 7, 2023 2:42:04 GMT
After reading the update, you’re a WAY better friend than I am because I would have been pea livid if someone would have made those changes to my room arrangement without asking me first. That’s just rude. And I absolutely would have kicked them all out around midnight if there wasn’t a separate room I could hole up in by myself. I can only “people” for so long before I become a raging witch, especially if it feels like someone is trying to provoke me on purpose. I wouldn’t want to ruin my friend’s weekend, but I also wouldn’t let a bunch of people take advantage of me either.
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Post by malibou on Mar 7, 2023 3:11:37 GMT
Oh hell no! I'm just not that nice. I would have been suspicious about the room upgrade, and at check in would have asked for the room I booked. I am so not tolerant of the kind of passive aggressive crap she pulled and would have found a way to take care of business without bff finding out.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Mar 7, 2023 3:32:27 GMT
In regards to your update: I am glad that you made the best of the unexpected situation.
Personally speaking, I would have been pissed that the other person meddled and got my room upgraded for partying purposes. I wouldn't have allowed the party to happen (I don't care if other people like me or not). I would also be filing a complaint and contacting corporate in regards to the hotel staff not asking your permission to do the upgrade. I would be requesting a discount-refund back to your card because hotel staffs actions caused you lack of sleep and distress. I wouldn't have made a scene and ruined the party, but I would have had a word in private with the asshole friend who forced the party in your room upon you, and let her know how inappropriate her actions were, as well as tell her that she is an asshole. Once home I would inform the rest of the group of the assholes actions and that you were basically strong armed into having the before and after party in your room. Entitled assholes, who stop at nothing to get what they want, piss me off.
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Post by busy on Mar 7, 2023 4:47:43 GMT
I would have been suspicious about the room upgrade, and at check in would have asked for the room I booked. It had been a really long day and since I travel a lot, I tend to get a lot of upgrades, so it didn't seem strange to me. If I'd been more alert, I would have realized it's weird to get an out-of-the-blue upgrade at an independent hotel I've never stayed at before Once home I would inform the rest of the group of the assholes actions and that you were basically strong armed into having the before and after party in your room. I won't be doing that. It would ruin my BFF's memories of a trip she loved and it would damage the relationship between her and her friend who engaged in shenanigans. I don't want either to happen. Plus, I don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she pissed me off. I'm pretty confident that my complete lack of a reaction to anything she did bugged the hell out of her. She was clearly trying to goad me into something, and by just keeping it to myself and making the best of it and having fun was the best revenge.
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tracylynn
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Jun 26, 2014 22:49:09 GMT
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Post by tracylynn on Mar 7, 2023 5:24:22 GMT
You are a way better person than I am.
Day 2 would have been the end for me.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Mar 7, 2023 16:29:00 GMT
Plus, I don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she pissed me off. I'm pretty confident that my complete lack of a reaction to anything she did bugged the hell out of her. She was clearly trying to goad me into something, and by just keeping it to myself and making the best of it and having fun was the best revenge. Sometimes it's just best to take the high road. Things have a way of coming out on their own down the road with no assistance needed. I suspect your BFF knows your habits very well and realizes the sacrifice you made (well, were tricked into making) and appreciates it.
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Post by Lexica on Mar 7, 2023 16:36:05 GMT
I would have been suspicious about the room upgrade, and at check in would have asked for the room I booked. It had been a really long day and since I travel a lot, I tend to get a lot of upgrades, so it didn't seem strange to me. If I'd been more alert, I would have realized it's weird to get an out-of-the-blue upgrade at an independent hotel I've never stayed at before Once home I would inform the rest of the group of the assholes actions and that you were basically strong armed into having the before and after party in your room. I won't be doing that. It would ruin my BFF's memories of a trip she loved and it would damage the relationship between her and her friend who engaged in shenanigans. I don't want either to happen. Plus, I don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she pissed me off. I'm pretty confident that my complete lack of a reaction to anything she did bugged the hell out of her. She was clearly trying to goad me into something, and by just keeping it to myself and making the best of it and having fun was the best revenge. I agree that this was absolutely the best way to handle this situation. I don’t doubt that she was hoping you would be upset at the room change and then she could act all surprised and say that she was just trying to give everyone a place to gather and have fun. I also wouldn’t be surprised if she paid for the upgrade herself, then claim it was free. I hate manipulative people!
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 7, 2023 20:31:59 GMT
I'm always so happy to get updates from posts like this so first, thank you. And can I say I'm not surprised. I bet Ms. Passive-Aggressive was behind all the circus over where you stayed from the start, and this was her way of driving home her "win." Life's too short for that childishness. Don't travel in a group that includes her again. You handled it really well, but I'd never do anything with that PITA involved again.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Mar 7, 2023 21:41:15 GMT
We don’t live far from each other, so if you close your eyes and listen, you should be able to hear me applauding you from my home for your restraint and high mindedness. I do believe we reap what we sow in this world, ( others call it Karma ), and you have earned a bunch.
You’re a good friend.
