The Great Carpezio
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Jun 25, 2014 21:50:33 GMT
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Mar 8, 2023 23:52:07 GMT
We only have one “real” bathroom with four people and two are 15. We do have another bathroom with a sink and toilet. We are fine most of the time—but we do have that additional toilet in emergency.
Since you are thinking about the future, I think it might be difficult to manage with only one and 4+
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Post by busy on Mar 8, 2023 23:54:42 GMT
I'll support the choice to purchase. The view is gorgeous. We lived 4-7 people (on weekends) for 4 years with one bathroom. And no one ever complained. We have two bathrooms in our current home but only one on the main floor and Jeremy and I have no problem sharing. Honestly, I'm a little shocked here at all the responses. How much time do people honestly spend in the bathroom? I'd rather have the view. I’m a little shocked too! It would be a definite no-go for full-time living but it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to me for a week or two at a time, max.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 8, 2023 23:55:12 GMT
And for the record, I grew up in a house of 6 with one bathroom, I am more than aware that it's possible to make do. I am also very aware that when presented with a vacation choice of shared bathroom it's a big nope from me.
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Post by busy on Mar 8, 2023 23:56:08 GMT
Absolutely not - please don't do this and force his future family into the awkwardness of either putting up with it or telling you they need to get a hotel. I HATE sharing a bathroom and his future partner could very well feel the same. I’d never be offended by anyone choosing to stay at a hotel. I very specifically do not want to get a larger vacation home because I don’t want to deal with having a ton of people use it and/or stay with us.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 8, 2023 23:57:38 GMT
I'll support the choice to purchase. The view is gorgeous. We lived 4-7 people (on weekends) for 4 years with one bathroom. And no one ever complained. We have two bathrooms in our current home but only one on the main floor and Jeremy and I have no problem sharing. Honestly, I'm a little shocked here at all the responses. How much time do people honestly spend in the bathroom? I'd rather have the view. It's not the time tbh - it's the intimacy with strangers - and really, in many cases that's the reality of inlaws - these aren't people you may know well enough to want to share a bathroom with ymmv.
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Post by ~summer~ on Mar 9, 2023 0:01:45 GMT
Easily. No problem.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 9, 2023 0:04:40 GMT
Absolutely not - please don't do this and force his future family into the awkwardness of either putting up with it or telling you they need to get a hotel. I HATE sharing a bathroom and his future partner could very well feel the same. I’d never be offended by anyone choosing to stay at a hotel. I very specifically do not want to get a larger vacation home because I don’t want to deal with having a ton of people use it and/or stay with us. Okay - if you want to do it, do it. I am the opposite - the ONLY thing I'm looking for in a vacation home is an opportunity to lure my kids to coming and visiting with their potential families (granted mine are older and no longer live at home). As empty nesters, we see vacations as a time we'll be able to get together again, so size and convenience matters - we do a fair amount of solo travel, but for a purchase - I'd be making sure my hypothetical grandbabies would come and enjoy.
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anniebeth24
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Post by anniebeth24 on Mar 9, 2023 0:10:33 GMT
We have a cabin with one bathroom and have had up to 9 people staying overnight. Ideal? No, but we make it work.
My tip - Invest in a cheap, loud bathroom fan.
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Post by belgravia on Mar 9, 2023 0:13:45 GMT
One bathroom would definitely not work for us. Dealbreaker.
ETA Think about how messy the bathroom will get with everyone using it. Then think about what happens when you have friends over for happy hour, dinner, whatever and you have to make sure that messy bathroom is “company ready.” No thanks! We run into this issue in our California home which has 2 bathrooms. I can’t imagine only having one.
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Post by Merge on Mar 9, 2023 0:15:20 GMT
Nope. I’d have a hard time enjoying the view while my husband spends his 45 minutes in the bathroom each morning and I have to peeeeeee. 😂
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peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Mar 9, 2023 0:16:18 GMT
vacation house usually equals guests - you want to share your one bathroom with other people who are visiting?
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Post by busy on Mar 9, 2023 0:16:37 GMT
I’d never be offended by anyone choosing to stay at a hotel. I very specifically do not want to get a larger vacation home because I don’t want to deal with having a ton of people use it and/or stay with us. Okay - if you want to do it, do it. I am the opposite - the ONLY thing I'm looking for in a vacation home is an opportunity to lure my kids to coming and visiting with their potential families (granted mine are older and no longer live at home). As empty nesters, we see vacations as a time we'll be able to get together again, so size and convenience matters - we do a fair amount of solo travel, but for a purchase - I'd be making sure my hypothetical grandbabies would come and enjoy. Totally makes sense. I’d rather have that be our primary home. My in-laws have a beach house and we are fortunate to be able to use it a lot but the nature of occasionally used houses means there’s always maintenance work to be done and so whenever we’re there, we’re doing yard work, small home repairs, etc. We’re happy to do it to help them out and express our appreciation for letting us stay, but it’s not my ideal. I wouldn’t want DS and any future family to be in a similar situation. But everyone does make good points. How we foresee using it long-term may change and our perspective now, when we’re still working full time and live a three and a half hour drive away may be very different from how we’d feel when we’re retired, potentially have a kid and maybe a family living far away, etc.