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teddyw
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Jun 29, 2014 1:56:04 GMT
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Post by teddyw on Mar 8, 2023 1:20:25 GMT
You are definitely a good friend but that woman is not. I bet she does stuff in that group at other events.
It’s unbelievable to me the lengths she went to get her way.
I don’t understand why a couple couldn’t have had their room upgraded and hosted all that. Why didn’t she upgrade her own room? (I’m asking myself that). I bet her spouse wouldn’t agree to it.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 8, 2023 1:42:23 GMT
You are definitely a good friend but that woman is not. I bet she does stuff in that group at other events. It’s unbelievable to me the lengths she went to get her way. I don’t understand why a couple couldn’t have had their room upgraded and hosted all that. Why didn’t she upgrade her own room? (I’m asking myself that). I bet her spouse wouldn’t agree to it. The OP was the only one traveling to the party alone without a spouse/partner so my guess is that’s why she was targeted as the one to be inconvenienced by having the hosting duty foisted upon her. I’d also be willing to bet that the pot stirrer never even bothered to ask any of the other couples if they would mind having the party room.
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Post by busy on Mar 8, 2023 2:03:37 GMT
You are definitely a good friend but that woman is not. I bet she does stuff in that group at other events. It’s unbelievable to me the lengths she went to get her way. I don’t understand why a couple couldn’t have had their room upgraded and hosted all that. Why didn’t she upgrade her own room? (I’m asking myself that). I bet her spouse wouldn’t agree to it. Pre-trip, a couple of the women (including the troublemaker) really wanted me to get a suite because they wanted a place “just for the girls.” I think most of the group would have preferred it had been a girls trip rather than a couples trip, but BFF’s DH wanted to go so all the husbands were invited. While I’ve no love loss for the troublemaker, the more I think about it, the more think irritating me was a bonus and not her primary motivation. She is very close to the one woman who is having marriage trouble and I think she was trying to give her a place to escape. She was shitty about it and she definitely was hoping she’d get the chance to make me look bitchy and her look like a selfless martyr. But she’s not a completely hateful person so I don’t think her actions were all about me.
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smartypants71
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Location: Houston, TX
Jun 25, 2014 22:47:49 GMT
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Post by smartypants71 on Mar 8, 2023 12:49:20 GMT
I admire your restraint. I probably would have gone Incredible Hulk if people kept me up that late!
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Post by peace on Mar 8, 2023 16:44:17 GMT
OMG to that update. The freaking NERVE!! Who does that without discussing it thoroughly with the party it directly involves??!? That's just cray. You were a VERY good sport. What a wench.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 8, 2023 19:45:31 GMT
You are capable of more kindness than I am at 3:30 am because I would have possibly lost it. That’s way past hospitable to be in your room that late ( early? )
Ask my dog who has a new habit of waking up to pee at 3:30-4:30 am I’m am grumpy & cranky and I love him & know it’s not his fault it’s his age and possibly dig dementia and I’m still grumpy. With people who should know better I feel I might slip from grumpy to bitchy without meaning to that late at night. I am not able to filter well when I’m exhausted ( although my BFF’s knows I can not stay up that late & they would be as grumpy if kept up )
Kudos to you for maintaining self control & making sure your BFF had an awesome trip.
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casii
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Jun 29, 2014 14:40:44 GMT
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Post by casii on Mar 8, 2023 19:53:25 GMT
You're a better woman than I and I applaud your restraint.
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dantemia
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Jun 27, 2014 19:28:17 GMT
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Post by dantemia on Mar 8, 2023 19:56:42 GMT
I guess I don't quite understand how the hotel allowed someone else to make the change to your room without a confirmation number, etc. That would just bother me to no end.
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Post by busy on Mar 8, 2023 20:11:55 GMT
I guess I don't quite understand how the hotel allowed someone else to make the change to your room without a confirmation number, etc. That would just bother me to no end. They had all of our information - while we booked and paid individually, we were an informal group (not for pricing purposes) and the hotel treated us as such, putting us on the same floor, etc at the request of the organizers. I am sure the hotel thought they were providing great service and I can’t fault them for that.
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Post by 950nancy on Mar 8, 2023 20:15:13 GMT
I would have been suspicious about the room upgrade, and at check in would have asked for the room I booked. It had been a really long day and since I travel a lot, I tend to get a lot of upgrades, so it didn't seem strange to me. If I'd been more alert, I would have realized it's weird to get an out-of-the-blue upgrade at an independent hotel I've never stayed at before Once home I would inform the rest of the group of the assholes actions and that you were basically strong armed into having the before and after party in your room. I won't be doing that. It would ruin my BFF's memories of a trip she loved and it would damage the relationship between her and her friend who engaged in shenanigans. I don't want either to happen. Plus, I don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she pissed me off. I'm pretty confident that my complete lack of a reaction to anything she did bugged the hell out of her. She was clearly trying to goad me into something, and by just keeping it to myself and making the best of it and having fun was the best revenge. You are a good friend. While I would totally be ticked off, sometimes I put my friends first, too. I would also love to get the upper hand in that situation. Bossy chick didn't get what she wanted. You win. Friend wins.
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