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Post by busy on Mar 9, 2023 0:17:12 GMT
vacation house usually equals guests - you want to share your one bathroom with other people who are visiting? Lol I do not think vacation house has to equal guests (nor do I want it to) My in-laws’ beach place has shaped my opinion on the kind of place I would want. They expanded it a number of years ago, and people have been *constantly* asking to use it ever since. People, even extended family, can be outrageously entitled and inconsiderate about how they use the vacation homes of others and I don’t want to select a house where we’d have to deal with that. By keeping it smaller (but in an area that family/friends could easily get a hotel or vacation rental), less of that to deal with. But y’all are giving me pause about the one bathroom.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 9, 2023 0:17:42 GMT
With one child and no desire to have larger numbers of people come visit? I'd do it in a heartbeat for those views. He's only 15 - you have plenty of time to rethink adding another bathroom later if you decide to.
We have way too big a family already. I had thirteen here for Christmas with three babies. And more babies will be coming. We would be looking to buy a small motel!
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Post by Lexica on Mar 9, 2023 0:31:55 GMT
Is there at least the option for adding another bathroom if you find you really want one? If you have the option to add even a half bath later, I would do it. If the single bathroom was all you can ever have, I would keep looking.
And this is due to having both this home and the one I just sold having two out of three bathrooms out of commission at the same time for repairs.
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Post by katlady on Mar 9, 2023 0:32:35 GMT
It is not a dealbreaker for me. I grew up in a one bathroom home. If I love everything else about the home, I would go for it. And besides, it is a vacation home. How many days at a time do you plan to stay there? Even when we traveled with the boys, we often got hotel rooms that were like a suite, a bedroom, a living area, but still only one bathroom. It was never an issue.
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Post by cmpeter on Mar 9, 2023 0:37:22 GMT
It would be a deal breaker for me.
My dd shared a one bathroom house in college with a roommate. Roommate clogged the toilet so badly once they had to call a plumber. They had to drive to a bathroom for the two days before the plumber could come.
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luckyexwife
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Post by luckyexwife on Mar 9, 2023 0:38:45 GMT
vacation house usually equals guests - you want to share your one bathroom with other people who are visiting? Lol I do not think vacation house has to equal guests (nor do I want it to) My in-laws’ beach place has shaped my opinion on the kind of place I would want. They expanded it a number of years ago, and people have been *constantly* asking to use it ever since. People, even extended family, can be outrageously entitled and inconsiderate about how they use the vacation homes of others and I don’t want to select a house where we’d have to deal with that. By keeping it smaller (but in an area that family/friends could easily get a hotel or vacation rental), less of that to deal with. But y’all are giving me pause about the one bathroom. I've had family parties at mine, up to 25 people, and it's worked fine. I've had up to 9 people spend the night. Everyone knew the bathroom limits, and we make it work for a night or two. For is regularly on the weekends, we get along fine.
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milocat
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Post by milocat on Mar 9, 2023 0:49:56 GMT
I'd go for it. It's a vacation home, you're not there all the time, you're ot all rushing out the door for work, school at the same time.
We were a family of 4 with 1 bathroom on the main floor and one in the basement and it was fine.
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 9, 2023 0:58:16 GMT
Honestly, I'm a little shocked here at all the responses. How much time do people honestly spend in the bathroom? I'd rather have the view. I’m a little shocked too! It would be a definite no-go for full-time living but it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to me for a week or two at a time, max. Add me to the shocked (well, mildly surprised) basket too.
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Post by finsup on Mar 9, 2023 1:05:01 GMT
When we were house hunting for our lake house in 2019 a second bath was high on my list, but there weren’t many available within our budget. We did end up with a full bath (but shower only, no bathtub) and a teeny tiny half bath. Most of the time the half bath doesn’t even get used. I’m happy to have it but now that we’ve used the house for several years, I can say it wouldn’t be a deal breaker. We make the one bathroom work no problem so far. We have two adult kids, a daughter-in-law, and one grandbaby. My youngest doesn’t plan on having kids so I don’t expect to have more than 2 or 3 grandchildren so I think we’ll be good. It’s been fine even when we’ve had additional guests or my kid used it with a bunch of their friends. It’s not like it’s full time.
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Post by KikiPea on Mar 9, 2023 1:10:11 GMT
If it were just two or three of us…maybe, but if you are planning on having it for the long haul with additional family members, no. I do not like sharing my bathroom with other family members or guests.
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Post by busy on Mar 9, 2023 1:13:17 GMT
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Post by ~summer~ on Mar 9, 2023 1:20:08 GMT
busy my aunt lives right there too - with a direct gorgeous view of smith rock. Neat area.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 9, 2023 1:22:17 GMT
Maybe we should just go with this one down the road a mile Omg. What a property. Yeah, go ahead and get that one. I'll handle your bookings for you 'cause you know ALL the peas be coming to see you there.
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Post by auntkelly on Mar 9, 2023 1:27:02 GMT
For me, it would be a hard no.
Our vacation house (a lake house) is quite a bit bigger than the “empty nester” house we bought seven years’ ago when we retired. For us, the fun of having a lake house is entertaining family and friends. It’s what we love to do.
Since you don’t plan on having guests stay over, one bathroom will probably work for you. You can always add on when your son has a significant other.
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Post by lisae on Mar 9, 2023 1:34:50 GMT
Sorry, but no. Even with 2 people and extra bath is really nice. And it would limit resale which I think is really an important consideration with a vacation home.
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Post by ntsf on Mar 9, 2023 1:37:38 GMT
we have a one bed, one bath condo in a vacation area. we did put a sleeper sofa in the living area.. and our son has used it occasionally. if a couple came, they would most likely not stay with us. if we had a choice, we would have had a 2 bed, 2 bath, but we inherited our place so we deal!! the toilet/shower are in a separate room and the sink is in the hallway.. that helps. and there is a community room across the street we could use if we wanted. so. go for it.
you can always sell later and get something bigger in 10 or 15 yrs.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 9, 2023 1:41:26 GMT
vacation house usually equals guests - you want to share your one bathroom with other people who are visiting? Lol I do not think vacation house has to equal guests (nor do I want it to) My in-laws’ beach place has shaped my opinion on the kind of place I would want. They expanded it a number of years ago, and people have been *constantly* asking to use it ever since. People, even extended family, can be outrageously entitled and inconsiderate about how they use the vacation homes of others and I don’t want to select a house where we’d have to deal with that. By keeping it smaller (but in an area that family/friends could easily get a hotel or vacation rental), less of that to deal with. But y’all are giving me pause about the one bathroom. My vote would be to go for it if you love the views, etc. As the owner of multiple recreational properties (lake home and a hunting cabin/woods) I will say that we managed just fine for decades going to the lake cabin when it belonged to my in-laws and there was only one bathroom for as many as six of us. I’ll be real, if a guy has to pee and someone else is in the bathroom longer than they want to wait, they’re just going to go outside and find a tree. That’s what guys do, because they can. For showering, we would do the “Anyone need the bathroom? I want to get in the shower!” We still do that now even though we have two bathrooms. Another point to consider is it’s possible DS won’t have any interest in the place later. That’s how we ended up being able to buy out DH’s sister’s half of the lake cabin when their mom died, because her husband and kids had no interest in going there (thank God, because we didn’t want to share ownership with her). On a related note, DD and I have very little interest in going to the hunting cabin, so we rarely do. DH goes there to ride ATVs and snowmobiles and hunt deer with his buddies. And to mow grass. Lots and lots of mowing grass and splitting wood. I quoted the post above because having a ton of guests isn’t necessarily a given. Since we completely renovated our lake cabin starting in the fall of 2019, we have actually had very few overnight guests. We have what I would consider very nice guest accommodations that include a 16’x22’ room that can sleep as many as five people, a separate full bath on that level (although not an ensuite), a media room with a big tv/ video game console and another large fully finished walkout level lakeside room with a fridge, microwave and extra dining table/chairs that we’re still trying to figure out what we should do with the space. When Covid hit in 2020 and everything was shut down, we spent a lot of time there that spring, summer and fall working on it, so of course we didn’t have anyone there then because it was still pretty much a construction site. In 2021 after the guest room was done we maybe had an overnight guest once or twice at most. Last year we had one couple stay for a long weekend and that was it. A major part of having a guest room there is because we like hosting and we *wanted* guests. We’re there most weekends spring through fall but we’re not great at planning ahead and specifically inviting people. Certain friends have a totally open invitation to come whenever they want but I think they feel like it’s an imposition to ask (it’s not). Hopefully once people realize that pretty much all of the construction type stuff is done now they won’t be afraid they’ll get stuck helping to install siding, swing a paintbrush or set concrete blocks if they stop out, LOL. Bottom line is if you like the place and think you will use it and can afford it, then do it. The rest will all sort itself out in the long run.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 9, 2023 1:48:58 GMT
Well, I have family members who take showers longer than I can hold me pee if I have to go.
Not having 2 separate toilets is a deal breaker for me. 1 Shower I could manage. 1 toilet no way.
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